A Boomer and GenXer Walk into a Bar
Wit and wisdom, some smart assery, and a Mother and Daughter questioning “Are we even related?”
A Boomer and GenXer Walk into a Bar
When "Yes Ma'am" Meets Gen Z: The Evolving Landscape of Politeness S:1E:38 Extended Podcast But Well Worth The Listen!!
Ever wondered if belching at the dinner table could be considered art? Or whether saying "yes ma'am" might suddenly become politically incorrect? Our latest episode tackles the hilariously contentious world of manners and etiquette through the perfect lens – a mother-daughter duo from different generations.
Bobbi Joy (self-proclaimed graduate of "Belcherama University") and her mother Jane square off in a no-holds-barred debate about what constitutes proper behavior in today's world. The conversation quickly spirals into territory both hilarious and thought-provoking, as Bobbi defends her "thunderclap" belches while Jane desperately advocates for napkin "mufflers" and basic table decorum. What begins as playful banter reveals fascinating insights into how manners vary across generations, regions, and changing social awareness.
The Southern tradition of "sir" and "ma'am" takes center stage as the pair explores how regional differences shape our understanding of politeness. Dr, Domain brought these formal terms of respect into their family, but now modern concerns about misgendering have complicated these once-standard expressions. The result is a fascinating exploration of etiquette as a living, evolving code rather than a rigid set of rules passed down unchanged through generations.
Whether you're team "let it rip" or firmly in the "stifle that belch" camp, this episode delivers equal parts belly laughs and genuine insight into how we navigate respect across different social contexts. Subscribe now and join the conversation – just remember your digital manners when leaving a review!
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Welcome everyone to today's show. A boomer and a Gen Xer walk into a bar, coming to you from our rabbit hole studio where you, as a listener, will experience some wit and wisdom, some smart assery and a mother and daughter questioning. Are we even related? My name is Bobby joy and my co host is my mom, jane, and the next little while we're going to try to entertain you, entertain we will, because we have quite an interesting topic today, one that we have mentioned periodically throughout other shows.
Speaker 1:One that I think is one of your favorites.
Speaker 2:It is kind of one of my favorites. Do you even know what it is?
Speaker 1:Bobbi yeah, I do. Actually, we're going to be talking about manners and maybe a little etiquette.
Speaker 2:What yeah, so are you going to be dead silent on that?
Speaker 1:I could be. I could be. Well, the reason no, come on, you say that and listeners are going to be like man. She wasn't raised with any manners or etiquette. Look, I say that and listeners are going to be like man she wasn't raised with any manners or etiquette. Look, I was, you were, and I know a lot of high class etiquette. I just don't use it. I mean, where, where am I going to go?
Speaker 2:with that, I know a lot of high class stuff high class etiquette yes, I know I know where that fork goes, I know. So we are going to talk about manners a little bit and which will spill over into etiquette, and so when somebody tells you you really don't have any manners, bobby, what I mean? What's that mean to you? I mean, does that offend you? Do you just kind of go? I don't really care?
Speaker 1:usually it's after I belch really loud, but you know that's on the list.
Speaker 2:That's on the list, so let's talk about table manners and etiquette I wasn't at a table, though, so you can't call it table.
Speaker 1:I mean just, you know, just walking, echoing walking through the walmart walking through the walmart all of a sudden. Hey, listen, if you burp or something, the the excuse me has to be at least as loud as the burp. And then you sound like an idiot screaming excuse me, okay.
Speaker 2:So, regardless, that's unacceptable. Irregardless, irregardless, that's right, irregardless. So regardless, that's unacceptable. That is considered poor manners. Now you're going to say, well, in some countries the belch like that is considered a compliment to the cook. Yeah well, we're not in those countries, are we? Better out than in, I suppose, so belching. So my girls thought that they went to the college of belcherama and they graduated top in their classes.
Speaker 1:That's for sure I might hold a world record for longest belch.
Speaker 2:You may, and your sister the loudest, yeah, so we do have that going for us. That's our claim to fame here in our family of redneck hillbillies when we talk about belching, belching at the table, so Is a little belch at the table.
Speaker 1:Okay, it's not like you can hold it in.
Speaker 2:Yes, you can, no, you can't. Oh, my goodness, you can too, and you can silence it.
Speaker 1:I mean you can muffle it, but you don't have a lot of control about how it's coming out and at what speed.
