Ep 24: Transforming Mindset - Coach Karla Johnson

In this episode of The Shattered Mindset Podcast, Melvin Larry sits down with Coach Karla Johnson, a transformational coach, Army veteran, author, and mother of three. Together, they explore the power of mindset, personal growth, and the journey to self-discovery. Karla shares her incredible life experiences, her approach to coaching, and practical insights into how we can reshape our thinking to unlock our true potential. From childhood curiosity to finding purpose in helping others, this conversation dives deep into the impact of mindset on our lives.

🔑 Topics Covered:

• Overcoming limiting beliefs
• The difference between coaching and counseling
• How thoughts shape our emotions, actions, and results
• The importance of self-discovery and personal clarity
• Building a lifestyle of purpose and intentionality

Join us for this inspiring conversation that will leave you motivated to take charge of your mindset and create the life you desire.

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Timestamp Highlights:

• 00:00 – Introduction to Coach Karla Johnson
• 02:45 – Karla's life journey: From Army veteran to transformational coach
• 08:30 – The power of curiosity and asking the right questions
• 15:50 – How thoughts shape our reality and results
• 25:10 – Coaching vs. counseling: Key differences explained
• 32:45 – Parenting lessons and how Karla's experiences shaped her approach
• 42:30 – Overcoming limiting beliefs and taking ownership of your life
• 50:20 – Karla's future plans and advice for aspiring coaches

Transcript

Welcome back to the Shattered Mindset Podcast where we explore the pivotal moments that redefine our thinking and set us
on new paths. I'm your host, Melvin Larry, and I'm excited to be here with Ms.
Karla Johnson. And she's a person who is a transformational coach,
our Army veteran and our author and mother.
And so just glad to have you here. How are you doing? Thank you for inviting me.
I'm well on yourself. Fantastic. Fantastic. I appreciate you sitting down with me
today to just talk a little bit on this episode and being a person who has a very
background with the military and with your coaching,
you're an author, you're a mom. My goodness, you just brand the gamut of things,
haven't you? You've done a thing. But we have a shared focus in the area of
mindset and personal development. And I you know,
it makes for an insightful time for us to be able to come together to really talk
about some things. So how about we start out with you telling us a little bit
about you? Well, I am a mom of three, as you have said. I am a U .S.
veteran with the Army. Thank you. Happy Veterans Day. Thank you.
You're welcome. Thank you. I'm an author um, elevator thinking, because I think
thinking is one of the most difficult things that we have to do and we're often
taught what to think and not how to think. Yeah. Yeah. So, um, That is true.
And I am just keep developing and expanding myself and I keep, um,
growing into the fullness of truly who I am and being present in the moment because
that's all we have is the moment and just making life the best that it could
possibly be. So in doing that, I mean, obviously, I don't know,
that didn't come out of thin air. So you just, what about your life shaped you
getting into where you are now? See, this whole podcast is about life in the middle
and you know how this thing affected that thing and this thing affected that thing
and so Before you were a mom of three and a veteran and a coach and all of that.
Who was Karla? I was a very curious kid with a lot of questions Ah,
I was always curious by nature and I always had questions that no one could give
me Mm -hmm. I remember being in church and I was young because I've been in church
all my life. Yeah, my mother raised me I used to ask what where's God's mom and
dad? Mom and dad Telling him what to do like where does all come from and I was
always told don't question God Just pray about it and I just didn't sit well with
me because the things that I were reading about And I was learning about in Sunday
school. Yeah, I was not seeing it on the back end. It was a disconnect. And so I
would always bring up questions like, wait a minute, but you said this, you told me
this, but this is happening. So what's the problem? And it was always be quiet. How
did that curiosity play out for you with other people? Did they were they accepting
of that and in accommodating of that.
No, no, it was always there's Karla, you know, she has questions.
