Sovereignty 101: How to Stand in Your Power

Are you constantly looking outside of yourself for answers? Seeking validation from social media, friends, or society before trusting your own wisdom? If so, you’re not alone—and this episode of Soul Talk for the Seekers is for you.

Jaclyn and Ashlie dive deep into sovereignty—what it really means to stand in your own power and trust your inner voice.

🔥 In this episode, we cover:
✨ Why we give away our power (and how to stop)
✨ The hidden ways we seek permission without realizing it
✨ Social media overload and how it’s clouding your clarity
✨ Daily practices to reclaim your sovereignty & trust yourself
✨ The key mindset shift that changes everything

If you’re feeling confused, overwhelmed, or like you’ve lost touch with YOUR truth, this conversation will bring you back to center. Let’s get back to you.

You can find Jaclyn @ www.jaclynkaminskibodyandsoul.com
Follow me on Instagram or Facebook @jaclynkaminskibodyandsoul

You can find Ashlie @ www.ashlieallen.com
Follow me on TikTok @inspiredashlie or Instagram @ashliealleninspired

Transcript

0:04

Welcome to Soul Talk for the Seekers podcast and channel. I'm Ashley Allen. And I'm Jacqueline Kaminsky. We're two intuitive soul sisters joined by synchronicity and spirit here to dig in. We want to invite you along on our journey where anything may come up, but if you consider yourself a seeker, you're in the right place.

Ashlie: 0:31

Hey, everyone. Hey, everyone. Welcome back to Soul Talk for the Seekers. Today, Jack and I are going to talk about everything sovereign. So you might be going, okay, what do you really mean when you bring that up? And this is all about How do you know how sovereign you are? How do you know how much you're really listening to your inner wisdom? How do you know when it's muddled and muddied by external sources and things? And, um, And really just the atmosphere you're living in. So we're going to dive into all of that because let's be real, particularly around this time of year, it can be so easy to get lost in all of the things and to not really know how to bring yourself back. And it's so important and such an important time to do it because so many of us are focused on new goals, new desires, um, We're focused on change right now. Let's be real. And if we're going to be able to move forward with meaningful change that directs us closer to our life path, then we got to be pretty clear on what interrogation really looks like for us. So. Jack, where do you want to go from here? Where shall we start in this topic? Um, it can be a big one, but we're going to make it

Jaclyn: 1:56

simple today. No, which I really do. So why don't we start, um, right. Cause sovereignty being all about like your ability to really stand in your power, trust yourself. So like, I think let's start with Why? Um, why are we giving away our power? Right? Like, because that is, we've been so conditioned to look outside of ourselves for answers from society, family, friends, social media, every single other person in the world but yourself. Right down to as simple as, I don't know what to wear tonight when we go out together like this was such a thing with me and my friends. What are you wearing? That's you giving your power away and fuck like that, like to that level. So yeah, I mean, we really have been so conditioned to just go to everyone else for the answers. And like, why do we, why wouldn't we fully trust ourselves? Um, Because we really are subconsciously seeking permission from others when we don't need permission from anyone, um, externally, right? The answers are all really, um, internally. And I like to really feel like when we're, when we're doing this, we are giving our power away, but we're also giving like our, away our peace.

Ashlie: 3:14

Okay. Can we stick on this topic though? Like this whole clothing thing, because I don't know. I mean, I've done it a thousand times. I grew up. I remember in college, especially it was the thing you did in early twenties, particularly it was, okay, we're going out. What are you wearing? What are you wearing? Are you wearing a dress or are you just wearing jeans? Okay. And it's funny because I, my memories of those tiny discussions are actually really warm and fuzzy. And connected. And, and I think, I think that's the why we do it sometimes is because it's this yearning for connection, right? But, it's the, I think there's this, we, what idea have we created that in order to connect with somebody else, you have to do things in their way, in submission with them. Yeah, like, that's an interesting thought, right? Totally

Jaclyn: 4:03

interesting thought. I mean, I want you to know, it still happens today, like, me and my friends will discuss what we're wearing. Why the

Ashlie: 4:10

fuck do we do that? I just did it before, I did it before New Year's. Right! That's what I mean! Like, we still do it! It didn't even matter, but I still did that. You're right. Yeah. And I literally will say,

Jaclyn: 4:26

what's your, like, what do you wear? Like, what? It does not matter what anyone else is wearing. Why can't I wear whatever the fuck I want? And I still would, right? But like, the smear, like, fact that I'm asking that question, that's giving your power away, which Wow. Right. And that's such a big thing for me. Everyone knows. So like, is that being sovereign? No. Fuck no, it's not. Well, with that example

Ashlie: 4:48

in particular, I think, and I think when we think about reprogram, how we think about things, if we don't replace it with something else, then it continues, you know? So I think that as we pull out these moments where we can call out where we're asking for permission or we're getting muddied by what's going on externally, What are we replacing it with to continue connection to forge it in a new way, you know? Totally, right, well it's

Jaclyn: 5:16

about, right, it's all about, um, really the biggest thing about it all is really your perspective, right? Because you can still share, um, but it's in how you do it and the, uh, Right. Everything obviously is always the energy behind it, but it is absolutely, um, reframing even the way we go about it. Right. So instead of being like, Oh, what are, like, what are you wearing tonight? Knowing that you're asking that question so that you know what to wear. It's like, Oh, even if it's, Oh, this is what I'm wearing. What were you going to wear?

