The Vibration Fit Podcast

Episode 3: How You Become You & The A.U.R.A Process

ā€¢ Jordan & Vanessa Buckingham ā€¢ Season 1 ā€¢ Episode 3

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Welcome to The Jordan and Vanessa Show! šŸŽ™ļø In this episode, weā€™re diving deep into how you become you and how your identity is shaped by the thoughts you think, the beliefs you hold, and the truths youā€™ve validated through manifestation.

But hereā€™s the exciting partā€”you donā€™t have to stay stuck in an identity that doesnā€™t serve you! Thatā€™s where the A.U.R.A Process comes in. This simple yet powerful 4-step framework (Awareness, Unplug, Replace, Activate) empowers you to shift limiting beliefs, break free from negative emotional loops, and consciously create a new vibrational identity that aligns with the life you truly desire.

āœØ In this episode, we cover:

šŸ”¹ The thought-to-identity transformation process
šŸ”¹ The Snowball Analogy: How beliefs accumulate over time
šŸ”¹ The A.U.R.A Processā€”a step-by-step guide to rewiring your vibration
šŸ”¹ How to stop perpetuating negative emotional states and shift into alignment
šŸ”¹ Why your emotions are your greatest tool for transformation

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Vanessa:

Welcome to the Jordan and Vanessa show. Today's episode is called how you Become you. Our mission at vibrationfitcom is to help bridge the woo-woo with the how-to, and in this podcast we're going to get into the how-to and at the end you'll actually have a framework that you can apply to actually shift parts of your identity if they're not serving you. So let's get into it. Jordan.

Jordan:

Man, this sounds great.

Vanessa:

I'm really excited. This is actually a process that we use a lot in our lives to help shift our perspective on things and just make us feel better.

Jordan:

Yeah, definitely. This is a process that I actually use a lot really on the daily.

Vanessa:

Actually use a lot really on the daily just mainly because in my life I've really become kind of intolerant of negative emotion, negative emotion but not necessarily negative emotion itself.

Jordan:

Like I do appreciate the guidance but I would say like perpetual negative states right, I mean like like I've become intolerant, of perpetuating negative emotional states. So whenever they arise within me. I like to have a process by which I can say I can say.

Jordan:

you know what I don't like. Feeling this way Sounds kind of simple, but it's like this doesn't feel good to me. So I want to rebuild my vibration on this subject in a way that makes me feel better, and I do it all the time and it actually works really super well. And it's amazing the response from the universe and how rapidly the universe responds to a pretty simple shift in a vibration or choosing something better than the one that was perpetuating the negative state.

Vanessa:

Totally, and that's all part of being vibrationally fit right. It's not never getting below the green line, it's realizing when you are below the green line and just bringing your awareness to that and being like you know what. I don't choose this for my future. It's okay that I'm here, but I am going to empower myself with these tools that I know that work in order to really shift my vibe up the emotional guidance scale.

Jordan:

Yeah, it's like do I want to feel like this tomorrow?

Vanessa:

No thanks.

Jordan:

Do I want to feel like it next Wednesday? Yeah, do I want to feel this next month or in December, at the end of this year. Precisely so like. If that's the case, that the answer to that question is no, then there's something I need to do about this right now, to start dealing with this, and I feel like this process really helps me with that.

Vanessa:

Totally. But before we get into the process and how you can actually shift your vibe around something that's not really working for you in your life, I feel like first we have to explain how you become you.

Jordan:

Yeah, this is a really fun one how you become you. So first you think, a thought, a thought that you keep thinking, becomes a belief, a belief validated by manifestation becomes a truth and ultimately, your identity becomes a sum total of all these truths that you've developed for yourself or have been validated by manifestation. So ultimately, it's at the point that somebody would say, well, this is true for me, and have sort of backup you know, have data behind it to be able to say let me show you all the reasons why this is true, for me.

Vanessa:

Let me tell you about all the circumstances and all the manifestations that have happened. That proves that this is now part of my identity.

Jordan:

Yeah, this is who I am. This is what I am. So, ultimately and I'll pass it to you with this like your identity would be defined to me as the sum total of all the things you say. After the words I am. Right.

Jordan:

I am this, I am that and the great thing is, the majority of these do serve us. I mean, you know, I am a dad, I am a husband, like those are all really good things for me. It's not like everything that we develop has a negative connotation. The majority of our identity is actually a really great thing. It helps us to wake up in the morning and have a sense of who we are. But occasionally one sneaks in there where there's an I am and then there's something that doesn't really serve us behind it.

Vanessa:

Right, yeah, you hear some people say I am depressed or I am anxious or I'm an anxious person, and in those scenarios it's not a good feeling thing, attached to those identities to the point where they can feel really disempowered in their lives, where they're looking for external things to cope with those I ams, like different substances or whatever can make them feel better in the moment. But an idea that really gives me empowerment and makes me feel empowered is that all of these I ams, all of these parts of our identity, all had a genesis in thought.

Jordan:

That brings me a lot of peace, because just knowing how something became a part of your identity empowers you to be able to shift it. Right. So if you just wake up in the morning and you feel like every piece of your identity was just stuck there by some imaginary force that you don't have any control over, then that can be disempowering, because then you're sitting there, going. I am all these things.

Vanessa:

And I have no ability to change it. I have no power. I have no power to change it.

Jordan:

Whereas I like to say I am all these things and I'm empowered to shift, change, modify the parts of my I am statement that don't bring me joy.

Vanessa:

Whenever I choose. That don't put me above the green line. Yeah, exactly, so we can do that whenever we choose.

