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BeTempered Episode 43 - Becky Morin: A Life of Resilience, Community, and Purpose
Join BeTempered Podcast hosts Dan Schmidt and Ben Spahr for an uplifting episode featuring the inspiring story of Becky Morin, a beacon of resilience and community spirit. Growing up as one of nine siblings, Becky experienced the joys and challenges of a bustling household, instilling in her the values of hard work and cooperation. As she navigated adulthood, family, and grief, she built a career dedicated to serving her community through meaningful programs.
Becky’s journey took a challenging turn when she faced significant adversity due to cancer, intensifying her commitment to supporting others through the Livestrong program at the YMCA. Her dedication to fostering a sense of belonging and connection within the community is truly remarkable. As she reflects on her experiences and the culture cultivated at the YMCA, she emphasizes the healing power of communal support.
Now embracing post-retirement life, Becky finds joy in gardening and nurturing her beloved grandchildren, filling each day with purpose and positivity. This episode is a testament to the strength forged from hardship, and Becky’s insights inspire us to embrace life fully and support one another through its ups and downs.
Tune in to hear her incredible story on the BeTempered Podcast with Dan Schmidt and Ben Spahr! Let her experiences motivate you to create lasting connections in your own life. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more inspiring stories like Becky’s!
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Speaker 3:Welcome to the Be Tempered Podcast, where we explore the art of finding balance in a chaotic world.
Speaker 4:Join us as we delve into insightful conversations, practical tips and inspiring stories to help you navigate life's ups and downs with grace and resilience.
Speaker 3:We're your hosts, Dan Schmidt and Ben Spahr. Let's embark on a journey to live our best lives.
Speaker 4:This is Be Tempered.
Speaker 3:What's up everybody. Welcome to the Be Tempered podcast, episode number 43. 43. You said that confidently. I did Every week. It's like has it been right or is it wrong? I don't know. You had one mess up and we won't let you uh won't let me live it down.
Speaker 4:So now I'm gonna go 43 ish, somewhere around 43 oh, that's good.
Speaker 3:Well, today we have an amazing woman here with us today, miss becky moran. She has lived an amazing life, she's done some amazing things things she's been through some challenges that she'll discuss, and I am excited that she accepted the invitation to come on the Be Tempered podcast. So, becky, welcome, welcome.
Speaker 2:Thank you.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we're excited to have you, excited for you to share your story. I know you've got some family out there that may have pushed you a little bit to come on here. So you know, we have maybe a sister or two to thank.
Speaker 2:Just a few.
Speaker 3:So we appreciate that. But, becky, how we start every episode is by learning your story from childhood, growing up. So if you would start there?
Speaker 2:Okay, well, I'm a child of nine um. My parents is john and eleanor hake. Um, they were from eaton area. Um lived a few other places. Mercer county was where my mother was from and I think we're we have a connection there.
Speaker 3:Yeah, for my wife.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yes, so anyway, um, yeah, I won't go into their whole story because their story is pretty amazing, but anyway, um yeah, so we grew up in eaton in lewisburg area. My father, he was a contractor and so he bought homes and so we moved multiple times. You know, he would sell the house and he's like, okay, we got to move. So he built another house similar to that house, and so we always had something to go into.
Speaker 2:Sometimes we lived in a small home with like three bedrooms with nine children, so they would turn the porch into a bedroom and we lived there for maybe three months until they got the other house built, and then my mother, she was a realtor months until they got the other house built, and then my mother, she was a realtor, so she did real estate now probably 40, 50 years, so so so nine nine siblings.
Speaker 3:Nine children total. What was it like being in a house with nine other kids, so 11 total in the family? Yes, yeah.
Speaker 2:It was always busy. Um, we were, you know we didn't have many toys. We, you know, did the chores, the brothers. They had to do the outside chores and then we did the inside chores of laundry dishes and then we had to go help dad with the home. You know we would clean the houses out before they would, you know, sweep them. We'd fill nail holes. You know we would clean the houses out before they would, you know, sweep them, we'd fill nail holes. You know we would do whatever we could wash the windows, you know, prep the homes for them to sell.
