Why Wait 'Til 2025 to Manifest?

In this episode, Jaclyn & Ashlie dive into the top three things they see get in the way of manifestations becoming reality.  If you feel blocked from your desires and don't know how to move through it, this episode is for you!

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Transcript

0:04

Welcome to Soul Talk for the Seekers podcast and channel. I'm Ashley Allen. And I'm Jaclyn Kaminski. We're two intuitive soul sisters joined by synchronicity and spirit here to dig in. We want to invite you along on our journey where anything may come up, but if you consider yourself a seeker, you're in the right place.

Ashlie: 0:31

Hello, welcome back. Jack and I are so excited to today talk all about manifestation. So these are the things that we create that really determine everything that we experience every day. And I think manifestation is such a hot topic, but what we're going to really get into today is, okay, first of all, what is it? And then Second of all, what are the things that get in the way? So there are three things that her and I are in complete and total agreement, get in the way for everybody. I don't care who you are. So we're going to talk about what they are, and then we're going to share tips on how to work through them. And I got to tell you, first of all, it doesn't matter how much you know about this. It doesn't matter how, what a great manifester you are. You are still going to run into these three things. So this episode is truly for everyone. Everyone, everyone. So why don't we kick it off by talking a little bit about what does it really mean to manifest? What does that really look like? And I'm passing it to you, Jack.

Jaclyn: 1:36

So first, let me say my opinion of manifestation, because as you know, everything is always our opinions, um, would be every single thing that you are creating that exists in your world at this very moment in time that you can physically see with your eyes. You, yes you, have created and manifested. And so we know I don't believe in good or bad, but everyone else, mostly people do, know that that's like you calling that in, right? We are an energetic match. Um, because everything is energy, which you all know I always bring everything back to energy. We are that energetic match to what, which kind of starts diving into, right, like, our three topics. But really, like, the beliefs that we ultimately have underneath everything. So manifestation is really all about, um, you being the creator of your world. And it always goes back to that, which I'm going to say, and I think I probably say this in every single episode, but it's the truth. Your external world is just a representation of your internal world. And I know I say that every time, and I'm going to probably say it every single time, because it's the truth. But, um, we manifest everything in our reality. The good, the bad, the indifferent. That is truly how I would describe manifestation. How would you describe it?

Ashlie: 3:19

I, uh, everything that you said, yes, yes, yes. A thousand percent for me. I think that, I think the misnomer about manifestation is that it's, I'm going to, I'm going to make things or do things that are going to create my future. And we forget and miss that everything that we are now is, is what dictates that. And so it's not so much about the future thinking as it is about what. Is it that you exemplify and are now, and that's truly, that's the truest form of manifestation. What have you created around you? Like you said, so let's dive into the top three things we see that get in the way. So. Number one, bomb, bomb, bomb. You're not clear

Jaclyn: 4:12

about what it is that you actually want, right? That is the truth. We and I have been like this for me. Um, I laugh because like I can take this into every part of my life where I'm like, well, I don't know why that's not here yet. Well, it's because it is wobbly. My, right, like what it is I truly want, unless you are really, right, crystal clear on what that is, like you need to get crystal clear on it and really believe it, know it, want it. And there were so many times in my journey where I'm like, Oh, I want this. But did I really want that or is that just I wanted that because that's what like I felt like I should want but I didn't really want it. And that has been probably my biggest block was like being so clear on what is it that I really want. I really didn't know.

Ashlie: 5:09

I think I'm I'm same same same same same there when I've wanted something different but couldn't quite put my finger on exactly what it would look like. Right. And. I would get frustrated just in the unknowing of what it was I wanted, just knowing that I wanted it to be different, which, ah, how frustrating. I

Jaclyn: 5:28

know what I didn't want, but I didn't necessarily know what I wanted. Right. And it wasn't like I could say, well, I don't want this, but I want the opposite of this. No. Oh, yeah. And I think that the biggest thing is too, right? The universe can't deliver to you what you want, right? Because it's going to energetically align you to what it is you want. But if you, there's wobble there, it's not going to be able to bring it and align it to you because you have no idea your energy is all over the place.

Ashlie: 5:58

And something I would say, if you find yourself in this place of, well, I have a bunch of stuff happening around me that I don't want. So I know like, I don't, let's start there. I want that. I don't want any of that. I would ask, how are you benefiting from the things that you are experiencing that you don't want?

Jaclyn: 6:16

Because there's always a benefit, right? You're, you. Always receive a benefit to everything that is coming at you, even those that you don't want.

