Super Sex
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Welcome to Supersex—the podcast where you get to dive into all things sex and relationships without it ever getting boring!
Ever wondered how talking about sex could actually be fun? Well, here’s where you find out. We’ve got a queer guy and a straight dude ready to dish out the tea, share the cringey moments, and keep it as real (and hilarious) as it gets.
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Super Sex
SuperSex Reheated: Episode 5: Big, Bigger, Best? A deep Dive Into Size Play
Ever wondered why some fantasies are universal? Our most downloaded episode returns by popular demand to tackle a question that sparks curiosity in bedrooms worldwide: does size really matter?
The episode begins with an eye-popping unboxing of progressively larger toys that immediately challenges assumptions about human anatomy's limits. Through laughter and genuine awe, we explore the psychology behind size preferences – how they're shaped by evolution, social conditioning, and individual anatomy rather than by porn or locker room talk.
We dive deep into the science, revealing surprising statistics (only 5% of men have penises longer than 6.3 inches!) while introducing concepts like "boyfriend dick" – the practical sweet spot that balances pleasure with sustainability for regular partners. Along the way, we dismantle harmful racial stereotypes, redefine power dynamics through the lens of "power bottoms," and explore how size play connects to self-confidence and body acceptance rather than merely dominance.
The heart of the conversation focuses on how to approach size exploration safely, emphasizing that muscles (including intimate ones) are designed to stretch and return to their original state. We outline a comprehensive approach to size play that prioritizes communication, proper lubrication, gradual progression, and quality materials. By addressing both practical concerns and emotional hurdles like shame, the episode creates space for listeners to consider their authentic desires without judgment.
Whether you're size-curious or just fascinated by human sexuality, this episode delivers equal parts education, reassurance, and genuine connection. Ready to challenge what you think you know about pleasure, bodies, and desires? Join us for our most eye-opening conversation yet!
Hey guys, welcome back to Supersex, or, in fact, the very first re-headed episode. Well, anyway, today we are re-releasing the episode Like the one. The episode Our most downloaded episode ever. It still hits the charts every single week and, honestly, we're still getting DMs about it. Apparently, y'all have got so many questions about girth and massive dildos. So why did this one blow up? Well, because we hit a nerve, not just the fun kind, but the deep psychological one.
Speaker 1:See, size taps in some big stuff, both literally and figuratively. It taps into masculinity, insecurity, confidence, curiosity and even fantasy. Everyone's either wondered if they're enough or fantasized about going bigger. It's taboo and it's completely universal. And we made that, I suppose, funny, real and well full of giant dildos. Funny, real and well full of giant dildos. In this episode we get into monster toy unboxings, the underrated magic of boyfriend dick and the myths that mess with our heads. We also break down racial stereotypes, body image and why average can be amazing. So, whether you're curious, size comfy or just here for the outrageous DMs, this one's worth the ride Because we're asking. Size comfy or just here for the outrageous DMs, this one's worth the ride Because we're asking does size matter?
Speaker 2:Hey, shams, how you doing. G'day, g'day, g'day. I am doing well, thank you. How are you?
Speaker 1:I'm excellent. Today's going to be our biggest episode that we've ever done. Why is it going to be so big?
Speaker 2:Because we're talking about all things size, yeah, boy.
Speaker 1:Wait, big size. Is there any other Big size? Yes, small size.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, don't, as we've said, as you've said in previous episode, don't yuck someone else's yub. There might be people out there that like small size.
Speaker 1:This is very true. Size this is very true. This is very true. So today we are talking about all things size big, bigger, biggest, biggest. Now, when our friends huge, huge when our friends at hanky's toys found out that we were running this episode, they sent us out a selection of their toys Okay, so they are known for doing big dildos. Okay, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. So they sent out a nice little selection for you. So I'm video recording this one as well. So I just want to get your reaction to it. Okay, okay, here we go. I'm going to put them on the table. I've got three of them Big, bigger, biggest.
Speaker 2:Okay, I feel like I'm back in school. Here we go Big. Okay, look, that's manageable. It's a thick boy, it's like what six, seven inches. But okay, look, I feel like I can handle that. I can handle that. Look, look, I've handled that.
Speaker 1:Like it's a little Above average, right, yes, in terms of length and girth, but it's. It's there, that's a good size. That's a good size. It hurts, but it's a good size. That's like One night stand.
Speaker 2:Dick Like, look, I'd be happy with that. I wouldn't be like oh god, no, I can't do this. But also I'd be like the next morning I might be like walking like a cowboy baby, all right, okay, let's go bigger. All right for the record family. Please don't listen to this one. Holy fuck. Okay, right now. Now this one. This one looks like it belongs, not even on a horse. This shit is thick. Okay, that's the size of my forearm, possibly bicep.
Speaker 1:That's a toy they call the ogre and that is the ogre, the ogre, and it looks like ogre-ish, right, it's what? 11, 12 inches, something like that.
Speaker 2:But the thing is this the 12 inches. You don't even see that, Because it looks like it is 12 inches wide. It probably is.
Speaker 1:That is, it's probably like 9 or 10 inches around, absolutely yeah. Massive it is, that is, it's probably like nine or ten inches around. Yeah, massive it is.
Speaker 2:It is huge, okay, I feel like only a champ can take that. Only a champ, only a champ. You got to be a champ, bro.
Speaker 1:Well, let's go to the biggest one.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay, brace yourself.
Speaker 1:I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready, I really I'm really good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm good. Come on, holy fuck. Okay. So this, this is not normal. This is something that I don't think a human can take. Apparently they can. Okay, for context, oh my god, it is actually the same size as my thigh you need to go to the gym more. Yes, I really do, but holy, this is a two-handed job.
Speaker 1:Maybe even four hands, who knows?
Speaker 2:Okay okay, first of all, this is what like 13 inches, something like that. I'm going to say like 13 inches long and about 20 inches wide. This thing is commasive, it is again look, I'm saying this right, the person that can take this, they need a high five and the hospital obviously All right. Well, on that note, and about five liters of lube Really good quality lube.
Speaker 1:That is, oh my God, that is a significant toy, a significant toy.
Speaker 2:That is more than a significant toy. I'm, I'm, I'm like beat, this is just next level. You know the second one. I was like, oh my god, that's huge, but this is just oh.
Speaker 1:I just want to know how many people have taken this there are thousands of people out there who love this, so why don't we get into it then? All right, let's get into it. Come on size, play, all right. What is it? Why are people into these things?
