A Different Head Dynamic- ADiHDy
"A Different Head Dynamic" is hosted by Chasity Owens, from a small town in Kentucky to a beach town in Southern California, navigating the transition into her 30s with ADHD, this show takes an unexpected approach to advice-giving.
In each episode, our host dives into dilemmas, but with a twist: instead of offering standard solutions, she plays devil's advocate, challenging assumptions and exploring perspectives.
From relationship quandaries to workplace conundrums to spiritual controversies, no topic is off-limits. Our host's unique cognitive style brings side tangents, unexpected connections, and out-of-the-box thinking to each scenario.
"A Different Head Dynamic" isn't just about finding answers—it's about discovering new questions you never thought to ask and perspectives you never thought to see.
Tune in for a journey that proves sometimes the best advice comes from the most unexpected places. New episodes drop weekly. Are you ready to see problems from a different angle?
A Different Head Dynamic- ADiHDy
Ep.3- The Ex isn't Always Crazy
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Tune in as we recount our hilarious adventure at a Theo Von show in Long Beach, from the excitement of the almost front-row experience to the thrill of meeting Theo himself. We'll also share how my demanding week as a fire investigator helps me manage ADHD, sprinkled with some lighthearted moments and the never-ending quest for the perfect microphone setup.
Want to know the secret to scoring that long-deserved raise? We’ve got you covered with practical and personal advice that utilize factual data and a structured approach to highlight your value at work. Plus, discover the surprising cognitive benefits of playing video games, alongside a debate on the impact of video games on cognitive performance. We also explore how tracking hormonal cycles with the Lively app can affect emotional responses, particularly in relation to gaming habits.
Is using your more photogenic twin sister's photos for online dating harmless fun or a slippery slope? Our discussion around controversial Reddit posts brings some humorous yet thought-provoking perspectives. Wrap up with us as we read a listener's cautionary Sunday Scaries tale about a tumultuous college fling in discovering a red flag and a not so crazy ex. Don't forget to rate, share, and comment to help us improve and continue this conversation every Sunday!
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Hey guys, welcome to a different head dynamic ADHD no, it's not an ADHD podcast, but I do have ADHD, so this acronym works both ways. It stands for what we're doing, but it also stands for what I have. So tune in and get ready. Yeehaw, let's go. Hey guys, happy Sunday. But as you figured out by now, it's happy Sunday, but as you figured out by now, it's not really Sunday for me. Happy, happy Sunday. All right, y'all Dang. I think we got video, like a full video episode this time. Isn't that exciting, wow. So, basically, for those of you, on my phone which is up here, I'm recording also on my laptop to see what kind of quality it is, and I think I'm going to be able to upload the whole episode to YouTube, the whole episode to YouTube. So, yeah, if you catch me looking here, it's because it's also recording, so I'll just switch between the two every now and then. Anywho, I gotta get my phone. Anywho, all right, y'all.
Chasity :Welcome to episode three. I am so pumped. Hey, three times the charm, right? They say that? Uh, you know, is this weird that I'm like holding this in my belly button right now like I might as well just put the stand back on it. I know I said I. I know I said I wanted to jojo, see why it out, but but honestly, should I try to hold it like this? I feel like this is kind of awkward, but maybe I'll try that. I said I didn't want to be this person, huh, but here I go being that person. We'll set it right close nearby just in case I want it back. Okay, honestly, this is actually kind of nice, until I get like an arm that hangs. I think this is the move. Honestly, if I can figure out how to not have to have a microphone right in front of my face and it still sound really good, um, that would be ideal, you know. Um, so, hey guys. Um, how many times am I going to say welcome to episode three? I don't know, but you know three times the charm. Let's get it. Happy Sunday. I hope y'all aren't too scared this morning or evening or whenever you're listening to it. You know I have listeners, so I know I'm talking to people now, so that's exciting.
Chasity :My first episode I was like I don't know who I'm talking to. You know what I mean. Honestly, it's so much easier having my laptop recording because I can see myself in my laptop. So I know how I look like, I know if I need to like straighten up. When I was like straighten up when I was recording on my, when I was recording on my phone, only I was rogue, I was just fully didn't know what I looked like until I stopped recording. So this is nice, um, but yeah, hmm, let's see what did I do this week, y'all. Okay, check the new hat, check the new hat, check it, check it. Yeah, um, check the new hat.