Speaker 2:Okay, so yours come out like a torpedo okay, like a thunderclap. Like you're taking somebody out, yes, yes, like you're taking somebody out. Yes and God forbid, stand back, because you're liable to get some on somebody Accurate at 300 yards. So you're telling me, honest to goodness, that you can't control any of that I'm saying you can stifle it.
Speaker 1:You know you can try to silence it as much as you can, but if a belch is coming out, what are you going to do? Swallow it. You know how bad that hurts, can't you?
Speaker 2:I mean I, I would think that you can just silence it. I mean, I don't do the big old god-awful belches.
Speaker 1:I'm not. I'm saying you can stifle it. You know you can silence it somewhat. But if you've got one, that's you know. Let's say, you just downed a root beer or something and you have to. There's going to be some kind of you downed a root beer.
Speaker 2:How do you stifle it? How do you stifle it Like, use your napkin as a muffler, or what. I would use my napkin as a muffler. I mean I would, If I thought that you know it was going to have any noise at all, that napkin would go over my mouth.
Speaker 1:I mean like you can like close your mouth and hope it doesn't burn out your nose hairs on the way out.
Speaker 2:But gee, many christmas. What are you blowing out?
Speaker 1:I have a lot of issues.
Speaker 2:Look, I don't drink the healthiest stuff and I don't eat the healthiest stuff, so when it comes out it's like a thunder clap okay it's like thor has come through I mean I, you know, I'm afraid that sometime there's going to be paramedics at the table after I go to the restroom and come back, and it's because one of you girls nailed somebody with a belch.
Speaker 1:But I mean, like you know, besides belching, let's talk about just some basic manners, please, and thank you. Okay, you know the core manners.
Speaker 2:You want to get off the belching.
Speaker 1:Well, I do, because we could do a whole episode on this of her just ripping my ass about this.
Speaker 2:Okay. So let's okay. Let's talk about, please, and thank you. I am a big proponent of no matter what it is. Yes, ma'am, no, sir, thank you, ma'am, thank you, ma'am. Thank you, sir. Most times we do okay and I will say that dr domain brought that into my life this sir and ma'am, that's because he's from the south. No, when? When's the last time you called me sir, not you bonehead?
Speaker 1:I don't call you. I can go really south with this and I'm not going to, but that is because he's from the south. When we lived in Texas, you know my kids were young and it was yes, ma'am, no ma'am. But I also think the climate has changed.
Speaker 2:What does my son call you? He calls me Miss Jane. They both call me Miss Jane.
Speaker 1:Am I supposed to be calling you, mr Domain? Oh, for the love of God, wait a minute, because his name is Dr Domain, Okay so what Mr?
Speaker 2:Domain, mr Domain, mr Doctor, mr Doctor, sir Domain.
Speaker 1:Mr Doctor, Sir.
Speaker 2:Mr Doctor, sir, no, that's a lot, lot.
Speaker 1:But no, I mean, I get it. You know the kids were raised in the South.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean your girls used to say that, and I mean, and my son did too. Yeah, your kids did.
Speaker 1:And now they don't. But also, I mean, the climate has changed.
Speaker 2:Well, the climate because you're in Iowa now.
Speaker 1:No, no talking about the politically correct climate, oh man, I'm telling you, give me a break. Listen, listen. You can think what you want, but when you're out in public and you call somebody sir or ma'am, there's a chance that they're going to blow up at you.
Speaker 2:No no. It never happens, and I've called much younger girls ma'am, and if they did, who?
Speaker 1:cares? And if they did, who cares? I mean, I'm just saying, you know, a lot of people have dropped it because of political correctness.
Speaker 2:If somebody said to me hey, don't call me. That I would say okay, thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 1:Well, it's about misgendering too. That's what I'm saying, though it's about misgendering too.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying, though it's about misgendering somebody.
Speaker 1:Listen, I'm not saying I agree with it. I'm saying that this is the climate these kids are raised in and that's why a lot of them have dropped the sir or ma'am. Now in the South it is different because, honestly, they don't give a shit and it is sir or ma'am.
Speaker 2:It is and that's just how it is. Or honey, or you know sweetie, or something like that. Some I don't even hear that that much, but we do hear it and I say it. I mean I, I call the waitresses. Thanks, hon. Or you know whatever that gives me the heebie-jeebies, no, no, oh honey oh bobby honey, oh honey, I'm your daughter.
Speaker 1:It's different, but if I have like a co-worker, if I have a co-worker that's calling me like so.