Turning Losses To Wins

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Welcome and Mindset Introduction

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Hello and welcome back to another episode of Train for Great Life . Today I'm going to talk about a mindset shift that's had a huge impact on how I see the world , how I deal with setbacks , curveballs or just stuff that doesn't go to plan . It is what helps turn losses into wins for me quickly , and it's the idea that life isn't happening to you . It is happening for you . On paper sounds pretty cliche . I'm going to give you two examples me quickly . And it's the idea that life isn't happening to you . It is happening for you On paper sounds pretty cliche . I'm going to give you two examples , very real examples for me , and let's talk about the difference , so , between seeing something as a loss and then finding a

Life Happening For You

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win . That's like buried inside of it . The examples I'm going to use are what is front and center for me right now . It's my boys and parenthood .

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Growing up , I always thought I would have kids young . I don't know why . I just that's what I envisioned . I thought it would be so cool to be the young dad , still super athletic , active , full of energy , ripping around with my kids like kind of while I'm in my prime . That was this vision . I had this mental timeline , like by the time I'm 50 , I'll have kids that are in their 20s , maybe , you know , starting to get into their own adult lives and of course it is not what happens . Not at all . I'm 41 now . I am athletic , I am active

Parenthood Later Than Expected

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and I am full of energy , am athletic , I am active and I am full of energy . But I'm also 41 . I have a four year old and a five month old and so I'm not the young dad . I am a little bit more seasoned . I have a few more creaks than I did in my 20s and it's just not sort of what I this vision that I had when I was younger . Now again , I've had a lot of time to process that and change it along the way , but I could have looked at , like , what didn't happen and seen it as a miss . But I've learned to reframe it , not because it's easy , it's because it is powerful . I have to look for the wins right , so the wins are more established . My wife and I are stronger , wiser , more grounded than we were a decade ago . I get to raise my boys from a place of stability and tension and presence that I might not have had back then and you know I can say definitely did not have back then , I can't say for sure how life would have gone , but I can say that I love how it is going .

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Another example , same world parenthood

Siblings Spacing as a Gift

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. When we did eventually have Leonardo , we really hoped for a sibling and we wanted them to be close in age . The dream was to have , you know , maybe more than two , but , you know , have them close in age , thick as thieves , sharing things at the same time , doing sports together , kind of being inseparable , you know . But life has a different plan . Our boys are three and a half years apart , which isn't massive , but it's enough that they won't be in the same phases at the same time .

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The win and what I'm focused on Leonardo , our oldest , got three and a half beautiful years of undivided attention and we got to truly know him on his own . Now that he's older , we get to involve him in the process of being a big brother . He understands way more what's happening . He's thoughtful and helpful . He's not a toddler competing for attention . He's part of the team . That wouldn't have been the case if things have gone , or if things went how we sort of originally imagined . Right , and that's the thread that I keep pulling

Finding Your Own Wins

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on .

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What if this delay was a gift . What if this loss was a setup for something better ? You don't have to love the hard thing that you're going through in your life , but if you can find a way to figure out what's the win here , you start to be , you start to shift from being a passive passenger in your life to being the author and the driver . So , if you're listening , think about something in your life right now or in the past that didn't go how you expected . Plan that fell through , goal that took longer . You know a moment that felt like a loss .

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Where's the win ? Maybe it taught you patience . Maybe it protected you from something that you didn't even know was coming . Maybe it led you to something that's actually better . The quicker you can start to see the win , the hidden opportunity , the better off you will be can start to see the win , the hidden opportunity , the better off you will be , because your mindset and how you view things and how you show up is the real strength . This is how you train for a great life . Thank you for listening . Till next time , keep showing up , keep looking for the win , and I will see you in the gym .