I'm going to be Karla, because I, I wanted to understand. Yeah, I never want to be
doing something out of not understanding why I was doing it. And I think the older
I got the worse it got, because Oh, you were the why, why, why, why I What's
happening? You said if I do A and B, I'm going to get to C and sometimes C was
missing. So I was like, well, I did what you said and that didn't work. Why didn't
it work? So, you know, and I just think throughout life, as we start to develop
and come into our own and life starts, life is what I call it. Life is life and
you're doing all the things that you know to do, but you're still not seeing the
results or the success or the happiness or the fulfillment that you want. Like what
is the problem? What is the disconnect here? What challenges did that present to you
through life coming up? I would say the biggest challenge is being misunderstood,
the problem is understanding my own self And not being still within myself and
instead of searching for answers within, I was always looking for my answers without,
you know, outside of myself, which was a huge problem. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Cause
they're not there, right? No. Is that, uh, how did that play into you?
And I'm going to come back to this, but I just want to throw this out now. How
did that play into you becoming a transformational coach? - Well,
I just saw the areas where I started doing the work, internal work on myself,
and I saw the shift in mindset, in the light bulb going off. And I was like,
you know what? I was helping other people anyway, without realizing that I was
helping them. And then I realized I was passionate about that. I was passionate
about people knowing what the absolute truth was so they too can make the change in
their lives and I just really like for myself I was just so tired of being
defeated or feeling defeated right and I got tired of the people who I thought was
going to help me or lead me to the grand old truth they didn't have any answers
either and so and when I realized how freeing it was for me to be able to be in
a mental space and have clarity and then be able to understand and then start
connecting the dots. It just opened up a whole nother world. And I was like, you
know what? If I'm dealing with this, I'm sure other people are too. So maybe I can
help them connect their dots. And so, you know, just start doing it like with
family members and with friends. And before you know it, It's just like, oh my God,
what you said worked. It really worked. And I'm like, well, there's something here,
something here is the truth. So do you do you think that there's a.
A lot of that out there, a lot of people who are. Having those internal struggles
like that. I would venture to say most people, most people have tough struggles.
Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So they're not just they don't just come out clear -headed. No,
even though they may project that here to be and I think it's different levels to
it as well. You know, it all depends on what a person really desire to have for
me is peace without peace. Nothing else matters. It's like a chaos and you're tossed
here and there. And, you know, you're up today and down tomorrow. And to me,
that's no way to live. So as a mom of three, two of which are adults and a nine
year old. You're brave. You brave two adult children and a nine year old. You're
quite brave. I'll have your experiences in life coming up through life being a
coach, being a veteran and all that. How has that all played into your life now?
And I know some of it played out before children, but how has that? I would say
at home, I'm less coach. If I'm going to coach anybody at home,
it's myself. - Ah, your mom at home? - My mom at home, right? Because I understand
where they are and I understand if they're not in a place to receive what I'm
saying. And sometimes you can do more damage, offering somebody something that you
think can help them. - Wow, have you ever been in a position where you had to pull
yourself back or Did you always really realize that that's the way you needed to
deal with that? No, I would say probably when the two adults became adults,
then I realized that I had to transition in my thinking as far as my relationship
with them, right? Because I used to be dictatorship. I say you do. Yeah,
that's just what it was, right? I'm not asking need a co -parent with me. If I
tell you to do something, it's because I know, you know, for more than you know,
and I just need you to do what I asked you to do, you know, it was a command.
Once they become adults, I no longer give commands to my adults. I only give
requests, and they have the right to deny my request without having a fear and a
negative reaction from me, because they're not me. They're their own person and my
job is to help them and to help guide them to be the best person who they are,
not who I think they should be. Got it. So how has your parenting influenced your
persona, who you are? Because, you know, you grew up and however you grew up is
how you grew up. And, you know, a lot of times I know me when I was growing up,
I envisioned what I thought my children would be like and what kind of parent I
thought I would be, you know, probably, I don't know if you did that, but I just
kind of did not that it worked out that way, you know, but I kind of had a
vision and I remember what life was like for me growing up. And there are things
that I wanted to project and there are things that I totally didn't want to
project. How do you see your parenting and how it plays in?