Speaker 3:So cheap labor yeah.
Speaker 2:That was the first childhood labor, yeah.
Speaker 3:Oh, that's good. So so growing up, uh was busy, right? No, always busy, always something to do.
Speaker 2:We were in some sports. I was in swim team diving, but we had to get up and you know tend to the garden before we could go to the swimming pool. So it was fun, but you know we always worked together on it.
Speaker 3:Did you graduate from Eaton?
Speaker 2:I did Okay, yes.
Speaker 3:So you graduate from Eaton High. I did Okay. Yes, so you graduate from Eaton high school. I got all your siblings. What's next for you after high school?
Speaker 2:I went to Wright state for about two years. Um, I actually met my husband, um, before I went to school Wright state, and so we dated a little bit during school and then he asked me to marry him and I left college and got married and we moved to Cincinnati for a period of time.
Speaker 3:Okay, what was down in Cincinnati?
Speaker 2:His work, okay, he worked for AT&T, the big phone company.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah. So you're young, you're married, you're living in Cincinnati Family.
Speaker 2:Yes, so about 11 months later we had our first child, sarah, and then we were still in Cincinnati, and then we moved to Kentucky when she was probably six months old, and then we had another child, john, about a year and a half apart. So we lived there for about three years, four years, and then we moved back to Eaton. I was driving home probably twice, three times a week, visiting my family.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 2:So he got a transfer to Eaton.
Speaker 3:To move back home, not actually.
Speaker 2:Eaton, but he still worked in Cincinnati for a long time. Then he went to Dayton and just moved around a little bit.
Speaker 3:So that family pole brought you back.
Speaker 2:So you were nine kids.
Speaker 3:You were tight. I mean you had very close relationship with your family If you're living in Cincinnati and you're driving home two or three days a week correct, there's a pole there and a loving family for sure. So you moved back home, and how'd that feel?
Speaker 2:um, it was good. Um, we had a house that we mom found for us in town. We rented it from my parents for about nine months. Then we ended up buying it from them. It was an older duplex and we rehabbed that, so we were always in the construction, so we did a lot of rehab well you had those skills right yeah, right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we did.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and if we didn't, we would ask dad or my brother, ken.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:We always had someone to help us.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's, that's great. And and that the Hake family name, um, you know that was construction. I mean, if you had a Hake home, that's a, that's a good home. So, um, you definitely learn some some valuable lessons from from your father and mother for sure. So you're in Eaton, you're raising a young family, life's moving on. How's things going?
Speaker 2:Um, it was going good. Um, so I was working at juvenile court, um, with judge dues, for a period of time actually about 10, 10 years worked with him, and then towards the end of that time, about eight years in, he was wanting to build a youth facility. So I helped him on that, along with everyone else in the courthouse or not courthouse, but in the juvenile court and we would find different places that we thought we could do it and we would do activities at the pool, at the fairgrounds, and then finally the YMCA came to Bill Dews and met with him and said that he would like to partner. So then that took about probably another 18 months where we were working on fundraising and designing the building, and so so I was involved with, you know, the designing construction.
Speaker 3:That's awesome and then fundraising.
Speaker 3:Well, and you know you kind of said that all kind of quick, but I want people to recognize, especially for those that may not be from our area, from Preble County, Ohio, small community, Correct, Rural community, Never really had anything like the YMCA. No, it was a big, big opportunity and a big undertaking for the community and you did a lot to bring the Y along with Judge Dews to Preble County, along with Judge Dews to Preble County Every morning and in fact last week my son, Ryan, and I are going in in the morning at the Y and he said Dad, who are you interviewing next week for the podcast? And I said, well, Becky. Well, who's Becky? I said when we walk into the Y, guess what? When you walk in in the vestibule, on the right-hand side is a plaque of Judge Dews, On the left-hand side is a plaque of Judge Deuce, On the left-hand side is a plaque of Becky.
