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Kick off 2025 with us on the Green Onions podcast as we embark on a journey of lifestyle transformations over traditional resolutions. Noah shares his refreshing experience of a sober January, finding unexpected happiness in self-care, while we reflect on the personal growth stemming from having my niece move in for college. This year, we're diving into the importance of setting realistic goals for sustainable change and teasing an exciting financial series that promises to empower your wallet. Plus, a thought-provoking reading from "The Daily Stoic" sets the stage for a renewed outlook on personal growth.
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Hey, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the Green Onions podcast.
Speaker 1:We needed like a shock warning, came in out of the gate.
Speaker 2:This is your girl. Common Sense Girl.
Speaker 1:And I'm Noah.
Speaker 2:This is where we throw out some nonsense.
Speaker 1:A whole lot of sense.
Speaker 2:Or some sense.
Speaker 1:Wait Alright.
Speaker 2:Wait, we are rusty, but it's all good. But thank you guys for joining us for another special edition another episode, yes, yes, another.
Speaker 1:Another week around the sun welcome to 2025, y'all oh my gosh, I didn't even know that that happened it sure did yeah everybody welcome. I hope you're bringing in the new year like you should how is that yes, sticking to your resolutions?
Speaker 2:No, no, they're not sticking to their resolutions.
Speaker 1:I mean they can if they want to, depending on the resolution.
Speaker 2:Well, you know what Bump? A resolution. I'm going to call it a lifestyle change, because that's what people need to do. Yeah, a resolution. Like people, don't stick to that crap.
Speaker 1:Also, there are so many messed up people in the world. Like what do you think Ted Bundy's New Year's resolution was? I think he needed to be told. You probably should change Like I don't think you should have a New Year's resolution.
Speaker 2:No, let's do a lifestyle change. Yes.
Speaker 1:So just get better. Consistent growth. Every day is a New Year's resolution, yes, or a new year, and then come up with the resolution.
Speaker 2:Let's just be 1% better than we were yesterday. How about that?
Speaker 1:That's fine. I'm like let's do that we can roll with that.
Speaker 2:How was your week, Noah?
Speaker 1:It was good, I had a really good week. Actually I've been doing the sober January.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:So feeling really good on week two, okay, feeling really good on week two, whoop, whoop, yeah. And I don't know. It's a learning process, one day at a time, just figuring out stuff about myself having dreams again, getting in touch with my subconscious. Awesome In a way that I didn't know. I still had a subconscious and yeah, it's just a learning process. Okay, yeah, what did you do for New?
Speaker 1:Year's conscious and yeah, it's just a learning process. Okay, what did you do for New Year's? Nothing I want to divulge, oh Lord. Well, not really, it was just. It was like that moment when you realize you're 25 and it was a quarter life crisis and I, just, I literally, I think just shut down for three days and that's what promoted me to I think, just shut down for three days and that's what promoted me to be like I got to switch something up. Hence the initial conversation of talking about how let's treat one day at a time.
Speaker 1:New Year's resolution is broad and that's why I think people quit them. If we just make it minute or smaller, I think it's easily controlled and easier to manage mentally than stretching it out as far as a whole year. And we know that because we work at a place where people with new year's resolutions drop like flies.
Speaker 2:Yes, but.
Speaker 1:I also love January because it is a time where everybody does have that energy and there's that hope in the air, and that is a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2:It is, it is.
Speaker 1:What about you? How's your stuff?
Speaker 2:New Year's was great. You know I got a new. She's not a new addition, she's been around, but my niece moved in the ducky Yay, she's starting college here in our lovely home state and so I had both of the spoiled girls.
Speaker 1:And it's interesting, and you yourself are kind of the same way.
Speaker 2:Yeah, let's be realistic. I am so, having three of us being realistic.
Speaker 1:I thought we were just being realistic me stating that that's crazy that you had to validate it to yourself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I know, when I hear them both speak, I'm like what are we doing? Another one of me. You're welcome, world.
Speaker 1:You were telling me about Yammy and how she's just sassy as all get out.
Speaker 2:I know she turned five and literally it just she, just, yeah, yeah oh, another thing with the sobriety thing.
Speaker 1:It's like I'm candles and shit like I I got a ton of like incense. I've like found this newfound respect for lotions and like candles and and self-care.
Speaker 2:So he's going to be. Bath and Body Works meets Yankee Candle.
Speaker 1:Yankee Candle. I bought soap today that Anna flamed me for.
Speaker 2:I didn't flame him for but people of color. Y'all know we are some coca, butter, shea, coconut kind of people. That's our jam.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's what I got, suave yes and it was also like the first thing that stuck out to me. It smells really good it does so just roll with it.
Speaker 2:That's the plan you start using coca butter it's over, roll it's over well, we do have like a uh intro reading, don't we? Yes, we do have an intro reading and you know we'll kick it off this next three months, until march, into march, with our financial series. We're gonna be throwing out some good tips and we are and I also have a challenge for the audience as as well that I'll be doing as well, so yay, I won't be as. He will.