Chasity :So I went to Theo Vaughn me and Chris went and saw Theo Vaughn in Long Beach and I got this hat and I didn't have a sharpie. So why am I sitting like this? So he didn't get to sign it, and that makes me sad. Um, okay, why am I breathing like that, jesus? So, anyway, wednesday I saw Theo Vaughn.
Chasity :Chris bought us tickets. We were like four rows back. It was so funny because he got row one. He intentionally tried to get us in the front row but A, b and C were in front of us, so he wasn't given the memo, but he did try and I love him for it. We ended up getting to meet him, which was so cool.
Chasity :We got a little selfie, or not a selfie. We got a picture with him, like a full picture. The lot that they used is so much better than the lot that I have for this podcast and I'm going to need to invest in it for this podcast, and I'm going to need to invest in it. Um, I just, I just I looked real good in that photo, in my opinion I don't care what you say. I think that's one of the best photos me and Chris have ever taken, but it also may have to do with the fact that it was with the opon. So you know, if anything, that's all that happened this week. If anything, that's it.
Chasity :Um, my work is picking right back up. I know last week I was like work is slow. Nope, I had two fires yesterday, I had two fires today and I normally try to do one fire a day cause I don't want to over. Um, jasmine, you want to stop scratching so it doesn't sound like the bed squeaking for another reason. Thank you, um, she just huffed at me. So, basically, um, work has picked back up and I mean I like it this way. Like I was telling you, it's easier for me to keep my momentum going when I'm busy, because I can keep my system without sitting, because with ADHD, when you, you know that when you sit, that's like your doom, you know? See, I may, I may need my little stick back because I'm wanting to, I'm wanting to hold it on something. You know what I mean? Um, maybe, if I hold it like this, okay, let's not sing, let's not sing karma again this week. I don't know how to go about this. I feel like I should hold it like this Anywho. So, yeah, work has picked up.
Chasity :I'm a fire investigator and that is the third time I have said it on this podcast, but I don't know if all y'all are going to listen to episode one and two, so might as well tell you again, cause I do love my job, um, so, yeah, that's pretty much it. Anything cool. I had an arson today, which doesn't often happen. Usually, if it's arson, it stops at the public side, um, public side, um. But I, yeah, I had to collect samples and everything. I can't say too much because it's still open, but well, I don't know much because it's still open. So I only know that it started in the exterior, like hallway area, but, um, there's apparently video and the fire department has it, so I'm not allowed to see it unless I like so, say it's arson, and I get to the scene. If the video is still on the DVR, I'll get to watch that video video.
Chasity :But I didn't get assigned the claim until the fire happened longer than longer ago. I don't want to say the exact date. I mean I know fires happen every day, but still the fire happened long enough ago to where they didn't still have the video just on the DVR. You know how DVRs wipe it after a certain amount of days and so I didn't get to see it. And that makes me sad. Not because I enjoy watching stuff burn. I just enjoy seeing the progression of how things happen, to learn from. I don't want y'all thinking well, I mean, we get to burn stuff for training and that's fun. My job is fun, um, but we do it legally. You know what I mean. So stay legal, anywho.
Chasity :So I actually had some questions. I actually had some questions this week. Um, I put a little thing on there and a couple of people wrote in. I picked two. Yeah, I picked two because the Reddit stuff is what a lot of my feedback, what a lot of people are enjoying, and yeah, so I'm going to do two questions y'all sent in. It wasn't a whole bunch, but I picked two and then I'm gonna save some for next week and hopefully more people write in.
Chasity :I really appreciate your all's. You know, I really appreciate your all's writing in and the love and I've got my. My friends are sharing my stories or my reels, and I just be feeling really grateful for my friends and the people I don't know that are supporting. I've got a couple new people on social media and YouTube and I'm hoping that giving you the full episode on YouTube will help. But I'm new to this, so I'm open to suggestions. I'm an open I was gonna say an open book, but I'm asking you all to give me the feedback. So I'm an open journal. I'm an. I'm a blank canvas if y'all want to give me some tips. I'm a blank canvas if y'all want to give me some tips or just what you would like. Anywho, I've been rambling yeah, yeah, yeah, anywho. So here's the first question Someone wrote in.
