The Heart-led Man
Welcome to the Heart-led man podcast - A show dedicated to giving men the tools to overcome personal challenges and evolve into becoming heart-led leaders. Hosted by Evan Spargo, an international men's coach, we delve into the psyche and development of men, embodiment, relationships, spirituality and leadership. This is for the man who wants to be of high value, who strives to live a life of freedom, success and purpose, whilst leading his life and others from his most powerful source, his heart.
The Heart-led Man
The #1 Reason She Can’t Relax With You (And How to Change It)
You’ve built success in your career or business… but at home your relationship feels different, your partner doesn’t fully relax with you.
Maybe she’s guarded, always questioning, pulling away, or doesn’t trust your leadership. Deep down, you feel it... you’re not showing up in the way you know you could.
In this episode of The Heart-Led Man, I reveal the #1 reason I reveal the #1 reason women don’t feel safe to relax in relationships with high-performing men, and more importantly, how to shift it so you can create a relationship full of safety, trust, and intimacy.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why high-performing men often collapse at home even if they lead powerfully at work.
- The hidden cost of being stuck in “performance mode”, and why it leaves her feeling unsafe.
- My personal story of how performance pressure sabotaged my past relationships.
- The shift from performance → presence that transforms how she feels with you.
- Practical tips on how to ground your nervous system, own your triggers, and lead with calm strength. To step into being the present and masculine leader in your relationship.
If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why doesn’t she soften or trust me?”, this episode will show you where to start.
(0:02:00) - The struggle
(0:05:07) - The #1 reason she can't relax with you
(0:11:30) - My stories
(0:18:55) - The shift and how to change it
(0:23:57) - Practical tips to help her relax
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Ready to Go Deeper?
If this hits home, I’ve put together a step-by-step guide called - How to Be the Man She Can Finally Relax With.
Inside, I walk you through my 5-Trait Framework that shifts her nervous system from guarded → open.
You’ll also get:
✅ A Weekly Relationship Check-In Kit to bring connection back fast
✅ Bonus tools my private clients use to turn arguments into intimacy
✅ A simple checklist you can follow to make immediate changes with her
This isn’t theory, these are proven tools I use with high-performing men who were stuck in cycles of distance, pressure, and disconnection, and who now enjoy relationships full of respect, attraction, and ease.
👉 Grab the guide now → Access Here
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🎧 The Heart-Led Man Podcast is hosted by Evan Spargo, MCC Coach & Founder of The Ascension Men's Community. Helping men lead with purpose, presence, and peace, without losing themselves or the people they love.
Website: www.evanspargo.co
Instagram: @evanspargo