Speaker 2:So you did a lot. They surprised me with that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but it took that leadership. We just did a podcast with Maddie Ledgerwood on leadership and two leaders, Judge Deuce and Becky Morin. You guys made that happen because there was some pushback? Oh, definitely. And how did you overcome that pushback?
Speaker 2:Because that's a big deal to bring that facility, because it's not just the Y, it's so much more. The fundraising was very hard at first because there was a philanthropist that came into the community many years ago and he actually ran away with all the money that was raised to build a facility. And so people were pushing back and they said, no, they're not going to donate to a cause because they don't know who the philanthropist is.
Speaker 3:How do you overcome that?
Speaker 2:Well, we had many meetings. We would take them into the. Well, I think we went to the country club a few times.
Speaker 2:And you know, different small places where we could meet with them. And John Prues, he was the philanthropist that came in and he was from Chicago that came in and he was from Chicago and he's actually done a lot of work in the community since then with Parker Hanifin and Henny Penny, so he would, you know, work with those companies and they, they trusted him and so he was a great person. He actually had some connections to the community so that that helped.
Speaker 3:I didn't realize prior to that that there was a philanthropist that raised the money and then left I did not know that either until until you were in the middle of it wow, wow that you know it's quite a bit of money back then okay, talk about a challenge, yes, you know, to try to convince an individual or a business or many individuals to give um to make this come to fruition, because it was a big need in our community.
Speaker 2:Oh, definitely.
Speaker 3:And, uh, and and you and judge dues leadership was able to to make that happen. So talk about the construction process it happens, the buildings built. Talk about the grand opening. That had to be a pretty memorable time.
Speaker 2:Yes, it was. It was February 2nd 2002, I believe.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And we opened it up and there was hundreds of people and it was on a Sunday, you know and just filled the facility. And so you know we had the staff. We had to. I pretty much had to help hire the staff because the people that they brought in Josh Sullenberger, he was there at the beginning and he didn't know anyone in the community, so they wanted to have, you know, the leadership of the community there. And so I helped hire the people, helped hire the board, and you know it was a busy time.
Speaker 3:Took the bull by the horns.
Speaker 2:And so, probably for the first year, I worked every day for 17, 18 hours. I go in the morning, make sure everything was opened right, stay till closing, and then it was finally had. The staff that they knew what they were doing felt comfortable with that, so I was able to step back a little bit.
Speaker 3:And that goes back to you being raised with your family, right, you had to do the work. You had to help to build the houses, to clean the houses, to do whatever it took to do the laundry for 11 people in a house. I know there's seven people in my house and I feel like that's all my wife does is laundry, so I can only imagine adding those additional numbers with laundry. So you learn those valuable lessons growing up and then you transition to helping raise the funds to build this amazing facility that we have in Preble County, ohio. That's now been what you said oh four, so 20 some years later. Here it is, with some additions that have happened to it the growth with the medical center. You know it's. It's a beautiful facility, it's an important facility for our community and to hear that you spent that much time, 17 hours a day, for seven days a week, for however many years, to help to get that off the ground and to be comfortable, that is amazing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, thanks.
Speaker 3:It was fun. It's a testament to you.
Speaker 2:I always try to make things fun.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and you did because I was involved there, you know, teaching some classes, and I'd see in the mornings and then if I was there in the evening, I'd see in the evenings like does this woman ever go home? But it made a big impact on me. So I appreciate your leadership and appreciate all you did and and judge dues, uh, you know for bringing that facility to Preble County. So at the same time, not only are you doing that, but you're still raising a family, right? Yeah, life's still going on.
Speaker 2:Kids were getting bigger. They were in junior high, high school at the time, so they were able to cook a little bit for themselves. And my husband? He stepped up and did a lot of cooking or went out and got dinner somewhere.
Speaker 3:So then, as things are progressing and life's progressing, there's some challenges that happen. Talk about that a little bit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I guess it was about 15 years ago. My mother she died of cancer and then my brother died of cancer and then my dad died of cancer, all within about a two-year period. And so I was researching a little bit on cancer programs and I come across this program called Listrong Listrong at the YMCA, and I went to the president and vice president of the YMCA, Greater Dayton, and I told him I says I'm not going to ask you to do this program, I'm telling you we're going to do it. And I said I'm not taking no for an answer, it's going to take time and money. And so he he agreed, which I wasn't going to let him.