Ashlie: 6:29

And I, I want to just take a moment of silence for everybody who hears this and is like, are you batshit crazy? What the actual F is wrong with you, Jacqueline and Ashley. And so just allow that if you're feeling a big rub against this whole thing, like, Oh my gosh, no, that was so not aligned for me does not resonate. So this is one that I would encourage if it doesn't resonate, just let it sit, like, let it just do what it needs to do as we continue on here. Oh yeah. So we're going to come back to how we can, what we can do about this not being clear thing, but let's go on to the next one. And that next one is. too much attachment to the outcome. What do you see when you

Jaclyn: 7:18

notice that? Yeah. So I, this one, um, is something that. Also was very, um, I actually did something right now that I am getting better at, but this is something that is very alive most of the time is that anytime it's it's so interesting because the way I see it and this is like kind of how it shows me it's which I realize you guys cannot see, but we're gonna, I'm gonna put my hands out, right? And anytime we are trying to control, attach, we need, so anytime we're coming at anything from the I need this, it's not gonna come, right? Like we, we cannot attach to the I need because that I need is you living in lack and you not living. In abundance, and we are abundant our souls we hear every single person in this world. It is your fucking birthright to be abundant. Yeah, and we block that because we think we don't have the power we think, who are we. And we try to grip we try to control and we try to think we cannot receive all of these things because there's doubt there's fear there's all of those things which is probably more on number three, but it's so I really like to look at it is where I'm opening my hands and I'd like to, because I'm a visual. Um, for me, like this has really helped me was where it's like water pouring into my hands, right? And let's just say that that water just keeps pouring and pouring and pouring because the faucets on the hose, like whatever, right? Shower hose where you get my chest. Water is pouring in and anytime we like go to like clasp our hands, The water stops, right, like water's not going to come in. So what if we just always let the water run and just trust it, it gets to just be here, because that is the energy that we need to come at it, instead of that, right, that lack and that gripping. When we get to just flow.

Ashlie: 9:36

Well, cause I think we all have these things that we, we grasp on for reason, right? It's because we deeply love something. Cause we, cause we had these big dreams, these big desires. And that is so that's the beauty of. Of what we're here for is to have those passions and those desires and those things that we want. Um, and the people that we love, right. Cause I think we, you can hold on to people in the same way. And then that relationship can fall through the cracks because you're gripping too tightly onto that relationship. Right. Um, So this doesn't, this impacts everything, not just the dreams and desires. This impacts everything that, that we're experiencing. But when we talk about too much attachment, it's, and this is how, you know, I think this is the biggest indicator that, you know, am I holding on to type? Ask yourself when I think and talk about this thing, am I saying it would be nice if. It would be great if, wouldn't it be cool if, or are we talking about it in this way? I really need this to happen. This has to happen. And if this doesn't happen, then fill in the blank on X, Y, Z. That is your biggest indicator. Go. I want everybody to pause. Take a minute. What take something you want or something that you want to change or manifest manifest. And is it that you need it, have to have it, or is it that it'd be cool if it happened? And you'll get real clear on which manifests and shifts in your life. You're actually creating blockage in right now.

Jaclyn: 11:04

Yeah.

Ashlie: 11:07

It's crazy. And we'll, again, we'll get into solutions here. And I love the solution. I can't wait to circle back. Oh my gosh. I love it. Um, let's go to number three. Number three, beliefs, which I kind

Jaclyn: 11:21

of already said. Because it threads into everything, right? Yeah, and so beliefs is such a, we're going to use the word fun, beliefs are such a fun one because we are not aware. Of really all of our beliefs. So this is like one that I think people find more challenging than others. Um, because what are our beliefs do stand in the way. If we feel we are unworthy, if we feel we are not good enough, if we feel, oh, well, only rich people get money, I can't just get money. If you have a belief that the only way money comes to you is through having a job and working hard, then guess what? That's your truth. But, if you believe that money just gets to come because it just flows to you because it is your birthright, guess what? It just gets to flow to you because it is your birthright. And the problem is, is that people are like, well, of course I just expect money to come, but There is that belief in your body that lives in your system. That's like, Oh no, we can't have money because when I was growing up, money came hard. And my parents used to tell me, if you don't work really hard, money's not going to come to you. You have to go and work. You know what I mean? 16 hours a day, or it doesn't come like those things live in that happened to be one of mine. Those things you do live in your right in your system. And it's just a belief that you're not. always conscious of. And I think that is the, it's taking the unconscious conscious.