Speaker 2:look, I can. I can see the appeal because I feel like, regardless of what okay, look, regardless of what you can take as a female or a gay male or whoever it is that's taking whatever they're taking we are kind of conditioned to believe that bigger is better. Yep, sometimes a dude's bigger is, like I don't know, more masculine. Yes, so I can understand the idea behind wanting bigger, yep, but then the reality kicks in. That has to go in you.
Speaker 1:So that comes down to a safety thing, right? Yes, okay, so that conditioning is social, but it's also, I'm going to say, hereditary as well. Well, not hereditary, but actually I think there is a hereditary component to it. Yeah, there has been some research done where basically, they had a look at lineage of kinks and fetishes, right, and it actually does fall down. Lineage of kinks and fetishes, right, and it actually does fall down. So, basically, what you're into, there's a large likelihood that your parents are also into that, or somebody else in your family was into that.
Speaker 2:Don't say that don't say that, because they're scaring me just a little bit and I don't want to think about it.
Speaker 1:Thanks, jordan, you just ruined everything for me all, right, so basically, there's an evolutionary thing as to why we're into large penises, right, okay, so basically, um, the idea is is that a large penis can get into the vagina and it pushes on parts of the vagina that stimulate oxytocin Okay, and that oxytocin is a love hormone, and a love hormone actually then sort of helps the bonding between the partners, but it also helps to bring that newborn baby into the world. Okay, right, so that's essentially Scientifically there's that word, the scientific thing behind it.
Speaker 1:And then, of course, there is the other part where it's like, okay, um, where was I going with this? Yeah, the other part of it is the masculinity side of it, right, right, if you've got a bigger penis, you are yes, you're more masculine. You're more masculine, more attractive, right? They've actually done studies on that as well. So where they actually looked at length, girth and believe it or not, pubic hair- what the Okay, what the fuck.
Speaker 2:Has pubic hair got to do with anything? Okay, Okay.
Speaker 1:So they looked at, they did a study and they looked at it, where they gave people pictures of penises different lengths, different girths and with different amounts of pubic hair right and basically they were asking them to rate the person on their attractiveness just by looking at the penis.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:The longer and fatter it was to to a point was more attractive, Of course. But when it came to pubic hair they had a look at trimmed, shaved and completely natural Trimmed came out on top. Of course, it was Not shaved, Just trimmed. Just trimmed I I'm look big fan because apparently people are all about conscientiousness and attractiveness.
Speaker 2:So if you're taking care of yourself down there, but look, if, if I see a dude that's got, for example, a nice haircut, my assumption is he looks after himself, yep, which would then mean for me, I would automatically assume that his pubes are also trimmed, Because if he's got, you know, a beard, that's all really well clipped and his hair's got a nice fade, and all of that puts together an idea of that Okay, cool, this is a well put together dude. I see someone that's got a scruffy hair, dude that hasn't even put a bit of gel in it or just something. Yeah, he's probably got a big ass burning bush down there. And look, that ain't for me. I ain't into that.
Speaker 1:I love it, I love it, um so. So here's the next thing, though, right? So people are really interested at first in length and girth, and they find that attraction to pubic hair Okay, but what?
Speaker 2:exactly is big? That was literally going to be my first question. Tell me you, tell me, Jordan, what is big.
Speaker 1:Okay, so so we talked previous episodes average, so the average size is 5.16 inches.
Speaker 2:so guys, just remember out there five inches. If you are five inches or above, you are, you're good, you're guc, you're good, you're Gucci, you're good. Right, you are good, don't be sad about it.
Speaker 1:Now, only 5% of people have a penis that is longer than 6.3 inches 5%.
Speaker 2:That's why it's taken me so long.
Speaker 1:Yes, To put that into context when you're born born you have more chance of ending up gay than having a venue. You do of having a chance of having a penis that is longer than 6.3 inches what if you've got both? You are a rare specimen, my friend. Oh god, I can't believe. I just put that out there.
Speaker 2:You are a rare specimen, my friend. Oh God, I can't believe. I just put that out there.
Speaker 1:So we are talking anything over 6.3 inches as being considerable and big right. So they did another study where they basically gave out a whole heap of dildos Okay, Like prosthetic dildos to women. Don't know why they didn't include men.
Speaker 2:Because they never include gays. They never do that's right.
Speaker 1:So they gave out these whole heap of phalluses to different women and basically the majority of women came back with an answer that was that they liked just average size penises.
Speaker 2:But it makes sense I think we spoke about it, we touched on it very quickly in one of the episodes previously that the vagina is only a few inches long, right, yep? So anything more than the average is the reason why it's the average. Yeah, anything more than the average is gonna hurt. Yes, and, in all fairness, being a gay man that has bottomed before totally understand. Yeah, when I first just tried to bottom, I was absolutely shit scared of anything bigger than four inches because I'm like I I don't want anything to hurt me. So I went through. I literally went through a phase of actually looking for if I was going to bottom. I would make sure I'm like okay, cool, you need to show me what you're working with before you get here. And if it looked like it was anything over literally five inches, I was like nah, sorry, that's not for me, see.
Speaker 1:Yeah, women must do that, surely?
Speaker 2:But at the same time, if a dude sends you a picture and it's like seven, eight inches, you get excited. You're like, ooh, I want to play with that, see, does that social conditioning?
Speaker 1:know 100%, because the thing is it physically looks better?
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, but then the reality is like I'm saying. Then you get to the point where you're like you remember oh, should I actually have to? Yeah, I have to take that yep, I have to put that somewhere. I don't want to put that anywhere because I don't want to go to hospital. It's you like the way it looks, but then that's where it stops.
Speaker 1:Yes, exactly Exactly so with that. Getting back to that study, so that study, they were given all these different sort of dildos 33, I think there were and the vast majority of women chose a dildo that was 6.3 inches. There you go, so just at the upper end scale of normal, of normal Right. They also did another sort of study on women's preferences for their partner's penis. Only 20, a little over 20%, said that size and girth was important aspect for them. Yet 85 of those women came back and said that they were completely happy with their partner's size let me ask you a question.
Speaker 2:yes, have you heard of boyfriend dick? Yes, I have, so that I literally. The crazy part about this is I had that conversation about boyfriend dick literally just yesterday with a friend, because they never heard that term before. And I'm just saying you know like the thing is is that you can meet a dude on a one-night stand that has a eight, nine-inch dick that's thick, and you know what. You can go back. You know what it's fine. It's just one. You can go back. You know what it's fine. It's just one time you take it, you have a lovely time. Next day you're a little bit sore. Okay, cool, you know what. I can't do anything for another couple of days, awesome. But if that eight incher was your partner and let's just say you are a person that likes a lot of sex and let's say you have sex every day Are you going to be able to take eight inches every single day? You might not. Okay, at some point you'll get used to it, but it's painful.