Speaker 1:I will learn Anna, knowing a little bit more financially walking us through the series. I'll be the. I'll be in the place of the listener also because I will be learning with everyone listening. That is also not as savvy financially as maybe Common Sense Girl is, so I'm excited for it. That's going to be a fun thing.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, we're going to get our money right. We're all going to grow our wealth and health Heck yeah. But on this beautiful day of January 17th, thank the Lord we made it. I will be reading out of the Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hasselman. It's called Reboot the Real Work. I am your teacher and you are learning in my school. My aim is to bring you to completion unhindered, free from compulsive behavior, unrestrained, without shame, free, flourishing and happy, looking to God in things great and small. Your aim is to learn and diligently practice all these things. Why then don't you complete the work? If you have the right aim and I have both the right aim and right preparation what is missing? The work is quite feasible and is the only thing in our power. Let go of the past. We must only begin. Believe me, and you will see. Epeticus from his book Discojers Do you remember in school or early in your life being afraid to try something because you feared you might fail at it?
Speaker 2:Most teenagers choose to fool around rather than exert themselves. Half-hearted, lazy effort gives them a ready-made excuse it doesn't matter, I wasn't even trying. As we get older, failure is not so incoquential anymore. What's at stake is not some arbitrary grade or intramural sports trophy, but the quality of your life and your ability to deal with the world around you. Don't let that intimidate you, though. You have the best teachers in the world, the wisest philosophers who ever lived, and not only are you capable. The professor is asking for something very simple Just begin the work.
Speaker 1:The rest follows. Awesome. Now we obviously have like a little powwow before we start this podcast and it was really cool.
Speaker 1:Part of the initial powwow, along with therapy, is reading, uh, and figuring out what is like what.
Speaker 1:What segments of these the book of awakening and the daily stoic uh, we open with and close with and, um, it was cool because we both read through them and anna just repeatedly said two or three times she's like these both have to deal with you and it was kind of in a choking sense and yeah, just with. I think it pertains to everybody, though that aspect of anything's daunting if you make it so as opposed to just doing the work and it'll pay off. And it is a weird thing he brings up about how, like the intramural stuff it, you go from getting very tangible. I think this is a hard switch for me as, becoming more of an adult, you get like a very tangible thing, like you get as a kid. It's like, oh, I do something good and I get this tangible validation, uh, people patting you on the back all the time Wow, you're so good at this. X, y, z. And then, as you become an adult and everything gets harder progressively, it's like oh nobody is giving me any validation.
Speaker 1:So that's when you have to find it within yourself to put the work forward. Um for nothing physical, but just becoming a better human so yeah that's it okay I just that was my thoughts on it.
Speaker 2:I don't know, yeah, yeah, ditto to all of that.
Speaker 1:Ditto to all of that.
Speaker 2:You know, it's kind of crazy, because you said everything that I wanted to say and then I was like, okay, now what do I say?
Speaker 1:Yeah, we didn't have a powwow about the after we have a powwow about the, after we have a powwow about the reading and then we kind of free ball everything else. Yeah, we need a free ball counter on the podcast. I feel like I say that more than anything that's always that might go to phrase for stuff.
Speaker 2:I just be free balling it, it Throw it out Jameer. Nelson, I think that's the basketball mentality of you.
Speaker 1:I hope nobody was free-balling when I played baseball.
Speaker 2:You never know, but that also has to do with, I feel like, with the whole lifestyle change. Some people want to call resolutions. I'll let you have it If you just start. That's all it takes. We tell people this where we work at Walking through the door is the hardest part After that man, it gets a little simpler Each and every time. So, whatever your lifestyle changes you're doing in 2025, just start it.
Speaker 1:You may hate it and keep it up.
Speaker 2:And me and no me.
Speaker 1:Every morning I've been sleeping in my bed as of late, which crazy, right, but I've been sleeping on the couch for a while. But I'd been sleeping on the couch for a while and, like part of the like, flipping my brain on, that's like okay, I'm sleeping in bed, I'm making my bed and I have a journal by my bed. So every morning I wake up and I'm just, I fill up a page and it's gibberish. It may not be anything coherent, but by the end of it, like the last couple sentences, I'm I'm focusing on something that I want to focus on that day, and it's hit a point where, like, I wake up and I really don't want to write in that page.
Speaker 1:Like I'm really going, but I have been forcing myself to do it. Not only is my handwriting getting better, but it's just a good practice. It's thought process-wise, the humdrum of getting lost in time. Time is always a constant and it's always going to be moving, um, but you can. You can categorize that time, uh, and that, as a thought to me, is really comforting, because time is always going to be time and it's always going to be going. But if I can make it centralized or like one day at a time, it's a comforting feeling that no time is ever being wasted. And I feel, if you get caught up in bad habits and that kind of thing, you feel like, or I felt like I was being kind of swept away by time as opposed to wanting to take that step forward and being able to control it. So, yeah, which the journaling thing is fun. I don't hate it, it's just.