Speaker 2:But anyway, it was about an 18 month program that we had to go to Chicago um about every three months, and so Josh Sullenberger and then Heather Macy and myself we would go to Chicago for two or three days at a time and we had to do the homework and study and get that going.
Speaker 2:And so our first class that we had to do, we had to interview cancer survivors, and so we just got to pick someone, and it was mainly people that were part of our YMCA membership.
Speaker 2:So I had interviewed a lady. Her name was Delaine McIntyre, and so she was telling me her story and you know how she found out that she had the cancer and so she had multiple myeloma and she broke her ribs when she was making her bed, and so she thought you know, that's not right. And so she made the bed many days and then it just happened. So they took her in and it took a while to figure out what it was. So anyway, she had gone in and had infusions and blood fusions and everything and went through a lot of cancer treatments up at Ohio State and then, probably about two years later, I broke my rib opening up the car door for my grandson at the Y, and I thought this is not right, and the first thing that came to my mind was Delaine McIntyre. And I'm not a hypochondriac or anything like that. I just thought this just doesn't feel right. So I, you know, went to the doctor.
Speaker 4:I have a brother brother-in-law, that's a doctor, actually a few of them.
Speaker 2:So I went to Dr Mark and he, you know, did x-rays and, you know, did some blood work. Couldn't find anything that you know would have caused me to break my rib and then also my shoulder collarbone froze up and I couldn't move my arm.
Speaker 2:I thought, okay, something's really going on. So he put me through multiple tests and he just still couldn't find anything out. And then I went to my other brother-in-law, joe DeCicco, and he was going to give me a shot in the collarbone to give me some movement in my arm, and he was like I'm just going to do one more x-ray. And he did the x-ray and he was like do you have cancer? And so I had the same type of cancer that Delane had. So I had a good connection with her still great friends with her today.
Speaker 2:So I had a good connection with her, still great friends with her today. But you know, that time my husband, doug, he was in Canada fishing and so I could not tell anyone. So he was like you know, I'm calling your sister Julie, his wife. So we went out, I spent the night with them and just cried and did all the normal things that you do when you find out you have cancer. So they got me hooked up with an oncologist over in Dayton, dr Lavelle, and then he was like I want you to go to the best, I'm going to send you to Ohio State. So he sent me to Ohio State and I saw Dr Efiber Abera, which great doctor. She's no longer with Ohio State but she is still practicing.
Speaker 2:So then the first time I met with her, doug and my sister Julie went up to Ohio State and we were up to Ohio State and we were going through all the blood work and more tests and she was going through a study that I could be in and it was kind of a you know, you don't know if you're going to have the actual meds or if you're going to have the placebo, and so I was like, oh, I was a little nervous about that. And I said but she was like the study is to help people, you know, find out, you know if the medication works, and so, luckily, I was on the stem that was actual, the actual medication.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 2:So and I said first thing I said to her I said when am I going to be over it? I got things I got to do. I'm not one to sit around, but it did wear me out. But I just felt that other people went through things much worse. There's so many people that have gone through some hard things, so I was just ready to get on and get moving and get over it.
Speaker 3:Now, that's amazing. Can you talk about when the conversation came up and he told you you've got cancer? What's that initial feeling like?
Speaker 2:Oh, I just was numb. Um, he was my brother-in-law. He was numb. He actually was banging his head against the wall sitting in the chair. He did not want to tell me, and so it was just. You know, we sat in the office for a little bit and.
