Beat yourself up

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Beat yourself up 

means to blame or criticize yourself too harshly for a mistake or failure.

Examples:

1- She missed her deadline and kept beating herself up about it all week.
2- We all make errors — what matters is learning, not beating yourself up over them.

Transcript

Hello and welcome to Daily English, where we explore ideas that help us grow — in English and in life. Today’s concept comes from Buddhist philosophy, and it’s something we all experience — often without realizing it.  It’s called The Second Arrow.

What It Means In life, the first arrow is the pain we can’t avoid — disappointment, loss, or failure.
 But what causes deeper suffering is the second arrow — the one we shoot ourselves.
 It’s the guilt, worry, or harsh self-talk that follows.

When something goes wrong, we might think, “I’m so stupid. I should’ve known better.”
 That’s the second arrow — the moment we start beating ourselves up for being human.

We can’t always stop pain from happening, but we can choose not to hurt ourselves twice.
 Compassion, not criticism, is what helps us heal.

Expression of the Day: Beat Yourself Up The phrase “beat yourself up” means to blame or criticize yourself too harshly for a mistake or failure.

Examples:

1. She missed her deadline and kept beating herself up about it all week.
   
   
   
2. He forgot to call his friend and started beating himself up, even though it was a small mistake.
   
   
   
3. We all make errors — what matters is learning, not beating yourself up over them.
   
   
   

Question for You:

Can you think of a moment when you were too hard on yourself — when you shot that second arrow?

Pain is part of life — it’s the first arrow. But how we treat ourselves afterward is our choice.
 So next time things go wrong, breathe, forgive, and don’t beat yourself up.