Speaker 2:I love journaling.
Speaker 1:It takes like 25 minutes every morning.
Speaker 2:I have journals everywhere.
Speaker 1:But I like it because you know morning brain, where it's like nothing else really matters, and there's this like you're foggy and so like whatever I'm putting on that page is like maybe not me necessarily thinking it, but I'm like it's bodily, it's like flowing through my hand and then it just happens and it's pretty cool. The stuff comes out that I wouldn't naturally think at the prime time of the day. When I'm locked into whatever I'm doing, morning brain's cool, interesting.
Speaker 2:I used's cool Interesting. I used to hate waking up. Drinking a pint of vodka every night, I have morning fog.
Speaker 1:Drinking a pint of vodka every night. Do that for a year and then stop, and then tell me you don't enjoy waking up in the morning. I feel like a new human every morning You're like ooh, that's been new.
Speaker 2:you get up and you're like a whole new world.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and back to the time thing. It's like I, the reason that kind of motivated me to flip I know I'm talking a lot about this, the reason that kind of motivated me to flip I know I'm talking a lot about this, but who, who really cares? The thing that made the flip for me is I felt relationships starting to be like strained by how much I was focusing on making myself like feel better quote, unquote which I wasn't actually. It was just like a coping mechanism. Um, through that and the new time I have and what now I'm able to invest my time in. And you remember I used to never pick up the phone.
Speaker 1:This is true Like even Kaysen, even people I like, genuinely care for deeply, I wouldn't pick up the phone.
Speaker 2:And now, yeah, you call me twice in one day jack happy birthday jack yay jack he called me today and it's just like this.
Speaker 1:It the gratitude. I think I'm grateful that um the time, like I'm grateful for time and I'm appreciative of how I'm using it to give back to the people I genuinely care for, if that makes any sense at all it does okay cool. I love how I have to do like a checkpoint with you, like am I rambling too much, Anna.
Speaker 2:No, you are good.
Speaker 1:This is more of a deep one. I like how the tones of ours sometimes teeter. It's like a metronome.
Speaker 2:It's a metronome.
Speaker 1:We can either be joking the whole time, like Rocky and the polar bear, or this is the polar bear. I think we got all the jokes out before in the phone calls.
Speaker 2:honestly, we still have jokes Really quick audience. We have new merchandise that we will be putting up on our handy dandy Instagram. We do In the next month and a half. We got a new designer, slash jarvis assistant slash.
Speaker 1:We don't even know but just a caring individual. Yeah, that is an ai and not an individual at all. Just kidding, I'm like a real person. They're actually sitting in the studio right now. Right, I was like Cluck. Cluck is a real person Shaking their head.
Speaker 2:Like I am what.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry. I watched the movie Megan recently, so oh my gosh, finally, yeah, it's okay, Okay it's. It's kind of funny. I honestly thought it was a comedy for the first 45 minutes.
Speaker 2:Oh, it's a cute movie. You know what?
Speaker 1:Wait, I'm talking about the horror movie.
Speaker 2:Yes, oh, okay. Well, to me, I don't consider it horror because I really like real life horror yeah.
Speaker 1:They're making another Conjuring too.
Speaker 2:Yes, I know.
Speaker 1:Superman, they're coming out with a new one. Did you know that? Oh God, they're coming out with a new one, did you? Know that oh god, we need to stop. I'm excited for that Ballerina, which is the John Wick spinoff. Excited for that, I don't know. New Year's bring new things.
Speaker 2:It always does so.
Speaker 1:Actually screw what I said. I hope everybody keeps their resolutions.
Speaker 2:Lifestyle changes, their lifestyle changes.
Speaker 1:No, no'm joking, no.
Speaker 2:No one ever keeps a resolution.
Speaker 1:I love how I just backtrack on everything.
Speaker 2:I just said no. What's your superpower?
Speaker 1:If I was going to have one.
Speaker 2:I think you have one, but what do you think your superpower is Flying? Okay, now that you don't do, no, it's cool. Oh, is it not?
Speaker 1:a hypothetical it could be either or my superpower is probably that's going to make me sound like an asshole. Oh God, I was going to say empathy, but I'm going to dial myself back because I'm not that cocky.
Speaker 2:I'm winking at you, you do.
Speaker 1:got a lot of empathy Too much.
Speaker 2:You do and I have like none, probably social awareness.
Speaker 1:I can tell when I'm not wanted in, like a room or a situation, I'm not good at leaving that situation, but I can tell, oh, like social awareness. There I know I'm not wanted, probably, but like I don't I have an anti-power of getting out of whatever situation, so I just have to be there awkwardly, knowing that I am not wanted.
Speaker 2:Oh no, I'm going to be there. You're going to know I am there.
Speaker 1:Or I'll just disappear.