Speaker 1:Let's go there as well, because that's never been talked about what? There's a whole heap of conversations about size yes, right, about big dicks and about big toys. Yes, I have never heard anybody, and I've never been able to find any research, about people who like big holes.
Speaker 2:This is true, this is very true. Okay, let's get into that. Let's get into that.
Speaker 1:Okay, let's split this episode in two. We'll do why people are into big toys and big dicks and why people are into big pussies and asses. Sure.
Speaker 2:Sounds good, all right, done. I like it.
Speaker 1:Okay, right, appeal of large sizes. What is it you think that people are into when they are wanting bigger things? So we're talking about those rare 20% of people who are wanting bigger things. What do you think it is that people are into?
Speaker 2:I think it's wanting. I don't know if it's, it's a toss-up between I want that thing that I don't get very often. Okay, so it is like a novelty. It's a novelty, yep, I mean you. There's the I hate, I can't, I can never say this word, hopefully they'll come out right the fetishize, fetishization of, for example, black guys, because black guys have apparently bigger dicks. Yeah, so you got these women that were like I only date black guys and they fetishize them because they think they have big dicks. Yes, so it is. I think that's a part of it where it's just like it's that thing that I want, because I haven't got it again. Like we're saying the average is, uh, five, five point one, six, whatever it is. Eight, nine is not average, so I might not, I could go through my life sleep with a hundred people and maybe only see two dicks that are big like, big, big. Yeah, so you're like fuck, yeah, I want that because.
Speaker 1:Because I can't find it because it's not completely, because it's not exactly, and then also I feel like it's also a thing that you could brag Like.
Speaker 2:You can brag about it to your friends and be like oh, I have, I'm not going to lie, I'm saying that because I've done that. Disclaimer again this is a message for all my family out there. Stop listening. Now, okay, I'll be honest and open and say the biggest I think was around 10 inches. Holy fuck, that's massive. I've never in my life. I was like what?
Speaker 1:But was it like 10 inches fat like a Coke can, or was it 10 inches thin like a straw?
Speaker 2:It wasn't fat like a Coke can, but it was hefty. It was hefty and I'm not going to lie. It was a surprise because, as I always say, it's always on a skinny white boy, skinny white boy.
Speaker 1:You've already got his leg out of his pants, exactly Wait.
Speaker 2:Like, why is your leg rubbing up against me and why is your leg getting bigger? How does that leg go up? I, and why is your leg getting bigger? How does that like go up? I mean, like in my head and I think in a lot of people's head you would assume like if I saw a, let's just say, a big, six foot four black guy that's built to you know, shredded, I'm going to automatically assume that homeboy is packing.
Speaker 2:It's not necessarily the case though, is it I see he's made that is, let's say, 5'10". Yeah, all of 65 kilos soaking wet. I'm not looking at that dude and thinking out of the two of them, little boy has got a big boy and in this situation situation it was, it was, I wasn't. I honestly I didn't expect it. He didn't say anything. I feel like people look people out there. If you've got anything bigger than seven inches, I feel like you should warn a brother, like warn a sister and warn a brother, like, before they get there, I think you should say to them hey, just so you know you don't have to send a picture. I'm not saying saying, say nudes, unsolicited, but at least just be like hey, just so you know, I'm bigger than average.
Speaker 1:Are you okay with that?
Speaker 2:Are you okay with that? Because yeah, look, I'm not going to lie, I took that shit like a champ.
Speaker 1:Pat yourself on the back why?
Speaker 2:don't you? And I'm not going to lie.
Speaker 1:I genuinely enjoyed it, and that was the first time I've ever experienced what was enjoyable about a few, you know. Was it the sensation, was it the psychological side of it? Was it the novelty?
Speaker 2:I'm going to say it was the sensation number one, yes, the fact that I'd never, ever, gone that big before.
Speaker 1:Okay, so it is sensation novelty, sensation novelty.
Speaker 2:And then after I'm not going to lie I got back in my car, I drove off and in my head I thought I can't wait to tell my friends that I did that.
Speaker 1:So that brings into that element. What is it? The power bottom.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm. So let's see, this is the power bottom. You literally have a power bottom. So now listen to me. I want to ask you, because you brought it up now. I want to ask you what do you think a power bottom is?
Speaker 1:my understanding of it is somebody who feels completely empowered by being able to take large objects penises and somebody who controls the dynamic from the bottom. Correct, I'm right.
Speaker 2:I'm so impressed with you.
Speaker 1:Let's study for my test and look, I aced it, I'm so impressed.
Speaker 2:Who said straight people don't know shit about gay shit? That's awesome, I like it. Yes, exactly. So it's the idea that people assume that you know, as a top, you're the dominant one, while the power bottom is someone that's like, well, no, okay, you're the top, but I'm in control of what happens. Yes, so that doesn't necessarily mean, okay, I'm on top, you're on bottom or I'm riding you. It's the fact that I let you know what you can do because I'm in control. So it's almost like having that dominance yes, from the bottom. Yeah, you are a dominant bottom.
Speaker 1:Which is quite in contrast to what a lot of people think, that taking is Exactly Because people go oh, you're a bottom.
Speaker 2:You're subservient. Yes, you're subservient. You are a little bit feminine. You are kind of like lower or less than when it's not the case, like for me personally, I think that I'm a little bit of a, not a little bit. I'm 100. I'm a control freak in real life, so outside of the normal world, so when it's definitely not going to stop when it comes to my sex life. So, yes, I feel like I am a power bottom because I want to be. I don't really like to be submissive and even if I'm going to be submissive, it's me being submissive in a way that I'm allowing you to be dominant over me. It's not you dominating me, it's me allowing you to dominate me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so it's sort of flipping that traditional sort of role on its head as well. Yes, 100% Okay. So there's an interesting part about size play. The other thing that I really like about it is that when you're with a partner and you're exploring size play, your trust and communication level needs to go through the fucking roof right back to listen to our previous episode on what was it again? No, I've lost my Sexual communication Communication. That's the one.
Speaker 2:Because that's what I was going to say. That's like the main point I think would have to be, first and foremost, communication Constantly. This is the one time where it has to be constant. It has to be all the way through, first, obviously before hey, this is what I'm into, or is this what you'd be into? Do you want to try it? I used to do, okay, cool, you talk about what toys you're going to get. Get those toys. Are you comfortable with this?
Speaker 1:all the way through it, yeah, it's something that needs to be communicated non-stop because it's although it can be insanely pleasurable, it could also be incredibly painful if you fuck it up. I think it can be insanely pleasurable, it could also be incredibly painful If you fuck it up.
