I Can Faith That!
How to go from a stressful and anxious life to one filled with self-care, faith and self-love.
I Can Faith That!
EP 05 | "How Can I Make My Life Big Instead of Continuing To Live Small?"
What if the life you’re living is much smaller than the one you deserve? On this episode of the "I Can Faith That" podcast, we talk about how tragic it is to live life shrinking yourself and making yourself small. Drawing inspiration from a powerful quote by Ramit Sethi, we tackle the importance of recognizing how we unintentionally shrink our lives. From career choices to the clothes we wear, we explore how fear can stifle our true expression and how embracing change can lead to a life filled with love and happiness. Join me on this transformative journey, and let's break free from the chains of self-doubt and step into a vibrant, expansive life.
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Hey guys, it is Trish. Welcome back to another episode of the podcast. This is actually the first podcast episode that I'm recording where I have an official name and we are officially baby the I Can Faith that podcast. I can faith that, okay. And the whole idea behind I Can Faith that is we are getting over our stress, getting over our anxieties, getting over being overwhelmed. If there's something that we have a hard time figuring out, okay, if you trying me and I feel like I'm about to lose control, with faith by my side, there's nothing I can't get through. I'm really excited. I told myself that I was going to get started, even if I wasn't ready, even if you are not ready, even if I wasn't ready, even if you are not ready, just start. Even if you feel like you're not prepared for something, just do it, even if you don't really know how you're going to get it done. But you know that something is speaking within your heart to do it and you know that you are getting a calling and you're one of those people who feels like you have to be perfect before you can start. Just start, okay. There is nothing that is impossible. Put a little faith in there, baby. Put a little faith in there, you can fade fat, anyway.
Speaker 1:So I have been MIA for a while because, you know, I'm just, I'm just going through things. I'm going through things, okay, I'm going through things. Things are thinging, okay, things are thinging for me, life is lifing, stress is stressing, anxiety is anxietying. That's not even a word, but whatever that's a word in my world. And so here we go. We're back on the podcast recording train.
Speaker 1:I recently saw this quote that just has blown me away, and it is by Ramit Sethi. Ramit bruh Bruh, like you, literally have changed the trajectory of my life, and the quote said and I wrote it down so I live smaller than you have to. When I read that line, it hit me in a way that nothing else has been able to hit me, if it makes sense, and so I'm going to talk about exactly what I mean when it comes to that. But I see it as a tragedy to live smaller than you have to. How many of us are purposely and intentionally or maybe unintentionally, but we're purposely doing things that create a smaller life for ourselves, but we're doing it to us. I know that I am so guilty of this and in so many facets of my life and even though I've heard so many people talk about, you should enjoy your life. Life is precious. You only have one life to live and all these other sayings that you hear people say and it's always easier said than done.
Speaker 1:When you're someone who deals with anxiety, or when you're someone who's stressed out about money and finances, or if you're someone who is an overthinker or an over-warrior, it's so much easier said than done. This is exactly why, if you feel like there's a calling for you to do something, or if you feel like you know there's a business that you want to start or there's a podcast that you want to start, or there's whatever it is that you want to do, a creative endeavor that you want to embark on, and you're nervous and you're scared, or you're having an imposter syndrome, or you're feeling like, oh my God, there's so many people doing this. There's so many people who have podcasts. There's so many people who have YouTube channels. There's so many people who are already in this space. Do it. And I tell y'all do it, do it, do it, do it, do it, do it, because you never know who needed to hear you say it in the way that you speak and with the voice that you have, in the manner in which you deliver it. You never know. You never know because I have been going through therapy, I've been working with a leadership coach, I have been journaling.
Speaker 1:I've been doing so many things to help me get through my anxiety and to help me get through being such an anxious person, and especially for me. My anxiety really comes through when it comes to finances and I'll talk about that in a little bit because I'm sure it could resonate with some people. But my anxiety comes through in the form of finances a lot of the times, and I know that I deserve to spend money on myself. I know that I deserve to invest in myself. I know that I should invest in my future. I know that there's a lot of things that I know that I should invest in my future. I know that there's a lot of things that I know that I should do, but it's really hard to do it and for some reason, the way that Ramit said it, it just clicked.