Speaker 2:And even if you don't want to acknowledge me, not only am I there, but, hell, I helped you know, rub it in their face.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you are a. Rub it in your face. My sister's like that too yeah, it's all I would.
Speaker 2:That's one ability that like unapologetically you yeah, yeah, sure is, but I think my superpower is discernment and wisdom.
Speaker 1:I, I was worried I was sounding cocky well no, like literally.
Speaker 2:I think my siblings can safely say, or my family could safely say I I have always had that like my whole life. Like I am not the oldest, I'm like damn near almost the youngest of us kids and my nickname is kick mama. For a reason, like there is a reason for it, yeah, and I didn't understand it.
Speaker 1:But I kind of realized like I always give this like auntie advice, constantly like no, I think that's a reason we well I mean, we talked about it the other day the aspect of communication.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Where we're at too.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That a lot of people will smile to your face. Talk behind your back.
Speaker 2:Then backstab us.
Speaker 1:Exactly and we, I think, growing up in situations we probably grew up in and not wanting to repeat the pattern of feeling what that's like and not wanting to put that on other people. It's very like I will tell you and you'll be like that's not what it is and I believe you and it's the same with you If you tell me something.
Speaker 2:Yeah yeah, communication is key, good communication. Some people communicate.
Speaker 1:Communication is key is has anybody said that? Before she's actually right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, actually someone has.
Speaker 1:I'm really sure it's a quote, it is a quote, and I'm joking with you, that's like one of the.
Speaker 2:She wrote it down I sure am gonna write it. He likes to tell me to write it down. I write everything I love to write, like I am, I am just absolutely ecstatic that you are journaling yeah I I love it well, what are you?
Speaker 1:the first thing you said was there's songs in there, or something like that there could be.
Speaker 1:I mean, you're an artist, so I actually was like looking at them and there are certain lines.
Speaker 1:I was like, hmm, I think I think ryan, I think I was telling somebody about it and ryan sent me a thing that just was really prevalent, because I had an album drop on apple music without even knowing that I had, uh, released it because I put it out in September of last year to like drop in January and, um, I did it because I knew those songs would never see the light of day if I didn't do it, uh, with enough time in advance before knowing I was going to forget about it, uh, but it's only on Apple music, which is weird. But he listened to it and he texted me this really cool thing, let me find the line His wife had said it. You hear all the familiar things people say and don't let them ruin your day, and that, I think, is the aspect of energy attraction-wise If you walk out in a bad mood, you're going to hear the bad stuff. If you walk out in a good mood and trying to attract positive energy and emitting positive energy, you're going to hear the right stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree, it's like you are what you eat.
Speaker 1:You are what you eat. And don't poop where you sleep.
Speaker 2:And don't get your honeys where you make your money.
Speaker 1:And don't.
Speaker 2:No, it's probably thinking about that and moving on.
Speaker 1:He's like oh wow okay, don't bark in a cat park well I don't know what that means. Actually, I kind of let's just move on that, I think, rest, let's leave that to rest, and are we doing? Yeah, so we're moving, we're chugging right along yeah, like we talked about it last year like riding a bike, like a tricycle I yeah sure.
Speaker 2:Okay, I thought it was a one-wheel bike, but a one-, one-wheel, a unicycle. Yeah.
Speaker 1:What about a mountain bike? Can we do a mountain bike?
Speaker 2:Okay, we can do a mountain bike. So last year, noah and I had talked to you guys about, you know, we are starting to rework our structure, what we do here at the Green Onions Podcast, so we're trying out this new thing and every quarter which some of y'all, if y'all, don't know it's every three months see, I'm with y'all on this.
Speaker 1:I just sit here and I talk, she tells me what to do and I just sit here I like, I seem like constantly bossy I light incense. I try to bring some spiritual aspect to this. I get food and I just sit here that's what noah does that's it. That's the extent.
Speaker 2:I'm a glorified incense lighter he, he creates the uh feng shui the feng shui the feng shui. But in this first lovely three months of the year of 2025, we're going to kick off a financial series and I'm going to. You know I have some tips for us to get started on a budget I have a book.
Speaker 1:That's what that is. I just pointed at a budget book. Okay, I'll show it to you after. Okay, good, great, I have a book. That's what that is. I just pointed at a budget book. Okay, I'll show it to you after.
Speaker 2:Okay good, great, I have a budget book, too great, we're on the same page I wasn't flexing on you, aunt no, no, I know, but he was like a budget book.
Speaker 1:I'm like okay, great um, but not everybody has a budget book, that's true or even a pen and paper.
Speaker 2:Well, they do have pen and paper, they just don't write down. But we're going to talk about or if you have a quill a quill anything ink yeah, your iphone, your android, we don't give a dang but I'm gonna throw out a few tips and then at the end I'm actually gonna throw out a challenge that we are gonna start february 1st all the way until the end of 2025 and hopefully everybody keeps it up for the rest of their lives.
