The Break-Up Diet

Honesty Box’s Jacob Price Tells Us What Men Really Do After a Breakup … And It’s Brutal

• Yasmin Misner and Ilma Shahrene • Season 1 • Episode 33

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What happens behind closed doors when a man experiences heartbreak? Jacob Price, reality TV personality from the dating show "Honesty Box," pulls back the curtain on the male experience of breakups with refreshing candor and unexpected wisdom.

From the initial "reckless phase" of excessive partying to the delayed emotional processing that follows, Jacob walks us through the distinctive stages of male heartbreak recovery. "We go and fuck ourselves over, then we regret it, and then it's too late," he admits with striking honesty. This emotional divergence from how women typically process breakups illuminates why miscommunication so often plagues post-relationship dynamics.

Jacob doesn't shy away from his past mistakes, openly discussing his experiences with infidelity and the revelations that followed. "If your head's looking elsewhere and you're able to cheat, it must mean there is something wrong in the relationship," he reflects. His journey from being what he jokingly calls "a red flag" to embodying the green flags of healthy partnership demonstrates the profound growth that can emerge from relationship failures.

The conversation takes a fascinating turn when Jacob reveals his methodical approach to self-improvement after breakups. From journaling about his perceived flaws to transforming unhealthy fitness obsessions into balanced routines, his systematic work on himself challenges stereotypical notions of how men handle emotional pain. The ultimate revelation? "You gotta love yourself before you can actually fully love them."

Whether you're recovering from heartbreak, trying to understand the man in your life who is, or simply curious about the less-discussed male perspective on relationships, this episode offers valuable insights into transforming pain into personal evolution. As Jacob proves, sometimes the end of a relationship marks the beginning of the most important relationship of all—the one with yourself.

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Yaz:

Okay, guys, welcome to the Breakup Diet. Today we have a really exciting guest and someone I've known for like 10 years, because we just worked this out Jacob Price.

Jacob:

What's up guys? How's it going?

Yaz:

So who are you? What's your story?

Jacob:

Where do I even start with my story, though?

Yaz:

You've just gone on a dating show.

Jacob:

It's all about being honest. It's a dating show all about being honest. You go into this honesty box. Yeah, it didn't really work in a lot of favors for a lot of people because people were compulsive liars.

Yaz:

Was there any time when somebody genuinely didn't think that they lied, that it came up as a lie?

Jacob:

I think people got lost in their lies because I think we didn't really know, because obviously it was meant to be a high tech lie detector, but they were generally saying I was 100% telling the truth and it'd come out as a lie. So it was a bit hard. So I don't know either they're just trying to their lie or, yeah, deep down, we didn't, we couldn't read it, we couldn't understand if it was reading you or if it was how it was actually working out so what's the premise of the show actually?

Jacob:

so the premise is basically everybody lies in relationships these days, like everybody lies even if, whether it's a white lie or not, and this one is about basically trying to be honest as well. You have to just be honest because there's money on the line and every time everyone's honest, you'd win money. So the grand prize was 100 grand in total. But yeah, there was a lot of lies and everyone. Every time someone would get caught out, the money would just disappear buckle up, bitches.

Yaz:

This is gonna get bumpy. This is the breakup diet. A big favor that we want you guys to do is basically could you please, wherever you're watching this, be it youtube, spotify, apple, podcast, like anything could you please like follow us, subscribe, whatever because it really helps.

Ilmz:

We're a growing podcast, so every bit of support helps and we really appreciate it. So you do come in with your existing partner or from. Are you paired up?

Jacob:

no, so you paired up so you technically paired up with what is meant to be your ideal woman. So so I described what was my perfect girl. So someone who's active, not very materialistic, adventurous, sort of throw herself in the deep end sort of person. And then, yeah, that's how I got basically matched up with that person, that's how I got on the show.

Jacob:

Oh, so you're already matched up, and then yeah, you can't switch or you can switch you can switch throughout, but realistically you don't, because everyone gets coupled up and obviously attraction and shit. So everyone was quite attracted to their partners were you attracted to yours?