You're a life coach and you're a parent and you're a person. How do you pull all
of that together? - Right, so of course now my style of parenting with the nine
year old is completely different than it was with the adults. I'm in a different
headspace. I think differently things that I worry so much about. I was on a
turnout. I don't worry about those things anymore. But I will say with the nine
year old, I do. I'm aware of his programming. So I purposely that's an interesting
turn in place to program him without him realizing that he's being programmed,
which I didn't get that with the you know, the other two because I didn't know to
do that. Right. Right. So you grew up with your children. Right. And so you had to
learn some things as well. So what took you to the military?
Did you go from from school to military from school to college? I went to high
school and I went straight to the military. I had a I had a baby and my
grandmother who raised me. She had got sick on an ice storm at 94 and I graduated
in 96. And I really didn't have anything. I was like, wow, something happened to my
grandmother. I'm gonna be homeless, what am I gonna do? And it was more so, I was
from a little very small town in Mississippi called Leland. And I wanted something
more for my daughter. I didn't know what was more, but I knew it had to be
something, something on the inside of me. It was like, you have to be able to
provide for her what you didn't have. So because I didn't have either one of my
parents, my mother or my father in my life growing up. I had my grandmother. And
so just with the notion of her being taken away, I knew from within just knowing
that I had to do something different and I had to leave where I was in order to
give my daughter something different. I - I see, I see. So your daughter's the
oldest? - Yes. - Okay. And then you have a son who is a pilot?
- Yes, it's a commercial pilot. - Commercial pilot, all right, and your daughter does,
what does she do? - She's a computer science engineer, and now she's back in school
for physical therapy, so. - No, that's totally different stuff, uh -huh. So from the
computers, how the computer work to how the body works. I like that. I like that.
What's your nine year going to do? Um, I'm not quite sure. He is, he's very good
in a lot of things. He loves music. Advanced, um, on the piano,
um, but I'm not sure I'm kind of like leaving it up to him to explore.
Okay. Okay. So with your, uh, with your coaching, You know, obviously you have to
have certain principles for coaching and, and a style because we have different types
of coaches, you're, you're a transformational coach. I recently sat down with a young
lady who was a real relationship coach. What, what principles are a foundation of
your coaching style and how, how do they facilitate growth. I would say my approach
is very holistic and with coaching and consulting, I think goes hand in hand because
a lot of times when people come to you, they don't have the answers. Right. And if
they have the answers, they wouldn't come to you. And some people do not have the
mind, they're not in the mindset or the skill to find the answers. Okay, even
though it may be in front of them. And so I think my approach to people is to
meet them where they are and help them get clarity about where they want to go.
Do you find that it's difficult to get to that place of clarity before you can
really get started. Yes. Because most of the time people are so caught up in their
emotions and they're driven and they're making decisions from emotional places and
they just don't, you know, they don't, um, most of the time they just really don't
know. They just know whatever they're experiencing at that moment. They don't want
that. They want something different. Yeah. So did you ever find yourself in your,
in your coaching, uh, thinking the, did it change Anything about your mindset about
people and how people approach things? Did you, what are you learning from your
coaching? - Well, I guess the biggest lesson I can say that I'm learning from my
coaching is, it works if the people work it.
And I can't do the work for someone else, no matter how much I want to,
you know, like, you know, that they always say, you and lead the horse to the
water, but you can't make them drink. And so you have to realize that a person
have to be in a place, they have to be coachable. Everybody is not coachable. And
some people, they're not going to accept it. They're not going to do it. It's like
people that go to the doctor, they Google everything, they go to the doctor, but
they don't follow any of the instructions. And it's like, well, if you think you're
the doctor, why did you even go to the doctor? - Why go, - Right, but then they
complain about their results. And I know the biggest thing I could say from coaching
is, like I said, myself, if it's something that I wouldn't do myself,
I shouldn't tell somebody else to do it. And if it's a place that I haven't been
and I can't take them, don't talk to them about it. - But that's a,
because there are people who have had wide ranges of experience, some of which you
probably haven't even had. How do you deal with that kind of a thing because you
haven't been there sometimes. I have to direct them to people who does that because
nobody knows everything. And I think when people try to take on the idea of I can
just do A through Z. No, I'm good at A, a little bit at B.
