Reasonably Certain

Cherish your Single Era, Wegovy Supremacy, & Motivation for 2025 Goals

• Ellen Larson • Episode 28

Share episode

EP #28: In this episode, Ellen shares why she thinks you should cherish your time while being single, why Wegovy is life changing, and having a mini life crisis to get motivated for making a life change.

My Electronic Playlist on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5RFOV1Qgx00UOFJAsobuFk?si=1878e435d0f648d9

FOLLOW ELLEN:

https://www.instagram.com/larsonellen/

https://www.tiktok.com/@larsonellen

https://www.youtube.com/c/ellenn

https://bento.me/ellenn


TO BE FEATURED IN REASONABLY CERTAIN:

☆ Q&A with Ellen: https://forms.gle/onN4potuyDm4hn6g8

☆ Dating Mishaps and Wholesome Moments: https://forms.gle/vDVZVcauc3JypcDE9


FOLLOW REASONABLY CERTAIN:

https://www.instagram.com/reasonablycertain/

https://www.tiktok.com/@reasonablycertain

https://linktr.ee/reasonablycertain

Follow on Spotify: 

https://open.spotify.com/show/0suDCk9ZpKFby2QKm54pdY?si=8fecd442bd014907

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reasonably-certain/id1755043636



WATCH REASONABLY CERTAIN ON YOUTUBE:

https://bit.ly/45VSnBh



Business Inquiries: reasonablycertainpod@gmail.com


Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.


>> Ellen:

Hey, guys. Welcome back to Reasonably Certain. My name is Ellen. This is episode 28, and we're going to be talking all about cherishing your single era today. Happy New Year. By the way, my last episode was filmed right on New Year's Eve, and It is Sunday, January 5th, today when I'm filming this. And I don't know what it is. Something about the turn of the year. It's like, you know how people talk about how you view the months in your mind? For some reason, for me, there's like, a huge difference between the end of December and the beginning of January. I mean, for some reason, u. I don't know, uh, it's the new year. Hello? But for me, in my mind, I view it like kind of like a slide or like, you know, those infinity loops or it's just like a circle, but it's like a loop in my head. But it's so confusing. It's like a slide. So it feels like, whoa, we're in January. Oh, my God, we're going. And then by the time you get to December, it's like, uh, okay, we're in December. But then it feels like the bottom of the slide, like. Like, it's like an immediate, like. And then you just go right back to the top of the slide as soon as it hits January 1st. So in my head, the way that I view the months and the days of the year, uh, it feels very much like, whoa, we're at the top again. Whoa, we're looking down like it's 20, 25. Whoa, it's a new year. Oh, my God. So something about that makes me excited to plan things, because for some reason, in December, I'm like, uh, no, I can't yet. You know, it's not the new year. Chill. Also, I do plant things, but it's. It's like my brain starts churning much faster as soon as it turns January. So now I'm like, whoa, it's a new year. I can start planning trips and, like, uh, ah, e. So that's what I've been doing this week. And last night I stayed up super late because something in me just craves something to look forward to. I mean, again, duh, don't we all look me. But it's nice to have something to look forward to so that I have some motivation to live my life and, like, something to work towards if I don't have something really exciting. Like, even if it's six months out in the future, future, it really helps to have, like, a trip where I'm like, oh, I really want to make this amount of money before the trip. I really want to go to the gym this many times before the trip. I really want to whatever. Because then also if I have a trip planned, I have an obsession with making custom Google Maps. Um, so last night, I don't know why Greece has been on my mind a lot this year. M but I was like, let me make a custom Google map for Grish. Because also I have like an obsession with knowing geographical things. Um, and it makes me feel much safer and much more knowledgeable about things because if I don't know geographical facts or like locations and like things to do places, it does kind of make me nervous. So then I was like, oh my God, let me start learning everything I can learn about Greece, because I've never really learned about Greece before besides like in English and history class, you know what I mean? But as far as traveling, I've never gone there before. Um, and I don't know that many people who have gone there. So it's not like a common trip that I've talked about with friends or family or anything like that. So I was like, I don't know why, but Greece has been calling my name. I feel like I need to go to Greece this year. So I was up way too late last night because I got like. You know when you get so excited that you're just like, oh, I can't stop. I can't stop. And I wasn't tired. Well, I was tired. I could feel my eyes. Like, you know when you can feel your eyes getting bloodshot and just like when you look at a little kid, you know, and you're like, girl, you look rough. You need an app. That's definitely how I was looking last night. But when I get so excited about something like that, I can't stop. It's so exciting to have something to do. I love planning stuff. I don't know, it's just, um, it's just something that I enjoy. Uh, anyway, so over the past week that's what I was doing last night. Um, but I started two new knitting projects. I don't know, I'm like all of a sudden just fully dove into the knitting community. And there is such a nice knitting community online. Like, I did not realize that it was such a, like quite literally a tight knit community, but it is. And I've posted like the most random weird ass tiktoks that it's like basically me talking on my close friend story. But I was like, eh, I'll Throw it up on my Tik Took and like, just see what happens. It's like me with no makeup in bed. Like, look at this ugly thing. I knit it and I hate it. And it's like, it gets way more views than my other videos. That people are so nice. Like, a lot of people comment and they're like, giving me tips and saying, like, it's okay, don't, don't fret. Like, keep going. Like, here's the app I use to count my rows and like, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, oh, my God, you guys are so nice. It's actually, like, really nice. And I'm like, wait, is this, like, my new personality trait, like, being a knitter? Um, but it's so satisfying, and I think I just really crave a, uh, calming activity. Well, calming, it's been a pretty steep learning curve, but I enjoy learning. Like, I'm enjoying soaking up all the knowledge. Um, but it's something calming that doesn't revolve me scrolling on my phone. So I've been really enjoying not being on my phone. And I don't feel such a, like, an addiction to my phone when I'm knitting because I'm, like, so excited about what I'm knitting. And I can usually watch a show while I'm knitting. So watching a show and knitting, that's like, that's a great combo for me. I love that. So I started a new Sophie scarf in black, and then I started my skapill onie sweater. And I was struggling to cast on just the first cast on, like, just the cast on for the anie sweater. And did I know that a sweater was going to be, like, way too difficult for somebody who just started knitting a month ago for the first time? Yeah. But am I, like, sick in love for a challenge? Yeah, that's like something sick in my brain that I just like, I'm like, I can probably do it. There's stuff on the Internet I can just learn. And, like, I've learned a lot about knitting in the last month, like, just from tik took and YouTube. Like, I've learned a lot. Um, but just to get the Italian cast on. On for, like, the bottom up sweater. Not gonna lie, that party is s pretty difficult for me. Um, so I spent probably four hours practicing the Italian cast on to get it right and understand the nuances of, like, how it works. Because I'm still not really familiar with purling yet. Um, but I do understand that there's a difference between purls and knits. And it's kind of like the opposite of each other. Like, either you're knitting or you're purling. And it's kind of like a mirror of each other. Um, Anyway, so it's 274 stitches for the anie sweater. And I was like, bro, I'm going to figure this out, because it's driving me nuts that I can't even start the sweater because I don't even know how to do the first kick the cast on. Um, so I did figure out the cast on. Successfully did it. Patty lons on YouTube, shout out to you, girl. Because her video of how to not twist a tubular cast on was, like, amazing. I needed it where you just use, like, another piece of yarn to, um, weave back and forth, like, every five stitches. And it helps keep all of the stitches aligned so they don't twist like, a million times. And then you can never figure out where they were supposed to be, like, which rotation, how many times they rotated, like, whatever. It can get really messy if