Speaker 1:It's a tragedy to live life smaller than you have to, and that's exactly what I've been doing, and I know that's exactly what a lot of people out there are doing. We are living our lives smaller than we have to do it, and we are doing it to ourselves. We are not fully living life to the boisterous, magnificently big and beautiful life that it could be, because we're so stuck on making ourselves smaller. And are there situations in life in which are beyond our control? Absolutely, absolutely. There's situations in life that are beyond our control, but there's so many things that we can control and there's so many decisions that we can make and there's so many things that I know personally I can do in my own life to make it big and bold and brave and beautiful. And I just have not been doing that in the past week since I've read this quote it's been a few days since I've read this and each and every time, like throughout the day and when I'm making choices and decisions, I am thinking about that line, like is this you making your life smaller than you have to? Because that's tragic and that's sad if you continue to live your life that way and so perfect example. Or let me give you some examples of how I have been using this quote in order to stop living life small. Right, I have this thing, right, okay?
Speaker 1:So unfortunately, this weekend I have to travel. I have to travel for a funeral right, a funeral of a family member and normally when I travel I have a backpack and a duffel bag. And I have been forcing myself to use a backpack and a duffel bag because I am too cheap in order to buy a carry-on the ones with the wheels that you can roll around. Y'all. I've been too cheap and my back hurts every time I travel because it seems light. But when you're traveling across heavy, big airports with lots of walking around, the stuff gets so heavy and every time I travel my back hurts so much, my shoulders hurt, my back hurts from carrying a backpack and a duffel.
Speaker 1:I can't pack all the things that I need and so sometimes my trips like I end up not having everything that I need, right I my trips like I end up not having everything that I need, right. I might pack for warm weather and then it ends up being like a little cooler, but I didn't bring cool weather stuff because I only have so much stuff that I can bring with me. I just have to guesstimate what I think the temperature is going to be like. All I need to do is just buy a carry-on with wheels, literally, just spend the money, buy a carry-on with wheels. Literally, just spend the money, buy a carry-on with wheels. That way your neck and your back doesn't have to hurt so much every time you travel. Very simple, very basic. But I just refuse to spend the money and so I torture myself when I travel and little things like that is just me making life smaller than it needs to, making myself smaller than I have to.
Speaker 1:And through this new perspective, it's like it's such a tragedy to make myself go through that. 50 bucks, $50. I'm very lucky and I'm blessed enough. For some people, $50 is make or break and that's a reality, but for me I'm very lucky and blessed enough that the $50 is not going to hurt me. Like girl, what are you doing? Making myself go through things that I don't need to make myself go through? So, y'all, after I read Ramit's you know rule number one I see it as a tragedy to live smaller than you have to, baby. I have been thinking about ways to incorporate that, and so I have a trip to Boston. So for my trip to Boston this weekend right, I'm going to see family because you know we have a funeral. I was like you ain't gonna make your life smaller than it has to. No, ma'am, no, you ain't, you is not Okay, you isn't going to do that. And I was just like okay, what are the ways that you make your life smaller when traveling that you're going to stop doing? I got the highest tier ticket out of the three tiers and so with that tier, I got my little notes here.
Speaker 1:I get to board the plane early, early boarding. Okay, no more me just praying and wishing that there's space in the overhead compartments because I get the. I buy the cheaper tickets, which means that I am part of the group that boards the plane last, and sometimes there's not enough space in the overhead compartment where you're sitting, so then your stuff ends up having to be in the front of the plane if you're sitting in the back of the plane, or your stuff has to be in the back of the plane if you're sitting in the front of the plane. No, I got early boarding. I'm one of the first people on the plane and I could put my stuff right above head, right above my head where I'm sitting, so I did that.