Yeah, and if you need D. I'm gonna direct you to go over here. Okay. Okay. So
What we know that a lot of that it's all about mindset, right? Like and in your
book elevate thinking, how did you approach?
Mindset, I think my thinking behind it at that time because you know, my mindset is
changed since then But I think at the time when I approached the mindset I was
thinking was that your first book that it was one of my first one of you because
you did three that right I was just thinking that how I was processing information
and how it was affecting my results and how when I started making the changes and
the transitions and how when my mindset shifted how I started seeing my perception
just start changing about life as a whole when I changed the way I was thinking
and I say it's really that simple. Our thoughts control our emotions, our emotions
control what we say, how we feel, but everything's going to go back to a thought
and you know, you know, well, I forgot who said it, you know, they're famous for
saying that if you think you can, you can, if you think you can't, you can't, both
of them are correct. And so once I really took hold of that, I was like,
you know what, this is really, it's true, it's simple, but it's very profound.
And if I don't get control of my thinking, and I wrecked in my thinking, and being
purposeful with my thinking, then I was going to continue to get what I was
getting, which was thinking I'll load a place in life out of control. Yeah, because
sometimes my thinking is just like a little boy at the water control just like all
over the place. But I think it's that our thoughts control our emotions, our
emotions control our actions, our actions control our results. And our results control
our lifestyle. Yeah. So you find that a lot of people operate out of their
emotions. Yes. Yes. And they let their emotions guide them.
Most people. I say half of us, well, three fourths of us act out of emotions.
The other out of logic, you know, is just the way that they're programmed, I guess
you could say. So you wrote another book about mindset, mastering your mindset.
And tell me about that.
Well, once again, you, we get to create the life that we want, right? A lot of
people think that it's just, well, it's just what it is. It's not what it is. It's
what it is if that's what you think that that's what it is. And so you have to
take responsibility for where you are and accountability as well as where you're
trying to go and you can't put it on anyone else and you just got to sit with
yourself and you got to say okay what do I want? Most people don't even know what
they want. Let's start there. They think they know or they get it in there. Like,
oh, that's not what I really want. But you have to really get to a place where
you get to the real you. Then you start there. You have to discover who you truly
are. Yeah. Right. Wow. That's a big one. You have to determine what it is you
want. And then you have to believe in it. You have to believe in yourself.
You have to go against all your negative thoughts. You have to know when you have
a negative thought, that's not you, it's just a thought and you get to reject it
and accept the ones that you wanna have. And it really becomes a game of life,
right? And you, the only person that can stop you from winning in life is you.
- How do you differentiate?
Well, first of all,
What do you think about the value in counseling and coaching and how do you
differentiate the two? Counseling is about jumping in a rabbit hole with you.
They want to explore your past. You know, well, this happening, that happening,
I feel this way, why am I feeling this way? Coaching is saying, okay, I'm not
going to get in the hole with you. I'm at the top of the hall. Where are you
trying to go? When you're ready to get there, I'm going to get your hand. I'm
going to pull you out of there. I'm just going to shine the light on the path
that's already there. So that's the difference between coaching and counseling. I
think both are equally as important, but I also believe that you're only as good as
your teacher. So you have a lot of people out here who are coaches and counselors,
you know, and there it might be some information that would give you a level of
result, you know, but are you gonna be able to sustain it because what I find the
biggest thing for me as a coach is always recognizing the absolute truth from a
fact and a lot of counselors and coaches, they're not successful in their own lives.
And they're operating from facts. And if you're gonna operate from a fact, that
means you have a limitations, that means you're bound by circumstances. And that's
just not the case when you have the right mindset and you know that you are
unlimited and you are unstoppable, but you're not gonna know that unless you have
the right person guiding you. I mean, it's no different just like in the NBA, If
you want a great coach that's going to lead you to championships, they hire certain
people for a reason. Exactly. Exactly. So how do you deal with these limiting
beliefs and what kind of, what are some of the common, common limiting beliefs that
you, that you meet when you talk to people? Believe it or not, most people don't
think they have those beliefs. They don't think they have them? Yes. Really? Yes.