Yaz:

oh yeah, not so attractive to mine oh god, is this what you got called out on?

Jacob:

no, no, she was a lovely girl. We're just very different people. I think from the beginning we sort of friendzoned each other. We knew nothing was gonna come from that.

Yaz:

Yeah, was this like a sad thing or this was like a thing that you know just?

Jacob:

no, no, it was very obvious from the beginning. I made well, I made it very clear so welcome.

Yaz:

Imagine you go on it and you're like oh well, you have to.

Jacob:

Yeah, I did do a bit of a white light as soon as I entered because obviously I had you. When you get revealed who you're matched with, you get given an envelope and you have to read out three things about that person and obviously then you read and then you get told who you're matched with and yeah, I was like, wow, I'm blown away, which technically is a lie. I was not blown away. She's a lovely girl, but I just when you're on tv.

Jacob:

You can't just go. Oh well, oh gosh, you can't do that, can you? So you have to. In that sense, yeah, I had to lie.

Yaz:

Have you ever lied in a relationship?

Jacob:

Oh yes, I've lied lots of times.

Yaz:

Like a white lie or more like a bad.

Jacob:

Done both. I've done both lies.

Ilmz:

What's the worst lie?

Jacob:

Well, when you cheat and you don't tell the partner, yeah, fair that is. I think you can't get any worse than, unfortunately, cheating. Yeah, fair, I mean, if they didn't ask no, they did ask as well, and I was just like obviously denying it. Because it's the moment you, yeah, you shit yourself. You're just like yeah, I didn't cheat.

Yaz:

And then you're like yeah, did you ever have to? Do you ever confess to the lie? You got caught up okay, but did you like say, yeah, that happened, or you just to the grave? I mean not now, but like to the grave?

Jacob:

no, I did eventually have to be like fine, yeah, it's, I did cheat and then that's when I called it a day. Then I was the one like right, let's call it a day rather than try to continue a relationship, because obviously it must have been dead in the water if I, if your head's looking elsewhere and you're able to cheat, must mean there is something wrong in the relationship.

Yaz:

So that's why I was like right, let's call it there really yeah, I didn't want to fight for it because I knew I've done a fight, for, yeah, you've done it wrong, you've done the wrong but do you not think, like sometimes, like when you've I don't know, been together a long time and then it's exciting to get talked to by somebody else, like that type of thing, or it's like you only mean it when it's like cheating, if you have sex with someone?

Jacob:

okay, but flirting is innocent. I think, if you've got some other people here, I don't think flirting is innocent. I think flirting is very innocent. It's just words.

Yaz:

I'm also so if it's just words, listen.

Jacob:

That's how most people end up in like relationships, but the words and not the actions I'm so comfortable with, say, my partner, if she went out on that, if she was like talking to another guy flirting, that's completely fine for me, like that is completely innocent, as long as you don't break the rules off that you guys agree on or like give it a number or exchange social media or something, so there's no contact okay so then it's literally like right now we could all be flirting and then I go right, goodbye and never see you again, like no one will know yeah, and then it's completely innocent.

Yaz:

There's nothing to it yeah, because there's no boundaries cross like okay, I get, I get where you're going with that. Purely for the if there's nothing being like no number, If you do that, then that's cheating.

Jacob:

That is straight up cheating, because then you're giving that other person the opportunity to reach out to you and potentially convince you, persuade you to do something else.

Ilmz:

Yeah, that's basically. You're opening the door of your relationship without your partner knowing.

Yaz:

What if you're like out and you see them and you have a little flirt, and then you see them again. You have a little flirt and then you're like oh I don't really know about that one.

Jacob:

I've not thought that far ahead, because ideally I know I guess then, yeah, that person has to lay down some ground, like some rules, and be like look, I have a partner and what if?

Yaz:

what if they um asked you, if they asked you if you have a girlfriend, at that time, what would you have said?

Jacob:

is this back when I cheated?

Yaz:

no, no, when you were flirting with the people at the bars or whatever well, depends which relationship you're in like in my last, I like the honesty it's more.