Ashlie: 13:07

Yeah. And I think, I think a way to, to dig into this one, to find out what your beliefs can be. Well, one, there's a lot of great coaches out there that can help to move into the subconscious and to whether it's with hypnosis, whether it's with meditation, there's so many ways to dive into your subconscious to find out what these beliefs are. Um, and a lot of great people that support those things. Um, but. What you can do to start to discover that yourself. Is when you find yourself frustrated the next time. So whether it's with a relationship, with a job, with, let's say, you know, you haven't gotten that promotion you wanted. You, um, you didn't get the assignment that you wanted for something, or, I mean, this, this goes to everything you're, you're, your child, you know, isn't responding the way that you wanted them to because of what the parenting book said about how to manage that. There's so many ways to look at this. But the next time you get frustrated with anything, uh, ask yourself, To go back to your childhood and think about where the origination can be from. And you can do that just by going into a moment of silence and ask, cause I'm telling you typically what occurs, especially if you've got your mind calm, is that first memory it takes you to your, your body takes you straight to it and you can know the source and in knowing the source can, there can be power in moving through it and going, Oh, that was. Not real. It can allow you to say that's not real. That's not something I have to continue telling myself.

Jaclyn: 14:43

Yeah. Because remember, our beliefs is really like that programmed in us from, right, birth to like around 7, where like they really um, stay. And that's, so really who you are, your parents beliefs. Your teacher's beliefs, right? Like, all of the people that you were with, your family, like the TV, you watched, your community that you're in, you know what I mean, the religion that you grew up with, all of that is, makes you who you really are and your beliefs, which, quite honestly, you will always hear me say, all of that is bullshit and not who you really are, and none of them are even really yours or someone else's.

Ashlie: 15:26

So yeah. Absolutely. But yeah, I think, and there's lots of things that can get in the way of manifestation. These are probably just, these are the biggies though. These are the ones that really, um, with the overarching theme of all three of these, I think being, Who are you being right now?

Jaclyn: 15:42

Yeah. It's not, uh, it is. It's who you be. It is. You're beingness, It, it's it. I mean, it really is. It's being the version of you at the core of it. It's being the version of you who all ready has all of it. Who has the things? That is how it comes. It's showing up knowing you are already that person you don't. So when you come at it from, I am that I am already living that life. I am that. And I realized saying that and not having it, you, you don't have it because you're like waiting. So, when we're waiting for something to show up, it's not going to show up, guys. We have to know it's already here,

Ashlie: 16:36

even when it's not. I think the energy of waiting is such a big part of this too, Jack, because when you think about, oh, this is so great, let's, and I'm going to use a very real example for all of us. Yeah. You go to the doctor and typically you wait, right? Yeah. And, and you go and you're like, I'm expecting, and I think sometimes you even get to a point where you expect to wait and then you're waiting and then because you're thinking about waiting, you find yourself waiting even longer. And I want everybody to go back to their last doctor's appointment and ask yourself, did I expect to wait? And if I expected to wait, did I wait? Yeah. And the answer is probably, yes, you did. I got to tell you, this is where you can play energy games with your manifestations without it being too serious. And that's a great way to learn the soft focus piece of it that we'll get into. But I now, when I go to doctor's appointments, I'm like, Oh, I'm not going to wait at all. They're going to just open the door and they're going to call my name. And I literally think about them calling my name or my child's name or, you know, whatever it is. And every time I do that, that's exactly what happens because I wasn't in an energy of waiting. I came in, I'm like, Oh, I'll be there right in time. I'll go right in. And then guess what? I go right in. And that whole idea of going to the doctor's office to wait literally doesn't happen now when I'm there and I'm in a hurry. Guess who's waiting? Me. You're trying to control, right? You're trying to control it. Tight grip. Tight grip. So let's go into these, because I think we're already, we've already kind of started with some of the solutions here. So what do you, what would you say, top way to get into, to get clear when you're not clear? Let's kind of go back through this list.

Jaclyn: 18:15

So the right, the first thing that we says is you're not clear. So it's really getting crystal clear on what it is that you do want. So there are so many ways to do that. You can start, right? Like if you want to start by making the list of all of the things that you know, you don't want, don't want, that's a great way to start when you have no idea, when you have no idea at all, start with, you know what you don't want, right? And then you can look at it and be like, okay, well. is the opposite what I do want and if not like kind of tweak it from there. Um, that is one way. Another way that I always love, um, that has really helped me is like, and I am such a feeling person and now that I have said that I'm also going to say this, um, to make all Of your manifestations more powerful feeling is the most important thing feeling that you already have it. How does it feel in your body to write receive the thing? How does it feel in your body to have the fit thing like that is so powerful. So really playing when you're sitting there and you're saying. These like what you do want if you say something that you do want and your body's not like a fuck Yes, and it lights you up like a Christmas tree. Do you really want it? So like that kind of helps with getting clearer on what it is you want and I always like to do it through meditation where I um, I happen to have one where it's like, okay and I get to explain My dream day and what my dream day looks like, right? Like really big. There is no like, well, that's not possible. And it's like limitless. So it can be absolutely every single thing and anything and how big, bold and crazy can I get? That is how I would sit down and do it. And that really helps me get like really clear on what it is that I am like setting that intention and claiming that's how I do it. How do you