Chasity :I want to ask for a promotion, but I'm nervous about being turned down. How can I prepare and make a strong case? So I think that asking for promotions obviously it depends on what um field you're in Like, is it male dominated? Is it female dominated? Is it a mix of both? Um, is your boss an ass, or is your boss cool? Or it's kind of like you got to play the the psychology in a way, I guess, is the way I think of it and you got to kind of know your audience, inform your email to the audience or your meeting. The way that I've always had it done is that we prepare an email with like the reasons why and all that stuff, and then we have the meeting. So I don't know which one you're doing, but for me I would prepare the email and I'm all about facts.
Chasity :So my last request, it was pretty, pretty based on cost of living, because where I live is insane, and so I kind of did percentages and you know, in the area and inflation, and I tried to do like a little bit of math and just show the comparisons and why I believed I was deserving of it and what I gave them, the kind of I wouldn't say emotional, but that's what I mean like ethics no, that's not what I mean, but like I put the personal portion last. So I hit them with the numbers and the facts, kind of did a compliment sandwich, kind of what I was talking about, like I'm really grateful for the opportunity here, I'm happy, blah, blah, whatever, I don't know what. All I said like a compliment sandwich, unless you're not happy there. And then you know, don't do that. But then I put some facts in there, a couple percentages and why I'm asking for the amount I'm asking for, and then I ended it with, like I think, three bullet points of what I'm contributing to the company, what I will be continuing to contribute to the company and what I could in the future be contributing to the company. So I kind of did a past, present, future kind of situation and then, yeah, I just kind of did that whole thing.
Chasity :You know, something you could do is ask AI to write you like either professional or professional with a little bit of personal in it, draft you an email and then edit it from there. If you're struggling with, like, the routers block, but if you're not even doing the email, ai can still help you, be a good way to approach this and just get you can prompt it in different, not dialects. What am I trying to say? Like tones, like personal, professional, a mix of both. So that's my advice there and good luck, because that's always intimidating. Um, but if they start trying to gaslight you, like, if an employer starts like, well, six months ago you forgot to shred this piece of paper, I don't know. If they start trying to gaslight you about stuff you're doing wrong, but they've never addressed it until then I'd run because they're trying to pigeonhole you. Um, okay.
Chasity :So the other one that I picked is are video games more beneficial for cognitive development? Um, okay, so I just recently watched a documentary it's that it was that roommate documentary on Netflix, and I feel like I'm holding a candle. No, anyway, if you're not watching, I just I'm holding the mic or was with two hands, almost like I'm holding a prayer candle. I kind of looked like a kid at like a special event at church or something I don't know. Um, anyway, so video games I watched the documentary about, like, the roommates that are like crazy or whatever. They murder their roommates and stuff. If you haven't seen it, something about roommates on netflix, I can't think of the name. Um, um, so, and one of the guys, one of the victims he didn't die, thank God. Um, those poor people, oh my gosh. Anywho, he didn't die, but he had to go to the hospital and was in a coma for a while, like they. He had brain damage and he said that his brain development didn't really start clicking until he started playing video games. And I was like, are you freaking, kidding me? Because Chris be loving video games. Honestly, he's not that bad about it.
Chasity :The only time I get like a little um, a little like crabby about it is when I'm feeling a little emotional. It's usually like the week before my period. I'll get sorry if this is TMI boys, you can turn this off if you want to, but the week before is when, like, my hormones kind of start to do a thing and I will get a little more touchy on things that week. And I've noticed a trend. So I use this app called Lively this is for the girls. I use this app called Lively, this is for the girls. I use this app called Lively and it tracks. So as soon as you can enter your last period, like tracks your periods. This isn't sponsored, by the way, don't have sponsors yet so it shows you, like where your hormones are probably at, like your testosterone and all that jazz Estrogen Anywho, um, testosterone and all that jazz estrogen anywho and it'll tell you what you should be doing that week or that day even gives you like little, you should do this, you should not do this and you should eat this. If you can blah, blah like little suggestions. It's so cute, 10 out of 10 recommend it lively, it's l-i-v-e-l-y, and then you just like enter in your symptoms and stuff and it starts to kind of sync with you. So, anywho, that was a side tangent.