you're doing anything more than, like, 15 stitches for a cast on. So 274 was, like, a really big feat. And I successfully casted them on. They're all straight in a row. I have the exact number that I need. But then the second row, which is totally different than the cast on, where you're, like, knitting the knits and then slipping the purls. And then I'm. I'm not quite sure how to identify a knit in a purarl, even though I know it should go every other. But I'm like, o. I think the next step is, like, a little too difficult for me. So I just put my needle caps on and, like, put it all back in the bag because I was like, I successfully did the cast on. I'm not messing that up right now. So then I switched back to my Sofie scarf, and then I saw that Petiteik came out with the Sophie hood, and I was like, I must make that. I must. And I went out in search of the perfect blue because the blue that she posted for the Sophie hood, I was like, that's my favorite color blue. I must, must, must make it in blue. So I found a very close blue yarn, and I'm obsessed and I need to start that immediately. Uh, so, yeah, I'm already like, I have my one scarf down. I just bought a blocking kit off Amazon that's going toa be coming this week. Because I was like, do I really need to block things? Like, that's just. It's, like, annoying that I'm spending more money on this dumb hobby that I just picked up, but I enjoy. And if I want the full enjoyment out of my new hobby that I've been spending so much time on, then I should probably block the things that I've been knitting so that they, like, come to full ##uition. In my opinion, you don't have to block them. But I was already looking at my scalpel or my, um, Sophie scarf, and I was like, I honestly do feel like it would look a little better if it was blocked and relaxed a bit because it's a bit stiff. Uh, yeah. So now Amazon Spain doesn't really have wool detergent. I mean, it does have wool detergent that, like, goes in your washing machine, but I was like, m. I kind of want the ones that's like the no rinse, uh, detergent. So I don't know, it's like, not on Amazon Spain or there is one, but it comes with zero instructions. And, like, there's nothing on the label except that it says wool wash. And it's like, okay, well, is it a no rinse willool wash? Do you have to rinse it? Like, what is going on here? So there's, like, no instructions on it. And I was like, I'd rather just get, like, youalan or whatever. One of the ones that, like, I know for sure is reputable and no rinse. So at the knitting stores I go to here in Barcelona, I can't find wool wash, but maybe I just have to ask and maybe they're hiding it the back. I don't know. Uh, anyway, so that's my little knitting update for those of you who even care. Sorry. Um, I also painted my nails white, um, because I was feeling lazy. But I just needed to paint my nails this week, and I didn't really realize that it just looks like I put white out on my nails and I kind of hate it. Um, I should have gone with my gut and done Nosferatu nails with, like, my milky white and not, like, the bright white that I use for French tips. Uh, because it really does look like I just took white out out of my desk drawer and just painted it on my nails. And I'm honestly, I can't stand it, but I like bright white for my toes. I'll never get sick of that. But'm I've been seeing everyone do Nosferatu nails on TikTok this week, and I should have just done that because it would have really gone with the theme I have going on here today. If you're not watching the video. I kind of look like a nun today. I wasn't planning on this outfit looking like that, but I figured I would just be cozy because after I filmed this, I'm going to meet yolli at, like, a bookstore, and we're just going toa kind of hang out and plan stuff together. Um, so I was like, oh, let me pull out my turtleneck and my black sweater. Uh, ca. Because I wanted something for the turtleneck to peek out of. And this is really the only top I have that would make sense to go with the turtleneck. And then I was filming a TikTok of my makeup in the bathroom, and I looked in the camera and I was like, oh, it's really giving none. Totally unintentional. I was not planning on looking like a nun, but that's just. That's just what a white turtleneck and a black sweater will do. Okay, so I'm giving a little bit ne. Giving a little bit goth, and I'm just going to embrace it today. Um, maybe I need to watch a little hours and just really, like, lean into the nun goth vibes today. Uh, anyway, so kind of hating my nails. Really want to see Nosferatu, but I don't like movie theaters because I have ocd and I'm a drropphobe and they really disgust me. Uh, so I will wait until it comes out on streaming. So really praying it comes out. Really praying, praying, really praying, really praying it comes out on streaming this week. Uh, or no, not this week. This month. That would be amazing. Uh, because I really, really, really want to see it, but I am disgusted by movie theaters, and I just miss Covid times when movies would come out straight to streaming because I don't want to go to this stinky theater. Okay, um, and then last episode, yoli was just about to come over for New Year's Eve, um, and we were like, oh, yeah, like, let's do vision boards. Like, let's order some food in and just like, hang out in my apartment. And so, so she arrives and we both pull up glovo on our phones and it's like, happy new year. Glovo is shut down. And we're like, what? What do you mean gloo is shuts down? What do you mean? And it's like, we're taking a break for the holiday. No Glovo today. Peace out. And I'm like, what do you mean? I get that they close things for holidays here, but, like, I've never seen Glovo just Like, closees. Like, the entire app is just like, no, no, no. Can't order food today. Well, okay. So we had already looked at making a reservation at, like, probably 20 different restaurants. We were like, we just. We'll go out to eat. It'll be nice. We don't have to go somewhere super fancy. But even the places that I was looking at that were, like, not super fancy still were completely booked, unless you want to go to dinner at, like, 6pm and we were not trying to do that. So I was like, okay, that's amazing. Like, so cool. We can't get a reservation anywhere and Global is not working. So we were like, oh, wait, yeah, there's Uber Eats. But even though Uber Eats was technically working, nobody was. Uh. Well, there was obviously much more demand than there were, like, riders to deliver the food. So it wouldn't even let us make an order because it was like, sorry, there's not enough delivery drivers or delivery riders because they call them riders usually because everyone here delivers on bikes. Um, um. So we couldn't even order food from Uber Eats Ca because, like, it wouldn't even let us place an order. So we were like, oh, oh, right. And I'm just so, like, I don't know. I think it is a Spain thing, though, because Yoli was even shocked and she's from Brazil. Like, um. And I know, like, most of the Americas, like, they wouldn't just shut something down on, like, a major holiday where they could make a crap load of money because people want to order stuff, like, for dinner and whatever. Like, they want to order food. So I was like, what? You just don't eat? You can't. You can't eat it. So everybody in the city who was planning on eating from Globo on New Year's Eve was like, shit out of luck. So, yeah, we were like, oh, crap, where do we eat? Where did we eat? Thankfully, I remembered this place that we went to, like, last April that's not too far from my house. So we called and we were like, can