Jacob:

If you're in a comfortable relationship, then obviously you should be saying yeah. But at the time when I cheated I definitely to multiple, in multiple occasions, I said I'll single. So I cheated on all grounds, like did the physical to the flirting, to the exchanging numbers, to entertaining would you not be scared like that?

Yaz:

she would know you just didn't actually care I guess it's.

Jacob:

You're a bit scared, but you're deep down probably you don't really care, because you you've checked out. Yeah, you must have checked out, because if you did care about that, person, you would not be doing that yeah, fair and you learn from it once you get caught out, because oh gosh, the grief you get from it, not worth it really.

Yaz:

Oh yeah, it's fucking horrible. Did you do anything? That was like, like, like nothing we need to know so that I can do it to whenever I get my next boyfriend. I'm gonna well, hopefully he won't cheat on you yeah, I know, but we live in a world where this happens quite a lot, yeah no, I.

Jacob:

She didn't do anything too major, but it was more just the speculations. All the time and whenever she'd go out, all the girls would talk shit and I was just. Every time. Every night she'd go out for drinks, I'd get the phone calls of her crying and blowing up my phone it was just long and it I'd say the breakup was longer than the actual relationship that's wild because it was just constant having to reassure her and just to make sure she was okay.

Jacob:

But then I was just like I've completely tapped out the stage, but I'm still trying to make sure she's okay and you're a better person than I am, because I would have blocked. I'm sorry I'm not dealing with someone else's emotional needs when I'm done but I guess because I, she was in that situation because of me yeah, you know what I mean I put her in that bad place so I sort of needed to sort of comfort her until she was in a better place.

Yaz:

But how can you really comfort somebody when you're just like you're checked out and you just you're cheating? You know what I mean. Like what can you really say? It's just hard.

Jacob:

It's because she well the person liked to drink a bit, so it was, and she used to go out a lot, so that would obviously never help the situation and, being in this area, it's a very gossipy drama fueled area that that encouraged more shit as well, so I was like gosh, yeah so you think, other people made your breakup also way harder? 100. Actually to the point. On social media, I outed myself no, what do you mean?

Yaz:

you just put up a post, I put a post up, right, guys?

Jacob:

basically, let's cut the bullshit now. I did this, this and this. Please leave this person alone. So then there was no way any speculations could come about. I fully just out on myself, and then all peace in. Do you know what the funniest thing is, though, about that? The amount of girls that messaged me being like you're amazing, oh my gosh, and I was just like. Somehow that worked my favor no I came across so good to all the girls saying I was a cheater ladies how cool is that?

Jacob:

but it is cool because it's somehow me saying I was a bad person made every girl go. You're a great guy.

Yaz:

I was like thank you thank you, I'll take you out this week. See you later on.

Jacob:

I can also treat you until it's used to what you get that's why yeah, it just shows how everyone's so messed up no, truly like it just sums up how messed up the world is what so?

Yaz:

they would just slide in being like oh they're like, oh my gosh, you're so everything.

Jacob:

That's so amazing. You're such a nice guy, you're so honest like so many, so amazing. You're such a nice guy, you're so honest Like so many lovely messages. And I was just like maybe they just didn't really read what.

Yaz:

I posted.

Jacob:

You're so honest, but you're like no, yeah, I was like fine.

Ilmz:

After the six months of consolation after the breakup what's been the breakup diet for you?

Jacob:

Well, actually I went straight into a new relationship.

Yaz:

Oh spaceship, oh the rebound.

Jacob:

But I was with her for two and uh two and a bit years. Was it with someone you cheated with?

Yaz:

no, okay, whole new girl, wholesome awesome girl did that end badly the next one or not really?

Jacob:

we ended in two different ways. Well, it was very confusing, I am. So we ended because I she went to mykonos for a season, so obviously I was like that can't work out. You're doing this summer in mykonos, what did you?

Jacob:

want to visit her uh, I actually did go out, but luckily she'd left by then because we'd already called it a day and it just didn't really work because, realistically, we all know what those sort of places are like it's sex, drugs and basically rock and roll, isn't it? And a lot of house music and a lot of house music.

Yaz:

I like that small little detail yeah so it was.