Speaker 1:But um one day at a time yeah, one day at a time.
Speaker 2:so, as we all know, you know, during the holidays between October all the way to December, we spent a lot of money between Halloween, thanksgiving, christmas, and in our household we had a. We spent a crap ton of money. And is it necessary? I don't know, maybe not.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:We can always be minimalist, you know Well. Not Great documentary on Netflix, by the way, but thank you, brenda. You're giving gifts to people. I mean you're giving gifts but you're not giving gifts to people who actually need it. I mean we can go to a soup kitchen, donate some food or something for the needy.
Speaker 1:I actually say sentimental gifts are, price doesn't matter, so continue. I'm sorry.
Speaker 2:Well, no, price doesn't matter, but we overspend.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:We overindulge, Because I know in my house we cooked a lot of food. We had food for oh my gosh, we had so much food.
Speaker 1:I must have overdue everything, so yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:So, um, now it's time for us to get back on track with our finances, because some of us went into credit card debt. Let's be honest, some of y'all went into credit card debt. It's okay. It's okay, but we need to get back on track, start paying off cars and houses and setting up college funds and all that good crap and, you know, getting back to things that matter, like paying your electricity bill. So the first thing everybody needs to know is their numbers. And when I say your numbers, how much money do you have coming in every month? Forty three cents. How much do you have coming in every month?
Speaker 1:43 cents.
Speaker 2:How much do you have going out? That means your electricity, your bills, all your subscriptions $67.43. Oh so you negative, you hella negative.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, hella negative you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Like, what are those numbers looking like? That is something you need to know, because, also, you need to look at those numbers and be like okay, my income is less than my outgo, so if my numbers are less than my, my income is less than my outgo. I need to cut some things.
Speaker 1:I might not need netflix, hulu, amazon subscription, nobody no good thing has come out on Netflix for the past 50 years.
Speaker 2:Didn't I just tell you, the documentary called Minimalist is good, is great. Oh, I can read a book on it. Okay, fine, read a book on it. But listen, and I'm guilty of that I have a lot of subscriptions. Do I need them all? Probably not.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I probably genuinely really do not how many items do you have in your amazon cart?
Speaker 2:in my amazon cart. Oh, bro, stop playing with me. You know I got about a hundred and some odd items. I thought you had like two thousand at one point I did have two thousand at one point, but I did go in for new year's okay good I did. He's not even lying, I really genuinely did. He was like, oh, what about this? And I was scrolling and scrolling.
Speaker 1:I'm so happy that you went through it. I did Look at us go.
Speaker 2:Look, I was like I really genuinely don't need that, like I seriously don't. And there's things in there like, honestly, you know and it's not just my Amazon, for me personally it's other stuff, like so it's knowing your numbers, knowing what that is, and then setting clear goals. Let's set some goals how, what can we get rid of? What can we cut?
Speaker 1:Tangible.
Speaker 2:Mm, hmm, what do we basically? What do you need? Start with your needs, your necessities, like your house, whether you're renting or you're paying a mortgage, that needs to be one of the things that come out. Your electricity, if you're paying a water bill, your car payment, your car insurance, um, home or homeowners insurance or renter's insurance these things need to come out. Your food bill that's another thing. You gotta get realistic. We as human beings buy more than we eat sometimes and we all know food is high. So it's like, literally, if that means you got to eat chicken, rice and veggies every flipping night I've literally been doing just eggs yeah, you, you need to boil down your, your menu because you, you need to, you need to eat, that's, that's not the problem.
Speaker 1:But you also need to be very budget friendly and conscious of your, your consistency it's also tan, like writing it out, seeing numbers, having it tangibly be a thing that you can see. That number is always going to be the same.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's always going to be finite. So delegate it properly to where you can leave some behind, to where, when the holidays or something rolls around that you want to do or God forbid, something bad happens you have a cushion to fall back on.
Speaker 2:That is kind of what I'm getting from what you're saying yes, absolutely, and I'm probably, you know, like basically summing it up prior to work, prior order, right, anyway?
Speaker 2:prioritize yep, that's the word. I can spell it for y'all your needs over your wants. I don't know why I can't say it, but your needs over your wants. Practice the 50 30 rule 50 is your um needs, 30 is your once, 20 is your savings. With that being said, this is where the challenge comes in, people, and I'm not going to do 20, because some of y'all really do need to look at your numbers. I know I had to. Yes, I had to look at my numbers and I was like she's going to do this with me after.
Speaker 2:Yes. So I had to look at my numbers and, like I said, I added a whole nother addition and I got to get realistic. But take at least, at least, if you can do, 20, amen, hallelujah, praise the Lord, and we will have this on our Instagram page everybody as well these tips and exactly what the 50, 30, 20 rule is, but we'll also have the challenge on there as well. But at least 10% of your monthly income and put it in your savings, like I have a savings attached to my bank account that is easily accessible. But if you cannot look at that money and not touch it for the rest of this year, then get you a separate savings account at a whole different bank. Do not get a card at all. It's going to make your butt have to go into the bank. If it's too hot, too cold and you lazy like me, you ain't going to the bank. But separate that money if you need to and go to a different bank. But save at least 10% I challenge everybody to do that of your monthly income.
