Travel Is Cheaper Than Divorce
"Travel is cheaper than divorce, I should know. My wife and I were at the door to it." - David Packer
In this podcast I share some of the places, experiences and moments that changed the dynamics of not only my marriage but also the relationship with my kids. Travel was a big key of growing together, becoming stronger as a family and truly saving my marriage with my wife.
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Travel Is Cheaper Than Divorce
Unlocking Affection and Affordable Adventures
How does one truly understand love in a marriage? Join me, David Packer, as I recount my 19-year journey of transformation from viewing love as merely physical and financial support to discovering its deeper, selfless essence. Through my spouse's patience and unwavering love, I learned that genuine affection goes beyond actions—it’s about understanding and selflessness.
I’ll also share how crucial travel was in our relationship, providing the time and space we needed to grow closer and truly understand each other. Plus, I’ll reflect on the impact of my parents' divorce and how it initially shaped my misconceptions about love.
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You are listening to, travel is Cheaper than Divorce. This podcast for all those who may be struggling with their spouse or their children and the relationship with them. We help give you tips and tricks by using travel as the means to be able to help your relationships with your family. I'll provide those tricks and other ways to help travel with little or no cost. So let's get into it.
Speaker 1:One of the things that I have learned over the many years of not just being married, but just in life but I learned it more on an accelerated basis because of my marriage. And I've said in previous episodes and I know it sounds flighty, I don't know the word but after understanding love, after truly understanding love, it is truly what makes this world go around. When I got married 19 years ago to my spouse, I was wholly and utterly unprepared to be married. I didn't really know how to love. My spouse had to suffer, to my shame, for many years of our marriage, suffering with a person who didn't really feel much at all, the least amount love. I couldn't understand in the first few years of our marriage and even beyond that, what my wife was so upset about. A lot of the time we used to have arguments and I just said I just didn't understand. Because I didn't, because I wasn't feeling, because I wasn't caring. All I cared about was me. So when I said in the very first episode of this podcast, when I said you have to understand the other person, this comes after years of experience. This comes after years of me in my marriage caring more about myself than I did the other person Because I thought I thought that love in a marriage, I thought that love in a marriage, marriage I thought that love in a marriage, in my perspective, was about me just taking care of the physical needs of my spouse and family.
Speaker 1:I made the money, I supported my family. It's bullshit, guys. I've always loved my spouse, even from the very beginning. I loved her. That's why I married her, but I didn't really know what love was In retrospect. Even from the very beginning I loved her. That's why I married her, but I didn't really know what love was In retrospect, going back to the beginning of our marriage and when we were dating, I loved the idea of being around her. She was very, and still is very, precious to me, but that didn't translate into actual love. Over the years and after all these years, all these times that I've been with her, because of her patience and her absolute love for me, I feel like I finally know. I feel like I finally grasp what love actually is. Travel is a very important part of this journey for me is Travel is a very important part of this journey for me. It is a journey it is a part of it that helped me to keep the marriage around long enough and the love around long enough for me to realize all of this.
Speaker 1:Love is a transcendent thing. It teaches, it's unselfish. It's not about me, me, me, me, me. It's about you. And see, there are different types of love. I don't know who you are, who's listening to this right now, but I can tell you for a fact that you're listening to this right now and I love you. I love you for taking the time to listen, but it's a different type of love with my spouse and my children and it's a different kind of love between my spouse and my children. Really, it is literally everything. It changes hearts, it changes minds, it makes us the best people we could ever be. This is why marriage, in my opinion, is very important and that's why, guys, I didn't know what love was, because of the divorce.
Speaker 1:The divorce, my parents' divorce, made an impact on me. That see, you want to know the real impact of divorce. It's, in my opinion, it's just a lack. People don't know what love is. The people, the children of divorce, do not know what love is as well. Does that mean you can't gain it back? I did, I know you can, and some get it back faster than I did. I'm kind of stubborn, I have been. I didn't know what it was. I didn't really truly know what it was when you touch your spouse's arm and then when you touch your spouse's arm with love at least in my experience, it's two wholly different things, completely different things. Your children know it too. Your children know if you love them or not. And if you think just making money is love, then I don't. Money, as I said alluded to in another episode, is dead. It has no feeling. My children also suffered, I think, because of me not knowing this early enough, and I've tried to correct it since, tried to hug them more and let them know I really truly love them.
Speaker 1:I was at an event. I've talked about this, actually, in another episode too. I was at an event in Arizona about a month ago in the Phoenix area. I was at an event in Arizona about a month ago in the Phoenix area and I got up and I gave a five or so minute impromptu talk and I forgot what the prompt was, frankly, and it doesn't really matter, but it wasn't the subject. The subject wasn't given to me is what I'm trying to say. There was a prompt given, but I spent that time speaking about love, because I finally get it. I finally get it. I love my spouse more than anything, but not but. But it's not the right way, and I love everybody who's listening to this right now.
Speaker 1:My journey to get to this point has been horrible for my spouse, mostly Because I spent most of my time trying to control what she felt. In a way, I used to tell her because we would get into some pretty hefty arguments and the source of all these arguments I promise you were love, but we used to be in these arguments and I told her she could not leave the room until we had a discussion about it. That's controlling and that is wrong and it is not love. It is not love to try to, quote-unquote solve something by forcing somebody to be solved. The epidemic pornography use takes away one of the most beautiful things that we have as people on this earth. It is the highest expression of love, in my opinion. Making love with your spouse, making love, is just one of the most beautiful things. That is love. And pornography takes it away. It makes it cheap. I would know it made it really cheap.