Chasity :How did I get onto that from the video games? Um, but yeah, I think they could be. After seeing that documentary, before I would have been like no, but after seeing that documentary before I would have been like no, but after seeing that documentary I'm like yeah, maybe I mean your brain, hand, eye coordination are improving, I guess, you know, and your reaction time and all that stuff. I guess there's like kind of some controversy around kids playing video games where they're killing things, but I think where they're making it more and this may be an unpopular opinion, but I think where, like Grand Theft Auto, I understand how that's like kind of not, like not shouldn't be for children, but like some of these other games, you're like shooting characters and they are technically humans, but it's like they're like they are characters and in Grand Theft Auto. It's like they are. They look human Like they are. They're not like covered up, like I don't know.
Chasity :So y'all let me know what you think on that, because I don't know. So y'all let me know what you think on that, because I don't have kids yet and I need help. All right Time for everyone's favorite part. I'm putting it right smack dab in the middle Devil's Advocate, the Devil's Advocate section, the unpopular opinion section. No, that's not what it is, the devil's advocate section. So I have some reddit things on here. So let's start with so this one's kind of an unpopular opinion One. Y'all let me know what you think.
Chasity :So this says if women can filter for men's height on dating apps, then men should be allowed to filter for women's weight. What I'm saying is that, since height is more closely tied to the dating success of men, it should only be fair that men can filter for what is closely tied to the dating success of women their weight. Okay, okay, um, man, that's tough, that makes me feel sad. Um, I guess fair, but not fair, because men also prefer certain height, and women too, and women don't often judge men's weight as much. Like from what I've experienced so far in my social life and viewing other people's actions.
Chasity :Um, height, yeah, some of my friends. They have unrealistic expectations. It limits it down to like one percent of men. But you know, wanting a guy that's like at least taller than you is not an unrealistic expectation. And also wanting a man that, if you're taller than him when you wear heels, is confident in himself enough for that, because a woman should not have to put away her heels for a man. So that's often why I think women will go after the taller men one, because they want to feel protected. And it's hard to feel protective with a man that's shorter than you, unless they're like stocky. Um, and then in my experience, a lot of men who end up being shorter than me in heels are insecure and wanted me to not wear heels. And no, sir, um, I'm not a big heel girly anyway, like I don't wear heels taller than like three, sometimes four inches and that's pushing it. Um, but still, I shouldn't have to put those, I shouldn't have to wear flats because you're insecure. Okay, but from the other end, okay, so I do.
Chasity :You're allowed to have your preferences. You're allowed to have your preferences. Should you be able to weight? Shame women. No, should women weight or height. Shame men. No, they shouldn't weight. Shame, shame them either. But, um, you should be allowed to filter that and that's, that's fine, but you should never say it out loud, like you shouldn't be like, oh, you don't weigh this much, blah, blah, blah, blah Also, actually. Okay, now let me take it back to the other side.
Chasity :A lot of women don't look like how much they weigh. Does that make sense? So their height largely depends on their weight as well, and their muscle mass also depends on their weight, and their muscle mass also depends on their weight. So if you're, there could be four women that weighed 140 pounds and they could all look like completely different body type women. So now I'm kind of more like no, you could say, maybe, if you're doing height and weight and you don't want a girl that's shorter than this and weighs more than this, I just think that's so wild, though, that you would want to get that specific and limit your choices, because you can change your weight. You should never tell a woman to change her weight, but you can and you can't change your height. So you know, you gotta get to know. You gotta just find someone you love, for who you love, for what you love and try not to be too judgy, but obviously sexual attraction is important. So the top, um the top comment says based I think they meant biased and the other one says agree, but it is easy to tell height, but it's not easy to tell weight, which I agree to that as well. So there's that. Let me know, let me know what y'all think on that one.
Chasity :Okay, this one, this is an am I the asshole? One. So it says am I the asshole for dying my hair, even though my husband didn't want me to? Okay, re, reel it in. Just reel it in. If you can't, if you're not watching this, I just made a face, so just watch this.
Chasity :Anywho, I 31. So I'm going to start saying their ages because they include them. If you don't remember, from the last time I read, read it on the first episode, I thought. I thought that, like, 24m meant 24 months, not 24 male. So I'm learning. Welcome to the journey.
Chasity :So I, 31 female, have been married to my husband, 32 male, for nine years. I've always loved dying my hair, although it was always blonde or red when we were younger. We met when we were 15. Now that I'm older, with adult money, I enjoy trying out different colors, mostly blue or purple. I have been red and blonde a few times as well. My most recent color, red, faded and then I got it bleached while at the beach. So I dyed it a blue teal color and sent him a picture. His reaction was is this an old pic or do my feelings and opinions really mean that little to you? It's not that it means nothing to me. I just like dyeing my hair. He's never liked it and prefers me natural.