Ashlie: 20:29

do it? So I love that you talk about the dream day because I think that's your way to flex the muscle and what's possible. And I think that's so necessary. And so I love that. And I, I also do that. There's another part that I do that helps with my intensity surrounding things, because I'm a big emotions girl. I have big highs. And so. When I have these big highs and excitement about things, um, what that can, what that can do is that can, and this kind of goes into number two, but I think they go hand in hand here. I can want to control it too much or have so much excitement or desire to where I feel like I need it because of how exciting it is. Um, so what I do to dial that down into a soft focus of, it just gets to be that way is a dream day. But it's my normal day. It's not the best day of my life. It's the, you wake up tomorrow and you're living in what it looks like with these things existing. And it's your normal, average, cool, calm, collected day. And so for me, what that takes is it takes my nervous system down into it and allows it to sort of settle into a normalized element, which I think is when I'm getting chills saying this. is such an important part of this because the more you think of it as oh automatic the more likely your beingness will begin to reflect what that average normal dream day could look like. So I love that.

Jaclyn: 21:57

It makes me laugh that you say that because that's like my step two of, I have to go big and bold. Like, what is it that I really want? Yeah. So that then I can take my next to like, and how do my days look?

Ashlie: 22:10

Yeah. It's so funny. So it sounds like we do the same thing then. Cause yeah, it's like, how big can it get? And then where do we like flow in a normal day where it's just like, Oh, this is just a part of the, the, the norm. And I'm not holding on too tight because it shows up when I wake up.

Jaclyn: 22:28

Yes. Yes, yes, yes.

Ashlie: 22:30

I do.

Jaclyn: 22:30

I love that.

Ashlie: 22:31

Oh, I love that. I love that too. I love that. It's literally the same thing. So I think ways to get clear. Um, I mean, honestly, it's find out what you're not what you don't want for me because I tend to have a hard time because I'm I'm good with a lot of things like, Oh, that sounds good. That sounds good. So my problem has always been that a lot of it sounds good. And I'm like, Wait, I have to be more specific here. Um, so. It allows me what, what you mentioned about going into what you don't, that allows me to get a little more specific and guess what? You can change your mind. So as you continue through, I'm like, this is a nice placeholder as I get continuously clearer and clearer every single day. And I give myself space for in room to change my mind. Cause you can change your mind whenever you want. Um, okay. So too much attachment. We already kind of started bleeding into this, this here. Um, uh, I think having that normalized dream day is such a big part of that. The, the practice and the exercise of checking yourself and what your level of intensity and desire surrounding something is when you feel it in your body. Like you said, I think feeling is such a huge part and key to this. Um, and I think then the question becomes, how do you begin to let go of the attachment when you can tell that you're holding onto something really tightly? Cause I think that's really the big question about releasing attachment. And I think it starts with how you talk about it.

Jaclyn: 23:55

Yeah, how you talk about it, the not allowing the fear to take over. Right, because the reason we really do attach is because of like that fear so it's right knowing, um, it's it's bringing in tools to move through whatever that attachment is to it. And it's if for me so this is something that I do when I realized this is probably a lot harder for others so I want to name that. For me, I'm able to kind of pull back. My energy and I sit with right like we are all one right I I come back to that soul self and I and truly like sit in the energy of it all is already here. I am not lacking. I have absolutely everything I could possibly ever want, and more. It's always here. So that's how, like, for me, I, like, just, that's just how I handle it. I pull, like, I say I pull back because Anytime I want to sit in the energetic field of oneness, that's where, so to me it's like very much I go into like that quantum and I pull out and sit in the isness of everything is absolutely possible and magical and I allow Bye. you You write anything where I'm trying to grip. It's like, no, I don't need to grip. I trust. I surrender. It's all here. And so that is a practice that I do daily. And I need daily to not control. And when I find that I am in that, um, too much attachment. I'm like, there is something inside of me that almost feels like I'm not worth that. Why am I putting, why am I putting my worth on that attachment?