Wow. They don't think they have beliefs. And and I can just pretty much maybe three
or four minutes of talking to somebody. I can kind of tell what some of their core
issues are and what's stopping them because I can know what's coming out of their
mouth. And then they'll tell me, "No, Carla, you're wrong. That's not how it is.
That's not how I feel." And I say, "Okay, when you're ready, because you might not
be at a place right now to receive what I'm saying, but when you're ready, one day
you will understand, oh, that's what Carla was trying to tell me. Wow. Wow.
So have you actually, have you seen people who have made a shift,
you know, that coaching, taking that coaching, and they've had a shift or have you
had a mindset shift or in areas and different things that you've dealt with in
yourself? Oh, yes, I had a, well, most of the people that I talked to, you know,
I've had some people, I'm not going to say names, but I've had some. Oh, you can
give me their names. I'm just jotting down. It's like, oh my God, Carla, I listened
to you and I didn't get what you said I was going to get and this and the other.
And I was like, you know what, when you're done having your temper tantrum, yeah,
that's not what I said. Okay. You're in your emotions, and when you're ready to
move forward and do the work that you need to do, right? Stop trying to blame
somebody else, then we'll get to it. And it may be a couple weeks later,
and things actually work out, and they actually start doing, putting in the work,
they actually start being aware of what they're thinking, how they're thinking, coming
against that, you know, they start, you can do affirmations and start affirming and
you know in the beginning it could be a little weird saying an affirmation when you
really don't believe that about yourself. Like most people think they love themselves
and what I have found to be true most people do not love themselves. Do not love
themselves. They think they do. How can they not love themselves? No.
Look at the things that they allow in their lives. Wow. - How can you bring that
out in somebody? How can you tell that somebody doesn't love themself? - Well, when
they start telling you about their life and they start telling you about the
problems that's going on and this one is doing that and this is doing that and
this is doing it and it's like, well, are you allowing that? Like you meet no one
but you. What if they reflect them back to you? - Yeah. - Why are you like this?
And it's like, you know what? If you loved yourself, what does loving yourself mean?
And then they go into telling me, Oh, when I was younger, this happened. So if you
had all the love you needed, you had all the support you needed, you had everything
in place, then how would you react? And how would you respond? And oftentimes they
would say, Oh, well, I will feel this way. Why? Why would you feel this way?
Right? They hold someone else responsible for their happiness. That's a sure, sure
sign. Most people don't love themselves. Wow. So do you have a game plan or a
blueprint that you give people to maybe have some kind of daily habits or processes
that they can take where it helps them to really find themselves? Well, I really
take each person individually because we're all, you know, different. Yeah.
And sometimes doing checklists and things can be overwhelming to people. So I just
really try to get people to understand what the absolute truth is.
If they wanna go the approach on a spiritual approach, we can go to it as your
source, your source being God. Some people say their source is the universe. I'm not
to tell you who your source is. Whether it's the universe or whether it's or
whether you want to get into quantum physics and you say it's the energy field,
whatever that is, you have to find yourself getting back to that place of that
source because that is where you came from. And in order for you to understand
anything about yourself or how you're going to operate and be successful in life,
once you get your information from that source, then I believe it kind of like,
I don't know, it gives people the thinking different, right? Because they're just
like, "Oh, wow, I was thinking this." And it's like, "Okay, well, perhaps it's
something different." All these other people who have achieved the level of success,
the level of peace, or whatever it is that you're seeking, if they're telling you
they all have this in common, and it goes back to their source and what they're
thinking, then maybe, you know, you should just try it out for yourself. And so I
just give them like, I approach everybody, like I said, depending on their
personalities, what I think they can handle. But the smallest thing I would say is
probably affirmations. Smallest, the small affirmations and negative talk to yourself.
