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Clear Responsibility

Jale Qaraqan

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Responsibility

 is not a burden. It’s a form of nervous-system regulation. Not “I control everything.” But: “This part is mine. The rest is not.”



Hello and welcome to a weekend episode of Daily English — where we try to grow, in English and in life.

Today I want to share something that sounds wrong at first — but psychology supports it.

Taking responsibility can reduce anxiety. Avoiding it often increases it.

Here’s why. The brain feels safest when it knows: what is mine to handle and what is not

When responsibility is unclear, the brain stays alert. It keeps scanning. Worrying. Overthinking.

This is called uncertainty stress. And the brain hates uncertainty more than effort.

When people say: “I don’t know what to do.” “It’s out of my hands.” “I’m just waiting.”

Their nervous system doesn’t relax.Because waiting without agency feels like danger.

But when you take one clear responsibility — even a small one — the brain gets a signal:

 “There is something I can do.” That signal lowers anxiety.

Not because the problem is solved — but because control has a shape.

This is why therapists often start with small responsibilities: one routine, one boundary, one decision, one action
Not to add pressure — but to give the mind a place to stand.

So here’s the surprising idea:  Responsibility is not a burden. It’s a form of nervous-system regulation. Not “I control everything.” But: “This part is mine. The rest is not.”

This weekend, try this question — just once: “What is one small thing that is actually my responsibility right now?”

Name it. Do it. Then stop. You don’t need to carry the whole world — just something real.

Let me leave you with this: The brain relaxes not when life is easy,

but when responsibility is clear.

Thank you for being here today, and before I go, remember that tomorrow at 12 pm New York time, we have a free speaking club. It’s a space for us to have discussions and improve our speaking skills. Everyone is welcome, and I’d be very happy to see you there. You can simply click on the link I’ve put in the description and join us.