Speaker 1:See, I did that same thing and a lot of jobs. If whoever's listening has one where they can take like my job, for example as opposed to my very lucrative podcast earnings that my day job I'm able to set on whatever app, how much of a paycheck I want to go to another bank, and that way it's out of sight, out of mind. I don't even have the app, I can't look at it, it just is automatic. So I started that probably six months ago. I haven't checked it. I walked across the street and did it.
Speaker 2:It's just with money, money, money yeah, because I mean, we are, you know, guilty. If we see it, we feel like we have to spend it. Yes, especially if we are already practicing bad habits out of sight, out of mind yeah, like I said, this will be on our Instagram page.
Speaker 1:I will be doing it. Yes, we all will be doing it.
Speaker 2:Yes, we have our assistant producer Ducky over here. She's doing it, yeah.
Speaker 1:My cat will be doing it.
Speaker 2:The cat that we ran away that came back. He ran away again, roxy June never came back.
Speaker 1:You're telling me this now Cut the episode. No, I'm just kidding, yeah she never came back.
Speaker 2:She might come back, but I think she's very happy wherever she's at. I need an animal y'all, Do you?
Speaker 1:No what. Is there any other points on that? I'm super in on this challenge. I kind of love it. See for me, what I'm probably going to do is, since I already have the bank account, I'll take out 10%, go into that. I'll use my other 10%, get it in cash, put it somewhere undisclosed location, he ghetto.
Speaker 2:He gonna put it underneath his mattress. He's gonna cut a hole in the mattress and put it in the mattress.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna put it in the cocoa butter shea soap bottle when it's empty.
Speaker 2:Real ratchet, real ratchet. But yeah, that is the challenge, and stay tuned the next week because I may add some more tips, may not we just do a check-in to see where we are with this budget.
Speaker 1:We are going to get more. We'll check in. Also, we are going to get a little more consistent with holidays and just all the things that that brings, all the things that that brings. We. We're sorry for lack of episodes, but we will get more on a familiar schedule yes, because Anna likes to party like a rockstar.
Speaker 2:Clearly and I'm avoiding partying well, that's why we didn't do episodes. Anna was partying like a rockstar he really wasn't, but I was definitely. I think we, we both were like episodes.
Speaker 1:Anna was part of my roster. He really wasn't, but I was definitely.
Speaker 2:I think we what's the time.
Speaker 1:What's the time? Do we have a timer?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we are good.
Speaker 1:Okay, I say we boil it down to one. Which one do you want? Okay, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Oh Lord.
Speaker 1:What is in style right now that you can't stand.
Speaker 2:Crop tops, I think.
Speaker 1:I love that.
Speaker 2:Some people look good in them, some people do not.
Speaker 1:I don't think anybody needs a crop top.
Speaker 2:Listen.
Speaker 1:Unless. No, I take it back.
Speaker 2:So my thing is, crop tops for women that are on the heavier side can look good, but you have to wear a certain pants length in the waist, like it's got to be a higher waist, because you don't want to look like you have that muffin top. That what I have the problem with, and I know some of these young ladies and I'm older oh, that's rough, but I'm old school. You have no reason to jiggle, you have no reason to. I don't care how big, how skinny, you do not have no reason to jiggle. I'm not saying you got to go on a diet, but when I am saying you do have to put on a girdle or something. So I don't really like them. And then we have the young ladies that are on the smaller side who wear them at the most inappropriate times. I'm like, babe, we going to church, there is no reason for you to have on a crop top, some jeans and a blazer Like that is not appropriate.
Speaker 2:So if we can just slide them somewhere, I'll be all right with it. That's the one that really bulls me up and, like I said, I'm a particular aged woman and I have a crop top, but guess what this girl is doing? She put a damn shirt underneath it and you know, I'm like and I'm wearing pants that are high enough because, like I said, muffin tops you jiggling like there should not be nobody wants to see the jiggle when has there ever been an earthquake happen in the?
Speaker 2:you know it trembles prior. So I'm like no, I, I don't, I really can't. I can't do it like no, they're not, there should not be an aftermath to it um, probably for me.
Speaker 1:I have to pee, so she's gonna entertain you. What's one thing? Just told all his family business what's in style right now that I can't stand um injustice wow and the drop mic okay, injustice, okay.
Speaker 2:I think Wow and the drop mic, okay, injustice, okay. I think everybody that's been in style for many years. I don't know how he said that was yeah, that's been in style since. Um, I don't know, slavery, I mean wow, I don't even know how to. Okay's gonna have to come back and explain that because lord um, yes, but he is right, injustice. Maybe I should have said that that probably would have been so much better. Um, yeah, ducky, do you want to jump on the mic and and tell us what you think is in style? You can't stand. Oh, lord ducky, shy okay, she doesn't have it.
