LOVE ON THE LADIES

ENCOURAGEMENT

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SPEAKER_01 0:26

Let's go. Yeah. I know it's been a minute. I know it's been a minute. Yeah. Warriors. How are you doing? What's going on? How's your spirit today? How's your body today? What is your mindset? Yeah. What is your mindset today, Warrior? Huh? Well, that's for me. I just want to say thank you for taking any moments of your time to listen to this. But while you're here, I just want to remind you, if you can hear my voice right now, you are on a positive trajectory to get to your blessings. Yeah. So I want you to walk in and come in right now. Drop your sword for a minute. Take off your armor for a minute. Breathe in. Breathe out. Breathe in. Breathe out. Yeah. Relax. You can take your armor off. You're now among friends. You are now among those like you. Warriors who fight every day just to do things the way they need to do them. Warriors that sometimes have to go against the flow to get what they need, right? Warriors that fight for those things that are right. Even when no one wants to help you, right? Yeah. Even when you have to go through the battle alone. But see, that's why you're here. I want you to understand that you never go through the battle alone. But there are those of us who can be your advocate. Because we are like you. See, warriors don't go through the motions, right? They are very deliberate in everything that they do. Why? Because we have a goal. And we take care of the things that we are in control of. And the things that we aren't in control of, we just keep moving. Yeah. Study it and improve. Until we come up with a plan. As I mentioned before, we can go around to the left. We can go around to the right. We can go over the obstacle. Oh my favorite. We can go through the obstacle. Yeah. We can go through the obstacle. So being courageous, warrior. You aren't alone in this battle. You aren't alone in this battle. Yeah. Now this week. I want to tell you why. I decided to do something on the topic that I'm going to be discussing today. Lately, here in America, there have been many instances where domestic violence turned into a partner leaving the relationship, but coming back. And in some cases, unaliving their ex-spouse, girlfriend, or partner. This is something very important to me. Yes, family. This is a heavy topic, but you know what? We have to watch out for some things, right? Even as warriors, we have to make sure we look at our surroundings, assess situations, look for red flags and things of this nature, right? Yeah. Alright. So the first term that is associated with domestic violence towards women, especially, is called exercise. While it describes the fact, in a clinical or legal context, it is often used to categorize the specific motive or pattern of the offender. We also have intimate partner homicide. This is the broader modern term used by medical professionals, sociologists, and law enforcement. It refers to the underliving of a current or former spouse or non-marital partner, such as girlfriend or boyfriend. Then we have another branch of this type of domestic violence. It is called femicide. Excuse me, or unaliving of women and girls precisely because they are female. When committed by a husband or boyfriend, it is often called intimate femicide. While USI describes the event, medical and psychological professionals often look for underlying patterns or syndromes that might be present, though there are not names for the men themselves. Some of the reasons they believe this occurs is morbid jealousy or Othello syndrome. It's a psychological disorder where a person is preoccupied with the irrational belief that the partner is being unfaithful. How many of us know someone who has been in that situation? Some of you warriors may have been in that situation. But if you listen to my voice, I'm thankful that you may have gotten out of it. Again, morbid jealousy is a psychological disorder where a person is preoccupied with the irrational belief that their partner is being unfaithful. This is frequently cited in clinical studies of intimate partner on a library. There is also uncontrolled hostility. And that is a personality dynamic sometimes found in offenders who appear extremely passive or normal until they reach a breaking point and commit a violent act. Man. And then we have the domestic tyrant pattern. This is a profile that is often used in behavioral analysts to describe offenders who use lethal violence as the ultimate exertion of power and control. My my the world we live in. Me personally, I don't understand why someone would choose to do something like this instead of leaving and finding someone else. Let's delve into this a little bit. Intimate femicide is a specific classification used in criminology and sociology to describe the killing of a woman by a current or former intimate partner. This includes husbands, boyfriends, or even former dating partners. While homicide is a general legal term for any unaliving, intimate femicide highlights the motive and context are rooted in gender-based violence and the dynamics of a relationship. Key characteristics of intimate femicide. Almost exclusively a current or former male partner. It can also include family members like a son or father and some academic definitions. But it primaries primarily focuses on romantic or sexual partners. Let's talk about the content of control. It is rarely a random act of passion. Instead, it is usually the final lethal escalation of a long-term pattern of coercive control, domestic abuse, or stalking. How many of us have heard about famous people, performers being stalked by people? But it happens to us regular folk as well, Warrior. That's why, as a warrior, we understand that we have to survey our area. We have to see if we can who our enemy is and think about ways that we can protect ourselves if we find that we have to do an exit strategy. And sometimes that's what we need to do. Sometimes we just need to go, right? Sometimes we just have to say, enough is enough. It's time to go. Enough it's enough. It's time to go. Enough it's enough. It's time to go. You know what I'm saying? I know you do. Because not only are you strong, not only can you fight, but you are intelligent. You can