Being aware of that. Because it doesn't matter what you say about me. It matters
what I say about me. So When people, when most people think of affirmations, they
think of them as a positive, but when you say affirmations, are you saying that
people are having negative affirmations? - Yes. - Yes. - That's interesting. - People
have a negative conversations in their heads. - Right. - To themselves that no one
else knows. And you have that, which you, 'cause you believe in that and it's
dominant. And when you, I mean, not to get too much into it, but when you learn
about your conscious mind and your subconscious mind, your subconscious mind, as
you're from. You can get into it. Yeah, well, it's this book by Dr. Joseph Murphy,
and it's the power of subconscious mind. That book was really life -opening for me
because it was, the principles was on the Bible, which I was in agreement with, but
it was very simple. I read that book. It was very easy for me to read. And I was
like, you know what, it is true. Some people have another people don't. And I was
like, you know what, it might be something to what he's saying here. And then when
I started realizing, even with a TV, you know, what's the proper name for a TV?
Tell a vision. Someone's telling their vision. And I was like, wow, you know, me,
we've been getting programmed right from the beginning, from the beginning, the same
commercial over and over and over. - Subliminal and all that. - Subliminal and I was
like, you know what? Now that I know, I don't like my program. How do I change my
program? - And that's the whole thing because there's another book, "The Psycho
-Cybernetics" and we do program ourselves. We can, you know,
and we do it whether we are trying to do it or not, You know, either we're
programming ourselves or being programmed, you know, in some kind of way. And so we
can make a conscious effort to change that. But it's not something that just
happens. If we allow it to just run its course, then we're usually not going to be
going the direction that we want to go. Absolutely. You know. And so we have to
be, You know, it's kind of something we talked about a little bit earlier in some
cases you'd have to be a little bit controlling You know When especially when it
comes to controlling the direction that you want to to allow your yourself and your
mind to go because like you said Things begin with our thoughts before it ripples
over into all of those other things I I I are emotions and our actions and our
results and our lifestyle, you know, it starts with our thoughts. And I'm going to
say the word lifestyle because it is a lifestyle. And I've seen so many times
people get comfortable and they'll think, oh, well, I got a result here. I'm good
and they're feeling good and vibrations are high. Yeah. They're like, I've mastered
this. Yeah. But if they don't continue to do the work, they don't continue to work
on their self concept because you can manifest so many different things but your
self -concept Well, it's almost like it'll self sabotage you because you have not
done the true work on who matters the most which is yourself, right? Yeah, and so
I found that It most definitely is a lifestyle is something that you have to grow
on and you have to continue in it You can't just like I say you can't just do it
on my time thing. Yeah, it's it you have to continue to be conscious and aware,
and it has to be on purpose. And Reverend Ike, which you know, yes, I love myself
some Reverend Ike. He has this easy fix for when you're thinking of negative things.
Okay. He said you're facing the darkness, turn around, turn around and face the
light. So if you have a negative thinking, turn around. Yeah. It's not the truth is
a fact, but it's not the truth. And it's as simple as you turn around. Yeah.
Yeah. And so I was like, you know what? That's it. And I find myself using that
myself. Because sometimes you could just wake up and just get some stinking thinking.
I'm awake and like that. Like turn around like yesterday was so good. What's
happening today? What's happening? And I try to tell people never it below a five
with my vibrations. I try to stay even, try to go below a five. And if I find
myself shifting below that, I immediately, immediately do whatever I know that I need
to do to get myself to at least a five. - Wow, so now that's interesting. So how
do you, wow, how do you monitor that gauge?
I mean, how do you know whether you're at three or four or seven? And how do you
do that? Well, it's sad to praise them. You're probably at the bottom. OK, if you
need to hold us to one and complaining and griping, then you're at the bottom and
you probably got all types of crazy stuff happening in your life that you just feel
like, oh, my God, all this stuff just keeps happening to me when we're kind of
even tone. We're not really the happiest we've been, but we're not sad at all.
We just kind of like, you know, today's okay. It could be better, but, but it's
okay. Do you filter those levels with the people around you?
You're like, ah, she's a fool right now. I'm gonna have to go somewhere else.