Speaker 2:Okay, please talk about this injustice, because I I'm gonna go on a limb and say it's been going on since slavery began, and slavery wasn't just with the black force that I was.
Speaker 1:It's not actually injustice. I think the thing that's really frustrating currently. Uh, what's in style um?
Speaker 2:injustice does seem like it's in style what booty shorts. Ducky said booty shorts.
Speaker 1:I'm in on that too.
Speaker 2:Yes, your underwear and shorts should not match.
Speaker 1:Depends. I'm a guy, yeah, guys. Just, I don't know when guys thought it was cool to do that For me gym clothes and not gym clothes like what you wear. But when did that become people's whole personality, like Gymshark or Fablet?
Speaker 2:or whatever. Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:These brands and people get it at like 80% off. Oh my God, they have such a good sale. What Taiwanese kid lost their life stitching your crappy sweatshop t-shirt that you think is the cool thing? It might just be the area I'm in.
Speaker 1:I like to find clothes that aren't brand new. I'm not going to order shit, so for me, maybe this is on my hippy dippy train of recycling or whatever, but I don't fuck with those brands, even a little bit. Uh, there's no cool designs. Prove me wrong. And the names are corny, and the people that wear them need to find a personality.
Speaker 2:Goodbye so no one lost a whole bunch of friends no, I was only one.
Speaker 1:okay for loungewear, I get it. If you're wearing that, it's like the crop top, just like you can make that shit Like I don't need a stupid logo.
Speaker 2:Make it Just wear the shit you wore when you were five or whatever you have.
Speaker 1:It's like basically underwear. At this point also, can we be honest?
Speaker 2:That's what it is, Absolutely that's what it is.
Speaker 1:Alright. So can we be honest that's what it is, absolutely that's what it is. All right, wait, do you agree with me on that or no?
Speaker 2:I do agree with you.
Speaker 1:Or do we have static there? We don't have static.
Speaker 2:No, we don't have static.
Speaker 1:Okay, good, I hope we find static with somebody because I have a very. I will step to static, but not you, Never you.
Speaker 2:I can definitely tell you, some of our followers Are those people that wear those brands. And they wear them heavily. They wear them heavily. Yeah, they wear them heavily.
Speaker 1:Well, no, it's not. I just like the planet. Can I boil it down to that?
Speaker 2:You do like the planet. I mean I like the planet. Can I boil?
Speaker 1:it down to that. You do like the planet. I mean, I like the planet too. The more omissions that are made by making these shitty ass clothes that do not hug these people in the right places, I'm telling you y'all.
Speaker 2:Like I said, you should not be jiggling baby.
Speaker 1:All right, ask another question before you go. I told you I could go on the.
Speaker 2:It went from injustice like I'm telling you honey, no, you shouldn't. What life experience. That's another thing. The five-year-old she turned five and she body checks people. She, she body checks people. She was like at her birthday, she was like, she was like Monty and she just kind of looked at me and she's like I said and I looked and I seen this oh no woman that was jiggling, you know. You can tell she had money so there was no reason for her not to buy a girdle, but she was jiggling baby. I'm also not.
Speaker 1:I'm not against people's bodies like I'm not against people's bodies, but I'm against. Things are inappropriate, put them in yes okay now, that's my stance anna has a completely different stance, it seems like you just well, I've been a plus-size woman.
Speaker 2:That's how I know like you should not like. There's a problem. I look good in my damn clothes that's true I'm not jiggling.
Speaker 1:My titties ain't on the floor and it's also just self-awareness, I feel like yeah, and I'm not.
Speaker 2:Like I'm not saying I don't have rules. What I'm saying is they're not hanging on my damn pants, that's for sure that is true I'm not. No, that's. There's nothing attractive about that. No woman, no man has ever got or attracted the opposite sex or the same sex by jiggling like that.
Speaker 1:You'd be surprised. Those people are diabolical.
Speaker 2:No, them, mofos have low self-esteem. Anyway, what life experience did you build up in your head but were disappointed by?
Speaker 1:in your head, but were disappointed by I'm not sure.
Speaker 2:Okay, you think about that. Let me tell you so. We talked about this before because I think sometimes I because I don't as if you, if anybody's listened to this show or anybody knows me off the show, knows I'm not a gentle parent. I have two different kids with two different personalities. I have one that shits out glitter. The other one he has shits out glitter Another time he has shits out shit. So great kids as an overall. They're going to be something amazing when they grow up.
Speaker 2:I am, I know they will be, but I don't gentle parent and I shoot it straight to them. So, prior to us getting these kids, actually, when my husband and I met six months after we had met, moved, moved in together, we wanted to have kids, realized we had issues, went down the whole rabbit hole, still going down the whole rabbit hole, but God blessed us with these two kids. Amen, hallelujah. However, on the flip side of that, I thought that parenting was like the Wizard of Oz, kind of like going down the yellow brick road with a few little turbulence. I kind of thought my experience was going to be like how my mom's looked or how my, how I've seen other people's look.