Ashlie: 5:50

Yeah. I almost envisioned like this group chat of, okay. I'm super excited to wear this. And yeah. Yeah, right. Like, what are you excited to wear?

Jaclyn: 6:01

Right? Because like, you don't, at the same time, we want to write like we're sovereign beings, but we want to hold every other person in our lives as sovereign beings and hold that vision for them as well.

Ashlie: 6:13

And there's a connectedness in doing that, by the way. So, but there's, I think some people are saying, oh, no, sovereignty is about selfishness and it becomes about just you. And we're already on, um, you know, we're already, um, A society that's so focused on just us and it's like well, don't you think that's a It's like a knee jerk response to not feeling like we know who we are and what And like we know our inner wisdom and like we feel already so muddled by everything Like I feel like that's what that is So why why wouldn't we step more into it to be super clear about it and to make decisions? I mean how many people have done this and i've talked about my own rabbit holes on this podcast, but You How many of us have heard about a topic, and then we go down the TikTok rabbit hole, or we see something on the news, or somebody says something, and then we jump into it, and then it completely envelops us and takes over whatever we were thinking about before that. So it didn't matter if you were in a great mood. It didn't matter if you were just enjoying time with family. We're connecting about things that don't actually keep us Connected and in safety, right?

Jaclyn: 7:15

Right. Connect us to ourselves. And like that takes it back to like where you had just made the whole comment about other people saying selfish. So like, let's go there for a second. Um, because right when every single one of us stands in our sovereign power, like stands in our sovereignty. That is what the universe actually needs for expansion, right, like it is for everyone standing in their authentic selves because every single one of us is right like that puzzle piece to the larger, grander puzzle. So it's actually, it's actually being selfish. By giving it away. Just my perspective. But needed to really say that, because that's like such a deep belief, um, that I have.

Ashlie: 8:02

I, I love what you said though about that, because I think that something that we can sometimes forget When it comes to being sovereign, that's so important and so incredible when it's happening is that when you are honoring your own sovereignty, it's a hell of a lot easier to honor the uniqueness, the authenticity, the sovereignty of other people. And I want everybody to take a minute and think about the last time you felt really seen and really heard. And I hope it wasn't that long ago, by the way, I hope it was recently. But that's what being sovereign is, is being in a place where you're with somebody and you feel so seen and so heard, and in return, you can reciprocate that. That's what that really is. And how can we create more of those moments? Because let's be real, I think right now in a general, in a general statement kind of way, there's a lot of people that don't feel seen or heard or any of the above. And they, they feel like they have to cry out to be heard, which is. It's not what sovereignty was intended for, right?

Jaclyn: 9:12

Absolutely. It's, um, in a daily basis. I see that, uh, for everyone, everyone really is. They're just like, they're literally crying out just to end kind of, right. I'm going to go a little dramatic here, but like almost throwing temper tantrums. Cause it's like, see me, see me, hear me, hear me. I'm done. I'm done. Um, so, but they don't do it, right? It's not being done from where they get to be their true, authentic, sovereign selves, they're doing it from, right, like the distorted version because they don't feel safe enough to be seen, to be heard, and to be. Their sovereign selves. So that's like the, um, and when we can show up in our sovereignty, it allows like, this is really like probably to me, like such a powerful thing. It's going to allow everyone around you to show up in their sovereignty because it's just from an energetics, right? When we do everyone else around us does too. So it's like kind of keeping that in mind like really from that whole selfish thing. Right. Like It really, you're, you're helping everyone around you by you doing that. It really is, um, allowing their nervous systems cause they can feel right. Cause that, that's the whole thing is the energy around it and their nervous systems. It will allow them to feel safe to be able to do it as well. Um, from really a place more of like love, cause that's really where love comes from too.

Ashlie: 10:40

Hmm. You're so right. I love, I really resonate with that. Yeah. And. I wonder, I'm just thinking about some daily things. What are some little things that we can do and talk about in addition? I love

Jaclyn: 10:54

like, I like to pause and just check in, like before making a decision or like even sometimes forming an opinion, right? You, when somebody says something, you don't need to respond right away. Right. Like take a second, right? Like, why do we feel like we need to always have the answers and always respond? Like, no, you can actually like take a second and just. Take a breath and be like, Oh, what do I actually feel about this right now? And then just allow it to go from there versus having to just agree or right. Just to fit in almost. It's like, no, because. It really can be like, well, what do I actually feel about this? And sometimes if we just take that one second, pause, take a breath and feel so much wisdom comes.