Speaker 2:I think it will be insanely pleasurable One taking it slow.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:And two, as we've said many times Lube, lube, lube, and lube is We'll get on to lube as well. And taking Like being understanding of what your body can handle. Yeah, like if you try something and your body can handle. Yeah, like if you try something and your body's just saying no, leave it at that, absolutely, move back, move down a size, pull back and then come again, pull back, try again, and if your body's saying no, just be like you know what I can see. This is where I stop.
Speaker 1:We'll get into it. Yeah, this is where I stop.
Speaker 2:We'll get into it. Yeah, back to a story. I think I told in one of the other podcasts about one of my experiences of not communicating, of someone not communicating with me, that obviously they were into fisting and size play. And I was in a situation where this dude, at some point I hope he never listens to this he couldn't get hard, right? Yeah, so he couldn't get hard. I think he was drunk or whatever and at some point he was like all right, cool, he uses his fingers.
Speaker 2:As I've said to you, jordan, before, you don't like fingers, I do not like fingers, don't put your fingers in me. But I was like you know what? Fine, go, don't put your fingers in me. But I was like you know what? Fine, go for it whatever, do whatever you need to do. At some point maybe you'll get hot again. So he's going for it, going for it, going for one, two. I'm like cool, I'm okay with this. Three. I'm like okay, this is, this is, this is border. And then, out of nowhere, this motherfucker just decides to just shove all four fingers and a thumb in there. I let me tell you, I jumped, I think I hovered off the bed for a split second there and I was like nah, so I like, I grabbed his hand to say, like politely, no communicating like you know like physical communication.
Speaker 2:I grabbed his hand just kind of and pulled it away, kind of like yeah, yeah, no, not into that. So again he's like one, two, and from two straight into trying it. I'm like bro. So again I'm like, and then I think at that point I said, nah, pulled his hand away, this motherfucker disappears, comes back. I don't know what's happening. I'm on all fours. I'm comes back. I don't know what's happening.
Speaker 1:I'm on all fours, I'm facing the opposite direction and I'm gonna guess this medium black boy that you got right here talking about the dildo guys. This, we just don't have some random dudes standing in the corner that was the size of what was pressing against me.
Speaker 2:Because the thing is this at the end of the day, if you feel a, even your first one that you got over there, that's like what, seven, eight inches you can feel okay, cool, it's got a small tip it's gonna slowly go in. When something feels like a fist, a closed fist, is going against your hole, you're like wait, hold on hyper pressure, and this dude is just like trying to just shove this thing in me. I'm like dude, dude, what are you doing? Communication, like if you're into size, play, that's cool. Ask me if I'm into size play.
Speaker 1:That's a conversation that definitely needs to start before you get in.
Speaker 2:You don't just bring that shit up on somebody and just go hey, I've got a fire hydrant, let's go.
Speaker 1:Oh, nuts, nuts. So talking about the physical sensations of it though, and specifically with anal, it does happen a little bit with vaginal stuff, depending on the size, but the vagus nerve have you heard about that?
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, yes, the vagus nerve runs through your whole body apparently.
Speaker 1:Runs through your whole body, pretty much follows the spine Right, and anal play, specifically deep and large anal play, can stimulate that vagus nerve. I can attest to that.
Speaker 2:I'm going to say that Ted Inger, I'm sure, touched that nerve because I didn't understand how it felt pleasurable and was not painful at all. So I'm assuming my Vegas boy got a bit of action that night.
Speaker 1:So the Vegas nerve, it can not only like help to give you an amazing orgasm, but it helps to relax the whole body system right, and it can come through vaginal play, but mainly through anal play, lucky me. The other thing about sensation stuff is the larger the toy, and specifically like girth, stretches more tissues and when more tissues stretched it does feel better. More nerve endings are exposed and it feels a little bit better right.
Speaker 2:See this way, I've got a bit of a heads up on you. This is where I can go. Okay, cool, I know exactly what that feels like. It feels good Like thickness over length Thickness over length.
Speaker 1:Thickness over length.
Speaker 2:Thickness over length, any day, any day, because I've experienced thick and it was a whole new ball game, because I didn't think I could, and it took a lot of time, a lot of playing, a lot of lube, but when it happened, my mind was blown, yeah at how good that sensation of being filled. Was that the next word you're gonna?
Speaker 1:use yes yeah, that's what most people will turn around and say yeah, they love that feeling, feeling right, whether it's an ass or a pussy, yeah, it's the. The correlation is there and it's people are loving that full sensation and that's really what they're chasing right absolutely yeah, because once you experience it, you cannot, you cannot not think about it again. Is it always a thing that's in your mind, like, let's say, you went with a 10-inch dude and then the next guy's average Absolutely.
Speaker 2:Because, look, I can still have a good time with anybody. 100%.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And have unfortunately, unfortunately sometimes gone. Oh, he's average or below average, but then surprisingly afterwards I'm like, actually, you know what? I still had a really good time, yes. But there is that thing in the back of your head that it kind of just imagine edging yeah, and you're just on the edge, and now you want to come and the person's still edging, yeah, and you just on the edge, and you and you're, and you now you want to come and the person's a person's still edging you for like 20 minutes after you're ready. That's what it feels like. It's like it's good, but I just because that one time I had that and I like I just want that again, yeah, so just it gives you that little bit, it just gives you that little bit extra.
Speaker 2:It gives you a little bit extra, like it feels good, but then it goes from feeling good to feeling great. Okay.
Speaker 1:I get it. I get it.
Speaker 2:It's like you know what it's like you know what it's like eating McDonald's. I don't know about you, I know this. Okay, I'm random, I know Wow, we're going to McDonald's. So you know when you're eating McDonald's and you have your burger and your chips. Are you a burger and chips eater at the same time, or one before the other?
Speaker 1:I always do one before the other.
Speaker 2:You're one of those weird ones. I can't with you, so I'm one of those ones that is like you take a couple of bites of your burger, shove some chips in your mouth, right, yeah, it's that moment where you finished your burger and you just need just four more chips and there's none. Yeah, that's what it is. It's like you still. I still enjoy my burger. I still enjoy this meal. I feel great about it. I'm full, but I just needed you just want to supersize chips I just wanted the.
Speaker 2:You know I should. Anything is if I, if I had a whole new bag of chips. No, no, I don't want that. I just want four more chips. In the same way, you might just want four more inches. I love it. I'm sorry I'm such a weirdo buddy, that's the best way I could explain it. Mcdonald's, mcdonald's that that's.
Speaker 1:that's the way that we went there Exactly.
