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The Fort Jackson Prophecy That Took Me 10 Years to Understand

Dr. Dave Maloley Season 2 Episode 68

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The friction between you and your team isn't personal. 

Inside this episode, Dr. Dave breaks down: 

  • The residency moment when a Lieutenant Colonel warned him he'd never get along with his dental team (and what he meant by it)
  • The four things Type A owners unconsciously expect from their team (and why they work for about six minutes in a dental practice)
  • The shift that happens when you stop asking "why aren't they more like me?" and start building roles around the strengths your team already has

Hit play and you'll see why the people who frustrate you most might be carrying the strengths your practice depends on.

"Captain Maloley, you'll never get along with your dental team."

A Lieutenant Colonel pulled me aside when I was in residency at Fort Jackson in 2002. Seven years before I opened my practice.

I laughed. I already had the vision in my head — the booming future practice, a culture, weekend barbecues with the families.

"Why do you say that, sir?"

He said, "You're Type A. They're Type B. You don't understand their world. They don't understand yours."

I thought he was wrong. Turns out he saw something I couldn't see.

For several years of my practice, I kept running into the same tension. I'd push for growth. The team wanted stability. I'd move fast. They wanted more clarity. I'd get energized by change. They'd get exhausted by constant pivots.

And honestly, I interpreted a lot of it as lack of ownership. That was a mistake.

The breakthrough came when I realized I had built an entire leadership style around my own wiring, then unconsciously expected everyone else to operate in a similar way — which is, to be clear, a deeply unreasonable thing to do. Same urgency, same tolerance for pressure, same communication style, same relationship with uncertainty.

Yeah, that works for about six minutes in a dental practice.

Some people process internally before they speak. Some need context before action. Some thrive on structure. Some thrive on momentum.

The moment I stopped asking, "Why aren't they more like me?" everything started changing. Communication got cleaner. Delegation improved. Conflict dropped. People felt understood instead of managed.

And the biggest surprise — the strengths I used to overlook became some of the most valuable parts of the practice. The steadiness. The consistency. The patience with anxious patients. The ability to catch details I was moving too fast to see.

I spent years trying to turn these people into versions of me. The shift was learning how to build roles, communication, and expectations around the strengths people already had.

That Lieutenant Colonel saw it back in 2002. It took me years of practice ownership to finally understand what he meant.

My question for you today is: what's one strength on your team you only learned to value after it frustrated you first?