
Travel Is Cheaper Than Divorce
"Travel is cheaper than divorce, I should know. My wife and I were at the door to it." - David Packer
In this podcast I share some of the places, experiences and moments that changed the dynamics of not only my marriage but also the relationship with my kids. Travel was a big key of growing together, becoming stronger as a family and truly saving my marriage with my wife.
I share with you, how you can gain and travel using points and other rewards programs to see and explore some of the most amazing places in the world. In this podcast I share some of the lessons both good and bad, that have guided me and my family as we have navigated the growth and expansion of a family unit.
TRAVEL IS POSSIBLE... when you do it smart. In this podcast I give the tips and tricks I have used and the secrets I teach others of using rewards & point programs to maximize the dollars you are already spending to create some unforgettable memories with your family.
Travel Is Cheaper Than Divorce
How Travel Can Renew and Strengthen Your Relationship
Ever wondered if prioritizing your marriage over your children could actually strengthen your family? Discover how nearly 20 years of marital experience has shown me the profound impact of focusing on your spouse first.
In this episode, we share personal stories of how neglecting our relationship for the sake of our children strained our bond, and reveal the transformative power of travel in reigniting that spark. Learn from our memorable trip to Hawaii, a journey that not only fulfilled a dream but also rejuvenated our marriage, providing key insights into why investing in your relationship is essential.
Join us as I explore the importance of creating a cohesive family unit through a strong marital foundation. Hear how taking time away together can not only benefit your relationship but also provide a more stable and nurturing environment for your children.
Through insightful discussion and real-life examples, I'll show you how travel can be a powerful tool to fortify your relationship and family life. This episode is a heartfelt guide to prioritizing your marriage and ultimately ensuring your children grow up in a responsible, well-rounded household.
You are listening to. Travel is Cheaper than Divorce. This podcast for all those who may be struggling with their spouse or their children and the relationship with them. We help give you tips and tricks by using travel as the means to be able to help your relationships with your family. I'll provide those tricks and other ways to help travel with little or no cost. So let's get into it.
Speaker 1:I can, over my time in my marriage and we've been married for almost 20 years can think back to the times when things were the biggest struggle between my spouse and I were when I lose focus on her, and I mean this even in the case of your children In my case, my children. It is important to nurture your children, to raise them and to bring them out to be the best people they could be. At the same time, do you ask yourself this, and this is what I did for myself Do you think your children are best raised by one parent or two? These are questions I ask myself literally. Do you think it is beneficial or best for your children to live in a household where they can feel because if you don't think they can feel, I promise you they can that they feel like there is no love between you and your spouse. Priorities have been messed up, messed up, and that's sometimes what happened between me and my spouse. The priorities in your life should be your family. It really should be number one family. For some of you, and for me even, it's God and family, but with a focus on this being what it is. Yes, your children are a part of that family, but if the marriage is broken at the top of the family, that's going to filter down.
Speaker 1:I told you before that I'm a child of a divorce and that has affected not only me but my siblings in a great way. Sometimes I imagine what my life would be like if my parents never got divorced, and I know that's more common now, and I know there's a lot of people out there who may say to me, as they have before well, everybody has divorced somewhere in their family, so blah, blah. Okay, so we should just accept that I don't and I didn't, I still don't. So what I'm trying to say to you is this If you spend your time and your days worrying so much about your children that you don't worry about your spouse, you're doomed. I have spent some time in some of these episodes I have been talking about getting away, and almost every time I talk about with your children, but that is not the most important thing you can do. From experience, this is not the most important thing you can do. The most important trips you can take are with your spouse, bar none. You want to be able to save your marriage, then you don't go places with your children all the time. If you're going to rekindle a marriage, you're not bringing your children with you. Let me ask you a question. In fact, this is something you can struggle with yourself. Would you bring your children to a marriage therapy session? Of course you wouldn't. Why would you bring them everywhere you go?