Jacob:

So I was just like, yeah, you go, do you out there, let's call it a day. Then she actually came back and then she was like she said, on the hunt for me because she wanted to get back for me, and then we actually just ended up getting back together. But then she sort of disappeared and she went and did a tv show, oh yeah, which wasn't so pleasant because I thought we're going back together and we're having chats about kids and stuff.

Jacob:

And then one day she just disappeared and went on a show and I was like ouch have you ever spoken to her about it yeah, because when she came back from the show, we got back on, we got back together she went on two out to handle stople.

Ilmz:

Stop it, we were what season?

Yaz:

Yeah, we had someone from Two Ought to Handle on.

Jacob:

You were in the doubt, it was her no it wasn't her, it was a guy oh fine, yeah, so she did the last season.

Jacob:

But did you like break up? And then, like a was there, she must have been doing like all the applications she was single, so doing all the applications to get on the show and then must have got accepted. We kickstarted up again, started fully dating. So like full-on relationship, gifts, dating, everything as you do. I was like fuck, yeah, this is it, we're on now. And then I remember it was literally a monday morning. We're in bed cuddling, talking, talking about stuff, talking about kids Christmas together. Next day I was like, hmm, no messages, don't know where. She is A bit strange. She said she was going to Saudi for some work. I was like, fine, obviously it's not filmed in Saudi.

Jacob:

And then I was going down like the stalkerish route and I was like this is fucking weird, nothing's delivering. So then I went through her instagram all the casting agents of two after handle following. I was like oh. So then I did the digging. I was like, right, let's see what film, what shows, being filmed at the moment. So two after handles being filmed. I was like, oh gosh, this is really adding up right now. This is not cool if this is the case. And so obviously for six weeks I'm in bed going like sweet.

Yaz:

She's in bed with another dude right now and then you have to watch it, did you?

Jacob:

watch it.

Yaz:

It was not fun oh, I'm sorry, that was six weeks of freaking hell it's too hot to handle, like straight away comes out.

Jacob:

No, no so it came, so then she came back from it, and then it came out in july and what when she came back?

Yaz:

did you ever run into her? Did you ever hit her up? She?

Jacob:

appeared at my door one day and we just got back together again yeah I know so stupid why would you get back together? You were just, I guess, because I just wanted to be with her and then started dating again, and then we just called it day like five months after yeah, and then that was the best decision we ever made. That's when a full freedom kicked in for me.

Yaz:

I was just like best year of my life because you, you, you came to it mutually, so you had a nice breakup. Are you friends with her now?

Jacob:

Um, yeah, ish Like friendly, like if you're friendly, like whenever I see her I'll always go say hello, Like I'll happily give her a hug and like have a chat with her and catch up with her.

Yaz:

Oh my gosh.

Jacob:

Yeah now, although she did message me whilst I was in america last two weeks ago being like can't wait to watch you on honesty box, and I was like, what do you want from that?

Ilmz:

that's weird message yeah, maybe she meant it in a nice way really that kind of thing.

Jacob:

Everyone else thinks it was a little bit of a calculated message why to do what as an either to sort of keep tabs on me or to see if she can still get me, or because obviously me going on the show is a bit like she is always. She was the limelight girl and now it's like oh, potentially bitch is mine now yeah, I've taken the spotlight so.

Jacob:

So I guess, mate, we all think it's more in the sense of she's like trying to get the upper hand on me what are boys actually doing after a breakup?

Yaz:

if it's like an abrupt one, though, are you going out straight away?

Jacob:

yeah, if it's an abrupt unhealthy breakup, it's reckless.

Yaz:

It's a lot of going out and then after do you like process it later then?

Jacob:

you process it, then you're depressed, then you hate yourself, then you guys, I feel like straight away straight away feel it, we go and fuck ourselves over and then we regret it and then it's like, oh damn it too late and that's when you start dating loads or try to just distract yourself even more, which is realistically not what you want to do.