Speaker 2:I didn't cry until my sister came. And so it's just like I, you know, and I really I couldn't tell anyone that I had cancer, I couldn't tell my kids because my husband was in Canada, wasn't reachable, and he was there for two weeks. He had just gone, and so I just kind of hid in my house and just not talked to anyone. And then finally I had one person that came over and actually my brother Ken, and he was like like you're not answering your phone, you're not what's going on. And so I just burst into tears and told him and you know, he stayed, stayed at the house, we watched tv for probably four or five hours, just went through a whole um season of a show.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, and I mean I, I can't imagine the feeling because you know you said you lost your, your mom and your dad and your brother all in a short period of time with cancer. You know you, you use that experience to force the why to bring in the Livestrong program where you. You know you heard the story from Deb Delene, delene sorry and probably multiple other stories along that way.
Speaker 3:Oh definitely To lead you to the journey that you never want. That nobody ever wants to hear, but I don't know how many people hear every day that they have cancer. And then once you and then your husband's away for two weeks on a fishing trip in Canada and you've got to kind of hold all that in, and that's that's a challenging spot. Did you ever ask why me?
Speaker 2:No, no, I did not. I just felt, you know, the chances of me getting cancer was fairly high with. You know, our family history of cancer. My mom's, you know, mom was colon cancer and many of her brothers had colon cancer. So that's kind of what I figured I would have it was colon cancer.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But never did I think that I would have multiple myeloma, which is a blood cancer.
Speaker 3:So yeah, and you, you get through. So you go in and you have this treatment and it works right.
Speaker 2:Yes, and it's not curable. They say it's similar to diabetes. You know it's something that you have to treat every single day. So I'm still on a chemo pill, take two every day, and I will for life or until the cancer comes back. And majority of the time, most people, the cancer has come back. The time, most people, the cancer debt has come back and you know you just got to deal with it. And they have many other programs out, medication programs out there that they're learning to heal people with.
Speaker 3:So so again, all these people out there in this world who are told they have cancer on a daily basis, trying trying to navigate what that looks like and what the next steps are. And here you are, where you know you're going to be fighting this battle for the rest of your life. What advice do you give to those people who may be in a similar situation where they're told they have cancer? What advice do you have to give to those people you know to try to get them through the initial shock of understanding the diagnosis they've been given?
Speaker 2:I'd say mainly, just stay positive. You know, don't think of it as a life sentence. You know, most people could get through cancer now. There's many treatments available. So just do the research eat healthy exercise. So just do the research eat healthy exercise. You know, just take care of yourself and then have fun.
Speaker 3:That's right, that's right, so you get through that.
Speaker 2:What's next in life? Well, I continued working at the Y, you know. I was still there and continued with the Live Strong program, continued with my daily activities, and then COVID came, and so my risk of getting sick is very high, so I was working from home. I worked from home for about nine months and they finally told me. They said you either have to come back. They never said or, but they said you need to come back. And I was like my husband he just retired in March of 2020, which was planned, and then, you know, come June, I decided that I was going to retire. Wasn't old't, old enough, but I just wanted to take care of myself, take care of my family and just enjoy life a little bit more.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so you retire your husband's retired. What keeps you busy?
Speaker 2:Gardening and my kids and grandchildren.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And I actually have a great-granddaughter she's four years old.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 2:So she's probably the love of my life, right now yeah, and. I don't get to see her as often as I used to. I used to babysit her about three or four days a week. Now I'm down to once every two weeks.
Speaker 3:So it's hard, yeah, it's hard, but it's important to have those relationships with those grandchildren. You know, as you were talking about your cancer diagnosis, my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2012. And I remember when he told me you know it was. It's a shock, right.
Speaker 3:Because, you know the C word is nothing anybody ever wants to hear, but it's so prevalent in in our society today and and there's so many different forms of cancer and you know some you have better options to get through and others you don't. And, um, you know people are dying daily of it and it's trying to figure out why. You know what causes it and you know we, we know certain things cause different things, but a lot of times it's it can be a family history, right, and so those are. Those are things people worry about. But when in 2012, when dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer, I'll never forget we were at a Y event. They were doing the triathlon at Lackengrin at.
Speaker 2:Lake.