Speaker 1:No, you have a different vantage point yeah, they came already built and you were a kid viewing other people do it, or yes?
Speaker 2:So I'm a little disappointed. It's a little harder in the trenches. Yeah, I'm in the trenches, yeah, so I'm a little. I'm not disappointed by being a parent.
Speaker 2:I think I'm disappointed by because I'm going through some stuff right now yeah, Not me with my kid kids, whatever because Yammy's she's a teenager, but I just, you know, I guess I see other people but also at the same time they got nine months and now they're just, they're going through the whole thing. They get to mold this child. I came with two children that already kind of semi-molded and I have to tear down some things that aren't right, you know, and deal with issues that other people have inflicted upon them.
Speaker 1:uh, but anyways, no, I get it. For me it's probably, I don't know, being an adult in general, can I answer the last question again? If I was to answer the last question again, it would be um, people. So, with the sobriety thing, I'm also lumping two other things in there and I'll divulge one of the other two things. Uh, and it's social media. Um, nobody cares about you, uh, or what pictures you post.
Speaker 2:If I see another photo dump, I'm gonna lose my fucking mind oh, and I was gonna put I had quite a few of them to put up.
Speaker 1:Oh, we're good, I'm just joking, we're good, I like your stuff I have to see a random photo of a room with sunlight hitting the right way or a yawning animal. Oh my gosh, the amount. Let's get away, let's get it. I think we should all know less about each other. I think that for 2025.
Speaker 2:And if I?
Speaker 1:ever start. If somebody starts getting there with me, I'm going to be like I'm just going to hold up my hand. Stop Talk, talk to somebody about it. This is not me, I'm not qualified on and, honestly, if I was qualified I wouldn't care.
Speaker 2:He's not making no money off this.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think we've got too free-balling with shit here. I am saying that after divulging a whole bunch of shit about what I'm going through currently.
Speaker 2:That's just a portion of your life, though, a portion Very small.
Speaker 1:Very small portion. What would the title of your autobiography be?
Speaker 2:What the hell are we doing now? Bye.
Speaker 1:Bye, bye, I think mine would be, oops.
Speaker 2:I did it again. Nope, just oops.
Speaker 1:Oops, oops, oops, dot dot dot, fuck, dot dot dot, shit dot shit. Sorry, damn it. Take it back, will you forgive me? No, okay, cool, I get it. It's a long title, but it's working it's. It's in the works it'll be a very long cover so you guys is it time?
Speaker 2:It is time for you to close us out with the Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo.
Speaker 1:Yes, and we're right at the end of our incense, which is actually like perfect timing, it's so amazing, perfect timing.
Speaker 1:Okay so the Book of of awakening by Mark Nepo. Today, on January 17th, it's the Friction of being Visible. This quote is by William James. It is only by risking ourselves from one hour to another that we live at all. The quote by Mark, or the excerpt by Mark Nepo, be conflict to negotiate.
Speaker 1:If we choose to avoid all conflict with others, we will eventually breed a poisonous conflict within ourselves. Likewise, if we manage to attend our inner lives, who we are, sooner or later create some discord with those who would rather have us be something else. In effect, the cost of being who you are is that you can't possibly meet everyone's expectations, and so there will inevitably be external conflict to deal with the friction of being visible. Still, the cost of not being who you are is that, while you are busy pleasing everyone around you, a precious part of you is dying inside. In this case, there will be an internal conflict to deal with the friction of being visible. As for me, it's taken me 30, whoa, I'm not 30 y'all. But as for Mark Nepo, it has taken him 30 of his 49 years to realize that not being who I am is more deadly, and it has taken the last 19 years to try to make a practice of this.
Speaker 1:What this means in a daily way is that I have to be conscientious about being truthful and resist the urge to accommodate my truth away Oof. To accommodate my truth away Oof. I have to be conscientious about being truthful and resist the urge to accommodate my truth away Boom. If y'all just heard that part, that's all you needed. It means that being who I really am is not forbidden or muted just because others are comfortable or don't want to hear it. The great examples are legendary Nelson Mandela, gandhi, sir Thomas More, rosa Parks. But we don't have to be great to begin. We simply have to start by saying what we really want for dinner or which movie we really want to see.
Speaker 1:Amen Amen.
Speaker 2:Y'all. Thank you for joining us.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:On our first episode of 2025.
Speaker 1:The new year, woo, yes, everybody.
Speaker 2:And check out our Instagram and in a couple of months we will be having merchandise come out.
Speaker 1:And thank y'all for listening. Thank you, and we is out. Woo Woo. And thank y'all for listening. Thank you, and we is out. Woo woo. I think that went well. I don't fuck that one, god damn it.