Ashlie: 11:41

I think something else that comes with that, when you, when you do slow down the response. Is you're less likely to say something that then shows up as being completely out of alignment with you. I mean, we've all done it where, and I've done it. I mean, I've done it recently where I'll say something and I, and I let it, I, it came out too quickly. Right. And, and it didn't come out in a way that was actually true to me. And then I went, Oh man, like that was, that was not it. That was, but you already said it. I already said it. So I think, um, that pause element is super important. Another thing that I think is that I found myself doing a lot lately. And if you know me, you know, I'm a researcher. I just love information. I love it. I love it. But you can love information, but this is for all of you that love information too. Okay. How much of it are you, how much of your day are you allowing to take in consuming information? And what is the ratio in which you're allowing yourself to sit with your own information and with your own, with your own quietness? And that means how much are you on the phone in between meetings? How much are you calling? And I think again, for that strive for connection, we can keep. Um, keep dialogue going and, and movement going. And then, then we are, it's easier for us to get lost in what we actually think for ourselves. And I'm, I'm, I'm guilty of this and that's why I'm talking about this. Is that I'm guilty of in between calls. Oh, I got to call so and so. Oh, I got to do this and that. And I've really been trying really particularly in this new year to not do that so much. And to be like, well, why am I calling? Am I calling just to fill space? In between this and that, am I doing it because, you know, what's the why behind it? And if it's for a meaningful connection, absolutely gonna do it. But how much time are you really leaving to be with your own thoughts? Where your phone is not attached to you, where you're not scrolling, where you're not looking at it. Hell, where you don't know where it is. And I think we all this year could really benefit from just having more of that time where we're not in constant motion with our minds. I think that's it. Motion of the mind. Yeah. Like it's like a voice, right? Like,

Jaclyn: 13:57

what are you, are you avoiding something without even consciously realizing that you're doing it? Like an emotion, a feeling, right? Like, you're like, Ooh, I just want to detach for a moment. Like, cause that's a real thing that people use social media to detach, right? Or even to call somebody else and be like, Ooh, let me get lost in their shit so I don't have to deal with my

Ashlie: 14:16

shit. Mm hmm. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. How much are you with your own words? Because, and this is another, this is another symptom, okay? If you have a hard time making decisions, it is the biggest call out that your body, mind, and soul is begging you for time just with you. Until you do that, you're going to be indecisive your whole life.

Jaclyn: 14:44

Yeah. I mean, clarity does come in the stillness, right? Whether that is meditation, journaling, exercise, taking a walk, right? Like, there's a million different ways to get clarity, get quiet, and get with you. Um, And it's just right. And knowing that every single thing that comes up is so perfect and not trying to change it. Like we're not trying to change you, right? Like never. Um, and it's just doing everything with love. And another like big one that I do love, um, to be able to stand in my sovereignty, but also allows other people to do it is really, um, connecting with others. Just from your power source source from like your heart space right you I feel like a lot of the times we go into conversations and connections with like, right, what we know we're going to say next right we're not really listening to what the other person saying. So either we're just gonna agree or we're just like we've already determined what they said instead of truly met the other person with an open heart and like really listened and when you can come from there, you're right like your sovereignty really can. kind of come out more because you're just slowing everything down when you're in your heart space, right? And you're really then connected to, right, your power source because our heart really is, and you're doing it from a place of love. So it's just, it, it just is like, that is your power source. So when we can have conversations from there, it just makes everything better too. And then it really allows the other person to. Right, not to, um, kind of put their shit on you. It just makes it easier for you to really stand in your sovereignty. Absolutely. That is definitely something I have to do or I notice when I, um, am out of it, right, because we can pop out, let's be so for real, without even realizing it. And that's And that is what I do to get right back in.

Ashlie: 16:59

I love how when you said, we pop out, I don't know what that noise was, but it was like, we all do it. There was some siren that went off. I don't know what, it was like a horn honking on your side. I don't know what it was, but it was like, Hey, in case you weren't listening, how much are you letting yourself do this? Because we all, I think are so guilty of it. And I'm telling you 2025, the year is slow. The year of allowing the slowness to have more time in space.

Jaclyn: 17:30

Absolutely. All right. And so with that, I think we can kind of wrap up for today. Um, but really at the end of the day, just no, nobody knows you and what's best for you better than you. Your sovereignty, your inner power is always available to you. Just the more you trust yourself, the less you're going to feel that need to seek validation externally. So, today I really challenge you just like kind of pause and like sit with yourself. before you seek anything external and just choose to trust your own inner knowing and knowing that it's perfect, whatever it is, and you can't fuck it up. I hope this episode resonated with you guys. Please share. We would love for you to even reach out to us and you know what I mean, give us all of your insights and your feelings around this. And, Feel free to tag us on all social media and I would love, right, keep the conversation going. Please reach out. And as always keep seeking, keep trusting, and we will see you next week on Soul Talk for the Seekers. Bye. Bye everyone.

18:45

Thanks for hanging out with us. If you want to hang some more, you can follow us at Ashley Allen Inspired and Jacqueline Kaminsky Body and Soul. Until next time, keep seeking.