Speaker 1:My wife and I, as I said earlier, don't have a perfect marriage now, but we had a worse marriage before this whole system and everything started with the traveling and although we have traveled with our children, that has built memories. What has saved the family is not going on trips with the family. What saved our family was going on trips with my spouse family was going on trips with my spouse. My wife has always wanted to go to Hawaii. My wife is a very big beach person, loves the beach, and at the beginning of this journey that I've talked about before. There is no way on this earth I was going to be able to take her to Hawaii. No way, no way. But once I did which I did, and it didn't take very many years after I learned what I learned to be able to take her there for very little cost.
Speaker 1:Our marriage truly hasn't been the same since we built something. What does it feel like when you're sitting next to your spouse on a six hour flight or so, I don't know. Maybe you're on the East Coast, I don't know, but six hours for us and you're sitting there with her and are you just going to avoid touching each other? Are you going to avoid talking to each other? Are you never going to hold hands the entire time? Maybe on the way there? Maybe your marriage is pretty rocky right now, but do you think on the way back you're going to feel the same as when you started? If you go to a place like that, to a destination she's always wanted to go to, because that seems impossible to me we went to Hawaii, someplace she always wanted to go, and it's changed a lot of things, because it brings the heart back into everything. You can't lie on a beach. You can't be with your spouse alone in a hotel room and not somehow kindle some of that back. Actually, you can even go through all of the, even some of the Hollywood movies and other things you can see when people travel. There's just a different sense, a different feeling with your spouse, not with your spouse and your children.
Speaker 1:Now I will tell you this I didn't obviously start by sending my spouse and I to Hawaii. I said that was a couple years after I started running the system that I've talked about or alluded to most of this podcast. We started with little trips, little trips to get away and again, always out of the area. If you're just going to a hotel down the street, you're still connected to your household and little trips can mean even not even on an airplane. Maybe you drive four hours south or four hours north or four hours east or west. That's not really as relevant as just getting out of the area and getting out of the area with your spouse to a destination, meaning the hotel, to a destination, meaning the hotel. That won't make you feel completely, utterly uncomfortable Because, again, unpopular opinion.
Speaker 1:But my point of view here is that in a marriage, children don't come first. Everything filters from the top down. It's just like going to work. If you work in a very large corporation I've worked in some of the more major corporations in America the culture that is brought down from the top down affects the entire workplace. So if you think that, so ultimately, what I'm really saying is and this is from my experience my wife and I, when we started wanting to travel, we did. We just went, sometimes just two or three hours south, to the closest major major city that was around us, and we did it once. What my wife and I decided once a quarter. Did we do anything exorbitant? Not really. We went to a hotel room for two or three days, sometimes over a weekend, and we ate out a couple times and maybe we went to a movie theater, which we could do in our own town. But it was different Because you can rekindle a lot of intimacy, a lot of things that have been lost in your life by getting away. You bring your children with you. You can't rekindle that as well. So, like I was saying before, in marriage, children don't come first. Your spouse, your marriage comes first, and that will filter down into your children. And this, again, this is what I'm saying. This is the same thing with your children.
Speaker 1:Now, to be upfront with you, this is a two-part episode. I want you to be able to understand the importance of what I'm saying to you right now. You need to feel and understand that your marriage is dependent on you and your wife's. Your family is dependent on you and your wife's passion for each other, the love that you have for each other, and not just passing in the hallways at a glance. It needs to be rekindled, it needs to be ultimately needs to be. It needs to be sparked again. It needs to always be fed. That's what the word I was looking for. It just continually needs to be fed. What are you feeding it right now?