Speaker 1:So when I talk about traveling the world, I'm talking about getting all the love that you can and giving all the love that you possibly can to your spouse, to your children and to everybody else in this world by getting out of your head and into your heart. Because as long as you're sitting in an office somewhere, or as long as you're a road construction worker and you're just working your butt off that way, or as long as you're sitting there framing houses, I don't care what you're doing. As long as you're doing all those things you're in your head. As long as you're in your house dealing with the phones and electronics and other things you're in your head, do you know what travel really does? It gets you out of your head and into your heart. It puts you into a space where you can at least find that heart and you can truly love again.
Speaker 1:Why did it make my spouse and I closer, because I finally got out of the rigmarole and just loved that conference in Phoenix again about a month ago, my wife and I had a couple of experiences while we were here outside of the conference. That a burst of love, and this was after. How do I put this? Kindly, it was not a very good start. It was actually not a very good start at all to the beginning, before the conference began. So the night before we were in a hotel. We got upgraded to a nice suite. It was very, very lovely, and we did not have a very good first night together because I wasn't seeing her.
Speaker 1:My problem is it's usually when we do travel and I've been trying to improve this in myself um, I get so focused because I hate, I don't really like the traveling. Traveling part, which means getting on airplanes, going through airports, making sure you get from the airport to your hotel, checking into your hotel, all that stuff kind of sucks. I don't know anybody who quite enjoys it, you know, and that comes from a person who has been in some of the nicest airline seats that are there, which are likely to lay flat seats. They're just so nice. Um, even then though it's just still isn't. That it's not pleasant, I don't know how to, I don't know how to put it better, but so I guess so focused, I guess so focused on getting through all of these, all of these logistical things, I guess so far up my own head, up my own butt, that sometimes I can't see the light day, I'm not in my heart, and she felt it. It wasn't a good evening, but once I returned to my heart and we connected, we had some of the better experiences over the next couple of days that were beautiful together, and that's why it was so easy for me at that conference to talk about that subject, because I absolutely love her.
Speaker 1:And if you travel the world, if you travel the US, if you travel your state, if you have a larger state, whatever, if you travel with your family, you will start loving your family more. It gets you way out of your head, at least when you get there. Me, I tend to get in my head when I'm on the plane, in the airport, but you'll get there. It gets you out of your head and into your heart and then you start loving something else that I didn't expect as much. You have all these experiences, you start realizing people are people and you start loving people more, and I've never been one to love people.
Speaker 1:I had an experience all the way back when I was two years old that I didn't realize until I don't know more recently. That might have affected me even more, but I had somebody who was killed on the front lawn of my house when I was two years old. Do I remember this? No, did it have an impact on me? It must have, because I don't trust people. I haven't for a long time an impact on me. It must have because I don't trust people. I haven't for a long time.
Speaker 1:I also lived in Southern California for a while and there were some places there that were so sketchy. I just stopped trusting people and that trust for people because I started loving the people. I started loving the world because I started traveling the world and seeing different people. And people are just people. They're just trying to get through their lives and if you love the people and you love your spouse, it just makes your life more fuller, and that's what I mean by love making the world go round and that's why I think travel is so important. My experience is really that All these other things I've talked about so far are very important. I just want to help you get there, but ultimately it's all really that. All these other things I've talked about so far are very important. I just want to help you get there, but ultimately it's all about that.
Speaker 1:I would say this to you I would really sit down and really find out from yourself Do you really love your spouse? And not like the way I used to, logically Well, of course I love her. Of course I love her. No, do you really love her or him? If you're a wife on this podcast listening to this, do you really love your spouse? And if not, it's time to get into your heart. Do you really love your children? It's time to get into your heart. Do you really love your children, do you? Or are they a pains in the butts to you? That's how I really treated my children for a while. I treated them like they were pains. I treated them like they were almost like a leech on me. They're just there. I was just supposed to have kids. That's actually, honestly, how I felt for a little bit. See how terrible, just not a good way to live. But the most beautiful thing about this whole thing that I'm telling you is I overcame all of that and travel honestly and I know it sounds weird, but travel is an integral part of how I did. The other major part was the patience of my spouse, but it was that.
Speaker 1:So what I want you to take away from today I know this is different than some of the other episodes I've recorded take inventory of your love. If you don't feel like you actually love, like you feel, like you should love, like you feel, then go back to another episode I made about you and your spouse getting the stinking way from your children together and rekindle what was there. You didn't marry her for any other reason, but you loved her. Her for any other reason, but you loved her. And, on the off chance, you married her for other reasons besides love. Then time to go out there and find the love that you have for her or him. Don't leave anybody out that way. So that's why I would take away. Take an inventory of your own love for your spouse and your children. Take an inventory of your own love for your spouse and your children and then if you don't think you have anything to change and it's all on her side, then you don't love. You need to learn to love and learn what you need to do here. So that's what I would do Take inventory of yourself and just love, and she will, or he will love you back. You have been listening to.
Speaker 1:Travel is Cheaper Than Divorce with me, your host, david Packer. Please connect with us on our YouTube channel at Travel Point Pros. There you will learn many tips and tricks on how to use points and miles to travel in luxury for little to no cost. Remember to like and subscribe and comment on any of the videos that you find helpful to you. Thank you for listening.