Speaker 3:Lackengrin and uh, and he did it. He had not went through, he'd just been given the diagnosis and they were putting a plan of attack in place of what to do, uh, with his prostate and all those things. And I'll never forget, we got done with with that event and dad sitting there and just saying I've got cancer inside of me. You know, it just seems so weird that here I am, you know, running and biking and doing all these things, but there's, you know, there's this disease inside of my body that I have to get out and I don't know what's to come right, and I think that's probably the scariest thing that anybody's given, and a cancer diagnosis is one. When you think of cancer, you think of death, right, which is everybody's fear, but somehow, some way, you're given that diagnosis and you make the determination that other people have it worse than me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you know, you see people that don't have limbs. You see people that are blind, or you know just so many issues Massive heart attacks that you know put them in the grave, or you know, somewhere in between not being able to walk. You know it's just. I always feel that you know I've been blessed and I don't have it as hard as many people.
Speaker 3:That's an amazing perspective on life. For sure. You're an amazing woman. You're a servant leader. You've done the amazing things with bringing the why and then continuing it on, and here it's still going today, I think, just as strong as it's ever been. What's it like for you to step back and to look at the why and to see its growth and to see what it's done for the community, knowing that you were part of that in the beginning?
Speaker 2:I think you know the leadership there. Heather Garcia is now the executive director and I think she's going to be an excellent leader there. She's very friendly, she's you know out with the members and she'll do a great job and I think you know the staff that they have there. People go there for a reason to get healthy. Give them something to do, just see their friends.
Speaker 2:You know that's one place that they could go in and they could meet with their friends and have coffee with them. The older people and then the younger kids they go in and play basketball and then just learning how to swim, you know.
Speaker 3:And I think that's one thing that makes the Y and any Y in any community unique to just a regular gym is, you know you have that sense of community. It's not just you know, a bunch of big guys in there working out, you know, trying to that sense of community. It's not just you know a bunch of big guys in there working out, you know, trying to push a bunch of weight. You know there's, you know, ranging from, you know, from youth to, you know, 90 year olds in there doing whatever, and some of them just go in and have coffee just to have that conversation and have that fellowship.
Speaker 3:I think that's. That's one thing that makes the Y unique and a little different from other just gyms and communities.
Speaker 2:I can remember a gentleman coming in there and he would just walk the track and he would come in because we'd say hello to him.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know he said no one ever says hello. Wherever we go, no one ever says hello. And you're all friendly.
Speaker 3:And that's what life's all about, right, it's all about making right. It's all about making those connections with people. And uh, cause we talk about it every week? I think you know everybody's got a story, everybody's got challenges they face, whether it's cancer, whether it's the loss of a limb, uh, you know, whatever it may be, and and just to to make those connections and to talk to people, right, that's what's important.
Speaker 3:I think that's what makes the why unique. So let me ask you what motivates you now, at this stage of your life, with everything you've been through, what motivates you to get out of bed in the morning?
Speaker 2:Oh, I have a long list of things that I do on a daily basis and just you know I got to check those off. So my gardening I stay busy with it pretty much year round, whether it's, you know, planning for the, what I'm going to plant, buying more seeds or bulbs or plants or whatever. My husband always tells me to slow down. I just keep putting more plastic tarp on the grass and throwing off a little grass. I could add some more flower.
Speaker 2:Let's make it bigger and bigger and bigger Less to mow, that's right.
Speaker 4:You're doing him a favor.
Speaker 3:Here we are. We're in February, right, you know. So we're still in the in the winter months in Ohio and in Indiana, and but we're getting ready for the spring. That planting season, right, yes, that planting season, right, yes, definitely, which I can tell, just like the farming, that's right, yes, it's coming. Whether we're ready or we're not, what?
Speaker 2:do you value most in your relationship with others?
Speaker 3:Well, I would say just true friendship, communication, being a trustworthy person, yeah, so If you could have a conversation with one person, living or deceased, who would it be and why?
Speaker 2:I'd say right now try not to cry, it would be my grandson Um.
