Your Child's Dharma: How to support them in finding their purpose

Discover how to help your child find their dharma and guide them in their path towards their true purpose. Tune in for guidelines and tips in helping your little one thrive and align with their deepest sense of self.

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Welcome to Mystic Mom, where we dive into the extraordinary spiritual bond between parent and child. I'm your host, Christy, and today's episode is all about Dharma. What is Dharma? Our Dharma is a unique purpose in this life time. What we are meant to achieve. It's the reason we are born with certain talents and passions and interests.


Our personal dharma is meant to serve not only ourselves, but the community and the world. It's meant to help you achieve your highest purpose while also impacting the world around you.

Some people's dharma is to cure diseases or find scientific breakthroughs that can change and heal communities. While others may be to invent something that can spread resources or information and offer connection. We can look at Dharma in these big ways, where we see people making profound impacts and changes in the world. However, all of our dharmas doesn't have to be of that magnitude.


An artist may be born with creativity and a talent for spreading beauty or humor. A gentle hearted caregiver may become a great teacher that helps kids learn or inspires a thirst of knowledge within them. The possibilities are endless. So how do we distinguish what our personal dharma is? How can we really know what our purpose or path in this lifetime is supposed to be?


We can look to our internal compass. Let's look at two things that can guide us towards our dharmic path.


First, what are your natural talents? Are you skilled in math? Reading? Cooking? Being charismatic or a good problem solver? Look at the qualities that come easily to you. Maybe you're a great athlete. Maybe you're extremely patient and kind or loyal and fierce. Look at the qualities that those closest to you would describe you as. You can also look at qualities that came naturally to you as a child.


These are your innate gifts that you were born with. Next, look at your interests. Look at the things that light you up and get you out of bed in the morning. Not obligations that you have to do, but the things you want to do.


For example, the days that I have a workshop or networking event, I usually wake up very easily with an energy and excitement for the day. The days that I've obligations such as household chores or paperwork to get done, I snooze in a bed and have a harder time starting my day. Energy doesn't just come from caffeine, it comes from excitement and energy around something that you're interested in.


Living in alignment. You can see the difference. And waking up to go to a job you love versus going to a job that you dread. So recognizing that energy can help you in deciding or finding out what good dharma is. Also, look at the random daydreaming thoughts that come to you. Have you ever had a random thought like I would love to host a retreat, or I would love to publish a cookbook one day?


All of those exciting thoughts that you have can show you the area of your dharma. I know you may be thinking, well, doesn't everyone want to be a bestselling author or want to travel the world? And the answer is no. These passions are not something that everyone is in alignment with. These thoughts aren't ideas that everyone has. Speaking in front of a large crowd may feel terrifying to one person and exciting to another, because that is what they are meant to do.


So look at different activities, hobbies, careers and see what sparks that excitement. But then you. Another point that is important to remember is your dharma is not one singular thing. It does not mean you have to hit a certain milestone in your career or personal life. It is complex and there are multiple areas that make it up. Which brings me to parenting for many.


Becoming a parent is part of their dharma. Becoming a mom and bringing another soul into this world. Impacts and changes the world forever in ways we can't even fully comprehend.


The bug that comes to my mind when I say this is the night you were born. If you haven't read that children's book in a while, I highly recommended. Especially if you are a spiritually guided mom like me. It just creates such a beautiful representation that whenever a child is born, the world is forever changed. But to go back on topic, even more so than just having a child.


The way we raise our children impacts not only them, but their relationships, the community, and it's a ripple effect into the world. This is because we can help shape them to be loving and ambitious and authentically themselves. The security, love and guidance we give to our children will impact how they live their lives, how they show up in their lives, and how they relate to others.


Helping our children grow into exactly who they are meant to be will give them the best chance of achieving their own purpose. So what are ways that we can help our children and guide them in discovering their dharma? Few things. First and foremost, create a safe and secure childhood for them to the best of your ability. This does not mean perfect because there is no perfect life or childhood, but individuals who go through chronic trauma have insecure attachment styles, or suffer abuse will require much more healing, resilience, and time to recover from their childhood woundedness.


Next, you want to look at their skills and interests. If your kid is super interested in a sport force, do that for them. If they are interested in geography, art, support them in that as well. Maybe they are creative, problem solving or super creative. Recognize these qualities and help them foster it. Be mindful of what is your want versus their want.

Do you want your daughter in dance because you had great experiences as a kid in dance? Or does she want to try for herself? Or maybe she would like karate or soccer? And this is where we tug at differentiating and want from theirs.


Once we have a good understanding of their skills and interests, spend time with them on it, even if it's not necessarily your cup of tea.


By the science kids, practice throwing a baseball outside. Listen and discuss the movies and music that they like. This will help create a strong foundation for them to know their interests are valued and deserve to be embraced. It's more than increasing their skill level in a certain area. It's about the energetic message that they have a space to explore what's important to them, that there is value in it simply because they have the passion and drive around it.


It can be easy in our society to want our children to focus more on academic or athletic achievement, since that gets the most recognition in the US school system. But as parents, we want to look at the skills that maybe don't get as much attention. Examples of this are your child's humor, their kindness, their creative minds or musical interests.


As Albert Einstein said, everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. As parents, we have a responsibility to recognize the genius and strains within these beautiful little humans. We created.


An activity you could try is thinking of each of your children, and identifying the three things you admire most about that. Then think of three ways that they would want to spend their day. It's a good way of putting things into perspective and differentiating your children from one another, and also looking at them a little bit more deeply.


So to recap, two areas that could help you understand your own and your child's dharmic path is looking at natural born talents and interests, passions that you all have. So until next time, love, heal and live. Mystic mom.