Ashlie: 25:57

I think what you just said is so key. Whenever I find myself holding on tightly, it typically is tied to my own worth and feeling like there's a part of me that doesn't deserve or isn't worthy of that. And that's why I'm holding onto it too tight. And I think I also think, because I think this again plays into everything relationships, it plays into everything that we desire, but when you can, when you can pull back and you can go, okay, I know the benefit of me holding on tight. It's because I don't want to lose it, right? That's the obvious, but what's the benefit. And I would ask yourself this, what's the benefit to pulling back a little bit and loosening the reins. Thanks. Where can you see benefit there? Because I think when you start to put your sights on the benefit of releasing the reins a little bit, it can also allow you to let go because it, I, it, I get it. It's hard to let go of that stuff that you care about so much, especially when, when it's one of your core values or one, something that you really identify. I think when it's a part of your identity, it's harder. Okay. Let's go to number three. This is the, our final beliefs. So beliefs blocking the change. Um, and. This, I think, also is so tightly wound to the identity piece and I think the easiest way I always go through this and say, okay, I'm going to, how do I change my belief is I literally, you've heard, you've, you heard me say this earlier today, Jeff. Okay. This has been my belief and I am now choosing a new story. And you've heard me say this before. We both said this. It's a big, I think part of a lot of it is all about, yeah, but, Consciously always allowing yourself, no matter how many times you've said that or done that. Yeah, I'm choosing a new story.

Jaclyn: 27:39

And without judgment, right? No judgment against the fact that you continuously repeat the same patterns. No judgment, right? I'm choosing right this

Ashlie: 27:49

moment. I'm choosing a new story. Yeah. Yeah. And trusting that you're going to get the tools to make the change more permanent and make it a true pivot and shift to where, and, and, and look, if we weren't able to do these things. And again, I think this is opportunity for reflection for everybody. Think about something that you, a belief that you have drastically shifted in the last five years. And maybe it was a little painful to do, but I bet everybody can think of at least a couple of things that they believe five years ago, or that they held as identity identity truths five years ago that they don't now. And that's proof right now that you can change anything else that exists in your current reality too. Cause you've done it before we've all done it. Your

Jaclyn: 28:26

case. Yeah. Yeah. And I think one that I love that has helped me on my journey is if there is a belief that I right need something, want something all of the, but I feel like I am not worthy or I can have it. What I do is, is I find, okay, so maybe that was never my reality, but now I'm going to go find someone out there for it. Who has that thing to show my system? Oh, it is possible. Oh, I can have that too, because, right, technically, We are all one, so if what somebody else has or does, so can we. And when we can come at it from that space and place, that has helped me. It's like, oh, well if they can, so can I. Why can't I do that? Of course I can. And that has helped me so much. It's like going out and really looking, finding, and then bringing that back to my belief.

Ashlie: 29:26

A thousand percent. And I, I love what you brought up too, because I think doing it and saying, yes, I can have that too. And Ooh, I'm acknowledging this as something I want versus, Oh, wouldn't it be nice? Cause guess what? If you're saying it that way, you want to know what's not coming to you. I don't know. It's not coming to you that that's the thing. Yeah. I mean, I'll be honest, like this, this support, I can use this specific example in my life. When I, every time I personally have been trying so hard to get pregnant, it's when it has taken the longest. And when I wasn't thinking about it, wasn't judging, it was just allowing. And then like the number three, man, he just showed up. He just boop here. He was, he was the only one I didn't have to work for. You know, but I think like we all have these little examples of, Oh yeah. When I loosen the reins, look what happened. And what are you, what are your reigns so tied on right now that you could just loosen them a little bit and change your belief and identity surrounding what you think is possible.

Jaclyn: 30:26

At the core, it's literally surrendering and trusting that everything gets to be here. Yeah, it's really, um, and I think this is like just a really great way to even wrap it up. It's just remembering it, it really is. Manifestation is not about controlling the universe. It's about aligning with it, right? It's a dance we are co creating and our role is just to set the intention, take our inspired action and allow the magic to unfold is really the way I say it. Um, I would say we would love to hear about like your manifestation. So please, by all means, right? Like, comment, share, let us know. You can always find us on social media and it would mean the world to us if you could make sure you follow, share this with your friends, subscribe, leave a review. It helps other seekers like yourselves find us and until next week, we will see you keep seeking. Bye.

31:33

Welcome to Soul Talk for the Seekers podcast and channel. I'm Ashley Allen. And I'm Jaclyn Kaminski. We're two intuitive soul sisters joined by synchronicity and spirit here to dig in. We want to invite you along on our journey where anything may come up, but if you consider yourself a seeker, you're in the right place. Thanks for hanging out with us. If you want to hang some more, you can follow us at Ashley Allen Inspired and Jaclyn Kaminski Body and Soul. Until next time, keep seeking.