Speaker 1: 0:02

Hello, welcome back to another episode of Train for a Great Life. I'm going to keep on the same theme that the last couple have been in getting unstuck, and we're going to talk through a couple of things and then later on the week I'm going to switch gears to sort of a different topic, which I will touch on toward the end of this. So so stay tuned. Today I'm going to talk about something that holds people back, and it's the belief that life needs to be hard. Okay, which, okay? Life can be hard. Life is hard. There are real challenges, okay, but I hope that you recognize this when I say it, and if you don't, maybe this is you but there are people that just make life look so hard, and I'm not talking about people that have been thrown like absolute dire circumstances. I mean people that seem to be doing really well, you know by a lot of um, a lot of measures, a lot of counts, but when you ask them how they're doing, there's just always a problem. There's always something, there's always the schedule, there's no time, or they're tired, or this and that. Okay, um, so we're going to touch on these things, okay. So, cause I think there's there's two things that really that that really influenced that? Okay. So number one is rigidity versus fluidity.

Speaker 1: 1:37

Okay, my mind goes to parenting, and I see this happen sometimes in our postnatal program at the gym. You can see that there's people that are just very uncomfortable with any little change, and then there's others that just roll with it. So we're talking about, like, baby's nap schedules. You can say the same thing about children's's nap schedules, okay, um, let's, you can say the same thing about, um, children's bedtimes. Right, and hey look, I'm, I have young kids. I'm all for a consistent bedtime. It is a good thing, but sometimes things just need to shift, right. And if you're having, if you're out having a great time with friends or whatever families are getting together, um, you know, is it, is it bedtime at 7 30 or do you hang out until 10 o'clock and just let the kid be tired and sleep in a little bit the next day? And in doing so, you and your partner get to enjoy that night for what it is and you get the enjoyment, okay. So there's this.

Speaker 1: 2:48

I think the rigidity comes from like too much focus on the kid or the baby or the other thing, and and not enough focus on your own life and your and your life with your partner. Okay, so, if you remember a bunch of episodes back, I talked about a life razor. Mine is that I am a husband, that I I tend to my wife's needs and I keep her happy, and there's a lot of branches of that. Um, that serves me, her and our kids and everybody around us very, very well. Okay, um, you know, if the nap is delayed by an hour, suddenly you know the whole day's off kilter, like we have a four and a half month old right now. It happens Like yesterday he missed his big afternoon nap and he's a little tired for a while in the evening. And you know now he slept through the night, or almost through the night. He's up once or twice, but he's good. Right, like it, it gets back on track.

Speaker 1: 3:50

Okay, the truth is that the life very rarely fits into these neatly defined blocks. Okay, I think too much rigidity is going to lead to frustration. So think about being fluid. Go with the flow, right. Routine and structure are great, necessary. We need structure, okay, but you need to be prepared to flex and adapt. Okay, maybe dinner plans shift, maybe your workout happens at a different time than you thought. Right Today, my schedule just works out that I am not able to hit a class at our gym. Today's a workout day for me, so I'm going in the afternoon by myself. The more you can roll with these changes, the less friction you'll encounter. Rigidity might feel secure. Fluidity is freedom. Friction lives in your mind and it will stay there.

Speaker 1: 4:46

The next one is the myth of unique problems. One of the most damaging beliefs that you can hold is that your struggles are uniquely yours. No one's ever faced something similar and let alone overcome it. Okay, reality is that almost nothing that you're experiencing is entirely new. Okay, there's nuances to it, sure, and it's the first time that you have experienced it. Maybe, right, stress at work, balancing family life, maintaining fitness, managing money, universal challenges Okay, and this is not to diminish those. It is to reassure you that somebody, somewhere likely very close to you, has solved the problem that you're facing. Very close to you has solved the problem that you're facing, and they can. They can share lessons with you which, again, I'll present these as like two dimensional lessons, and until you learn them on your own, then they become three dimensional lessons because you're living in them.

Speaker 1: 5:48

Okay, um, but the these problems are are seldomly unique, okay, um, when we do think that we we tend to isolate and we tend to just live and spin in our head and, like you know, sometimes the best thing that you can do is is just ask for help. Or even I know for me sometimes just, and for me sometimes just not necessarily asking for help, but just talking with my wife. Once I say some of the things in my head, they sound not ridiculous, but like, as you talk through it, you know what the answer is. You lead yourself to the answer. Okay, so then it's action, journaling. You know, if you don't want to talk with someone, just journal, just talk, let your thoughts flow, and before you realize that the flow of what's coming out of your hand with a pen or like your fingertips, typing, is different, right, you solve problems. When you actually write it down or speak it out loud, the narrative has to change because you're actually getting it out of your head. When it's in your head, it's very, very messy and it ruminates and it sort of cycles on itself. Okay, so, ask for help, journal, write it down.

Speaker 1: 7:08

Even when we acknowledge that others have faced similar struggles, we often hesitate to seek help. Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness. It shows wisdom, humility and self-awareness. It speeds up solutions, makes life easier and it fosters connection. Right, when you talk with someone, do not feel more connected to them afterward, right? I had a situation last week or someone felt embarrassed after you know talking and this. And that it's not embarrassing. It's just a thing.

Speaker 1: 7:38

Life happens. Life is hard. Okay, talk about it, let's get through it. Um, if someone in your circle knows how to, like, streamline meal prep or handle time management with kids, or or do bedtime routines better or integrate fitness into a busy schedule, ask them, learn from them. Okay, there's coaches and mentors, services and even friends who hold pieces of the puzzle that you might be missing.

Speaker 1: 8:04

Okay, the greatest leaps forward in life often come from simply asking the right question, the right person, the right question at the right time. Okay, so don't be stuck believing that life has to be harder than it is. Life is to be enjoyed. It is to find the joy. Okay, don't be one of these people that just make it look so hard. Embrace flexibility, recognize your problems are not common and have the courage to like, ask for help, talk, okay, you'll find yourself not just surviving but thriving. Okay, so we've hit on a lot of personal accountability habits um, getting unstuck, I'm going to switch gears. So, again, training for a great life.

Speaker 1: 8:52

It is placing a focus in different areas of life that are going to move the needle forward, and one that I'm going to start to talk about a little bit again is the financial piece. Um, one of the hardest times in my life has been living with constant financial stress and and so I want to share quickly, because I did tell this story in full way back. I'll share quickly how we got out of it, and then this is we're talking. 10 years ago was the big shift, and I'll also talk about some things that I'm doing now to build cash flow, wealth and security for later on.

Speaker 1: 9:36

So some of this stuff is going to be a little bit more conventional. Some of it is going to be conventional from a sense of you still need to be educated, and then some of it's going to be non-conventional. So, again, my circle is I'm learning from other business owners, and so some of this stuff might not necessarily apply to everybody, but I think it's still interesting to just understand, like, what is out there, because there's still so much I know so much stuff out there that other people are doing, that I'm not doing and that I don't even know exists. Okay, so I'm just going to touch on a few things and if you have questions on these things, just like shoot me, shoot me messages and I'll do my best to point you in the direction of some sort of resource I will see in the gym.