Depending on who the person is. Yeah. Like I make, um, exceptions for one or two
people that no matter what their vibrations are, they can still be in my space
because we understand what that is, but for the most part, if you're not that one
or two people, then I will distance myself because no matter how
positive you are, they will have a way of affecting you. It may not be right then
at that moment. It could be like the next morning you wake up like, why am I
feeling like this? Or why am I feeling drained? because it's energy, it's an
exchange of energy. - Yeah, so did you find a place or coming through life where
you said, I have an aha moment and this is gonna make a transformation for me or
was it a gradual constant level of transformation? Is there anything that happened
that you had aha moments? - Okay, aha moments.
I think it's been gradual because it's just been constantly different ah -ha moments
for me. Not just like one thing that changed everything. I've had different moments
and, you know, and - Can you share one? I had an ah -ha moment some years ago when
I first moved to Atlanta. I didn't know where I was. I was driving and I ended up
in East Point and I didn't know it was the best part of the city and I was just
hanging out with somebody and I got robbed at gunpoint. And at this time,
I had a lot of other stuff that was going on in my life. Like I knew God, but
my personal relationship, like I knew religion. Yeah, but I just didn't know him
personally. Yeah. And I remember, you know, the scripture scripture says that, you
know, he'll never leave you or forsake you. And I'm not expecting to hear anything.
I said out of my mouth, I was like, God, where were you? Why did you allow this
to happen to me? Yeah. And just like I'm talking to you, I heard an inner voice
say, How do you think you walked away without a scratch? Wow. Mm.
And that was like, so I was just I became so emotional because I knew even in my
ignorance he was there protecting me when I was even questioning if he was even
real. Yeah. So that was a that was a big moment for me to let me know listen
this is bigger than you Karla it's a lot of things that's outside of what you
don't see taste feel and hear that's happening that you need to find out about.
Yeah, that's good. That's good because sometimes you need that and I knew that was
the real and true God. Yeah, and it put me on a journey of seeking.
What was that? Yeah. Where were that? What was that voice coming from? And so yeah.
So did that have anything to do with a part of your educational process?
because I think you did some things with going to school for theology?
- School for religion at Liberty University. I think that was just, you know,
I was doing it to check some boxes, but it was, I really enjoyed it because it
gave me a different perspective outside of the tradition that I was under.
- Okay. - And it just revealed a lot of things to me. It didn't give me what I
thought it was gonna give me. - Okay. - But nevertheless, it did give me a lot of
information. - What did you think it was gonna give you? - And you know, I thought
when I went, I was gonna have this great experience and like the sky was gonna
open and you know, I was just gonna have this encounter with God that was just so.
- Just enlightening, enlightening. - That's That's where I was going to have your
period of enlightenment. That was not. And, you know, like I shared with you
earlier, I thought it was just mind shattering that someone can teach a class about
God. I don't even believe in God. Like, how can you do that? And I was just like,
you know, these people, they're giving you all this information, they got all these
big fancy words.
But how do this is just their perspective? Like I need to get beyond this and I
need to get to what the truth is. You know, not just what you're saying, because
if it's the absolute truth, it's gonna work every time. It's like a formula. When
you do it, it's gonna work every time, no matter who does it. You know, it's kind
of like gravity. Gravity is a law. It doesn't matter who operates with gravity,
it's gonna do the same thing. If you jump off the Empire State Building with no
parachute, He's going down. He's going down. What do you say? Am I saying?
You know, female, poor, mentally stable. It doesn't matter.
So I wanted something that was going to prove itself each time for everybody that
did it. And I didn't find that in school. I did not. You really found the reality
of human life and existence there, you know, because it's not a one -size -fits -all,
is it? Let me shift gears in that thought process. So tell me about your future
endeavors and where you're going and maybe I wanna get some advice or you give some
advice on people's directions toward mindset and such. Um,
- In my future, I'm still right now, I'm in a place of seeking complete clarity of
what's for Karla, not for another version of what somebody else said for Karla.
And I really see myself, I have a desire for public speaking.