you take us, like, right now? Like at 8:

30? And they were able to take us. Uh, thankfully they didn't have any super early reservations. But right around 9o.cl, all of a sudden, the restaurant started filling up and they had like, a ton of people by 10pm so we were lucky that we called when we did and got there when we did. And we did end up having a very nice New Year's Eve dinner. And then we just came back to my apartment and played. We're not really Strangers, the card game. I love their website. I got a sweatshirt from them that says on the back, like, in big letters, like, your anxiety is lying to you. I got two boxes of we're not really strangers, um, and ordered them to my parents house to give to my brother and sister and their significant others for Christmas. Um, and I had never played it before, but I've just heard really good things about it. And Yi had it. Uh, you know, she already owns it, so she brought it over and we played level one and level two. And at the end of level two, well, maybe I shouldn't spoil it for you, because maybe if you guys want to play it, I think it's kind of nice to be a bit surprised by the ending. Um, but we'll resume and play level three later. But I really, really enjoyed it. Like, I think especially if you're starting to date someone and maybe you're in, like, the early stages of dating, it would be a really nice game to play together. Or if you want to gift it to someone, Like, I think it's a really good, like, couples present, like, maybe for their wedding or for, like, a bridal shower, something like that. Like, I actually think it's, like, a really, really nice gift. Um, so, yeah, that's all we did. We just played it. And then I got these, like, gummy. I don't really care about eating the grapes on New Year's Eve, but I was like, okay, I saw these gummy grapes at Bonpru, and I was like, well, they're pretty cute. Like, maybe I'll try them. Whatever. They were so hard to chew that I was, like, immediately having fears of choking on them. So I was like, no, no, no, we're not doing this. And I threw them all away. Um, um. Kind of wasteful, but also they were so hard to chew that, like, I couldn't even chew through them. So I was like, what is the point of this? Are you supposed to swallow it like a pill? Like, I don't know. Uh, uh. So that was New