Vanessa:

Right, yeah, so we have come up with this analogy that makes a lot of sense in our minds. Basically, it's like snow. So if you think of a thought, like a single speck of snow that's falling from the sky, so you have all of these thoughts that are happening all the time, and think of each thought as just an individual snowflake and each individual snowflake. It has its own uniqueness to it. It's completely different from every other snowflake. So you have a thought and that's the snowflake that's falling down. Eventually, these thoughts kind of come together. So you think about after a snowfall. You see these specks of snow coming down and then it starts accumulating on the ground. Right, so if you can relate that to the belief, so thoughts that you keep thinking, that becomes the belief. So that's like the accumulation of snowfall on the ground. Now you have some snow that's piled up, that's the belief.

Vanessa:

After that, the belief that's validated by manifestation, that becomes your truth. Think of that as like a snowball. So you have the snow, you have these thoughts that are the snowflakes that have fallen onto the ground. It's accumulated, become a belief. And then, after the belief is validated by manifestation, now it's a truth. Think of that truth like a snowball, and when you think of a snowball to me, I think of like a packed snow. So you have a bunch of individual pieces of snow that you all pack together and it's hard, so it has more structure to it. So you have this snowball and then, once that truth becomes part of your identity, because it's been activated so much now, imagine that snowball actually becoming part of your snowman. So you are a snowman and this snowball is now a part of you.

Jordan:

Now it's part of your identity. You just take the snowball, and the cool thing about a snowball is, you know, as it gains momentum rolling on the ground, it picks up more and more and more and more and by the time something becomes a truth in your life generally, that's an active vibration that's going to be attracting more unto itself so you think? About that snowball rolling in more snow and getting bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger, and I think I love this analogy.

Jordan:

You came up with it when we first were talking about it, I was like cracking up because I just like imagine like taking this giant snowball and just being like you know, like like sticking it in your like frozen self, like this is now my midsection, it's a part of my identity.

Vanessa:

And some of us are walking around with, like these really lumpy snowballs that are snowmen.

Vanessa:

Yeah, like these things are growing in weird shapes and like I don't really know if I dig it like like you can always see the snowmen that people make, like in these big snowfall areas, like some of them are so pristine and they're beautiful and they've carved out these perfect balls that make like the bottom and the middle and the top, and to me that's like those are the vibration fit people, those are the people that are really carving out all of those thoughts intentionally making this beautiful, this beautiful snowman, where it just it feels really good to look at it, you know, whereas, like, a lot of people are walking around with these lumpy yeah, I'm laughing because I see where you're going with this.

Jordan:

It's like. It's like you see, like the snowman that was like I, I don't know, maybe they ran out of time or something. You're like oh man, like that guy is struggling a little bit.

Vanessa:

That's not cute, yeah, totally.

Jordan:

I absolutely love this analogy and it ties back perfectly to the conversation of vibration, because most people understand the concept of every snowflake is completely unique from every other snowflake is completely different than every other snowflake is completely different than every other snowflake that's ever existed. They all have their own unique crystalline structure and that's exactly how vibration works. Everything has its own unique structure and you and I actually talk about this a lot with the term vibrational signatures. So a thought itself has a vibrational signature to it and that's what gives it a tangibility.

Jordan:

But the really cool thing about vibrational signatures is everything micro and macro actually has a vibrational signature. So you take your example of a snowflake has a vibrational signature and physicality when you add that snowflake to other snowflakes, now those snowflakes combined all have a vibrational signature. Now, individually they have individual vibrational signatures, but they also have a compilation vibrational signature. That's essentially the combination of all their vibrational signatures lumped together right.

Jordan:

So then you take it a little further. You've got the snowball example, where now you've taken the raw materials and you formed it into a snowball. That snowball itself has a vibrational signature and it's what was accumulated all the way back to the individual snowflakes. But now it's got a vibrational signature of all those things combined until it just keeps moving forward, gaining momentum, getting bigger and bigger and bigger.

Jordan:

So I just love this example so much because it keeps the concept of the uniqueness of each thing having its own independent signature, its own vibrational signature, while it's also showing how these things can combine into a bigger whole to then become a part of your identity.

Vanessa:

Right, yeah, it makes a lot of sense in my mind. I love the visualization of it. Being able to really visualize everything is like, wow, these thoughts are all becoming part of my snowman, yeah, well you know in our world like, our intention obviously is to bridge the woo-woo with the how-to.

Jordan:

Right and a lot of times these analogies in physicality really help because then, like you said, you can visualize the concept. Right. And really get it Like from now on I'm not thinking in terms of just this process Like now. I'm actually really thinking about that example, right? And like I look at vibrations that form within me and I just kind of decide, like, do I want to? Like do I want to?

Jordan:

throw that snowball in as a part of my snowman, or like is that one that I want to maybe roll up another snowball and replace it because I got a little lumpy, weird one going on.

Vanessa:

Yeah, I want to just let those ones melt away and replace it with something new.

Jordan:

So, along these lines, you've actually come up with a process by which we can replace one of these snowballs that's within us if we choose to Also something else that you came up with that I absolutely love, and it actually has an acronym, I think. So I'll turn it back to you to talk about how to replace one of these things.

Vanessa:

Yeah, this is what I call the aura process. I still don't know how to say that word. Aura. Aura.

Jordan:

Aura Aura, however you say it. Anyway, I think different people say it different ways.

Vanessa:

So it's spelled A-U-R-A. The aura process is really powerful because it allows you to replace an active vibration within you with a brand new one, totally, and it has four steps to it. The acronym A-U-R-A stands for awareness, unplug, replace and activate. So first let's get into awareness. I really love how you explain our awareness within and our relationship between you and you, so if you could go into that, that would be really powerful.