Speaker 2:So it's like you feel good, you have a good time, but it's when you experience something that you've never experienced before that you'll always be like, ooh, if I had that again, that would be nice yeah.
Speaker 1:Makes total sense. We've all got that one thing.
Speaker 2:Exactly, and we keep saying it every plane. Yeah, you can apply that to anything.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I like it. I like it. Let's talk about people who enjoy large vaginas and anuses.
Speaker 2:I want you to start with this one.
Speaker 1:All right, this is something that I tried to find some research on it. There's nothing. Okay, there is a whole heap of research about people who prefer large penises yes, but none that there's nothing around people who like Big holes, big holes. So I take into Reddit why wouldn't you? Because there's a whole heap of different sub-communities out there that are into different things, and there's one for people who like big vaginas, big anuses, all that sort of stuff. So I just threw out the question. I was like why are people into that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh, I'm so excited to know why you got back, okay, yeah, oh, I'm so excited to know what you got back, okay, so, it got into three.
Speaker 1:No, I'm going to say two, okay, two main sort of components, and the way that people got into it was also really, really interesting. So basically we'll talk about vaginas here, because anuses are very similar as well, but people are really liking the sensation of a looser hole.
Speaker 2:Okay, and that begs the question for me these people that like bigger or looser holes, I'm assuming would need to be bigger.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:Because that dovetails into the next part of it. Okay, A lot of the people who are in there and like a large vagina or a large anus. They like it because it makes them feel small.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:So it's kind of like a little bit of A little bit of humiliation, yep, but on the flip side, if the person doesn't have that humiliation sort of kink, let's call it that they are blown away by the power and their sexuality of their partner who has a big hole, a big hole, okay it's very interesting it's, it's mind-blowing, right, absolutely mind-blowing, because, like the whole of society is always sitting there going tight, near, tight, near, tight, tight, tight, tight, tight. I'll be honest with you I don't like too tight.
Speaker 2:No, it's painful, I don't. It's. It's not nice, it's not like people always go. Like you talk to somebody, they'll be honest with you.
Speaker 1:I don't like too tight. No, it's painful, I don't, it's not nice.
Speaker 2:It's not Like people always go like you'll talk to somebody and they'll be like oh yeah oh, you want this tight hole. I'm like no, thank you, I don't. I would like actually quite a normal one, feeling Thanks, because when it's too tight, it actually hurts.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's one of these things that people are sort of going out there and they're finding out that. Hey, I actually do like the sensation of something that's a little bit more loose.
Speaker 2:Do you think that that could come from? Again, the whole idea that society puts on that you know big dicks are better and tight holes are better. I think that comes from a thing where it's like just all societal, that that's what is. I don't think people are actually saying this. I think it comes down to I should have a girl or guy that's got a tight hole because that means one, or maybe she's a virgin and she's quote unquote, pure yeah. Or a guy that is not a whole because he's not sleeping around with people, so it means that they are, I don't know better. I think that comes from societal norms, that that's what is the norm, right, totally. And then people realise that actually, hold on, that's not what's happening out there.
Speaker 1:Well, it's that sort of interface between what society is telling you and then you finding out about your own sexuality and going.
Speaker 1:Hey, I actually prefer this. Yes, because I think and this is sort of going down a little bit of a different rabbit hole here, and this is sort of going down a little bit of a different rabbit hole here but when young people especially are really, really influenced by what society tells them to think you should like a big dick, you should like a tight pussy, yeah, it should be rough, it should be this way, the person should be subservient, this, and that they should like what you like, exactly, and that sort of narrative becomes easily ingrained because they don't have the experience to be able to push back against that. Yes, when they do get the experience, they go. Oh well, actually this is what I like. I didn't like the tight vagina or ass.
Speaker 2:I didn't like what everyone says that I'm supposed to like. Why?
Speaker 1:didn't I like that. Or you know I didn't like what everyone says that you I'm supposed to like. Why didn't I like that? Or you know I didn't like that big dick, or whatever. But it's only when you get your own experience that you can actually start pushing back against those narratives.
Speaker 2:I think you're kind of like again, I'm completely um hitting a left turn here at albuquerque. I think that also plays into. Then comes shame, a little bit of shame in going. Well, I didn't have my idea is what a society said. Then. Let's say I watch porn and porn told me a specific thing.
Speaker 2:Then now I've got, I've slept with 10 to 20 people and I don't like what society says. I don't like what porn tells me to do. I like this from my experience, or I've experienced this. Then it's like oh, I feel a little bit of shame because I'm not going to talk to anybody about it, because I assume that everybody is going left with what porn says or with what I've been told. And let's just say your mates are sitting around, they're talking about oh, I met this girl and she was so tight. Or I met this dude and he just had the tightest hole. And you're sitting there going okay, but I don't like that. Or that's not what I've experienced. Does that make me different and weird? I don't want to talk about it because I don't want to feel judged for it.
Speaker 1:That is so prevalent. Because I actually talked to a couple on Reddit from one of these groups and husband and wife couple and I basically threw it out there. I was like so why did you guys get into this? How did you guys get into this? And what it came down to was, initially the wife was really, really shamed out about this. She's like I don't want to go anywhere near size play because I'm going to have a loose pussy and that will ruin me forever, Right, Right. So there was this whole shame thing. And then the husband was like well, actually I really want to explore this. It's something that turns me on. And eventually the wife sort of got over the shame of it. Right, they started exploring slowly, slowly and now it's like a full-on thing for both of them.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:But that shame, I think, inhibits so many people from trying things, trying to do anything Exactly.
Speaker 2:You know Shame is such a big thing that's going to be. That has to be an episode at some point.
Speaker 1:A full episode. That's going to be a long ass episode, because yeah. We're saying this is the biggest episode.
Speaker 2:Shame is definitely going to be like book out your whole calendar for a week, a hundred percent, I mean, like I feel like it stops people from trying things. But again, like you're saying, going into that couple, it's the idea that if I'm playing big I'm going to be seen as loose, which is undesirable and slutty.
Speaker 1:and slutty because I'm gonna have a bigger hole yeah, end of the day.
Speaker 2:okay, I don't know about female um anatomy, I can't speak on that. But for arses, arses, it's for arses. The thing is a muscle, bro. That shit can go back down. You can do your kegels if you want to. You're not going to be, obviously, unless you're taking this big green thing here every day for the next year. Okay, fine, you're probably going to get prolapse and shit and you're going to have to have an operation to fix that shit.