Speaker 1:I also get expedited security check-in, okay, so I don't have to stand on that long line when checking into the airport, I could go in the expedited line, okay, okay, and I get to change, cancel, switch, um, any kind of emergency that happens. I get to do it for free, right, so I don't have to worry about oh my God Cause before. That's also another thing too. It's like if an emergency happens, I'm screwed, and so that ends up leave, leaving me like anxious, right and, and panicking, because it's like I don't get a refund for my ticket because I chose the cheapest option and I didn't you know what I mean, and so, like, it's gonna cost a fee if I need to switch or change or cancel the same day, right, like, and so I don't gotta worry about that, god forbid. If I wake up that morning and I don't feel well and I need to switch my flight, okay, I could do that and I don't gotta worry, I love that for me. Okay, I'm loving that for me.
Speaker 1:I also went out and I bought myself a carry-on. I bought myself a carry-on luggage, okay, with the wheels, and mine is so cute, it has, like, the 360 wheel rotation and I'll be just walking all cutesy, cutesy. It came with a matching backpack and it's one of those backpacks that you can just slide on top of the carry-on so I don't have to have back aches, no more. I don't have to have shoulder aches no more. Okay, I can pack multiple outfits. Okay, I can pack the amount of underwears that I need. I don't have to be in the hotels hand washing hand washing my underwear anymore. I can bring long sleeves. I can bring short sleeves. I can bring like thicker um sweaters, maybe like a little jacket. Oh, my goodness, I love that for me. I love that for me. And I also in the past, right.
Speaker 1:So another example of something that I would do when going on these trips is I would try to book a room with, as you know, as cheap as possible, and so I've always been the type of person, though, that did want to be at least in a safe, a safe place, right. So I wouldn't go so cheap that I'm like in areas that are sketchy that I wouldn't do, but I would usually go cheap where it's like I just sacrifice my comfort in order to save as much money as possible, right, and so there was one time that I traveled with a group of people, and it was a bunch of us sharing a hotel room, and it wasn't the most comfortable. We doubled up on the bed. I didn't even have a bed to myself. There's been times that I've traveled with friends and a couple of us slept on the floor because we wanted to save money.
Speaker 1:And you know, like I said before, sometimes you're in a season in your life in which you have to do that. And if that's the season that you're in, so be it. That's cool, right, that is cool, it is what it is. But if you don't have to do that, it's beautiful to not do that. And so this time around, I told the group of people that I'm traveling with. I was like y'all, I'm getting my own hotel room, I'm booking my own hotel room.
Speaker 1:I want to be able to go to sleep because I sleep earlier than everybody. Okay, by the time it hits like 7.30, 8 o'clock, I want to be in my hotel room prepping to go to bed. I want to be prepping to go to sleep. I sleep earlier than everybody. And then I have an injury. Right now I'm healing from a broken ankle. I've talked about it before and you know I don't want to be rushing because four, five, six, seven, eight of us have to use one bathroom or two bathrooms, like I don't want to do that. I want to be able to take my time. When I'm getting ready in the morning, I'm a little slower than everyone. I don't want to have to wake super duper, super duper earlier than everybody to get ready. I don't want to be rushed, I just want to take my time and get ready in my room, where only I am using the bathroom after I've had a well-rested sleep because nobody else is waking me up and it's cool.
Speaker 1:And throughout the weekend, any time that I need me time, guess what? I got my room that I can go into, because I'm an introvert and I need a lot of me time. I can't be around people from sunup to sundown. I just can't be around people from sunup to sundown Like I just can't do it. And so I get to go out, do things with you know, do things that I need to do you know, spend time with the family, do the things that I have to do and then, when I need to, like process and I need space to just go and just breathe and whatever it may be like cry if I have to, because we're there for a funeral, I can do that. If I need to just go read a book or go take a nap or whatever it is that I need to do. I can do that, and so I love that for me. I love that for me.
Speaker 1:I love that for me that I am starting to apply this rule to my life. I love that for me that I am starting to make, I'm starting to recognize and see the areas of my life where I'm making myself small intentionally not intentionally, because it's not intentional, it's not like I say, like I want to make myself small, but I'm starting to recognize the areas in my life in which I am unintentionally making myself smaller than I have to and I'm going to stop doing that. And you know, can I do it in every aspect of my life? No, I can't, right, like, right now I don't live in the best neighborhood, right? I don't live in the type of neighborhood that I wanna live in I love.