Jordan:

Yeah, definitely so. A lot of times in the awareness phase, what you're actually identifying is an emotional state that you're experiencing, so you become aware of how you feel. Right, and a lot of times we have a tendency, as humans, to try to get to the bottom of it or try to dissect it. But going back to your snowflake example, there might be thousands upon thousands, upon thousands of different snowflakes that have contributed to the accumulation that contributed to the snowball that then has been rolling downhill for quite some time turning into the giant thing that just went boom within you.

Jordan:

So now you're like feeling an emotional response to this vibration, and trying to identify its source is literally like trying to find a needle in the haystack.

Vanessa:

Right. But if you just take a step back and you look at what's really going on here and where emotion comes from, then you can really see the big picture, which is just the emotion is just guidance.

Jordan:

Totally so.

Jordan:

Essentially, you are equipped in your body with what we call an emotional guidance system, and this was really sourced from Abraham Hicks is where I first heard about it.

Jordan:

But it's essentially a scale that shows emotional states kind of from the low end all the way to the high end, with the low end being depression and disempowerment all the way at the high end being joy, empowerment, appreciation, love.

Jordan:

So when you're experiencing this emotional state, you have to remember that we're equipped with this emotional guidance system in our body that basically lets us know that whether the vibration that we're currently entertaining and the thoughts that we're currently thinking are in harmony with the way that a deeper level of our consciousness is viewing the same situation.

Jordan:

So, essentially, the emotional state that you're experiencing is a result of whether the active vibration within you is a vibrational match to a deeper level of your consciousness, and one of the reasons why this happens is the deeper level of your consciousness that I'll call infinite consciousness, the infinite part of your consciousness. What it does all day, every day, is take active vibrations that you've got going on within you and essentially transforms them into what would be the positive equivalent, the above the green line equivalent, the equivalent that would produce the most positive, amazing emotional state for you. And it takes that, whether it was generated, by contrast, a negative experience, or whether it was generated in a joyful, happy experience, it takes the absolute best of the best and it holds it for you in vibrational escrow.

Jordan:

and it takes the absolute worst of the worst and it transforms it into what would be the best of the best and it holds it there for you and it does this unconditionally All day every day at an infinitely granular level, a level so minute that it would be hard to even conceptualize how much has gone into what I would call your vibrational escrow in this infinite part of your consciousness. Right. So there's an active vibration deep within you that would be the most positive equivalent, the most above the green line, equivalent of everything that you've ever lived, ever.

Vanessa:

And you always have access to it.

Jordan:

And you always have have to. It is this emotional guidance system letting you know whether the active vibration within you and your physical body and what you're focused on right now is a vibrational match to that above the green line equivalent.

Vanessa:

I think of the movie Finding Nemo and the part where the turtles are telling the fish to come into the current because it's the do you remember what it's called the Australian ocean?

Jordan:

current Australian current Eastern Australian current. Something like that, yeah, something like that, yeah, the.

Vanessa:

EAC. The EAC. That's right so the turtle's like come on, man, just come inside the current or something like that. And so once the fish go in there, the current's just carrying them. They don't even have to swim anymore, it just takes them off.

Jordan:

It's such a good example. Sorry, I'm just laughing because I'm thinking about humans in physical reality. Yeah, and the majority like 95 out of 100, are outside this current like swimming, like crazy, and then occasionally. Yeah, they're tired, yeah, and they're exhausted and they're over there, beat up, and then occasionally you see this like turtle, or you see this person just like swim by going like a hundred times faster and waving like effortlessly.

Vanessa:

Yeah, they're just like totally relaxed. I'm in flow, man.

Jordan:

They're like what is going on with that person? It's like that is the person who's aware of the creative process and is consciously creating their reality, and they're just like flying in the current and totally. That's a perfect bridge, because the current is essentially what's available for you.

Vanessa:

That is like their vibrational escrow. Totally that's your, that is your vortex, that's everything that you've become, the positive equivalent of everything that you've become. That's basically your source that has the perspective of the entire puzzle, of how everything comes together, of all of the exact right things at the exact right time, all of this perfection, all of the perfect harmony. That is the flow, and when you get in there, then everything is just easy, everything comes perfectly. Then you're going 200 miles an hour and you just then, everything is just easy, everything comes perfectly.

Jordan:

Then you're going 200 miles an hour and you just feel like everything's effortless. The majority of the planet is not operating with this awareness and they're not feeling empowered to change one of these snowballs that's within them. So there are people that will live with these negative emotional states for years. Decades, decades.

Vanessa:

Their entire life. Their entire lives.

Jordan:

Because essentially, they're just not really aware of a process by which they could replace that with something that feels better, so they just go about their business, always receiving the guidance. And what's really crazy is the longer you stay in those emotional states and you stay focused on what generates those emotional states, the bigger the vibration that's held for you in infinite consciousness gets on the exact same subject, on your current example, it just gets faster and more powerful.

Vanessa:

And bigger it gets wider.

Jordan:

So ultimately, if you stay in the exact same place with your thought and your focus, that generates that emotional response. Ultimately, you'll actually feel worse and worse and worse over time because, it's a relative feeling, and the goodness that's over here for you is getting bigger and bigger and bigger. So, staying in the exact same place.

Vanessa:

You're just widening the gap between where you are now and between your current. But as you close that gap between the emotions that you feel and the emotions that are available within your current, then that's when you start feeling relief, and not just relief, but you start feeling all of these incredibly positive or incredibly good feeling emotions. Joe Dispenza actually has a quote that I found incredibly fascinating. He says by the time we're 35 years old, 95% of who we are is a set of memorized behaviors and emotional reactions that run just like a computer program. So it's not surprising that we have these different things that come up, but without awareness. They're just running like a computer program in the back of our subconscious. It just continues to run.