Speaker 1:But generally speaking, it's going to go back. Okay, I'm going to push back against that a little bit. Okay, go on, not push back. I'll definitely push back on that. Go on. Gymnasts Professional gymnasts. We talked about the arse being a muscle. We've got pelvic floor muscles in the vagina. Yes, all right. Gymnasts stretch their muscles every single day. Yep, have you ever seen a gymnast walk around with floppy legs that they can't use anymore?
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:No this is exactly it Just because you stretch a muscle doesn't mean that it stops working.
Speaker 2:It's not going to be freaking, falling out your undies.
Speaker 1:No, and that's one of these myths I think that we sort of need to debunk. Yes, that if you are playing with size stuff you are not necessarily going to get loose.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Unless you want to.
Speaker 2:Exactly going to get loose? Yes, unless you want to, exactly, and unless, like I say again, this green thing here is ridiculous. Obviously, if you play if I played with this for the next three weeks, I'm not going to be as tight as I was before that hundred percent, but if you stop playing with it, but if I stop, playing with it for a couple of months, maybe do some Kegels.
Speaker 2:You're going to go straight back. Going to go back. You're going to go straight back In the same idea. Why don't people think about it this way? Because I mean, I get this all the time. I get this from straight people all the time. Oh yeah, well, yeah, sherman's probably like because, oh, he's taking big dicks. It's the idea that that's what happens. But think about it If you're freaking constipated and you go and take a big-ass shit, does it sit there and go flappy afterwards? No, no.
Speaker 2:But it can hurt, and that's it. It can hurt absolutely.
Speaker 1:But why is it hurting though? Because you're trying to force something out really hard, really quick, without proper stretching, without proper training for that, without right lubrication, so it can hurt. Does your ass stay completely open all the time after you've had that?
Speaker 2:Hell, no, no.
Speaker 1:It always closes back up Eventually.
Speaker 2:How could you do that one?
Speaker 1:You totally did. I've lost all train of thought.
Speaker 2:now I'm so sorry, but it was worth it.
Speaker 1:But yeah, like there are techniques that if people do want to loosen themselves out, you can totally do that.
Speaker 2:Yeah Right, there's those pumps, there's light plugs, there's so many things.
Speaker 1:There's inflatables, people are wearing things overnight. People are doing especially in like vaginas. They're doing perineum stretching, which is like a. It's a method for stretching the sort of vagina and the vulva prior to childbirth. So people are using that technique to help help that area become a bit more supple. And that's actually how a lot of people get into it, right, they're scared about childbirth, the birth of their first baby, and they start doing this perineum massage. As soon as they start doing a perineum massage like oh, I actually enjoy that stretching sensation and then bingo, it goes into something else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so that's another thing that I found from that. Um subreddit was all about that, but I've got a few myths that I do want to debunk. Let's hear them bigger is better, not necessarily true absolutely not true.
Speaker 2:100 not true. Like I said, when I started bottoming, I did not want anything bigger than five inches.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because it was painful and that's the same. If it's an ass or or anything right, people have got different holes and everybody's made of the same parts, but just different. Thanks to emily negoski for that one. Um, made of the same parts, but just put together in different ways. And your different way might not suit a big penis. Exactly the next myth it's dangerous. It's dangerous playing with big toys.
Speaker 2:Anything can be dangerous if done incorrectly. True, true. And the flip of that is everything can be done safely.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, it can be. Everything can be enjoyable if it's done safely, and we'll go over the safety aspects later on. So, uh, size myth number three once you go big, you never go back, which we've just spoken about. Obviously not. Yeah, you can always go back, because nine times out of ten, especially for women, I think only 27 of women can actually come through penile insertion into a vagina because it's.
Speaker 1:believe it or not, we're not actually that good with our dicks. I always think they are, but if our hands and our fingers and our mouths and our minds are working better, then that's going to lead to orgasm.
Speaker 2:Look to be fair, on the flip side of the case. Out of that, I had a conversation with you just previously, before we started recording, about the fact that boys can come from being fucked. Yeah, and it doesn't happen very often and I kind of know how women feel. It's only happened once and yeah, again, I'm pretty sure he was. It was thick, it was more the size of it than anything else. So, yeah, you got to it hit in the right place.
Speaker 1:It hit in the right place, so that particular person for you was the right size.
Speaker 2:He hit in the perfect place. He wasn't big For your anatomy. He wasn't bigger. He was just the right size for my personal anatomy, because everyone's different he was just the right size for my personal anatomy because everyone's different, that's right.
Speaker 1:So bigger is not necessarily better. Big is not better. Finding that right match, exactly okay. Myth number four it's only for the gays. Absolutely not, absolutely not 100, not. There are so many people out there that are in size play like.
Speaker 2:I found it on reddit, so this is there it is I, and this is actually a question I have now. Yeah, I think talking about that is that we're talking about size play for straight couples and we're talking about the woman I want, and my question is I want to put I want anybody. If anyone's out there and this is something that you're into it's a straight male. Look, at the end of the day, there are guys out there that like playing with their asses as well, but they might want to get pegged and stuff like that. Yes, I want to know if there are dudes out there, straight guys, that are into size play as a straight male size.
Speaker 2:Play on them on them with their female partners.
Speaker 1:I know the answer to this question already. Go on what know the answer to this question? Already Go on. What's the answer to this question? The answer is absolutely yes.
Speaker 2:Because that, to me, is so intriguing and it's almost like I want to high five those dudes to be like you know what, fuck. Yeah, good for you. You realize that most straight people, most straight men, don't realize that your anus feels good. It feels good to put things up there. Yeah, and good for you for trying.
Speaker 1:There was another couple that direct messaged me on Reddit and they basically said that he will use the big toy on her yeah, she will come a dozen times, and then she will put that same toy straight into a strap-on and give him a good pegging, and that's how they enjoy their sex life together. So that's a heterosexual couple enjoying both of that.
Speaker 2:To me, that's inspiring. I love that. That makes me so happy because it just breaks down every stupid stereotype that straight people have out there. Yes, that you can't do those things because those things make you gay and it makes you less of a man and emasculates you. And now you're feminine because you're taking a big dildo. At the end of the day, if that's what you like, fuck everyone else.
Speaker 1:You know what as well. Like, these people contacted me like after I put the thing up on Reddit. But what happens in your bedroom stays in your bedroom, exactly Nothing to do with anybody else. If you feel shame around it, you don't need to talk about it with anybody else. But if you and your partner are exploring it good for you go like enjoy it. You only get one chance at life. Yeah, enjoy that. Like we're born with all sorts of nerve receptors and pleasure receptors they dare to be explored.
Speaker 2:yeah, exactly, exactly that makes me happy. All right, what's the next myth?
Speaker 1:Fifth one is it's a dominance only thing.