Speaker 2:he was my oldest grandson and he was killed in a motorcycle wreck almost two years ago and he went on a little trip with my husband and they did a genealogy trip and my grandson Peyton he did not want to do it and when he came back he said it was the best trip he's ever done, learning about his family history and and so he went. As soon as he got home he jumped on his bike and he was going to go see his uncle to tell him about it and go visit some of his friends. And she never came home that night. So that was.
Speaker 3:That's a challenge.
Speaker 2:It's very hard.
Speaker 3:A major, major challenge in your life and your family's life, especially after all that you had been through. You know, but the loss of a child, the loss of a grandson, a granddaughter, whatever it may be, you know, I think that's it's my number one fear in life. Right, you know you can, you can handle cancer, you can handle, uh, different adversities that come, but when a when a tragic event happens like that, it kind of makes the world stop.
Speaker 2:Definitely.
Speaker 3:How do you keep going from that?
Speaker 2:His daughter.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's your, my great granddaughter.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so, like I said, she is my life. Um, we get together, we have. I just stop everything that I'm doing and just do whatever she wants.
Speaker 3:Devote your time to her. Yeah, that's amazing, becky. You're an amazing woman. You have done some amazing things and you've been through some very, very difficult times that a lot of people won't face, but you do it with a positive attitude. You're an inspiration to many. I want you to think about any quotes, any Bible verses, any closing thoughts you might have to someone out there who's listening, who may have lost a child, may have been given a diagnosis of cancer, may just have had a rough day and lost their job. Do you have any advice for those people out there?
Speaker 2:lost their job. Do you have any advice for those people out there? Well, I would say, you know, just live life to the fullest. Um you, you never know what's going to happen. You know, just don't, don't regret not doing something. Just you know and tell, tell them that you love them.
Speaker 3:You know, that's the main thing, just let them know that you love them, because you never know when it's going to be over for all of us.
Speaker 2:Just want to make sure that they know it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's amazing advice. You're an amazing woman. You know. This has went really quick because, as most people who are servant leaders and their families and in their lives, they, they, they gloss over all those things very quickly. Right, and and I hope that everyone who listens to this recognizes that you know, as quickly as you talked about the cancer and your family and your grandson and all those things that you've been through in life, that you are an amazing woman. You're an amazing leader. I am. I'm thankful that I got to be a part of some of your leadership at the Y when I was there, uh, you know, working with the move to lose program and teaching the bike classes and doing all those those fun things and helping to try to inspire, uh, a lot of the women in the move to lose program. I don't know that I had any men, I think they were all women uh, at five in the morning.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 3:Um, you know, but with your guidance and your, your leadership, uh, you've changed many lives. And uh and I hope that you recognize that and I hope that you take a step back and look at that and and uh, you know and are proud of of what you've done and what you've been able to accomplish, uh, for your family, but also for our community, yeah, Thank you.
Speaker 4:Yeah, ben, you got anything to add no, I, I go to the Y all the time, I actually and I still have a purple edge membership, but it's I go to the Y because kind of the same thing, right, and I've been to multiple different Ys. I go and play basketball in the mornings with there's no Y like the Preble Y when you talk about being like greeted and everything. Most of those people know your name. When you walk in it's not just a hey, how are you doing? It's you know. Hey, becky, how are you doing today? How's you know something you may have said yesterday that reminds them that they, you know, they listened, they understood and that's a culture thing that we talked about, you know, in our last episode and you know your plaques in there like you helped build that. I just can't imagine how proud you must be every time you walk back in there and know like I helped build this culture.
Speaker 2:Anything to add for your sisters?
Speaker 3:um, they're next oh, that's great, becky, appreciate you taking the time to come over here and do this. I I know a lot of people when they when they come in here, they have some anxiety yes, you know, and and a little bit apprehensive. But, um, I appreciate you sharing your story because there's no doubt there's someone out there, like I said, dealing with something that will be impacted by your message, and so we appreciate that.
Speaker 2:All right.
Speaker 4:You did amazing, thank you.
Speaker 3:All right, everybody, please like and share and subscribe and do all those things. I know everybody in their family has someone who's dealt with cancer, or a friend, if not in your family. So be sure to share Becky's message and go out and be tempered.
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