Chasity :After my job said nose piercings were okay. I didn't get mine re-pierced because he didn't like it. He was upset Okay, hold on. He was upset that I got a third tattoo, even though I already had two. So I haven't gotten a new tattoo either, even though he has. Am I the asshole for dying my hair even though my husband didn't want me to? Girl, no, you're not the asshole for dying your hair even though he didn't want you to, okay. So, yes, his opinion can be heard Like it might've even went better if you were like hey, I just want to let you know I am dying my hair blue today, um, and I'll send you a picture of it later, rather than just sending him a picture after it happened. That may have lightened his load a little bit, but he kind of sounds controlling.
Chasity :If he's not letting you get tattoos and he's getting new tattoos and you're not allowed to get your nose re-pierced, because you should be able to do you and he should be able to do him and you, you can hear each other's opinions out, but I wouldn't let it get to the point to where it stops you from doing something you really love and you really want to do. Like, if that's your expression, then do it. You know, like, if my partner has an opinion on a piercing, I will hear them about it and if I agree with them, that's going to be the ultimate option. But if I 100%, wholeheartedly disagree, I'm going to tell them that's what I'm going to do and that's that you shouldn't be trying to change the person that you're with. So I think from your, from the woman's perspective, it probably would have been nice to ask his opinion, because that is your partner, but in the sense of like I'm gonna do this, which blue do you like better? Or, you know, I like to give them options of what I'm already planning to do, If that makes sense, because it makes them feel more involved and even if they're not going to like it or they want the control of it, I don't like that.
Chasity :I don't like that he's wanting to control what you're doing. So I'm trying to be Play devil's advocate and say, ok, he's, he doesn't have that intention, he doesn't have the controlling intention. If we're thinking from that side, I think he's controlling. But if we're thinking from, ok, maybe he's not controlling, maybe he just wanted to be more involved in the decision and his feelings were hurt that he wasn't involved in the decision and so he reacted that way. Maybe, but don't let him control what you do. So the top comment here is your husband is being weird and controlling. I'm not going to read the whole, read the whole thing because it is long, but the fact that that's the first sentence is so funny. Okay, where are we at? Oh, girl, we're almost halfway done, okay. So this one says actually, oh, this one's weird, oh, kind of funny though. Okay, this is another.
Chasity :Am I the asshole one? Am I the asshole for using my sister's photos on dating sites? Oh, I have a twin sister, she says, and we are identical to the point of our own family still gets confused on who is who. We look exactly the same in every aspect except one. My sister is more photogenic, despite having the exact same face. She just makes it work more. She knows how to pose and work a camera, whereas I do not, and I hate most pictures taken of me. This being said, when I signed up to online dating platforms, I wanted to show myself in the best possible light. Looking my best, so I oh yeah, light. Looking my best, so I oh yeah, looking my best. So I used my sister's photos, since it's essentially me, but photographed and posed well. I have achieved several dates from this and nobody has ever mentioned any difference between myself in person and my sister in the photos.
Chasity :However, my friends think I'm an asshole for catfishing men. I don't see the problem, since it's exactly what I look like, just better photos. Am I the asshole? To clarify, my sister knows and isn't bothered at all. She thinks it's funny and sends me pics to use.
Chasity :What? Why are your friends? Your friends are haters. You need new friends. Um, your friends are haters. That's crazy to call to say that you're catfishing when it looks exactly like you and not one man has been like oh, this isn't you, what? I don't even know how to come from the other side for that, because it's not like they can be like, well, you should show your true self, your real self. That is you. You can't help that. You can't pose. You can't help that. Yeah, I don't have another side for that. Sorry that, yeah, I don't have another side for that. Sorry, like how would I come from the friend's side? Like, maybe they want you to practice being more photogenic so that when you do take photos with the man that you end up dating long term, he's not like what the hell is this? But that's all I can think of If they have good intentions. That's the only thing I can think of, because other than that, it makes no sense. So I don't think that that's an issue.
