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Hello and welcome back to another episode of Train for a Great Life. Sometimes I pass along stories and original thoughts in my head, sometimes I pass on things that have been influenced by other things, and sometimes I'm just going to pass along something that I think is important to lean into, and today is going to be one of those, along with some of my thoughts on it. So I recently picked up a book. It is called the Five Types of Wealth by Sahil Bloom. I'd seen it recommended from a few people that I really respect and I bought it. It sat on my desk for a little while.

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I was asked again by someone in the gym hey, have you read this? And I was like you know what? I think it's time to crack it. And so before I did I, I had like a little overview of the of the contents. And so there's there's five areas of the book and I am going to get into something rather than just passing along what you can see on the book in a second. There's there's five sections and then at the top of each there's a header that says the big question. And when I read these I was like, oh yeah, I'm going to like this. So there's time.

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Wealth the big question. How many moments do you have remaining with your loved ones? Social wealth the big question. Who will be sitting in the front row at your funeral? Mental wealth the big question what would you tell your 10-year-old self? What would your 10-year-old self say to you today, sorry. Physical wealth the big question Will you be dancing at your 80th birthday party? And financial wealth the big question. What is your definition of enough Right? So if you've been listening along to any amount of episodes of this, I'm sure you're not surprised that I like to lean into those things.

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What did surprise me was, before we even got to that there was an exercise on page somewhere in the 30s called the Life Razor, and again I'm going to pass along a little bit from here. So basically, in the study of philosophy, the term razor denotes any principle that allows you to quickly remove unlikely explanations or avoid unnecessary steps. It allows you to metaphorically shave away unneeded explanations or actions. Today the term is broadly applied as a rule of thumb that simplifies decision making. Goes on to give some well-known razors Occam's razor is the first one. Hanlon's razor, hitchens razor okay. And he goes on to tell a story about the ceo of netflix, mark randolph, okay, never miss a tuesday dinner and goes on to explain that, that story and why that's important to him and how it changes his life.

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I did this exercise on the plane to nashville and, like you know what I'm, rather than just reading through this and reading into page 40. And so on, I'm actually going to do the exercise and so I put the book down and I thought about it for a little bit and my life razor is I'm a man that prioritizes his wife, her happiness, well being and needs. I love my kids and I would do anything for them, but I prioritize my wife because she is the center of my world and the lifeblood of my own well-being. And how I came to that. We've been together for over 18 years now and in the course of over the course of a relationship that long, you know if you're anywhere similar, there's ups, there's downs's great times and there's times where you're trying to work through some things. And I have noticed, and we have, you know, we have worked through things and I went when, when we do that for each other, everything else just falls into place like, and and I'm not gonna, I'm not the person that's like, hey, you go first and I'll respond or react to that. I'll, I'll, I'll try my best to lead, and. And so when I do that, I mean I, my confidence is high, meaning, like you know, things that I have to do related to our business seem easy. Um, I, I just have a. I have a confidence about me as a partner and as a husband, which then leads to just taking better care of myself and doing things like healthy habits that are good for me, right? So the whole idea is that you're finding something that is controllable, should be within your direct control. It's ripple creating. It should have positive second order effects in other areas of life and it's identity defining. It should be indicative of the type of person you are and the way your ideal self shows up in the world. I would really encourage you to do this and even to pick up the book. This was further reaffirmed.

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I had some amazing conversations in Nashville with the Two Brain Tinker group, one of which was on the last day at a coffee shop an hour before we had to leave for the flight. We had a little bit of time, so six of us just took a little walk, went to the coffee shop and we were talking about a walk, went to the coffee shop and we were talking about relationships and fatherhood. You know, if there was, one of the guys in the group is about to become a dad in July, and then there's others that are, you know, 10 years further down the road and everything in between. And the guy to my left, dan, who I've known for a few years now again really, really interesting, introspective guy. He we were talking about the idea of, like a relationship getting off track and it's never. It's never a big thing at first, it's like. It's like the two degrees of separation right, but two degrees of separation, you know, on day one is nothing. Two degrees of separation after two years is an entirely different thing.

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And he said something that I've never heard it said quite before this way. He said that in long-term relationships we, we can over leverage our partner, and what he meant by that was even the more stable, that that relationship is right, you think that that person's always going to be there and you think that you know that it's always going to be. You know, top notch and, and meaning by over leverage, you just you do the things that you wouldn't necessarily do, like in the beginning when you first meet this person, when you're trying to, like, impress them and show up as best as you possibly can I mean, really, to put it bluntly over leveraging means you're making the bet that they're not going to leave you right. And so it's a really interesting thought and something that I hadn't heard. And I asked him I'm like man, where did you, did you pick that up? Is that original thought? Like what is that? And he looked at me and he's like that is hours and hours of running on the trails. You know where you go to work things out in your head. So I hope this was helpful.

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I would 100% recommend picking up the book. Hope this was helpful. I would 100% recommend picking up the book. Um, it's also something. It's. It's a book that, like, you could just read it and put it back on the shelf and and and it's not going to change anything. But if you, if you truly take some of these um stories and exercises and take them a heart and do them and understand that, like, we're all not that different, like me, you, the person writing this book yeah, people are wired different in different ways, but there's things that, uh, ultimately, when, when it comes down to like what's important. Hopefully they're not all that dissimilar and I think this book starts to really hit on that stuff. I'll see you in the gym.