Speaker 1:So my wife and I, we traveled once a quarter together for a while. We don't really do that much anymore because our trips have become more all over the world and different places and other things, because of the system that I talked about and alluded to. But the system that I have, and I have built and understood and what I like to teach people, is not a system that can be done overnight. But you can't wait. I couldn't. You can't wait for the system to start. You can't wait for you to learn all the things you learn, and then I'll travel. And then what? In the meantime, you lose everything around you. You can't wait. This is not a, this is not a. In a year maybe we'll get around to it. No, you do it now because I've seen what happens here. We started growing closer and closer. Every quarter we did miss a quarter here or there too. I mean, it's not, it can't be exact. There has to be. You know there's I had.
Speaker 1:We had children in the home, as we've talked about before. We had foster kids, which is a whole nother animal because you can't have regular quote unquote babysitters. We had foster kids, which is a whole nother animal because you can't have regular quote unquote babysitters babysitting foster kids. The state doesn't quite like that. So there was a lot of arranging. We had to do so. If you can't, if you feel like you can't arrange with your kids, if you feel like you can't arrange your kids or your dog or whatever, we had a really hard time arranging because of the foster kids that we had in our home. So don't tell me that you don't have family. You think we had our family babysit our kids. We had problems with our family. In fact, my wife's mother at one point said don't you ever leave your kids like this with us again. We decided from that point forward, we're never going to have her watch our kids again. We didn't do anything, we just dropped off our kids. But that's her mother and that's a different story, but just an example of how it was for us.
Speaker 1:It's not easy. It's a whole different, almost a complete lifestyle change. But isn't that what you need? That's what we needed. We need a complete change of scenery. I mean, I we had to get away, but I want to make it easy on you.
Speaker 1:The system I built allows you to travel in luxury all over the world pretty much for little or no cost. But at the very beginning, it's not something that happens overnight, but you need to travel overnight. This needs to happen now. You don't have time to start something like this, whether it's quarterly, twice a year, you know the frequency is irrelevant, but it needs to be done, like within the next couple of months, with you and your spouse. If you're listening to my voice and this feels like something you need to do, then you just need to do it.
Speaker 1:In the second part of this episode I'm going to go through a step-by-step on that. I want to teach you, even without the system, because the system is based on points and miles and getting all that stuff done for you. You won't have time for that, but there is another way to travel with cash. That is dirt cheap. We did it. We had hardly any money at the time, but it is possible and it needs to happen now because you have to save your marriage. You have to save your children.
Speaker 1:It's almost like I'm talking to my little self here, because I wanted my parents to save. I wanted my children to be saved. I wanted to grow up so bad with my mom and dad and I couldn't. Now their situation is different. In most had to do with adultery and other things, but still I'm just telling you how much divorce affects children. So you think you have to be around your children all the time to control them. That's another thing. You don't want to be a helicopter parent. This is a way to disconnect. They'll be okay. They'll be okay. And if you think they won't be okay, maybe that's a problem with you or maybe it's the area you live in.
Speaker 1:You have to have people around you to trust, to watch your kids If you want to save your marriage, you get away from your children. So what I want to take away, I want you to take away from this and what I want. If this sounds like you, then listen to the next episode, where I go through part two, where I go through the how to do it now, not the system, the system and take some time to build. This is the how for now, for you and your spouse. This is the hail, mary. This is the thing that's going to help you.
Speaker 1:Now I feel like you guys out there, the people I'm speaking to right now. You can hear me, so listen to me when I say you go away with your spouse, you rekindle. You want to save your children's lives. You want to have them be raised the way they need to be raised to graduate and become people of society that are good and then to be one. We want to be around you.
Speaker 1:Do you want them going to separate houses when they grow up and all your kids, all their grandkids, going to separate houses and wondering who's going to who's for Christmas? Do you want that? I know you don't, so listen to the next episode. It's time to get away. It's time to get away right now and time to get away, not from just the area, but it's time to get away from your children. You have been listening to Travel is cheaper than divorce. With me, your host, david packer, please connect with us on our youtube channel at travel point pros. There you will learn many tips and tricks on how to use points and miles to travel in luxury for little to no cost. Remember to like and subscribe and comment on any of the videos that you find helpful to you. Thank you for listening.