Chasity :So the top comment on this one is because I read the sister is okay with it and sends pictures for use. I personally think it's weird that it's not you. Photos are memories and those aren't yours. Something for me feels disingenuous about it. You turn up looking as they expect and your sister is okay with it. No one's getting hurt. I don't, yeah, I don't agree with that person because, yeah, photos are memories, but it's not like she's gonna tell her sister to go on the dates that they're taking pictures of, that they're using the pictures for as long as she's not, you more than likely. She was at the same events that her sister's at and, and so you know, just because her sister took the better photo in front of the boat or at the beach or whatever, they were probably there together. It's still a memory, I don't know. Anywho, that one's funny. You guys should tell me what you think on that one. Tell me what you think.
Chasity :Okay, I'm going to move on to the next segment that you all I'm going to say that you all know and love. No, we just started that. Did we start that last week? I think we started that in episode two, but I had a really funny Sunday scary story right in Only one, a really funny Sunday scary story right in Only one. I only had one Sunday scary story. Only had one Sunday scary story right in, but it's good and it's funny and I'm excited to read it to you. So, okay, it's from a girl. And she says, okay, this story is going to be sad but funny. So thank you for keeping this anonymous. Love what you're doing with the podcast so far Cries in the club. Okay.
Chasity :So in college I dated a guy who had a crazy ex-girlfriend. I use the word dated very lightly because now looking back, it was not that at all. But I came back to his place one night after we had a night out and his ex was walking out of the house he lived in. This man let's call him Tim, little Timmy ran up to his bedroom and she had poured several drinks in his bed. What, keep in mind? We were hammered at this point. So instead of me seeing the red flag and going home, I slept with him in that bed anyway. Did he change the bedding? Nope, he just put down a couple towels and called it good. A week later, I caught him drunk making out with another girl at the bar. Needless to say, I don't think his ex was crazy, he was just toxic. Wow, wow, just toxic. Wow, wow.
Chasity :Sunday scaries. Could you imagine waking up next to this guy in a wet bed that his ex-girlfriend had poured drinks in? Bless your heart, oh my gosh, gosh. Well, at least he showed his ass a week later and you got out. That's what's important. So I hope you're doing well, because that's so funny. Guys, this is the kind of stuff that's going to make all of us feel better on Sunday when we're fighting the Sunday scaries, whether it's from being hungover or because work is coming the next day or because you've got a paper to rot. It's summer right now, so unless you're in summer school, I guess you're not rotting stuff. But yeah, so, make sure you're rotting in some stories, because that was a freaking good one. Thank you for writing that in secret. Safe with me if you're not watching.
Chasity :I just zipped my lips and closed them and I'll throw away the key. Remember when kids used to do like they would be? Well, okay, you have to watch this part, because I don't know how to explain this. You zip your lips and they lock it and then they would open their mouth and swallow the key. That's like crossing your fingers behind your back because your lips are supposed to be zipped, like you can't open your mouth back up and swallow the key. But they thought that that was like the best version of zipping your lips and I'm like no, burn it, melt it, cremate it and put it in, you know, make it into a different shape, I don't know. Um, anywho, any who, any who, okay, so While I was looking through Reddit, I saw A conspiracy theory and I've heard about this.
Chasity :Okay, oddly enough, I had never heard about this Until Avril Lavigne went on call her daddy. I did not know. People thought that she was someone named Melissa, what and then so I looked into it a little bit and I was like, okay, I'm not going down that rabbit hole, avril Lavigne is Avril Lavigne, and. But I was scrolling through Reddit and that conspiracy theory popped up about Avril Lavigne being Melissa and I just wanted to say, for those of you all that are invested in it, someone thinks now that, instead of just a random girl named Melissa and if you're already down this rabbit hole, you may already know this, but I thought this was hilarious Now they're saying that Melissa's Avril's twin sister Avril's twin sister, and that that happened to another celebrity I can't remember their name back in the 1960s or something. Apparently someone died and their twin brother took over. I can't remember the name, sorry, but um, yeah, I thought that was interesting.
Chasity :So if you guys have good conspiracy theories, let me know, because I love a conspiracy theory. Look at me just adding segments like we can. Just add segments. We can. It's my podcast ADHD A different head dynamic, baby, a different head dynamic that fits under conspiracy theories. We're thinking about things differently. You know what I mean. So, if you have any good ones, I love a conspiracy theory.
Chasity :As you see, that meme when was that? It was like 2021 or something, or 2022. We had been locked down for like two years at this point or something and people were it was that, uh, that meme where the guy was like you don't have to believe in all of them, but you're telling me you don't believe in any conspiracy theories, you're just going to believe what the government tells you. It was so funny, so freaking funny man. Oh man, oh man. Well, we're wrapping up y'all Yeehaw. Frickin' funny man. Oh man, oh man. Well, we're wrapping up, y'all Yeehaw. You know Fire Investigation 101.
