Spirituality in Motherhood: Deepening your connection to spirit

In this personal episode of Mystic Mom, we dive into all the ways that parenthood can either take you away from spirit or connect you on an even deeper level. Join us as we explore how even the messy parts of becoming a mom offer us an opportunity for deeper connection to ourselves, our little ones and our higher power. This episode provides practical tips on resetting and grounding yourself amidst the chaos of motherhood.

Transcript

Welcome to Mystic Mom, where we dive into the extraordinary spiritual bond between parent and child. I'm your host, Christy, and today's episode is all about spirituality and motherhood.


I don't know about you, but the way spirit guided my life before kids compared to after kids is completely different. Early on, these changes made me feel like pregnancy and motherhood was taking me away from spirit. But throughout the whole process, I realized it was the complete opposite. My relationship with spirituality, faith manifesting, and all of that changed so drastically and looks different, but has actually uplevel my spiritual connection in ways I could never have imagined.


So if you are a mom who may be feeling a bit lost, scattered, not connected to spirit, and most likely tired, this episode is for you.


Before kids, I found spiritual practices that helped me feel so grounded, peaceful, and intentional in my life. I would start every day with meditating and journaling. I would write my gratitude list and manifestations. Baby candle, pick an oracle card. I had this whole morning process. That and these rituals really helped me start my day feeling connected to the universe and my higher power.


My anxiety and stress decreased and I was setting the groundwork for really productive and fulfilling days. I felt like I had things figured out when it came to living in alignment and letting spirit guide you. Then I got pregnant and everything changed.


My pregnancy is were very tough on me physically. I had morning sickness all day, every day for the entire nine months. I was nauseous all the time. I had bad migraines and body aches that would keep me in bed for days at a time. Literally overnight, I was no longer able to do the spiritual practices that always worked for me.


I couldn't meditate for one hour actually a morning. I couldn't even meditate for five minutes. I couldn't go on the long, beautiful hikes on the weekends because getting out of bed was painful. I genuinely think I blocked out a lot of my pregnancy experience because I was so sick and uncomfortable during that time. Then, in having a newborn on, there continued to be this longer time span of feeling super disconnected to my view of what being a spiritual person was.


I always thought being spiritual meant having these practices where you would do these meditations and you would journal, and you would feel so connected and get these amazing insights and awareness, and you would go out into the day feeling kind and grounded and calm. And that was what I thought being spiritual meant.

And new motherhood. It felt like I had no energy for these practices. All of my energy was going into new motherhood and running a business and adjusting to this new life. As a working mom. Physically, emotionally, mentally, all of my energy was going to just surviving.


It would really get to me. I would miss the slow mornings of reflection and connection. I missed my Reiki healing sessions. I missed the feeling of living day by day, with an intentional plan and calmness that I was able to achieve.


As we know, new motherhood is complete chaos. The house was a mess. I was a mess. Being sleep deprived and trying to get a child on a sleep schedule that constantly changes with regressions. It is a complete life change where things can really feel out of control. Then I realized I had to start looking at living with spirit, not just reflecting on spirit.


It's easy to feel connected to your faith when you have all this mental energy and physical energy and time to sit with it. It's a total game changer when you are in the throes of early motherhood, but you feel as if you don't have enough time to shower, how you expected to pray, where you are no longer alone, ever.

You don't have the solitude or space to sit in deep thought of reflection because you have a child to take care of.


And this is where our version of what living spiritually needs to shift. When you are running on three hours of sleep and the baby won't stop crying and you feel overwhelmed, that's when we bring spirit and we don't just stop everything and do a meditation or a Reiki session. We ground ourselves in the chaos. We keep going and give ourselves grace, surviving those tough days and loving their child while loving yourself.


That's a deeper level of spiritual connection that I could have never gotten before. Surviving early motherhood in it of itself is amazing. It's a profound selflessness and responsibility that we are pushed into. That we rise to the challenge.


I didn't know what it meant to love someone more than myself until I became a mom. How the sleepless nights, the boring afternoons at the limits that motherhood creates.