Year's Eve. Uh, we stayed up until like, 1:

00am M. And. And that was it. So, yeah. Yeah. Anyway, let's get to the topic of the episode. Cherishing your single era. I really wanted to talk about this because, I don't know, this past week, I was like, really feeling, like, I want the feeling of having a boyfriend. But then when I really, really thought about it, I was like, if the perfect guy showed up at my door right the second and was like, hi, I'm ready to date you. Full time. Like, let's do this thing. I would be like, whoa, whoa, wa. Wa. I'm actually not ready. Okay? I'm. I'm actually not ready. I want to be. I want to be ready, but I'm not. I'm not mentally, physically, I'm not ready emotionally, maybe, but I think I would be a great girlfriend. Don't get me wrong. But I'm not ready. I'm not ready. Okay? Uh, so, yeah, as you should all know by now, I have never had a boyfriend. That means, uh, I should be really tired of my single era by now, since it's been almost 30 years, you know? Um, but I'm not. I'm not tired. Like I just said, I'm not quite ready. I'm not done being single. I love the idea of having a boyfriend because I want all the good things out of it, but u. Uh, when I really think about it, and like, I just said, if the perfect person showed up to my door and was like, I'm ready. Let's do this, I would be like, oh, wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute. Come back in one year. Like, I would just be. I'm not ready yet. So of course it would be nice. Um, but the way also that things are going in the dating climate right now, um, it's trash. And I'm not in a rush, so also, that doesn't help. Like, yeah, it's trash, so I would not be, uh. I don't feel that I'm missing out on anything, especially. Especially because I just saw, like, two TikToks. Well, one was the original TikTok, and then another one, like, a few videos later was like, a stitch of the original TikTok. But it was this woman, the first one, saying that she, uh, was helping her girlfriend, like, see if her boyfriend was or. No, I forgot what she was doing, but for some reason, she was helping one of her friends with something. And she was like, oh, don't worry, I'll be the FBI. And she made her a new profile on Hinge from, like, the point of view of a man. So she made, like, set herself up as a man, like, obviously made a fake profile and everything. And then she was swiping through all the girls. I can't remember exactly the reason why, but she had done that, like, to help her friend out with something. And as she was swiping through all the girls, she was like, oh, my God, it's like 10 after 10. Like, beautiful women of all different types of aesthetics and having very complete, interesting Profiles, they're all very beautiful. You have a woman of, like, literally any type genre aesthetic that you're looking for. Like, there's just endless m. Amazing options. When you're looking through the lens of a guy looking for a girl on the dating apps, like, she was like, you literally could never run out of amazing options. Like, that's probably why they text you at 10pm, see if you want to hook up, just to see if you'll do it. Cause if you won't, they can probably swipe through five more girls, and one of them will. So if you won't, another one will. Uh, which is not a great point of view, but, you know, that's probably why guys do what they do, because they have endless, amazing options to pick from. Um, and she's like, it really puts it into perspective when you go back to your view from a woman's profile, looking at the men and just seeing, like, all the men that look like they. I love what people say. It looks like they snuck onto earth. It's so true, though. Like, when I said the last episode, if I get like, 50 likes, they all scare me. It's not like, can I just get a version of Drew Starkey, please? Like, that would be great. What the hell? Like, oh, my God. So if it was the opposite and, like, women logged onto the app and they just had, like, can you imagine? I can't even imagine it. Isn't that pathetic if we had, like, endless amounts of, like, 10 after 10 after 10, hot guy after hot guy, different aesthetics, Amazing complete profiles. Amazing. Like, hobbies and interests and, ah, you know, clothing, and they dress nice and they have good hair and like, imagine, oh, my God, I would be sitting on the apps all day, like, hey, want to hang out? Hey, wantn to hang out? Like, duh. I would be sitting on there all day long. Because, like, you have a million amazing options. Why wouldn't you? But from our point of view, it's like you're literally digging through the bottom of a dumpster. Like, you're literally opening a hinge and going dumpster diving. So it's just. Yeah. Anyway, the way things are going in the dating realm, I'm good. I'm so good. It would take somebody to, like, they would have to really impress me to, like, get my attention at this point in time. Also, like, I was mentioning, like, even if the perfect guy came to my door right now and was like, let's date. Like, let's do this, I would be like, just come back in one year. Sometimes I want to be in a relationship, but then I think to myself, and I'm just like, I can't give up my power. I can't let something else consume me. Not yet. There's still work to do. My God. I've said this in previous episodes, but in a lot of ways, I feel like I just got my independence, even though I'm 29. So you would think, like, that I've already had my independence for a very long time. But in a lot of ways, I, uh, haven't, because, like, in college, you don't. I mean, you kind of have your independence, but really, you're like a baby adult. You're like a toddler adult. You don't really fully have your independence. You don't really have enough life experience to, like, fully grasp adulthood yet. You're not, like, fully making your own money to, like, really live, like, a great life on a great salary. Um. Um. I didn't start living life on a great salary T until I was, like, 24, 25. Covid hit that kind of derailed my, you know, life and my 20s and my happiness for, like, four years. And then I. Well, I will say three. Yeah, no, four years. I would say probably most, um, three and a half years. Then I moved to Barcelona. I was, like, undoing all the really bad, like, mental health struggles I had gone through during COVID and finding a new job, moving to a new country, making new friends, like, pretty much starting my life over from zero again in a new country, working on my mental health, trying to find a new job, like, trying to make more money. So really, 2023 was, like, very much a growth year for me, kind of like starting at zero again. And I feel like 2024 was, like, year one of my new adulthood. So I really feel like I just had my first year of, like, real adulthood. And so, yeah, in that way, if you think of it that way, I don't want to give it up after one year. That's not enough time. I need more time. So, yeah, I want to live more of my life single first in my, like, fully actualized adulthood, where I feel like myself as I do now. Um, but, yeah, being single doesn't have to just do with, like, having a boyfriend or not having a boyfriend. It just means that you have more freedom. It means you can be impulsive. It means you can be selfish. Uh, you don't always have to consider the desires and wants and needs of another person. You can just decide to do whatever you want without compromise. And I love that. I Like, that's a lot of. What I mean is, like, I can just do whatever I want. I don't have to consider what somebody else's schedule is, what they want to do in their life, like, what their goals and hobbies are, what their daily routine at home is like. I don't have to think about any of that. I can just do whatever I want whenever I want. Um, and I don't want to give that up yet. I was just thinking last night, while I was getting ready for bed and doing my skincare routine, I was, like, having a little music party in the bathroom because I just updated my electronic playlist on Spotify. By the way, check, uh, it out. It's