Vanessa:

And it's the same thing like the physical universe. There are all these things going on, like the planets in orbit that we talked about in one of our last podcasts. All of these things that are just working in perfect harmony so that we don't have to focus on them. The same thing with our physical apparatus. There are all of these things in our vibration that are going on so that we don't have to constantly think about all of like who we are. We don't have to constantly think about our identity and reconstruct it every single day when we first wake up. Like you don't have to wake up every morning and be like oh, I'm a mom, oh, I'm a daughter, oh, I'm a granddaughter.

Vanessa:

Like it's just a part of you that's running in the background so we can go about our day.

Jordan:

Yeah, you and I talked about the movie 50 First Dates with. Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. Yeah, and essentially, she has this weird memory issue where every day that she wakes up, she only remembers up to a certain point in her life, and then they have to reteach her who she is. Every morning, every morning so like spoiler alert, but at the end of the movie she actually like has a baby and she's on a boat and she wakes up and she's like what's going on?

Jordan:

And they show her a videotape and she's out like studying penguins, like in the Arctic or walruses or whatever, and they hand her her baby and she's just like oh my goodness, I'm a mom on a boat in the middle of an icy glacier place studying walruses.

Vanessa:

Like thank God, it doesn't work that way.

Jordan:

Fortunately, we don't have to like teach ourselves who we are every day we wake up. You're exactly right Like most of these programs actually are serving us in a really great way.

Vanessa:

Right, but on the occasion when they don't, you can actually bring power back into your court by bringing yourself back to the awareness. Absolutely Okay, I'm aware of this emotion, I'm aware that it's below the green line and it's something I don't want to perpetuate. So now I have awareness of it, and what do I do after that?

Jordan:

Yeah, exactly. So why don't you tell us, like, what's the next step of the aura process?

Vanessa:

All right. So after awareness, then we get into unplug. So you've become aware of this emotion that you're not really vibing with and you want to change it. You want to change this piece of your identity. Now you have to make the conscious choice to unplug from it. And. I love how you do this in life with topic after topic after topic.

Jordan:

Yeah, Well, one thing that I remind myself it's a framework that really serves me.

Jordan:

Just because I'm experiencing an emotional state doesn't mean that I am that emotional state. That emotional state is a response to a vibration, right? So ultimately, I'm not the active vibration that's going on within me, I'm not the emotional state that is a response to that vibration, and I'm also not the thoughts that are being attracted as a result of that vibration. So I'm not the vibration, I'm not the emotional state and I'm not the thoughts that I'm thinking. Because how many times do we judge ourselves because we have this emotional state that we don't know what to do with, or these thoughts that are going on in our head and we're like, where did that come from? Like I feel like this is like now.

Jordan:

I'm judging myself as a person for thinking that way.

Vanessa:

I am out of control.

Jordan:

I am totally out of control yeah or like, and so, ultimately, whenever you're like us and you understand vibration. It's like you realize like oh man, I've got this vibration going on within me, so ultimately, that's such an important connection to make. Yeah, so if you realize that you are not those things, then, you have the ability, like you just said, to unplug, and I do a couple of things. The first thing that I'll do is disengage. So to me, unplugging is basically I want to pull the energy from the system.

Jordan:

So, where attention goes, energy flows. So literally think about like an electrical current going into a wire If you've got focus and attention on something, energy is flowing there and ultimately it's pushing energy into the system. So the first thing I'll do is disengage it. I'm essentially ripping the cord and I'm not flowing any more energy into the system. The second thing that I'll do is disassociate, which is essentially what I just described, which is, I'm not this vibration, I'm not these thoughts, I'm not this emotional state that I'm experiencing right now. So I'm going to give myself some space and grace. You actually came up with this the other day.

Jordan:

You're like you're giving yourself some space and grace.

Vanessa:

That's exactly what I'm doing. That's exactly what I'm doing. I deserve grace, yeah, totally.

Jordan:

And I actually have a really great analogy for this aura process, which I guess I'll go ahead and start describing here, which is I like to think about a car going down the road. Whenever you first have this awareness of the emotional state show up, that's essentially like realizing that you're driving the wrong direction and it's like whoa, hold on. This is not fun for me. This is not something I want to perpetuate.

Vanessa:

This isn't where I want to go. This isn't where.

Jordan:

I want to go. I'm going the wrong direction.

Vanessa:

My destination isn't that way Correct.

Jordan:

My destination is north and I'm headed south, kind of thing. So once you become aware of that, let's say you're going 70 miles an hour on a highway and you're going the wrong direction you can't just bust a Yui and immediately be going 70 miles an hour in the other direction.

Vanessa:

Not safely, not safely. It doesn't work that way.

Jordan:

What first has to happen is you have to take your foot off the gas, and for me, this unplug process is doing just that. All I'm going to do is start pulling back energy from the situation. I'm taking my foot off the gas because, essentially, I just don't want to contribute to any more momentum in this direction, and so I, non-judgmentally, give myself some space and grace, pull my foot off the gas, and the car just starts to slow down and start to lose momentum.

Jordan:

Yeah, and then eventually, if you leave it alone, momentum will start to fade away because you're not applying energy to the scenario.

Vanessa:

So now that your car is coasting and it's losing the momentum and you've chosen to unplug, now it's time to replace that thought.

Jordan:

Absolutely so. At this point I'm kind of thinking of a scenario where the car has gone down to zero and I've actually come to a full stop, where now I actually have a choice of what direction that I want to go. So to me, this replace option piece of the aura system is a directional thing. So now what I want to do right here is I just want to decide okay, I didn't like the direction I was going.

Jordan:

That's not taking me where I want to be. So now I just want to reorient myself in the right direction so that whenever I begin to establish momentum again, whenever I begin to apply energy to the system again, I'm building momentum in the right direction. So maybe you could speak a little bit to that, like kind of what does the replace piece of the process mean to you?

