On Happiness.

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Welcome and Introduction

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Hello and welcome back to another episode of Train for a Great Life , where we dig into things that truly matter fitness , family finances , and not just for the sake of success , but to build something deeper and a life that feels good from the inside out , rep by rep . You are there , he is . You're absolutely going to hear my little guy , calvin , in the background . He is five months old and just kind of learning that making sounds is pretty fun , so don't be distracted , it's pretty cute

Happiness as a Moving Target

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. Today I want to talk about something that rattles around in my head from time to time . It's the subject of a book I'm reading right now and a great interview that I saw recently . Have you ever noticed how we've made happiness and achieving happiness a moving target and very outwardly focused ? I don't think we're on a good track with that . Some examples vehicles are bigger , houses are bigger , people think . You know people need and want more . Jewelry sales are up since the boom of social media in the 2010s . We chase careers and fitness goals and money and success and admiration , all with the belief that once we finally get there , we'll feel complete , like happiness is a prize at the end of this effort . But what if the prize doesn't deliver . Okay , the interview that I saw , you may have seen

Scotty Scheffler's Perspective on Fulfillment

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it as well .

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Scotty Scheffler , the world number one in golf , three-time major winner , a literal master of his craft , sat down in a pre-tournament interview this week and basically said this life does not fulfill me . There's Calvin and he wasn't being negative , he was being real . He said I have worked my whole life to become great at this . I went at the Byron Nelson at home . This feels amazing . I hug my family , I cry a little bit , I feel the joy and then we are figuring out what to eat for dinner and that's it . He wasn't diminishing his accomplishments . He loves golf , he loves to compete , compete . But he said outright this is not the place to look for your satisfaction .

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The interview went on and people at first didn't know how to take him . Is he being serious ? Is he joking ? Is he ungrateful ? But if you listen to the words he's saying and rid your mind of the idea of this mega rich , world-class athlete saying that he doesn't derive meaning from the thing that got him rich , there may just be something there . He should , by all accounts , be happy all the time . Of course he's not . He went on to say this is not a fulfilling life from the deepest places of your heart . He even said if the game ever got in the way of him being a good husband or father , he'd walk away no hesitation . Look around how many people grind endlessly in their work , in the gym , in business , hoping for the one big win to finally feel like enough . Maybe it's you . I bet it has been at least a few times , if you're being honest with yourself . I know it has been for me . And yet here's someone who has achieved it all in his field saying it's not enough , not on its own .

Happy Sexy Millionaire Insights

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One of the books I'm reading right now is called Happy , sexy Millionaire by Stephen Bartlett . The title is kind of funny , definitely eye-catching , but basically he goes on to tell the story of becoming super rich , well-known and externally successful , only to realize that he was still anxious , insecure and still felt hollow . He says something powerful . The life that I was chasing was making me miserable and the version of myself that I became in that chase I didn't even like . Both men Bartlett and Scheffler got the thing that they were supposed to want , but instead of euphoria they found emptiness . Here's the beautiful part , and it's the real message behind Scheffler's words that I don't want us to miss .

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Because while he said winning isn't fulfilling , he also did share what is His marriage , his family , his faith , the joy of showing up as a husband , soon to be dad . He said if he had to choose between golf and being there for his family , it's not even a question . He finds meaning in how he treats people , in the way he lives his life , in being grounded in something deeper than performance , still works hard , still trains , still loves the challenge , perfecting his craft , but he's not pretending that it fills his soul , and there's such an important distinction there . Success can be very rewarding , but it doesn't have to be your source of happiness , and it shouldn't be so . It kind of got me thinking . What are we collectively

Finding True Meaning

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aiming at ? Are we chasing success or depth ? Do we feel ? Do we believe we'll feel better once we finally hit a goal , weight , or get a promotion or build a business ? And okay , and then what ? What's for dinner ? Let me offer this .

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True fulfillment lies in the quiet corners . It's stuff that doesn't get headlines and it's stuff that you wouldn't post to social media . It's the moments just for you . It's being present with your spouse , truly present , like those moments where you both are on the same wavelength , that nothing else is going on , nothing else matters . It's laughing with your kids uncontrollably . It's building a life with intention . It's feeling peace in your own skin , whether you have won or lost that day .

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In Happy Sexy Millionaire , bartlett talks about how we've been chasing the wrong metrics money , beauty and fame . But the people who actually have those things are often no happier . Sometimes they're even more miserable . Miserable because they are caught in the conundrum that they think they should be happy . But why ? Happiness isn't about getting everything that you want . It's about being someone that you like while doing something that matters . Scheffler said he loves the game , loves what he does . But he also said this sometimes I just don't understand the point . The feeling of winning doesn't last that long , not more than a couple of minutes . So where does he find meaning ? He answered that pretty clearly Family , love , character , purpose and his faith . Thank you for hanging out today . If this stirred something up in you , shoot me a message . Share with a friend . Let's keep having these conversations

Redefining What It Means to Win

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. Let's redefine what it means to win . The goal isn't just an outwardly appearing successful life . It is a great life on your terms and it has to be trained for . See you in the gym .