very good. Um, but I was, like, just having a little dance party in the bathroom while I was getting ready for bed, and it was like, midnight. Um, but I was like, oh, my God. Like, I just kind of do whatever I want to do at home. Like, I don't really have a super strict routine. I listen to random videos out loud all the time. I have music on at random times. Um, what if I was living in with a boyfriend and, like, they have a very different routine than me, which would be totally fair. Like, what if they want to go to bed at a reasonable time and they don't really want to hear me having, like, a dance party in the bathroom at midnight? You know what I mean? Because that would be very reasonable, I think. Like, I wouldn't judge someone for saying, like, hey, maybe let's not have a dance party while you're doing your skincare routine at, like, 12. And then I. Like, that would be cool, right? So I get it. But then I'm like, oh, my God, then I will have to start living like more of a normal person, and I don't want to do that. Um, yeah, I mean, like, again, it's just things like when you're cohabitating with someone. Like, it's like the same with having a roommate in a lot of ways. Like, I haven't had a roommate since 20. Early, early 2019, and I don't want to. I don't want to have a roommate anytime soon. And I'm serious. Like, if I do get a boyfriend. Uh, guys, Okay. I have an issue where I think way too far ahead in the future. Even if I start dating someone, it will be a long time before we start living together. So, like, there's a lot of factors that even have to come into play. But I'm already thinking I have an issue where I think way Too far ahead. And I'm like, o not ready for that. But I honestly wouldn't mind living apart from my partner. And, like, we each have our own places. Like, that would actually be super amazing. So maybe. Maybe I can do that. Maybe that can be something that we can do, you know, me and. Me and whoever my future boyfriend is. Hey, boo. Yeah. And it's not like I need to sacrifice things because I have a boyfriend, but, like, when you merge your life with someone and you decide to, like, partner up with someone, obviously you have to take into the consideration, like, their wants and needs and preferences and goals and dreams. Like, it's not just all about you anymore. Like, you guys kind of have to work together like a team, you know? Like, I would want them to do the same for me and, like, be considerate of my wants and needs. So I also have to be considerate of their wants and needs. And I don't want to be considerate of anybody else's wants and needs right now. So I don't want to do that. Um, but, yeah, when you live alone and you're single, you can just do whatever you want. And I love that feeling, and I don't want to give it up anytime soon. Like, that is one of the best feelings I've ever had in my whole life. I think it's something I've seriously craved since, like, the first second I popped out of my mother's womb. Like, I crave independence so deeply that now that I have it, I'm like, yes, yes. Everything I've been working so hard for is finally complete. Like, it feels amazing. So I don't want to give it up, obviously. Du. Um, yeah. So I just don't want that part of my life to end anytime soon. And not that it has to if I have a boyfriend, but, you know, it's something that you have to take into consideration, you know? So, yeah, I also want to hit certain goals before I date someone. I want to make more money first. I want to be more successful in my career. I want to lose more weight. That's been on my to do list for, like, 15 years. But, um, I also would love to get a breast lift. I just want to know what it feels like to just, like, not have big boobs for, like, two days. That would be. That would be really cool. That would be really, really cool. If I could just live life, be a little richer, be a little skinnier, just a little bit. I don't need to be, like, super skinny. But if I could just lose, like, A little bit more weight. I'm working on it. You know, Shout out with Govee. Shout out with Govee. Um, but yeah, if I could just like get a little richer, get a little skinnier, get smaller boobs first and like live my life as it is now. Exactly as it is now. But like with those three things, oh my God, I would be on Nirvana. I would be loving life. Oh my God. So I just, I really feel that I deserve to live that experience as a single person, just doing my own thing, whatever I want, not taking into consideration anybody else and just doing whatever I want to do as a real life adult. And I think I deserve that. So that's also why, that's like very big reason why. Because I want to live life in my like ideal physical appearance as well, because I've actually never gotten there. Oh man, that isn't that depressing. God, so depressing. But finally'm this is kind of a detour to WGOI really quick. But genuinely, WGOGOI has changed my life in such a positive way that I feel like rejuvenated and I'm like, oh my God, I have a new lust for life. Things that I thought, like, I kind of really gave up on fully losing weight for a long time because I've, guys, I've tried everything. I've been dieting since I was like, since my brain started forming and I started noticing myself hitting puberty, uh, at like 10 years old. Like the first extra chub that you're like on your love handles or whatever. Like for me it was my love handles when I was like 10, I was in fifth grade. I remember, like my pants started getting tighter and I was very much self hating at that point. I mean, who isn't when they're like 10 and they start to feel ugly at school or whatever. But like I would just tighten my pants so tight and be extremely uncomfortable. And that was definitely a self, a form of like self punishment that I was like, oh, you dumb little fatty. I'm so sorry guys if this is offensive, but these were the thoughts in my head that I was like, you're going toa suffer because that's what you deserve. And so I would like tighten my pants so tight and I would have like these little tiny muffin top, you know, love handles. And that was the first time that I really noticed, like, damn, I don't really have control over how my body looks shit. And uh, puberty really hit me hard in that way. So, um, yeah, that was the first time that I was really like, crap, I got to start losing weight, which is so messed up for a 10 year old to think. But you know, you know, I was already aware of it, thankfully, so thanks to all the magazines and stuff I was seeing anyway. So, yeah, I've been aware of it ever since then and I've had trouble with it ever since then. But Wgovi is like the first time that I've been like, oh my God, maybe I don't have to be so stressed out about weight and exercise and eating so much. Like, oh, I never thought that was possible. So, yeah, now I feel like, oh my God. M. It's like I was just thinking about it today actually while I was eating breakfast. I was like, honestly, thank God for Wagoi because it's literally like having a full time personal assistant in my body that's like, managing things for me. And it's like the accountant that's like, oh my God, okay, we ate this much right now. And then it's like, okay, you're full. You're good, girl. And it gives me this feeling I've never had before that I would have literally never been able to manage without WGovi. Same with Lexapro. Those two medications are like, um, life changing. Amazing. Um, anyway, so, yeah, I really feel like Wagovi is like, I'm paying for a full time personal assistant that works inside my body and is like just calculating things and I don't have to worry about it, like, mentally in my brain anymore. It's just like done, like check done for me. All the like hunger signals and stuff, like, it's already done. I don't have to try. It's honestly amazing. So if I continue on that path of losing weight this year, and I would also like to get stronger because I have been skipping out on the gym a lot. And so if I want to like, you know, get my goal body or whatever, I'm never