When Can I Get a Divorce? Is Divorce okay with God?

Few questions carry as much weight, pain, and urgency as this one. In this sermon, Pastor Brandon walks straight into the tension without shortcuts or religious loopholes, letting Jesus define the conversation instead of culture or convenience. Rather than starting with legality — what’s allowed — this message begins where Jesus begins: What is marriage? Through Matthew 19, marriage is reframed as a covenant, a union meant to reflect God’s faithful, self-giving love. And divorce? It’s described with sobering clarity — not as freedom or failure, but as amputation: never celebrated, sometimes permitted, always costly. The teaching challenges the impulse to rush toward an exit without first reckoning with the purpose God intended from the beginning.

This message presses deeper than behavior into the condition of the heart. Jesus exposes the real threat to marriages — not just betrayal, finances, or conflict, but a slow, numbing hard-heartedness that goes unnoticed until damage is done. Divorce may be allowed in God’s grace, but it is never His joy — and it should never be treated lightly or defended casually with Scripture. For married, single, divorced, or discerning listeners, this sermon offers a better question than “When can I leave?” It asks, “What would it look like to heal?” Calling us to divorce apathy, bitterness, judgment, and numbness — and to take hold of the healed heart only Jesus can give.

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