Chasity :I just want to leave you with a safety tip Don't leave the room, but definitely don't leave your home when you're preheating your oven or if you're cooking something in the oven. You know, and well, let me tell a quick story about that. Well, not a quick story. I see fires every day, so there's often the kitchen. Fires are often because people walked away or left, even like the long cooking like, oh, oh, I gotta let it stay in the oven for x amount of hours because, blah, blah. Well, ladies and gentlemen, you should clear your schedule and plan on being home that day. Um, people walk away from stuff like deep fryers or ovens or air fryers and like, like I swear, I only walked out for two minutes and then, all of a sudden, the kitchen was on fire and it feels like it was a very short amount of time, but like, realistically it could have been 10 minutes. And when you watch videos on fire progression, like I have to, um, a lot happens in 10 minutes, a lot happens in three minutes. It's wild.
Chasity :I'm like giving you tips while I'm burning a candle right here, but it's a safe distance away from this thing. It's in my sight, and it'll only be burning for this podcast, and then I'll blow it out. It'll only be burning for this podcast, and then I'll blow it out. So, elizabeth would pull my teeth for using a real candle, but it's fine. My good old friend Dr Buck, she does not like candles. Um, like she does not like candles. It sounded like I said, she does not lot light candles, but either both she doesn't do, either she doesn't like them, understandably. Um, so yeah, and then another tip, though, is when you are cooking. Just in case you are stepping away for an honest few seconds or minutes, not five, not just.
Chasity :Don't take your eyes off the stove over the oven. Stop it, um. Move towels and paper towels away from the stove. Air fry any heat source. Make sure things aren't within the range of being so okay, a okay. A good example is If you're cooking on the right burner and your cabinets are where it's built over it After you cook, or the front right Right burner After you cook. If you have a cabinet right there, just put your hand on it and feel how warm it got during that time. It gets warm and then if you've got paper or thinner material, it has a lower it's.
Chasity :I don't want to use too big of words for you guys. I don't want to act like I'm talking to my fire community community. It's easier to get burning, kind of like the phone book or paper method. If you try to burn a phone book, completely shut, put together, it's harder to get it going than if you were to open it up and burn individual pages. You know what I mean. So a cabinet is going to take longer to catch fire than paper towels or bags or boxes.
Chasity :Stop using your stove for storage. Sorry, I'm going on a rant now let's do a whole episode about it. Don't put stuff on top of your stove. The knob can get accidentally bumped and turn on a burner by accident, whether it's electric or gas, and then whatever you have stored on there becomes fuel for that fire and it gets bigger, bigger, bigger. And then there goes your kitchen, potentially your living room. I've seen several videos proof of people like pushed either the knobs were on the back and they pushed the box into it and then walked away. Fire within a minute and they were gone. Or a pet can come up and hit the ones that are on the front bottom. So if they're on the back or on the front, there's video of dogs accidentally turning that on because they jump up. So just don't have stuff stored on there.
Chasity :Get a camera for your kitchen so you can be alerted if there's an accidental fire. I have a camera in my living room. It faces my living room and my kitchen, just to make sure nothing goes crazy. So and there you can get the good, cheap ones that have good quality for like 20 bucks on Amazon. You get that on Amazon. I'll put the one that I have in my Amazon storefront. It was like 30 bucks I think, and she's a good one. I think it's like Little Elf or something. If you want to go, look for it. Yeah, all right.
Chasity :Well, I think that wraps up episode three. Y'all, I think that was a good length of time. I think I like structuring it on my phone so that I stay more on track. I think I went on less tangents that time, but even if I don't, it doesn't matter. So, but I'm trying to stay more structured for you guys, so I don't go off the rails. Um, let me know what y'all think. Give me five stars on Spotify, apple podcasts, wherever you're listening to your podcasts, the ratings and sharing and commenting helps with the engagement a lot. So I really appreciate those of you that are engaging and are sharing and, you know, commenting and leaving comments and leaving Sunday scary stories and questions. You know, the more you guys interact with me, the better I get. So I appreciate the feedback, I appreciate the love and, yeah, I'll see you next Sunday. Bye, y'all.