Vanessa:

So at this point you've unplugged, your car has coasted and it's come to a stop, but now you're just sitting on the side of the road. You're not just going to sit there forever. You want to be able to replace that thought with something that feels better.

Jordan:

Totally yeah, like ultimately you're going to have to reorient yourself and start pointing yourself in the right direction so that you can begin to move forward again. We don't want to just sit in this spot where we're not focused on anything.

Vanessa:

Right, and that's impossible because we're always focused on something. The energy is always flowing while we're awake, so you have to have something that you're focused on.

Jordan:

Yeah absolutely and we actually talk about this sometimes where this is where people sometimes will get in the analysis phase and they'll get paralysis from analysis. So they've maybe become aware of this feeling that they've got going on within them. Maybe they've been taught to unplug, remove their focus from the situation, try to allow their car to come to a stop, but then they start to try to dissect the emotional state.

Vanessa:

Instead of replacing it with something that is more in vibrational harmony with where they want to go, they start dissecting it and really just trying to analyze it. But that's a rabbit hole that has no bottom, yeah totally so.

Jordan:

It's, you know, on like same car example, if you've got a bad alternator, you don't go rip the alternator apart and try to figure out what's going on with it. For the most part you just go oh that alternator is not good, I'm going to replace it with a new one. Right. And it's a lot easier in most cases to just replace something that isn't serving you than it is to actually dissect it and get to the bottom Because, like we talked about earlier, you'll have thousands of different snowflakes in that snowball.

Vanessa:

That can all be contributing to the same vibe Absolutely.

Jordan:

And sometimes there's this idea that's perpetuated out there, like if you can get to the root bottom cause of it and pluck it like a weed, then you're going to be able to solve this problem permanently. But the reality is that's just a rabbit hole that goes deeper and deeper and deeper.

Vanessa:

So Because the problem with that is the whole time you're analyzing it and trying to get to the bottom of it, you're applying more energy to it, so it's actually becoming bigger, with more and more snowflakes along the way.

Jordan:

Absolutely Like. I love this example so much because I just got the visual of being stopped on the side of the road and now you're trying to repair the car. Right, you know what I mean? It's like you're trying to make a repair and like like, hey, so let me dissect this and see what's going on. Let me see why I was going in the wrong direction. And you just sit there and the car is just like. You were just pointed this way Like it's, you know it's not that big a deal.

Vanessa:

Yeah, there's nothing to get to the bottom of here.

Jordan:

Yeah, you can stay on the side of the road for days, weeks or months, and the whole time the car's just going. Hey, if you point me in a different direction and hit the gas, I'll get going that direction, no big deal.

Vanessa:

Right, so what is your process for actually replacing an inharmonic thought with something that is harmonic?

Jordan:

I would say the first thing that I remind myself of is that there's already an active vibration in a deeper level of my consciousness in the direction of where I want to go. So it's not even about creating something out of the blue. It's actually, a lot of times, just about bringing myself in a vibrational harmony, with vibration that feels better right.

Vanessa:

I love how you talk about that To me. Every time you remind me of that, it makes me feel really empowered. That there's not a whole bunch of things, that I feel really empowered, that there's not a whole bunch of things that I have to do, there's not a whole bunch of actions that I need to take, there's not something that's standing in the way of where I am and where I would really enjoy being. It's just aligning with what already exists.

Jordan:

Totally. I am so empowered by that because essentially sometimes you can feel like, oh my gosh, I have to develop this new vibration. I have to build this new vibration. I'm not like a vibration builder by trade, like I didn't go to college to build a new vibration.

Vanessa:

Like how do I do this?

Jordan:

It's like it's okay. The entire physical universe and non-physical universe are developed in a way that that's happening naturally all day, every day. You're always developing this better version of you and a deeper level of your consciousness.

Vanessa:

It's like the universe has all these road signs along the way, so you're pointing your car in a direction is like well, which way am I supposed to go? But the universe has already placed all of these road signs on your path that are showing you exactly where to go, if you just pay attention to them.

Jordan:

Yeah, totally Like. How many times have we been driving down the road and like you start feeling a certain way? It's like you're going in the wrong direction. And then you start to see a road sign and it says nope, and you're like, hmm, wrong way, I'm going to keep driving.

Vanessa:

Let's just explore.

Jordan:

I mean that sign could be wrong, right. And then you get like another one. It's like do not enter, don't go this way, one way only nope, nope, nope, nope. And then like the signs, like I'm getting this visual, like them increasing in frequency, where it's like you're driving and it's like red signs, like no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no there's a cliff like alarms are going off inside your body, where it's just like no, no, no, no no, no, no, no, no, no.

Jordan:

And the reason for that actually is because, depending on where you are on the vibrational scale, there's a directional component to vibrational momentum. So, essentially, if you're above the green line, you have a tendency to go up. It literally pushes you into higher and higher states, whereas whenever you're below the green line, it has a tendency to push you down and further and further and further.

Jordan:

On top of what we said, the infinite part of your consciousness is continuing to expand. So even just staying in the same place is going to feel worse and worse and worse if that part of yourself is continuing to move forward. But on top of that there's also the directional component, where you just have a tendency to go further down, down, down, down, down that rabbit hole and feel worse and worse and worse and worse and worse. So those alarm bells are going to go faster and faster, and louder and louder within you.

Vanessa:

Letting you know that you're just going the wrong direction. That's it.

Jordan:

So when I remind myself that that vibration exists and it's out there for me to claim if I'll just turn my attention towards it, first off it empowers me, it makes me feel good and secondly, it begins to open me to the possibility of that existing and starts getting me closer and closer to it. So, for example, if you look at the emotional guidance scale, the first rung above the green line is hopefulness. So I'm really good about putting myself into hopefulness, positive expectation, just by reminding myself that there's a vibration available to me, based on this contrast that I've been living, that feels better.

