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Hello and welcome back to another episode of Train for a Great Life. I want to pass on kind of a summary of an awesome conversation that I was part of yesterday, which you know as this is being recorded. Yesterday was Wednesday, january 29th 2025. You'll be hearing it later, so the conversation, to give it a little bit of context was within a one-hour Zoom call that I'm part of every Wednesday in the Two Brain Tinker Mastermind Group. So basically what that is is Two Brain Business is the company that I've been working for for seven years but also been a client of for nine or 10 years now.

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It's gym mentorship, it's learning how to run a better fitness business from a ton of different aspects. When you sort of reach a certain level where you know more things are becoming available to you. I guess it's another level of growth. You can go into a mastermind, which there's, I think, just under 100 people. It's the thing that Lacey and I will travel to every quarter. Anyway, on Wednesdays there's one-hour calls and there's breakout rooms in the Zoom room and they focus on the four pillars of the program Leadership, scale, wealth and lifestyle. So leadership all about solving problems, how to become better leaders, because that's arguably the most important skill at this point in where you're at Scale how to scale. For some it means multiple locations, for other it means hiring and learning how to do more with one location. Wealth, learning about financial education, all sorts of different methods of investing and so many branches off of that. And then lifestyle how to craft the life that you want, and that's where I spent my time yesterday and where I do from time to time.

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I really enjoy the conversations in there and we had a solid group and we had a lot of fun. We're having a conversation and a guy named Sean popped up and he asked some great questions. He really kind of gets us going deep sometimes and he asked everybody we went around the room what does your version of success look like and are you currently living it? And, as you can imagine, it was kind of silent for a bit. People were kind of really going internal and thinking about this. This wasn't something we were prompted to have an answer for and it's going to be something that is going to change probably somewhat often, especially over the course of your life as you go through different phases, and we came up with all sorts of answers.

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I'm going to try to recall mine as best I can. My answers were that my work feels like helping people and connecting, which is just naturally what I like to do. Right, I mean the whole like work. Not feeling like work, I mean it's whatever you can go down that path, but it's things that I just naturally like to do. Not having to answer to people or spend time with people that drain me, that's a big one.

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Feeling like the overall direction of life is good. Right, there's ups and downs, stress, hard things, but just overall, you know, most of your days are pointed in a good direction Having some level of freedom of time, being able to prioritize, spending time with my family, especially with kids at a young age, and having outlets to be creative and to challenge myself. That was what I came up with as a version of success for me, and we went around. And then the follow-up question was how do you maximize living in it each and every day and not get lost in the endless race for more and to-do lists and distractions, et cetera? And what we kind of came up with as a group was this umbrella of self-awareness and self-reflection. Right so, awareness, having boundaries, both for yourself and for other people, priorities, living intentionally, self-reflection, having decision-making filters, so like, how does a new thing impact the current state of your life, both good and bad? It could be a great thing. It could be a thing that takes you off course, both good and bad. It could be a great thing. It could be a thing that takes you off course and also appreciating freedom right Now. I want to go back because it was cool. It was a really cool discussion, but I want to go back because there was someone who spoke after me in giving her answer of what success looks like and to give some context.

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She's a gym owner named Katie, who I've been working with personally for over a year over a year and a half actually. She's a gym owner of over 10 years and when we first met she was basically getting close to closing the gym. It was like either I joined this thing to reign and I was her business mentor and it works, or it probably doesn't. It was too much work, it wasn't providing enough. She was getting pulled in all sorts of different directions and she didn't have enough time for her family and has young kids. In the last year she's bought her first house, taken her family to Hawaii and, two months ago, joined me in the mastermind group in Tumorine.

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Many of us were along the same lines, but she added something that I immediately thought oh my god, that is it. And she said I feel like I'm able to dream. I'm a pretty big believer that your mind is the most powerful tool that you have. It's the beginning and end of everything. It's how you process things and how you make sense of the world, and why two people can look at the same thing and have completely different takeaways or opinions.

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If you're not able to first dream about something becoming reality, I don't understand how you'll find a way to live it. You'll find you'll come in, you could come into good fortune or this or that, but ultimately your mind will cause you to return to a place where you feel you should be. So maybe in a business like ours, a service business, you believe no one can do it as good as you, and so you don't hire. You don't hire staff, you wear all the hats, you work yourself to the bone and you do everything suboptimally without realizing it. Or you struggle financially and so you project that onto people and you have prices that keep you just hovering above poverty, or you believe that everyone in your town is a certain way and believe a certain thing, and that your idea won't work with them, or that you could never level yourself up to a certain role because you don't have the skills. Meanwhile, you're probably thinking of yourself, a version of yourself from years back, and not giving yourself the credit of how far you've come along.

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Being able to dream has changed my life in so many, so many times and in so many ways. I'm a huge Dave Chappelle fan and if you watch his most recent special that came out toward the end of 2023, called the Dreamer, he says in a pretty powerful monologue toward the end, which in no way will land without context of the whole show, so I'd encourage you to watch it. But the line is this In your life, at any given moment, the strongest dream in that moment wins that moment. I can tell you from experience when you give yourself permission to dream really dream and you go for it, and you find notes later on or goals that you'd written down five and ten years ago, you may even find that the dreams you had then seem small now by comparison. See you in the gym.