Yaz:

No, I actually think that that is the best not to necessarily have sex with somebody else, but I actually do think the best way to get over someone is to get somebody else. And this is a new recent thought because of the situation, right, I'm not seeing anybody else, but it does just distract you 100% distracts you. And like and I'm not saying going and sleeping with somebody else if you don't want to like whatever, but it's just the talking to someone, cause I think that's what you miss.

Jacob:

It's the comfort. It's the comfort of having someone to sort of, yeah, at the end of the day, or whenever it just will go to bed to be like.

Yaz:

It's also weird to break up, cause you up, because you go from like knowing everything about this person or like the every day today, and then you go to nothing knowing their whole lives, to not knowing what the fuck they are, who the fuck they are anymore where they are, yeah it's very strange.

Jacob:

That's the thing.

Ilmz:

You're mourning someone who's very much alive, who's very much kind of like in your vicinity of life, like in your friendship groups or stuff like that.

Jacob:

It's weird the transition is nuts, it's. It is strange, but I guess it's part of life and it's fun. I I enjoy it now. But I've also what I've learned from all these different breakups and from like the last one. I've become so cold now with girls so I do traumatized which is because I just don't. Yeah, I don't want to let anyone in anymore yeah, yeah, everyone's very guarded.

Jacob:

now I've noticed Everyone, but I guess because everyone just thinks everyone's going to cheat on everyone. Like everyone's got such a bad picture of dating and relationships, everyone just goes oh, he's someone's going to cheat, which is terrifying to think that that's everyone's mindset now.

Yaz:

Yeah, it's true, isn't it? Well, that's you're one you're on with like the lying.

Jacob:

to be honest, yeah I was definitely the most honest on the show. That goes without a doubt fair like, yeah, well, I'm not afraid to be honest and tell people what I think, which ideally, I was hoping I'd be then match with someone that I'd actually want to be with, but that didn't happen yeah, but now, now you're gonna find somebody else, or you said already kind of yeah, sort of dating someone right now, but it's also that's got like a end date to it, which sort of makes no sense.

Jacob:

She's moving back to Australia, so we're sort of dating, having fun. But then it's like I'm now going through the mindset of do I want to get attached to her? Because if I get attached to them, what then? I have to just go fucking. Now it's goodbyes yeah, australia's very far yeah, not so I'd move, but it's also nuts to move for someone. Realistically, I don't think that's the right decision right now only you know.

Yaz:

Do boys go and talk to other boys when they're going through a breakup, or do they not even like discuss it?

Jacob:

Guys aren't very open about it. It's quite strange.

Yaz:

I'm very reserved.

Jacob:

Anyways, I won't really go and speak to anyone about my stuff. Well, my dating life, I keep it normally very private.

Yaz:

I'm like right now Dating show, dating podcast yeah, so it's changed recently. I'm normally very private, but that's gone out the window for some reason.

Jacob:

I'm normally very private, but that's gone out the window for some reason. But no, with guys we don't really communicate about it. I've got a few friends who will definitely phone me up when they have arguments with their girlfriends and sort of tell us what's going on. Not the breakup, not the actual no they never really go into details, they sort of try to just move past it, and they all actually speak really highly of their girls, even if they break up.

Yaz:

That's nice which?

Jacob:

is quite refreshing. But then I'd say my friends are just very nice guys, so they wouldn't, no matter what happens, they'd never bad mouth anyone.

Ilmz:

They're single.

Jacob:

Yeah, a few of them are.

Yaz:

There you go, Emma.

Jacob:

I was going to say there you go.

Yaz:

Oh, no, no no. Yeah, it's still traumatized.

Jacob:

Yeah, a bit fresh, I think.

Ilmz:

Yeah, yeah, I was like waiting for you to be like I'm just like yes, you're the one that's like oh, it's nice to have a distraction no, yes, yes, listen, it is but, but what? Come on, distract yourself.

Jacob:

No I can always introduce you no no, it's okay we can do like a three-way date are we allowed to bring the cameras?

Yaz:

the aftermath, then we're sat here all depressed from our breakup our situationship breakup and I'm like I hate Jacob for introducing us to his friends they're not nice if they're too with Jacob.

Ilmz:

Fuck you, jacob what have you done?