Vanessa:

Do you find that, just by reminding yourself that you do have the ability to line up with that current, that better thoughts that produce better emotions are suddenly available to you?

Jordan:

Absolutely to you, absolutely. And one secret that I have here, or one trick that I use for myself, is a lot of times we're kind of taught to reach for a thought that feels better. The challenge with that is that better is a comparative word. So, now you're comparing every new thought that you find against the old vibration Right.

Vanessa:

And what do you?

Jordan:

have to do to compare.

Vanessa:

You have to activate the old-, you have to activate the icky gross vibration again.

Jordan:

Absolutely, you have to go activate the old vibration, and so I think a lot of people that have that experience where they're reaching for something that feels better and then they find themselves not able to do so or they get really frustrated. You shouldn't be so hard on yourself. When you're looking for something that feels better, you technically, are having to activate the old vibration to compare the new things too, and of course, the thing that has vibrational momentum within you is going to win on the vibrational side and you're not really going to have access to those better feeling thoughts.

Vanessa:

Yeah, when that's activated you're getting back in that car. That's going 70 miles an hour South yeah precisely, you just totally nailed it.

Jordan:

So it's like you're sitting on the side of the road, maybe you've done a good job of unplugging and now we go try to find a better feeling thought, and what we don't realize is we're getting in, we're tapping the gas, going the wrong direction again as we're trying to compare against the old thing, and you know it's not taking us where we want to go.

Jordan:

So for me what I do is I acknowledge that there's another vibration available to me that's out there. I begin to give myself hopefulness and positive expectation that I'll be able to find it engage the old thing at all in any sort of a comparison nature. I just go what would be the absolute best case scenario on this subject for me now and generally there's a subject tied to this. So whenever you're doing this process you don't have to dissect it enough to know exactly what's causing the emotional state. But generally we know the subject that it's on. And the more general.

Jordan:

Almost the better, because it's okay. You just generally know what's going on, and now you're going to say what would be the absolute best case scenario on this subject for me.

Vanessa:

And that's so powerful and that actually leads us into the imagination component.

Jordan:

So, when you're thinking about what would be the best case scenario on this topic and using their imagination, like the world, sort of conditioned you into becoming a realist and focused on reality and you need to come back to earth. Kid Like this is what's going on.

Vanessa:

And the truth is imagination is the construct of reality. Imagination is what becomes reality. So, kids have it completely right.

Vanessa:

They know that. So they they're constantly exercising their imagination and as we get older I feel like we kind of lose the ability. We just haven't exercised our imagination muscles as much because we're always surrounded by reality and we take that reality as what is true for us of what's going on in our life and we don't really exercise the imagination component of it. But if you can get good at exercising your imagination, then you're going to be the constructor of your reality.

Jordan:

You totally nailed it. I love this so much because whenever you're finding that new thing to focus on, the imagination is the key. You actually have a really great analogy on this for the white room.

Vanessa:

Oh yeah, I like to imagine that I'm just in an infinite white space with nothing around me, and then I like to just populate the white space with different things that come to mind. Or if I'm trying to create a virtual reality in a sense, then I'm just surrounded by this white space and then I allow the things that I want in my space. The fun is in the creation. Totally. It's funny. The other day the kids made this huge fort in our office and they had like chairs and they had huge blankets and they had set up this huge fort in there and they loved it. They played with it for about an hour and then we left it up for a week.

Vanessa:

And the rest of the week they didn't go in that fort once, and so we started talking about this and we came to the conclusion that the reason why is because the fun is in the creating. They had so much fun with that in that one hour after they created the fort, but after that it was a creation that had already come to fruition Totally.

Jordan:

So once you ask yourself this question, like what would be the absolute best case scenario for me on this subject, Just start to see what starts to populate your mind.

Vanessa:

Allow yourself to really imagine.

Jordan:

To really imagine and begin to experience that and just start to seeulate your mind, allow yourself to really imagine, to really imagine and begin to experience that and just start to see what pops in. And this is the fun part, because, essentially, what's going to happen is these are your new snowflakes, right? These thoughts.

Vanessa:

This is your new snowfall. Yeah, totally.

Jordan:

This is your new snowfall. Like you're literally seeing, like all these different snowflakes begin to populate, and so the same process that generated this active vibration that you're now unplugging from and finding something new on the same process that developed, that is the process that's going to develop this new one. So just allow these snowflakes to fall and allow it to start just deluging you with all these really cool ideas and have fun with it.

Vanessa:

And have fun with it.

Jordan:

And have fun with it, and whatever feels better than the next thing and the next thing and the next thing, just latch on to that, latch on to that, latch on to that. And whenever reality tries to creep in and be like, well, let me tell you all the reasons why it's not going to snow. Because you're in Florida, you know, like whatever reality tries to creep in and do the yeah, but Just completely disengage that and ignore it and keep allowing the snow to come in and begin to accumulate.

Jordan:

And I love this phase because you're allowing the snow to fall, you're allowing accumulation to happen and now you've got this much better base of snow, much better base of thought to be able to start to mold into your brand.

Jordan:

New snowman your brand new, brand new piece of your identity that you're going to adopt and put into yourself. So once you see that start to form, you'll see that it'll come together really rapidly and the momentum that takes you from hopefulness into positive expectation, knowing that that vibration exists deep within your consciousness, when you start stepping into this fun part of it, you'll often get flooded with all of this amazing stuff and you'll be like whoa, I didn't realize that this was so developed already.

Jordan:

Or or you might think, man, I'm really good at this imagination creation thing.