All was worth it for my little one. The joy I would feel over a smile or giggle. The purpose and connection I would feel to having my daughter sleeping on my chest was unlike anything I ever experienced before. We literally sacrifice our bodies, our lifestyles, our careers for our children. And for me, I realized I did it all for something bigger than me and I had to reframe it.

It wasn't a sacrifice for my child. It was a sacrifice for motherhood. But it doesn't only serve my child, but serves me as well.


My child became my top priority. My role as a mom became the most important role I took thus far in this lifetime. They stood in me, and I didn't have balance or other parts of myself that were still important to me. I did. I continued to have other areas of my life that are so important and fulfilling to me.


But motherhood offered me so many things, and one of them was it helped me become more of myself. While at the beginning I felt like it was taking me away from myself. I now realize it offered me the opportunity to become more me.


Does my relationship with the spirit look different now than it did before kids? Absolutely. Do I journal and meditate less?


Yes, but I am living with the spirit. Having trust that your child will be okay when you send them to school. Wanting to just watch your newest TV show and spending that time reading to your child that extra bedtime story that is being connected to spirit and being connected to one of your purposes in this life. Finding joy in your child's wonder around the holidays or seeing their pride when they try something new, is witnessing true magic.


That is where I find spirit. Now.


While I believed I didn't have time for spirit in early motherhood, I now realize spirit was always there. It just looks different and you have to find it.


There are two tracks that I use for myself when I feel disconnected from myself or spirit. The times when I feel like I am letting the everyday stresses get to me. The laundry, the dishes. The pressure I feel around, lack of time, all that type of stuff.


The first trick I learned on TikTok years ago, where you imagine that you are on your deathbed at the end of this lifetime, and you get to come back to this current day and experience it again.


I know it sounds morbid, but stay with it. Really? Picture that. Imagine you, 99 years old, about to pass, and you get to come back to this current moment. You get to see your kids a little. You see you and your spouse, and you start a home. Coming home from that job that you hated that you eventually got out of.

Thinking that you can hug your kids when they are this little, when they still call you mommy and you get to cuddle up with them and read Goodnight Moon, appreciating all these little beautiful moments that we experience every day and can take for granted. This track instantly grounds me and reminds me of the importance and beauty of this chapter of life, and helps me soak it all in.


The second track needs a little background information first. My beliefs are rooted in Buddhism, and particularly with reincarnation and uso's purpose. I believe our children pick us to be their parents. Our souls were connected before this lifetime even started and chose to go through this life together. I am happy to do another episode that goes into this theory in more detail, but for now, just knowing that I suspect each other will explain my second check.


To check is I look at my child and I tell them, thank you for picking me. I am thinking their unconscious soul part that chose me. I have said this to my daughters while I was pregnant before they were even born, and I continued to say it to them when I say thank you for picking me. I am reminded of how big an honor it is to be their mother, and also how present the universe is, and making this all happen.


Out of all the versions of kids I could have gotten in this lifetime, I got these two beautiful little souls. Out of all the different parents that their souls could have chosen. They chose me and my husband. And when you really look at the magic and divine destiny of that, the dishes in the sink don't mean anything. The messy living room or lack of sleep, all the chaos that is occurring, all of it suddenly means nothing compared to the really important magical connection we have to each other.


Yes, we are going to take this for granted and forget most of the time. But trying to stay humble and remembering what's really important here will not only help your family, but will help you enjoy and honor parenthood in a deeper way.


So look at how spirit is operating in your life right now. Where do you feel spiritually supported and connected?


Do you have a mom crew that helps you during the tough moments? Are you able to connect with other spirit guided moms who really get it? If so, give them a call and discuss this episode with them. Maybe they have a great practice or track that helps them that will work for you as well.


If you don't have the time for a big practice, send a quick prayer to your Spirit guides for help or pick an Oracle card that could offer some guidance.


We can modify practices for this chapter that will fit the chapter you are in is challenging and also transformative. So hang in there mamas. And until next time, love, heal and live. Mystic mom.