I have a desire for live events. I have a desire to just help people discover who
they are and maybe give them some answers to these tough questions that we have
about life that no one else seems to be able to answer so they can start to make
sense of life. So you and I met at a storytelling event
That was geared toward, you know, educating us in the process of storytelling and so
forth. How does that play into what you've done, where you are and where you're
going? Well, you know, as Andy said, you never tell a story without making a point.
And never make a point without telling a story. It's all, you know, it just,
When you're operating and whatever you want to operate in excellence, right? And so
I just believe that If that's what you want to do, then you have to go to the
people that have done it before you and so that's how we you know We end up
having an encounter with each other
In the event for Andy. Yep, Andy in recast, you know, what the what was it the
Master storyteller is a cat. Yep, sure did. So, so yeah, we're just trying to get
the messaging right. And so, what kind of projects do you have coming up?
Right now, I'm just, I'm working with a couple of people to just put on a live
event. I want to do my first live event, you know, in person. And I wanted to be,
I see it in my head. I see the videos. Yeah. And I just,
just working on letting that come together. What would, what would that live event
be? What are the people, who are the people that would be a part of that, that
event? I mean, not specific, but types of people that would be a part of that you
would bring on board. I have a couple of people who have, who maybe was lost in
transition in life and they were able to discover who they are and how it shifted
them and how it made them take a different direction in life and they were able to
really start obtaining the life that they wanted to have and not just be on the
sideline seeing someone else. I think nothing is worse than being in a car, paying
for something that you don't want. And every time you see these nice cars, you like
one day, one day I'm gonna get one. Well, that one day could be now. - Yeah. - And
if you change your mind, you can change your life. - Especially if you change your
mindset. - Yes. - For sure, for sure. So for aspiring coaches,
and there are a lot of people who are working to be that, what kind of advice
would you give that person? Who says, "I wanna be a coach." - I would say,
you know, make sure you're doing it for the right reason. - Yeah. - Number one.
Don't just do it because you think it's money in there or, you know, you're gonna
be out in front of people and gang followers and things of that nature. And if
it's something that you, it did not help you, don't offer it to someone else.
- That's good, that's good. So what final thoughts can you offer to our audience and
so forth and just tell them, you know, a key message or a takeaway,
you know, that you like, like, regarding mindset and transformation. So what would
you like? If I had one thing to tell everybody, I would really tell you to just
take the time out to discover who you are, because when you do that, you will
discover what you can do and what you can have. And it only begins with a thought.
And as simple as it sounds, if you can change your mind, and you can change your
life. Wow. So how do you use social media to help you to get your message out?
Now, I'm not a big social media person. You know, my niece and people tell me all
the time, "Oh, until you need to be doing this, and you need to be doing that."
Right now, at the moment, I understand it's a platform, and it serves its purposes
and things of that nature. But I am on a social media diet because words are
seeds. And so I'm being very cautious of what seeds I allow into my mind because
they're going to grow. And so right now, I'm just kind of backing - Okay.
- You know, someone wanted to, you know, reach out to me on Facebook or Instagram
or TikTok or something like that. They could just send it to me on the Coach
Karla. But yeah, I'm just-- - Just Coach Karla? - Yes. - Okay. - I'm not a big
social media-- - With a K? - Yeah, with a K. I'm not a big social media, you know,
type box. - Okay, okay. So you gave a message to people who might look toward
getting coaching. What last words would you have for this general audience with
regard to mindset and your purpose and how you would translate toward other people
in life?
- I mean, once again, it's like the great writer said before me, don't conform to
the things of the world, or be transformed by the renewing of your mind, but you
got to be careful what you renew your mind to. And if it's not going to gear you
towards going in the direction that you want to go, I would suggest like Good
Reverend Ike said, turn your back on the darkness and face towards the light. And
just don't be afraid of doing the work. Like what do you have to lose?
You've come this far and you still don't have what you want. And and you want what
you want, you're the only person that can get it for you, so. - No doubt.
So hey, listen, I appreciate you being with me today and taking the time out to
sit down and share. This has been really good. And I think that, you know,
it's a topic that so many of us really need to address
is is all a head game. The game of life.
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