Vanessa:

It's like, yeah, you're really good at it Getting into the current, getting into the current where all of that stuff was already established for you.

Jordan:

So you'll find that once you get into flow all that was available for you You'll be like wow, and this whole new idea will form in your mind and it's like man that feels really fun to focus on. Okay, so now you're forming these new ideas about your reality and here's a really important piece the old vibration is still going to be available to you. It doesn't disappear just because you formed some new ideas about yourself. Okay, so at this point, you're really at a point of choice where you are going to continue to engage this new idea about yourself and you're going to continue to add momentum to it. And you're going to continue to add momentum to it. Or, if you don't do that, you let this exercise go in vain, so to speak, and you just let that idea about yourself die on the vine. You have a tendency to sort of fall back. So that actually leads us to the last step of the aura process, which is Activate yes, so now that you've formed this idea about yourself.

Jordan:

It's your role, it's your job to not let this idea die on the vine. You've got to really start to give that energy and momentum. And in the car example, what I like to think about here is now I've done the process, I've reoriented myself, I've pointed the vehicle in the right direction. Now I've given myself this new idea, this new thing to focus on, and now I'm going to hit the gas. Right.

Jordan:

Now I'm pointing in the right direction and it's time for me to hit the gas. So this brings forth a concept that you and I talk about of activation cycles. So I like to think about activation. How many activation cycles has this idea undergone?

Jordan:

And what I would technically define as an activation cycle is something that's been focused on for at least 68 seconds. Right, so it's kind of a weird number. It was sourced in the Abraham Hicks materials, but it works for me personally. You can use whatever you want, but essentially what I see is a period of 17 seconds sort of will allow me to latch on to a thought or an idea and to the point that I can get something tangible in my mind to focus on, and then another 17 seconds allows it to form further, and another 17 seconds allows it to form further. And then, once you've been focused on this one idea for at least 68 seconds, it's at that point that, essentially, the universe can get a bead on your new idea, your new vibration.

Vanessa:

Because it's shifting your vibrational signature around that Precisely.

Jordan:

You nailed it so like now, think about an activation cycle as something that can actually form into a vibrational signature that is determinable, that is actually pick-up-able, that is detectable is the word I'm looking for. Now you've got this detectable vibrational signature within you because you've completed an activation cycle cycle. Now the question over the coming hours, days, weeks is how many activation cycles are you going to roll this new idea through, versus how many activation cycles is the old idea going to get?

Jordan:

So, ultimately, are you going to feed the old vibration or are you going to feed the new vibration? Feeding the new vibration, feeding the new idea is all about how many activation cycles am I going to put this through? Because, ultimately, as you're hitting the gas and you're moving in the direction of that idea now, it's gaining attraction power and more thought, more snowflakes, more accumulation, more snow being added to the snowball. That is the new idea and literally it'll start to snowball and get bigger and bigger and bigger and ultimately I want this thing to be big enough that it has enough momentum that I can you know I can stick it in as a part of me.

Vanessa:

Adopt it.

Jordan:

And, most importantly, allow it to essentially take the place of the old vibration that didn't serve me.

Vanessa:

Right, yeah, exactly, that makes a whole lot of sense. It's kind of like going into your car and with the cars that have the navigation on it, it has favorites. And so in your favorites is going to be those old vibrations, right?

Vanessa:

Totally Because those are the ones that you visited most. It's like home. So in our car our navigation says home and that's where the car knows where to go to. It knows where our home is. So you've been activating this home every day and, like I said with the Joe Dispenza quote, we're on autopilot. Our vibration is basically on autopilot every day. So the work is activating these vibrations to become your new home.

Jordan:

Totally. That's like literally a mind blowing example. I love how you just came up with that because I remember when we moved to our new home, the old home was still programmed on my phone.

Vanessa:

And every time I went anywhere it was trying to take you to your old home Precisely.

Jordan:

It's like no, no, no, no, You've been here for years, Like you've been here for a long time, Come back, come back, come back. And I literally had to go into my phone and be like nope this is not my home anymore.

Vanessa:

This is my new coordinates for my new home Take me there Precisely.

Jordan:

You just nailed it so like you want to create this new home.

Vanessa:

This new vibrational home.

Jordan:

That you take yourself to. And what's really great is, whenever that subject gets activated, you can be intentional and you have a great line for this. You have so many great lines. I'm so glad we're married.

Vanessa:

It's the vibe you choose Totally. This is all, hopefully, empowering you to be the decider of your own vibe, so that you can become aware of a vibe that doesn't serve you. You can choose to unplug from that vibe, you can choose to replace it with a vibration that does serve you and you can choose to continue to activate that vibe in your life so that it becomes your new vibrational home.

Jordan:

Absolutely, and if you're empowered to do that, then you can do it really at any time, on any subject, anytime you identify something that doesn't serve you, and I think for me personally, being vibration fit is really centered around this concept of just. I want to live an above the green line life. Emotionally, I want to be dominantly experiencing emotional states that make me feel good, that make me feel like I'm calling forth the energy that creates worlds. So I am faced on a daily basis with choice around whether I'm going to perpetuate vibrations that are active within me and their associated emotional states, or whether I'm going to shift that idea about myself and create an entirely new vibration to engage in. And I feel like you, and I do that really well. One great thing about having a partner like you is that I can get an outside perspective on what I've got going on, and we've definitely had some really funny conversations where you'll be like well, that's some stinking thinking.

Vanessa:

Yeah, that's not a very empowering way to look at that.

Jordan:

Like something will come out of my mouth and it's like you know that's some stinking thinking you got going on there and I'll like look at it and be like, oh my gosh you're right.