Yaz:

but yeah, okay. So you've had a breakup when it's been nice. You've had a breakup when you've kind of gone in and out multiple times. Does it just get easier when you've done like you've broken up a few times?

Jacob:

Yeah, it gets easier. But also now I'm in the mindset I'm not going to get in a relationship until it's the one Same I'm now.

Ilmz:

I'm not that as well.

Jacob:

I'm not at that age. But I'm at the age now where I do want to think about it a bit more and not really I'll date but not take it seriously until I know she's actually the one, and then I'll fully put all my eggs in one basket and then hopefully that will lead to no breakups.

Yaz:

I think you should put your eggs in lots of different baskets when you're first dating, like and spread yourself out, but I always find that too hard.

Ilmz:

It's tiring.

Yaz:

I'm like one person, I'm like wow.

Jacob:

Depends. How early on are we talking to them?

Yaz:

I'm like as soon as I meet them.

Jacob:

Oh yeah, that's way too soon. I'm very much yeah at the beginning. Yeah, spread, talk to lots of girls.

Yaz:

Not just at the beginning.

Jacob:

True, depending on the relationship. But yeah, no, definitely I'm a believer in you should be talking to loads of people at the start just to sort of make sure that she's the one who stands out. It really shows that she is it's like a job interview. It is the best candidate win but it is if she's going to be, or he is going to be the one for, potentially, the rest of your life yeah, you want to make sure you don't want to just jump in bed with that one person, I think yeah, that's gonna work for no

Yaz:

reason ever regretted something after a breakup like the way you've reacted, maybe yeah the way that you've reacted. Obviously you've regretted things, but I mean like you've said something or you've done something and been like, oh, I probably shouldn't have done that or you should have been like I wish I did it worse I don't actually know.

Jacob:

I don't think I've ever regretted anything. I don't. I try not to regret anything anyways, in life fair. I think that's the best way to be you do everything for a reason, like unless you're very drunk, which then obviously takes a bit of control of you.

Yaz:

But no, I don't believe in regret so what would you do if, you like, couldn't let go of someone?

Jacob:

if you can't let go of someone, well you just that one's a lot of work.

Jacob:

Then you've got to self-improve and on yourself no, that is literally like therapy yeah, yeah, like deep therapy yeah, or you just find a passion or something that you'd like to do like a lot of people's gymming, like I turned to yeah, I turned to the gym after my breakup and just found another sport and since that's all I really that's all I seem to care about now, like I'll prioritize gymming over going on dates and talking to girls, because I think it's just so much. It's such a better way to release yourself.

Ilmz:

It's better for your body, because you're not drinking so much.

Yaz:

Yeah, just better, in every single aspect you feel so good after you work out.

Jacob:

Yeah, so I would just 100, 100 recommend sport. But that's for me some people go to.

Yaz:

People go to alcohol people get food. So yeah, it really depends what would you say to somebody going through a breakup right now?

Jacob:

oh gosh, good luck.

Ilmz:

I'm not jealous, sucks to be you.

Jacob:

I'm glad I'm not in your shoes right now. Sorry about that.

Ilmz:

Out of all your relationships, what's like the biggest takeaway.

Jacob:

It could be about yourself, or it could be about how you see other people. Biggest takeaway from it would probably be you gotta love yourself before you can actually fully love them, just because, if you don't like, now I'm in this place where I could probably find the love of my life because I'm so comfortable and happy with who I am previously I wasn't. I had so many insecurities I didn't know of and flaws that I didn't know, so obviously I put them on them and which?

Ilmz:

is so destructive?

Jacob:

yeah, it just doesn't work in a relationship, because then you put everything on them and then unfortunately they receive the shit end of it don't you reckon the second?

Ilmz:

you love yourself.

Jacob:

Everything just seems more clearer and like you seem to attract, like the better person for you yeah, recently I've had a lot of attention, but you can easily say no to the wrong people kind of thing now, as opposed to just saying yes because for the sake of them being attractive yeah, you don't just entertain anyone anymore, you can be a bit more selective with loving yourself attracts the right people, and I've had that recently. And obviously, like I said, I'm sort of dating a girl and on paper I think she's perfect to a t for me.