Speaker 2:Hmm, that's an interesting one. I haven't thought about that, but yeah, absolutely not.
Speaker 1:No, no way. It's like we've talked about already. It's sensation, it's power, it's self-confidence, it's connection.
Speaker 2:I think it's more self-confidence than anything else.
Speaker 1:I think self-confidence comes into it more than any other thing and a lot of women who got in touch with me over this said that it's self-confidence they feel more connected to their bodies. That's amazing. Do you know the other thing that was really interesting and I did do a little bit of research on this and found an article on this but when people use larger toys within a vagina, it helps to strengthen the pelvic floor Really so you'd think that it was the opposite way around, right, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:But it actually helps to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. Stronger pelvic floor muscles linked up to greater orgasms. Well, there you go, ladies, and I think we talked about it as well where, when you feel more filled, that gives you a longer, deeper orgasm than clitoral stimulation or whatever.
Speaker 2:So there you go, try it sometime. Go give it a go, give it all a go, all right let's let's jump into some tips for people, if they want to start getting start getting into this well, we always start with one very important thing.
Speaker 1:What is that?
Speaker 2:Lube, lube. No no no, first is always communication, communication. Communication is always the first way of starting or trying anything. Communicate with your partner, whoever you are. That that's maybe what you're into. Are they into it? See where you'd like to go with it. Communicate, communicate communicate, communicate.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because if, like you, can't just spring this on somebody, I actually found out as I found out. You don't just bring that shit on someone because that makes people want to run to a fucking tinbuck too, exactly. But if you, I don't know, have a conversation one day, hey this is seeing this, yeah what do you think?
Speaker 1:what do you think? You know it? It softens that edge already and then you can slowly start talking about a little bit more experimenting with it. And it's one of those things that if you want to get into size play specifically like the biggest stuff.
Speaker 2:You have to start small absolutely don't go and buy this big green giants over here. Hulk stick oh my god, this should be called the hulk it totally looks like the hulk, doesn't it?
Speaker 2:so, yeah, exactly like you're not going to start with hulk, no, start, start where you normally are, maybe just a little bit bigger than what you have yep, and then from there, work your way up. You don't. You don't have to be a champ and go okay, cool, I went from seven inches to a freaking 20-inch thing. Like, you don't have to do that, because that's going to get you injured. That's going to get you injured. And then what's going to happen is you're not going to want to try it again. Because you go oh, that's not for me, because it hurts, yes, but you're not doing it right.
Speaker 1:Yes, Like, imagine going to the gym. Right, you haven't been in a gym for a year, exactly. You walk up to a barbell and go oh, I'm going to go and squat 150 kilos right now.
Speaker 2:You're going to hurt something, you're going to hurt something.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know your muscles are going to strain way too much. You're not going to be flexible enough to be able to do that. Your body has never had that sensation, so you're not going to be able to do that.
Speaker 2:So it's a case of slowly, slowly building up that weight.
Speaker 2:Correct squat 20 kilos first, then work your way out 60, 100, and eventually you will get to the size and weight that you want to and also, when you get to a certain size, if that's what you're happy with, you can stop there, like if you, if you try, maybe two sizes bigger than what you normally are used to, or you've tried, if that's what you're happy with, you can stop there. If you try, maybe two sizes bigger than what you normally are used to, or you've tried, if that's all you can do or you feel good with that, it's okay to stop there. Yes, totally. There is no rule that you have to go to the Hulk.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:If you're happy with the medium, medium big, or let's say you're at the XL.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:That's cool.
Speaker 1:There's nothing wrong with that, because it's your body and at the end of the day, we're having sex to feel pleasure, absolutely, and what you?
Speaker 2:and also again, communication, if your partner, let's say your partner's a little bit more into it and trying to push you to do bigger whatever, communicate, communicate, communicate yeah and within the context, like getting back to communication thing, it's a constant check-in, yes, like when you're in the bedroom. Once you, once you get there, you are, don't stop communicating.
Speaker 1:It's always, and you're not just verbally communicating, it's. You're looking at their eyes. You're looking at how their body is responding to certain things and you know, are they wincing in pain, or are they you, you know, rolling their eyes?
Speaker 2:back in pleasure. I mean, for the person that is in this instance, let's just say top to top right. In a heterosexual relationship, though, let's just say the dude, look at your woman, make sure that she is comfortable. If you're the one that's inserting something, check to see if she finds it pleasurable. Maybe, if you want to ask do you like this? Is that okay, do so. Don't just go nuts and ham and want to stick things in there, because, at the end of the day, if it's something that you enter as well, you want to make sure that there's some longevity in that and you're not going to want to just scare the absolute crap out of them. First go.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and as the woman or the person that's taking it communicate.
Speaker 2:If there's something you don't like, say I don't like that, that's not for me, yeah because it's all about their pleasure anyway. Exactly, but both are your pleasure and you both need to be into it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the guy wants to see the girl come as much as possible Exactly. And that's what gets them off. So you know.
Speaker 2:And guys and guys, same thing. Talk to your man.
Speaker 1:Communicate, communicate, communicate.
Speaker 2:Cool, so we've got communication.
Speaker 1:Going slow Lube, so going slow. I'll get back to going slow, Level up with in terms of girth, because like length I think is like a different thing. Yes, length is, I'm gonna say, easy, but quote unquote easy it's it's easier to to take something a bit longer than it is to take something fatter yeah, so in terms of girth, level up by a quarter inch at a time.
Speaker 2:Yeah right, not don't go half inch, full inch, because that's going to put too much pressure on the muscles, and you know, quarter inch at a time you can get fissures something we didn't speak about yes, and let me tell you from experience I've had a fissure not from size play and I had it for three months and there's nothing more painful than that because it does not heal. And for those three months, anything coming out was painful and nothing went in for three months because I would not be able to handle it.
Speaker 1:So going too quick stops everything, it stops everything.
Speaker 1:I also talked to a surgeon about this Of course you did, and their feedback was basically they can do amazing things with a vagina to reconstruct it. You know, childbirth stretches stretches out three times its normal size within childbirth and normally that's fine, there's no damage. It can go a little bit bigger with some damage and they've got pretty good at fixing those things. But with the anus they don't right. They've got good at it but because of the complexity of the muscles and the way they all work.
Speaker 1:They can't do it, it's very, very difficult to fix those super torn muscles like fissures. They can, they can do, they can do, but full ruptures of the muscle not much they can do you can't really do too much about that. So the only way to really rupture a muscle like that is going something huge when you're completely not prepared for it. Yep, you're not ready for it and not taking it slow. You know, you can't just shove that green thing in somebody's back door and expect that they're gonna be able to take it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because that's going to lead to serious consequences. Just looking at this thing, just the thought of that, just makes me shudder.