Jordan:

That's awful. I remember one time you were like, well, that's some stinking thinking. And I looked back at you and I was like I know, I'm going to go deal with it right now. And I went and did some version of this process to essentially fix your aura, fix my aura, man, Like like literally like I gotta, I gotta go shift my focus on this, essentially establish a new idea that I'm going to focus on and begin to activate it so that I can establish a new home on this subject. And ultimately, what's really great and I think one of the reasons why this stuff really is fun to engage in is if you do this enough times on enough of the dominant subjects in your life, then you really do have an opportunity to establish an emotional home that supports you and makes you feel good and keeps you above the green line the majority of the time, and that emotional home is going to attract thought that is in harmony with it.

Vanessa:

Because that becomes the 95% of your life that is running on autopilot.

Jordan:

Totally so, you don't?

Vanessa:

even have to think about it. You just have this baseline of awesomeness that's happening in your life without you having to tend to it, so the work does get easier and easier. You don't always have to become aware of these stinking thinking things in your life and use the aura process, because over time, these things are replaced with snowflakes that you're consciously choosing and that becomes your new baseline.

Jordan:

Absolutely. I'd so dig that, and I guess one concept that I like to think about whenever you're first engaging this process is you know, give yourself some space and grace. You know you don't have to fix everything all at once right but ultimately, whenever you become aware of this process and you start using it, you really can hit the reset button on your life.

Vanessa:

Totally yeah. And it's surprising how many times, whenever you get into doing these processes, that you find that it's not a big hairy monster, it's not this huge trench that has unlimited depth. Really, when you get down to it, you realize there's only a few things in my vibration that are holding me back from who I truly am and who I truly desire to become. And once you realize that that's ultimate empowerment, it's just showing yourself wow, there really wasn't all that much wrong with my vibe or there wasn't really all that much holding me back.

Jordan:

Absolutely, and it's all about what's active now. So I think that's the thing. Sometimes people have these vibrations going on that are active within them. If they don't have a process like this by which they can replace it and establish something new and build a new identity for themselves. They just kind of keep the same handful of things active in their vibration day in and day out.

Vanessa:

They get stuck in paralysis from analysis. They get stuck in paralysis from analysis.

Jordan:

It can literally dominate your day, or 80, 90% of your day is essentially dominated by this vibration. That isn't serving you.

Jordan:

On autopilot On autopilot, whereas if you can take this process and just replace one thing that's like that in your life Now you get like 80 to 90% of your day that was previously going to a low vibration that was producing a negative emotional response within you you now have replaced with something much better. So whenever you go there, now 80 to 90% of your day is this high flying new idea about yourself that's empowering and helps you form this new identity of an above the green line person.

Vanessa:

Totally so. That is your power that you have access to every moment of every day. And this is a great example of our mission at Vibration Fit in this podcast of bridging that woo-woo of universal law with the how-to, principles and frameworks that you can actually apply to your life to create the life that you choose. And I'd like to mention that this podcast was also inspired by a question that we got from a friend, and I want to inspire other people to also submit questions at vibrationfitcom, because you're literally pulling forth the information that we're releasing at VibrationFit, like our desire is so huge to have answers to questions in our own lives and in the lives of the people that we love and people out there that are calling the information forth.

Jordan:

Yeah, absolutely. We really have to thank Mariah for this episode, because she asked us a question and we literally chewed on it for days going how exactly do we go about? Answering this question and it's really great because it forces us to really bring tangibility to our concepts, because a lot of times we do this stuff.

Jordan:

Naturally, and we've been doing it for years and we have a process that's built within us, but you don't necessarily have an acronym for it until somebody asks you to explain it, right, and then you're like well, it kind of goes like this yeah, I guess I could actually bring some real principles to explaining to other people what we do in our own lives.

Vanessa:

So your questions literally fuel the content here at Vibration Fit.

Jordan:

Absolutely, and you actually built a page on the website recently where people can submit questions.

Vanessa:

Right Vibrationfitcom slash coaching. If you have a question, we have a form there where you can submit your question and we'll personally get back to you.

Jordan:

Sounds great.

Vanessa:

So this was a lot of fun yeah this is a really fun episode.

Jordan:

I do want to thank Mariah for inspiring a lot of this content and really helping us hone in some of these things that we just spoke about.

Vanessa:

So I think I'm going to end this with actually reading her question. Live Mariah's comment was I'd love for you to expand upon this in future episodes the process for using one's emotions as a tool. In my own life, I have grown from suppressing emotions to now learning to allow and inquire deeper, but it's hard not to get stuck in the analysis. How does one move to the next phase? So I really hope that we have brought some clarity to that today. I know that for you and I, we've captured a lot of clarity over just trying to chew up all of this information and explain it in a way that makes sense. So I'm really, I'm really truly grateful for all of the clarity that's come forth.

Jordan:

Me too, and I'm really truly grateful for these processes in our own life Same Because I say that to you all the time I'm like I'm really grateful that we have a process for this, because it's not like we're impervious to negative emotion and we never experienced negative emotion and we've just vibrationally conditioned ourself into this life of bliss where we just wake up in the morning and it's all rainbows and butterflies, like we're actively engaging these processes all the time.

Jordan:

Right, and I used to think sometimes in terms of how could I ever launch a business around vibrational fitness? Whenever I still experience these emotional states that I struggle to get through and you would remind me that's exactly why we need to launch vibrationfitcom is because we're actively working through a lot of these things ourselves and really I feel like connection with other people that are doing the same thing and that collaboration is really what's going to move this topic and idea forward more than anything.

Vanessa:

Totally. I believe that the best teachers are those who have had the most experience. So you can't teach what you don't know. You have to teach on what you have experienced and the clarity that you've gotten from it.

Jordan:

So we are experiencing this every day.

Vanessa:

Yes, that's why we're here. So thank you so much for listening, and love and light to all.