comprehend something. Common motives concerning her. Sorry, that often preclude intimate femicides, such as the perpetrator's access to a firearm, a history of strangulation, which is a major predictor of future lethal violence, extreme jealousy or Othello syndrome, threats of suicide by the perpetrator, frequently leading to femicide suicide events. This term is used by organizations like the World Health Organization, Who, and the United Nations to track global statistics and develop prevention strategies specifically for domestic violence. Another term we're going to use today is Othello syndrome, which is also known as morbid, pathological, or delusional jealousy. And it is a psychiatric disorder categorized by a delusional belief that one's partner is being unfaithful, as mentioned. It is named after the protagonist in Shakespeare's play Othello, who underlives his wife. In a clinical context, the individual is often preoccupied with finding evidence of cheating, often interpreting mundane events like a wrong number, phone call, or polite smile to a stranger as definitive proof of betrayal. Ain't that interesting? Things we do, regular things we do every day. If we're just walking somewhere and we see a stranger and they're like, Hi, how are you? And you speak back in kind. Someone with this mentality will take that as you're cheating on them. Ladies, please, please watch for the red flags. Now these are key psychological features of Othello syndrome. One is delusional certainty. The person is a hundred percent convinced of the infidelity and cannot be reasoned out of it with logic or evidence. Two, there's hyper-viligence. This involves checking behaviors such as monitoring a person's phone, following them, or examining clothing and bedding for clues. I've definitely heard of that before. Another term is called Ursive Control. The jealous partner often attempts to isolate the victim from friends, family, or even work to prevent the perceived opportunity for cheating. Othello syndrome is considered one of the most dangerous precursors to intimate femicide. In forensic psychology, it is viewed not just as a mental health issue, but as a high-level lethality marker. Now this isn't exclusive to, I mean, this femicide is exclusive to women. But we know some women unalive men as well. The if I can't have you, no one can have you. Pathological jealousy is often rooted in a sense of ownership, the belief that the partner is an object owned by the perpetrator. When a perpetrator believes they are losing control or that their property is being shared with someone else, they may resort to legal violence to reclaim honor or ensure no one else can be with the partner. 2. Escalation during separation. The most critical link between Othello syndrome and femicide occurs when the victim attempts to leave to a person with this syndrome. The partner's departure is seen as a confession of infidelity. This often triggers a violent escalation intended to punish the victim or prevent the separation by any means necessary. 3. The risk of femme side suicide. Othello syndrome is frequently present in cases of femme side suicide where the perpetrator kills the partner and then themselves. The delusional belief that relationship is irrevocably tainted by betrayal leads the perpetrator to a total destruction mindset where they feel life is no longer worth living for either party. They make a decision to say, hey, if my life isn't worth living, yours isn't either. Clinical versus criminal intersection. While Othello syndrome can be a symptom of underlying conditions like schizophrenia, alcoholism, or brain injury, it is often treated with extreme caution by law enforcement and domestic violence experts. Because the trigger is the victim's existence and perceived autonomy. Traditional de-escalation methods are often ineffective, making professional intervention and safety planning essential. If you find yourself in this situation, Warrior, we have to use all of our gifts and talents. It might be hard, but you gotta go. Yeah, you gotta go. Yeah, you gotta go. You have to save your life. Because the other person does not care about your life, they care more about their perceptions of your life. So, warrior. My desire and hope is that you never find yourself in a domestic violence situation where your life is at risk. My hope is that you will see any red flags very early. So you can do what you have to do to get out of that situation. If you are in that situation, you've been there for so a long time. I know it may be difficult. If you have children, they're watching you, they're seeing how you're handling things, they're interpreting what they visually see and what they visually hear. So, warrior. That you never have to learn about the things that I mentioned today in person. My desire is for you to live long and prosper. As Captain Kirk and Dr. Swak would say on Star Trek. Yeah, I'm that old, but it's alright, I'm still here. So as I close, Warrior, I want to encourage you, gather up your strength. I hope you took the time to clean and wax your honor and sharpen up your sword to prepare yourself to enter the world once again. See, those of you who aren't like us won't understand all of the things that we do. But a warrior is very deliberate. Nothing is by happenstance, right? We look at things, we interpret things, we analyze things, and then we make our plan to conquer, plan to move, plan, to evolve, plan, to show up, plan, to show out, plan, to move without doubt, plan to open the eyes, plan to realize that we can make it and not just make it, but to stay alive and thrive. Now you matter and are important, yeah, you matter and are important. Put that in your spirit. I said you matter and are important. There's nobody else in the world that can do the things that you can do, you are special, warrior, and don't ever forget it. Lift your face up so that God can see you more clearly. And guess what? I'm out, yeah. I'm out, warrior, yeah, but I'm still here. What a conundrum!

SPEAKER_00 26:18

We can make it, yeah, we can take it, yeah, we can make it, and we can take it, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Bless us on blessings on blessings, bless us on blessings on blessings, yeah. Bless us on blessings on blessings later.