going to have a fully, like, bodybuilder, uh, like super aesthetic body. I don't really care about that. I just want to feel comfortable and lose a little bit more weight. I'm not trying to be like super skinny or anything. I just think that's, that's not the cards for me and that's totally okay. But if I could just get a little skinnier and then get a boob job. Because they say you should really get down to like, whatever your new goal weight is before you get a breast lift. Because if you lose a ton of weight after you get a breast lift, then your Boobs will just deflate and you're going to want another one. So it kind of defeats the purpose. But, yeah. So that's why I'm, like, really trying to not, uh, worry about dating, because I'm like, I just need to focus on me. As soon as I get a crush, it pulls all my attention away, and it takes, like, 50% of my brain power away from what I need to be doing. So it's really, like, a terrible investment of my time and my mental energy to have a crush or talk to someone in the first place, because I'm not good at managing a normal level of interaction with someone. I would rather take that energy back and put it into my own life. And then when I'm ready, I can start to, you know, donate some of that energy to a man. But for now, I'm like, give it back. That's mine. It's my energy to use on myself and not for you. No. Um, yeah, so I would love to do that. I would love to continue going to the gym this year to continue losing weight, too, because that's a big goal of mine. And I think that's something that's, you know, it's like I'm doing it for myself. I'm doing it for my own health. Um, because I've been really slacking on my physical health. And it's sad because I used to be able to. To squat, like, a lot of weight, like, over 100 pounds. And now, now, you guys. I went to the gym last week for the first time in, like, four months. I did, like, 40 body weight squats and, like, 20 lunges, and I couldn't walk for, like, four days. I know, it's so sad. Like, body weight squats and body weight lunges put me out of commission for, like, four days. That's not okay. Like, I just need more muscle because I shouldn't be able to, like, or I shouldn't be struggling to walk after just doing, like, some body weight squats. Like, that is. That is not okay. I need more muscle. Like, I think back in college, I was actually very strong in college, and I never thought I was, but I was doing a lot of weightlifting every week, and I was in a very good shape. So I just would love to have some muscles so that I can go hiking and not be out of breath, so that I can lift things and not be tired and not be sore for, like, four days after. Uh, that would be great. So anyway, I just want to hit those certain goals before I date someone, and I want to like, because I've had these goals since I was like 10, right? Like there's a certain thing to be said for like, like, you know, having compassion for yourself and not feeling like you need to conform to certain goals or societal standards in order to love yourself and enjoy your life. I've worked on that a lot and I've come a long way from like self hating and always telling myself that I'm like dumb, stupid, fat, ugly. Like those were my internal thoughts every second of every day for like the first 23 years of my life. So the past like six years I've made a lot of really good progress in that area. But that doesn't mean that I don't want to have that. Like I don't have any goals for myself. You know what I mean? Like, I still want to feel pretty, I still want to feel strong, I still want to feel healthy. So those are my goals and I want to be able to like, live my life as my like, I don't want to say peak self because there's always room to improve, but I want to hit certain really large goals that I've had on my to do list, I guess since I was literally like 10. And once I get there and enjoy my life for a bit, single as my, like, as I've completed like some of those more major goals, then I think I'll be ready. But in the meantime, I really do want to cherish being single and like enjoy the journey to work on myself and spend all my time and energy on myself and be very selfish. Like I think you should have that time in your life where you're allowing yourself to be super selfish because like the rest of your life you're going to have to consider other people. So you might as well have at least one era in your life where you're like a full adult, you make your own money, you do everything that you've ever wanted to do and you don't have to worry about a partner or kids or pets or like anyone else. And you get to just do whatever you want to do without people telling you what to do basically. And uh, I just think that's so special. I also think all the time about like all the generations of people before me, mostly women, but just people before me who would have never been able to do what I'm doing now. So I really feel like I owe it to them to like just really relish this era, uh, of my life and like live it to the fullest, do everything that they couldn't do. And yeah, I just want to have that experience. I think that it's something that I deserve before I enter, you know, maybe like, the era of my life where I have a boyfriend. Like, I was also thinking, like, I can't even imagine. My friends have never known me, like, dating someone. It's honestly going to be quite an adjustment even for all my friends. They don't know me dating someone. They don't know me in a relationship. They only know me single. So that's. It's just going to be a really big adjustment for everyone because I'm going to become a completely different person. No, I'm just kidding. But it kind of is, though, because, like, think about it. If you ever have a friend that's like, chronically single and then they get into a relationship, it is a bit jolting, you know what I mean? Because you're like, no, no, no, wait, you were supposed to give all of your time to me as your friend, and now you're going to give it to this, like, dude. Tragic, Tragic. But anyway, so I just really wanted to talk about that today because when you think about it, like, especially if you date someone and you're dating someone more seriously as an adult, especially if you're interested in having kids and you're like, my age and not that you're on a super tight timeline, but, you know, if I were interested in having kids, it would. It would be a decently tight time. I know. You know, um, so I think that it's worth cherishing your single era while you're in it. Because. Because as soon as you start dating someone that could potentially become your husband or your partner, that kind of is it. Like, as soon as you start dating them, like, that's it. Like, you're done being single. Like, that's it. Like, if they become your husband and you start having kids with them, like by single era gone, unless you break up or you divorce or whatever. But if you have kids after that, like, you're never going to be just single and alone again. Like, you're going to be single with kids, or if you break up and you're older, you're going toa be single but divorced or. You know what I mean? Like, not that any of that stuff really matters, but I think being an adult single with no real, like, extreme responsibilities, like having, um, a partner, kids, pets, like, if you don't have those things, cherish it while you can, because it really doesn't last that long in the grand scheme of your life. Most people are partnered for the remainder of their life. Maybe there's, you know, LS where they break up and they find a new partner. But, like, most people have some sort of partner or kids or responsibility for the rest of their life. So I just think you should really, especially if you're in your 20s, your mid-20s, really cherish, um, it and like, live it to the fullest and don't take it for granted because it will end and then you will not be single anymore and you will have to worry about. Well, if you're straight, you will have to worry about a guy. Tragic. Like I said. So I'm going toa do