Speaker 1:I would love to live in a neighborhood that is relatively safe, that has cute little like shops and coffee shops and like a cute little artsy neighborhood. That vibe, that artsy vibe, like I would love that, a neighborhood that's surrounded by things to do and activities and things like that. I would love that, but I'm not in that season. Yet in my life, where I could, you know, live in that type of neighborhood, because that would mean that my rent would be like three times what it is now right, three times what I'm paying now, and I just don't feel financially that I'm in that space. And so, in certain aspects, yeah, I have to continue living in my small apartment in my neighborhood that's not artistic at all, where there isn't much, you know, cute restaurants and things like that, and I can't live the big, bold, brave, beautiful life that I would love to live in that sense, and that's okay. It's okay Because that's the season that I'm in right now. It is what it is, it's okay.
Speaker 1:But little things that I can do here and there, like when I'm traveling, getting my own room, buying a ticket that allows me to board the plane early so that I never have to worry about there not being enough space for my carry-on and it having to be checked underneath the plane Just little things like that, right, little things that will bring peace, right, like getting an Uber versus having to take public transportation with my luggage in order to get to the airport, just little things like that is just, it makes a difference. And so there's so many other areas in my life in which I have intentionally been living small, when I didn't have to. And I am now awakened and it's something that's always going to be in the back of my mind and I'm always going to be thinking about, and I'm always going to be thinking about and I'm always going to make sure that I check myself. And there's so many different areas of our lives in which we do that. I gave, like you know, the thing that just popped in my head first, because I'm literally traveling in a couple of days. But there's so many other areas.
Speaker 1:Right, sometimes we make ourselves smaller than we have to at work. We don't want to show how incredibly talented and how incredibly amazing we are at what we do. Sometimes someone might give us a compliment and we're like, oh, this whole thing, or like, I'm all right, we try to make ourselves smaller than we have to, right, and sometimes even in relationships, right, like we make ourselves smaller than we have to. We live life smaller than we have to. Sometimes it's because of fear. We're scared to do something, we're scared to travel to that country we've always wanted to go to, we're scared to leave that job that makes us miserable and that makes us feel like we're literally losing our minds, right? We're scared to leave that and go seek something that sparks joy or go seek something that makes us excited. Go seek our purpose and our calling, right? There's so many choices and decisions that we make or we don't make that is making us live life smaller than we have to live it, and it's really tragic when you think about it and I definitely agree with Ramit Sethi, like I agree with him, it's a tragedy.
Speaker 1:It's it just man so powerful, so powerful, so, so, so powerful. I just I just wow, it clicked, it clicked, it clicked, it clicked. It just clicked for me and I don't know who this is going to click for. Hopefully it clicks for one other person, hopefully it helps you the way that it has helped me. It's really powerful. So I just wanted to share that with everyone and I wanted to share that with you guys because it just I don't know. This has definitely been a powerful, powerful, powerful line that has stuck in my head and will stick in my head definitely for the rest of my life, in this season in my life and in future seasons.
Speaker 1:To change that yeah, no more living smaller than we have to. Ladies and gentlemen, and just people, just humans, whether it's your job that like powerfully amazing job, whether it's you friendships, whether it's when you travel, or maybe how you dress right, do you make yourself that's another area okay, that I make myself smaller than I need to, because, baby, I be wearing clothes that don't fit. I be wearing clothes that are starting to fade, clothes that are starting to rip, be wearing clothes that are starting to fade, clothes that are starting to rip Because I'm too cheap. That's another area. Child, I got so many areas that I've been making myself live. I've been making my life smaller than it has to be, and I am. My eyes are open and changes are coming and I hope that you're going to make some changes too, because we deserve it Life filled with love and joyous moments and happiness and just all of that.
Speaker 1:So I am rambling. I will see you guys in the next episode of the I Can Faith that podcast. Yes, baby. So yeah, I'm going to go and see ya. Bye.