Speaker 1:All right, let's talk about lube as well. Lube is one of these things that we've talked about in the past. With normal sort of penis penetration, most people would like silicon, silicon, silicon, yep. With toys, especially larger toys water base, specifically thick water base yes, because it gives like a little bit of cushioning, yes, whereas the thin stuff it doesn't, and it sticks around just that little bit longer as well. So if you can find like a really really thick, water-based one, water-based lube, yeah.
Speaker 2:Do your research, do your research to see what works with toys, because generally you don't want to put silicone in silicone. If it's not the real deal, yeah, if it's not the real deal, if it's not the real deal. So just do some research. Make sure that you're not just using your cheap, nasty shit from your local supermarket.
Speaker 1:Do some research, that's right. And jumping on that research thing, you've got to educate yourself on these things, right? You can't just go from zero to hero with size play. Yeah, you need to understand what you're doing. And that education doesn't just fuck, it doesn't come from porn please don't watch any porn for education purposes does not come from porn.
Speaker 2:See it as, see it as a fucking movie. It's a, it's a movie, it's fake.
Speaker 1:It's not real, it's marvel okay it's marvel if you want to get educated on size, play, yeah, do what I did. Go and read it exactly. There are people like there are, thousands of people out there who are literally having these amazing shame-free conversations about their kinks and their fetishes you want.
Speaker 2:You want to read, you want to go and listen to someone's experience, rather than listening to or reading a? Um, a freaking article on something yeah, cool you can learn something from those articles scientifically. But you want to learn something, go talk to people. Yeah, people will give you the best freaking advice ever because they they've, they've lived it, they've tried it.
Speaker 1:They will help you out, yeah, and like that, that reddit um forum that I went to. There's literally a guy there who is the go-to guru for all things size play and people come to him with questions and he would openly sit there and go okay well, have you tried this? Have you tried this? Have you tried this? And he's giving people advice that is learned from experience. Yeah, and that's exactly what you need. You need to get educated.
Speaker 2:That's what you need. Someone's experience.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all right, I want to finish off with talking about toys that are specifically designed for size, play, mm-hmm. Okay. So obviously there's like a massive range of toys. So, whether it's like dildos or vibrators or butt plugs or whatever you know, there's inflatables these days as well the material that you're using is going to make a huge difference.
Speaker 1:The harder the material, the smaller the size that you can play with, because there's not that much give, right? So if you're going with a glass or like a metal toy, smaller, you need to go smaller because it doesn't have that much give. Like these toys there in front, like these toys they're in front of you, they're quite soft and pliable, right. And with this particular company you can get different grades of that, so you can go really soft or you can go really hard, so you can customize that. But that's only from like real premium brands. But, um, so there's, there's that the material is super important. There's the shape and the texture. If you're trying something a little bit bigger, I'm going to argue that you'd want something a little bit smoother absolutely try whatever when you want to get into something a little bit crazy with texture.
Speaker 2:Work up to that. Work up to that. Yes, Work up to that.
Speaker 1:So if you're going more textured size down, If you're going for bigger, If you're going for size Smooth, Smooth it.
Speaker 2:You don't want to again hurt something or try it and go. Oh, that's not for me, but it was more the texture than the size.
Speaker 1:And some people love textures.
Speaker 2:Some people love textures.
Speaker 1:Some people love it, some people hate it, like me, right, you hate, you hate texture. I don't like texture. Some people love that thing, like the ogre right there, which is super heavily textured, and other people don't. So there's, there's that, so understand what sort of textures that you're going for. Yeah, and that will relate to the size and materiality and whatnot.
Speaker 2:And just most importantly, just try.
Speaker 1:Try, try yes.
Speaker 2:And if you're not into it, that's cool. If something, do it the right way. But also, and most importantly, don't judge somebody else for being into something. No, don't judge somebody else for being into something. No, if someone else is into size play or fucking puppy play not as in actually puppies, people wearing puppy masks don't yuck their yum yeah, because everyone's into something. What you like, someone else might not like so Totally. Let people stop the shame.
Speaker 1:Stop the shame, stop the shame, stop the shame, stop the shame, stop the shame. All right, so I've got two more things to say. With the toys, I think care and maintenance as well.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, Very important.
Speaker 1:If you are using.
Speaker 2:I can't get over this big Hulk thing. I'm mesmerized by it. I can't get over this big Hulk thing.
Speaker 1:Sorry, I'm mesmerized by it. If you are using large toys, they need to be quality materials, yes, and you need to look after them and you need to look after them. So, if you're using pure silicon, give it a boil every now and again, right, disinfect it, use disinfectants. Keep it in a nice, safe place. Don't let them touch each other.
Speaker 1:If you've got more than one toy, don't let them touch each other for more than a couple of minutes at a time, because eventually they can sort of clump down. Give it a smell as well. Right, if your sex toy smells, that's a problem. It smells like what? Well, firstly, if you pick it out of the box and it smells of chemicals, don't put that fucking thing anywhere near a hole. Yeah, right, that's some cheap nasty shit. That's some cheap nasty shit, and cheap nasty shit allows bacteria to breed. So if you're pulling that thing out of your backside and or your pussy and it's not cleaned straight away, bacteria is going to grow. Yes, and the worst thing about those ones as well is you can't get the bacteria out, no matter how much, no matter what you do. You know sanitizing, you do, yeah, and you can't boil them because they just melt. So, super high quality products Maintain, clean them out, boil them, do all that Good advice, and I think that's size play.
Speaker 2:That's it, that's size play.
Speaker 1:That was a big episode.
Speaker 2:That was a big episode. So go out there, people, and try something different. Try something different, try something fun. Take it easy, though, but try something different and also check out some websites. Look for some stuff. Look at Mr Hankey's. He's got some good stuff on there.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Check it all out. Go on Reddit. You know watch.
Speaker 2:You know watch some porn if it's something that you do want to do, yes. Explore some ideas, yeah. If that's the way you want to kind of see if you're into it, maybe watch some porn and see if there's, if that's something that like turns you on, like if you're someone that wants to do it to your partner, for example, see how you feel about it sit down and watch it with them.
Speaker 1:Yes, see what happens, see, see their reaction. You know, on the flip side, if it ain't something that you're into, that's all okay. That's cool as well. You got your shit going on Just wait for the next episode to see what else you talk about? All right Size. Play done, done Over and out. Have a good day, peaces. Thanks for tuning in to today's episode of Super Sex. We hope you found our discussion both enlightening and entertaining.
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