a metaphorical Cheers. Cheers. With my, uh, this is pretend this a glass of champagne. Cheers. Ding. To all of our single eras. That if you're in it with me right now, girl, we're living. We are living. It's 20, 25 and we are living. So just really live it up to the fullest. Um, that's my advice for today. Okay? Moving on to pop culture and trends. Like I mentioned, this isn't really like pop culture, but I just updated my electronic playlist on Spotify and that is what really started making me think about Greece. U. Um, and like I said last night, I was, um, um, making a custom map and stuff, and I started watching vlogs about it on YouTube. And you know when you get so excited about something? Like, I couldn't even watch the vlogs because I was just like, o. Like, what if, like, just imagine, like, me in Greece. Like, why? That's so cool. So, um, I was like, so giddy last night and even today that I've been watching Grease vlogs and I'm like, it's so beautiful. I need to go there. And I'm like, ooh, I'm turning thirtiet this year. Like, 30th birthday trip. But, you know, we'll see, we'll see. Um, because I also need to make more money. So. Yeah, we'll see. We will see. Also, this past week, guys, don't laugh at me, okay? I just found out that Caathy Hilton, Kim Richards and Kyle Richards are all sisters. I know. I didn't know that. I didn't know that. Um, I'm really out of the loop. I don't know. I just never had an interest to watch any of the Real Housewives shows. Like, they just felt a bit boring to me, so I just never got into it. I mean, I know a lot about it because they're all pretty famous people. And, like, I will see stuff about it on like Instagram and Tik took. So I know of it, but I didn't even know they were sisters. And I don't know any of the major plot points or storylines. So I just decided this is a big announcement, guys. I'm gonna start watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills from the very beginning. And I already watched like the first three episodes, so it's yeah m very exciting. But the audio that made me definitely want to watch it was the audio that has blown up over the last week from Kim Richards that's like, I'm gonna have another baby. That audio is so funny. No, I don't wanna. I want to travel. It's also very fitting for the topic of this episode. Um, um, but anyways, so I know so many like trending audios that have come out of Real Housewives because like, they have very hilarious moments. Um, um. But yeah, s. It'snna be a long process, guys. Cause there's a lot of episodes and a lot of years of content to go through. But I'm committed. I'm committed to watching Real Housewives at Beverly Hills. And I can update you guys when I know more. And uh, maybe I can make a Tik Tok series on it. I don't freakaking know. And then goals for the upcoming week. Uh, I mentioned this in my vision board episode, but I just updated my official Canva 365 day calendar, uh, to 2025. So that's also exciting for me because I like to plan trips in and see them in my 2025, 365 debut calendar in Canva. So I was really, really, really wanting to go to Copenhagen at the end of this month. But it was just stressing me out because I still haven't reached out to the brands and like a lot of people were still out of office up until this weekend. And so I was like, o By the time, like people get back to me, I'm not even sure that we'll be invited to any events. And so even if we buy our tickets, like there's no guarantee that we'll go. And it just feels like way tighter of a timeline for the winter show than it did for the one back in August. So I was like, ah, ah. And then I was just like, you know what, I think I gotta skip it this time. It's just, you know, I would love to go, but I think I'll just go in August. Uh, it gives me more time to prepare. Uh, would love to go to Milan as well, but I don't know if that will happen. So I was, like, trying to think of likekay. I need a trip to excite my. Excite myself and get me motivated to just look forward to something. So I think, like, my parents are go. Going toa come visit me this year. I'm gonna go home to Minnesota, like in September, I believe. Um, um, and then I want to go to Copenhagen in August. And I also would love to go to Greece. So already that's kind of a lot for me. It's kind of a lot for me. Uh, but I. Yeah, I just want to plan going to Greece or something. It's just really on my mind. I really want to go. Like I said, I'm about to head out to a bookstore to go hang out with Yli. And we want to. We just, like, love planning goals and tasks. So we're going to plan more, like, actionable tasks to hit our goals this year. Um, and also it's just really nice to have friends that you can meet with to do things like this, where we're just going to be sitting on our laptops, kind of like cowork working, but we're going to be working on just, like, silly little things that we can do. And I say stelly little things, but they are very important things that we can do to, like, hit our goals this year. And it's really nice if you have a friend to do it with, um, so that it doesn't feel so lonely and it's a lot more fun and you can, like, make it more exciting. So we're going to meet and have a little, like, girly goal planning session. And yeah, I also just think I need to create a stricter schedule for myself because I have a very chill work schedule and it's amazing. Like, I'm extremely spoiled, but I think I'm lazier in all ways because of it. And don't get me wrong, I don't want to have a stricter schedule for work. Work. Um, I, um, don'tuse. I don't really care. But I do want to create a stricter schedule for myself, just like, in general. Um, um, so that I. I'm bus. I stay busier when I'm already busy. You know what I mean? Like, it's really hard for me to be super not busy and then, like, try to be productive. It's easier if I just have a bit more of a consistent routine that I have to stick to. So, like, if I make a schedule for myself, like, you know, every three, every, you know, Monday Wednesday, Friday, I have to go to the gym at this time. Like, it's in my calendar. I paid for the evolve you app, so I'm like, on a workout plan as well. And so, like, I can't skip it. It's like an appointment that I can't skip. So I need to start making more things that I, like, put in my literal, my daily calendar that it's like, appointments that I can't skip. Like, I need to film tik tooks at, um, this time every day of the week. I need to edit my podcast this time every day of the week. So I need to make, like, a bit more of a stricter schedule for myself because I can get real comfy and like, real unmotivated. So we were just saying, like, on New Year's Eve, that sometimes you need a little kick in the ass, a little cold water touching your butt or fire touching your butt, whatever you want to say. Because I guess in Brazil they say when the cold water touches your butt cheeks, you're like, woooo. And you get going. But I think in the US we say, like, when you get a little fire up your ass, like, you start going. So whatever metaphor you need. I think sometimes having, like, a bit of a mini crisis is what you need to, like, really, like, get a kick in the butt. And, um, I think after paying my bills last week and paying my rent, I was kind of like, oh, oh, I need more money. I need more money, like, really bad. I need more money. Uh, so I. Money comes to me. Money tree money. What the fucking money Affirmations, girl. I don't know, but I gotta get on my zoom. I got toa get on my zoom. Um, so that. That's the little fire I need under my ass. And today we are gonna be curating it and putting it to work. Yeah. So let's get this money. Happy 2025. Um, if you're single, congrats. You should throw yourself a party because nobody ever celebrates single people and their accomplishments. They always celebrate couples and families. So celebrate yourself and thank you for listening. I hope you have an amazing week. Happy2025. Even though we're already a weekend. Um, but yeah, love you. Let's get this money by.