Jacob:

So the only flaw is with her is she freaking, moves away soon, and it is so that's where I'm maybe love will take you to australia, oh yeah I would consider it, but it is just like that is a big move yeah, but you don't have to decide straight away no, I've got a bit of time, but it is. Yeah, you gotta fully be comfortable with who you are now to make sure that person gets the best side of you, because realistically you don't want that person to have a shit side of you, and then the relationship's just gonna be toxic absolutely not.

Ilmz:

They don't deserve it. No, yeah, and it's vice versa. You sort of hope.

Jacob:

The person you're getting with or dating is also in love with themselves.

Yaz:

Yeah, that's actually something now like my ex-boyfriend still hard to say, but like my ex-boyfriend, um, he like I didn't love myself before I dated him and the moment I started to love myself, I like met him. Yeah, so it's like funny, isn't it?

Jacob:

you do? You just attract the right people and, like, I've even just through like young social media, but I've noticed that a lot more girls are showing attention but do you think this is the tv show? I don't. Well, I think it's a mixture just a mixture and just I'm living such a nicer, better, more active, fun life do you have any dating red flags?

Yaz:

I mean, you sound a little bit like a red flag, but not I was, I was.

Jacob:

You're changed, I'm 100% changed because he loves himself I'm a walking huge green flag now okay, what's green?

Ilmz:

give us the five green points loving.

Jacob:

We're super caring, uh, super like self-aware, very chivalrous. When you walk on the side of the road, I'm always the one on the side of the road.

Yaz:

She's on the inner part that is good, that is a.

Jacob:

That is a big point yeah, um, hold another good flight or some green flies got two more I love to cook okay and I'm very much the one wake up in the morning, make the bed, coffees, everything. It's obviously great to wake up next to um, I don't know, I don't know, love, what I'm just gonna, I don't know you're nice and you're fun.

Yaz:

Yeah, there we go, thank you the male breakup diet gymming sobriety you can't get hungry because girls normally for a lot of the time, like the first we lose our appetite after breakup for me.

Jacob:

No, my breakups have all led to all different things. The first one was a lot of alcohol. Second one was just about fitness and sort of became more self-aware of myself and more, I guess, vain, in the sense that I was like, fuck it, I'm gonna improve and I'm gonna become so much better and try to. I sort of journaled in a way that I just wrote down all my what I thought were my flaws and I was like right, I need to change as many as I can of these and improve as many of these what were the flaws that you were focusing on?

Jacob:

well, a lot of them were. My main one was actually financial. I was my last relationship. I was very uptight and then as soon as it ended, I was like fuck it, I've got lots more cash now so I can just have fun. So I actually just ended up spending a lot more and not really caring and being less frugal and then working out I was. I got so addicted that I became unhealthy, but so I transformed that into more of a healthy obsession, not an unhealthy one. Same with my food I calorie count which wasn't balancing to the amount I was working out. So I sort of changed that and just relaxed on food.

Yaz:

So sort of, yeah, just everything and just be less stressful and just more, go with the flow sort of person that's so nice yeah that's very inspiring, yeah and it's so good that you're so self-aware and like actually are taking the time to reflect your previous relationships and, hopefully, take it as lessons for the future.

Jacob:

Yeah, the thing is you sort of have to to move forward in life. You can't sort of hold on and begrudge what's happened and obviously there were flaws in well, both parties of the relationship, so can't blame it 100% on the other partner. So you've got to realize you had some, so you might as well try and change those.

Ilmz:

Absolutely. You've only got control of like how you act?

Jacob:

yeah, yeah, so that's what I did well, thank you my god, so insightful.

Ilmz:

We really appreciate your wisdom.

Yaz:

It's been so refreshing it started a little bit toxic and then it's gone full circle, yeah you've worn us at the end. I know no wonder all those girls are sliding in like, oh, let's go, I'm next.

Jacob:

Thank you so much for being on the breakup diet, Jacob. It's been the best.

Ilmz:

Yeah, it's been brilliant.

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Ilma Shahrene

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Yasmin Misner

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Jacob Price

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