I Can Faith That!
How to go from a stressful and anxious life to one filled with self-care, faith and self-love.
I Can Faith That!
EP 15 | Leaning Into Self-Compassion During Life Transitions
Are you sometimes hard on yourself when starting something new? Maybe you beat yourself up over not understanding something right away or feel like a failure if things do not go according to plan? The truth is, new beginnings require grace, patience, and kindness toward ourselves. When transitioning into unfamiliar territory—whether fitness journeys, entrepreneurship, major or even small life changes—we must resist perfectionism and embrace the natural learning curve.
In this episode, we explore the importance of the following:
• Learning to be kind to ourselves during periods of transition
• Having realistic expectations when beginning a new journey
• Balancing high personal standards with self-compassion
• Processing feelings of discouragement productively
• Three-step approach to managing emotions during transitions
• Various types of new beginnings that require patience
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Hey guys, welcome to another episode of the I Can't Beat that Podcast, welcome, welcome. I am your host, trish, and I am also your coach. For those of you that don't know, I am a life coach. I specialize in helping people change mindset, challenges and issues.
Speaker 1:The theme for today, the message that I want to get across today, is when you are in new beginnings, when you are trying something new, when you are trying to create something new, when you are trying to become a better version of yourself better version of yourself, that is going to require a lot of practice. It's going to require a lot of patience, it's going to require a lot of time. It is going to require a lot of you that you're not going to be the best at in the beginning. You're not going to be the best at it at. In the beginning You're not going to be the best at it and, especially if you are trying to make changes in your life, that is going to drastically change your life. Incorporate grace and patience and kindness and positive self-talk in the midst of all that Baby, and positive self-talk in the midst of all that Baby. Okay, the level of grace that I have had to extend to myself today, it's been on a whole other level. Tell y'all okay. Tell y'all it's a challenge. I am in the midst, or I'm in the beginning, of a bunch of new beginnings. There's so many new beginnings that's happening for me right now. Y'all, like everything in my life, I'm starting over and I'm starting new phase and period of my life where I am trying to live healthier. Things are happening with my body, baby Things are happening with my body that I am not a fan of. Okay, I have realized that I'm starting. I'm 38 years old, I'm gonna be 39 in a few months and my body is starting to do things okay at 38.
Speaker 1:Now, I'm not a fan of. My hips feel stiff. Um, I I'm recovering from ankle surgery, so my ankle is like extremely stiff. Um, my shoulders feel stiff. My neck feels stiff, my back feels stiff, like I just feel really stiff. I don't feel flexible. I don't have a ton of energy Going up and down stairs. I get winded very easily. So that's something that is starting to happen and so I just I just don't, I don't like it. I'm not a fan, right Y'all?
Speaker 1:When I tell y'all okay, I went to the gym today. I went with my brother because he was going to the gym. He is like a gym person. He loves the gym, he gets excited. He's one of them people, okay, where, like he, gets this great feeling after the gym. I ain't never had that. I ain't never been to no gym, I ain't never done no workout where I felt what he feels after he works out. That ain't never happened to me. I've come to the conclusion that I'm just not that girl. It's just not for me. My body don't react that way. So he was going to the gym and I was like you know what, I'm gonna go with you, cause that's the only way I'm going to stay consistent, cause he's pretty consistent. So we go to the gym together and I said that I wanted to do the three 1330.
Speaker 1:Y'all, can I tell y'all, baby, I got on that treadmill and I couldn't do it. I could not do the 313.30. If you don't know what that is, it is you walk at a speed of, I think, three miles per hour at an incline of 13, and you do that for 30 minutes and I just I couldn't do it. So I ended up doing 13 to 10, um, a speed of two miles per hour at an incline of 13, for 10 minutes, and so that was kind of like a bummer. I wasn't prepared for how difficult and challenging it would be for me because I'm out of shape, so that was a bummer. And then I got on the bike and y'all, I just I couldn't do more than five minutes on that bike. It was just a mess, y'all. It was a hot mess express like such a mess and I was just like I started to feel discouraged and I had to check myself.
Speaker 1:I had to check myself. I had to be like girl, girl, girl, be kind to yourself. You are going from never working out I do not work out at all You're suddenly going from never working out to working out, and so your body needs to get adjusted. You need to get adjusted Like it's going to be okay. And when I started to feel discouraged and upset about the fact that I went to the gym wanting to do this particular workout and then realizing that I'm just not in shape and I'm not fit enough to do it, and I started to beat myself up about it and I started to get frustrated and I started to just kind of feel like discouraged. I had to remind myself like, be kind to yourself, it's going to be okay.
Speaker 1:I was in my feelings for just a few minutes and then I had to check myself right and so now I'm like you know what. You're just due a 2, 6, 30. Or do a 2-8-20, right, like you don't have to do the 3-13-30. Like you are healing, your body is rejuvenating your ankle is healing from a fracture, healing from an operation. Like, be kind to yourself, this is a new beginning. It's new right. Like I have plates and screws and stuff in my ankle that I didn't have before and I have that now. I'm older than I was back when I used to work out. It's a new body, it's a new age. It's a new lifestyle habit that you're trying to build. Be kind to yourself. This is a new beginning.
Speaker 1:Have grace, have patience, be kind and then also to piggyback off that I've never been an entrepreneur. This is the first time that I am living life as an entrepreneur, but it's also very nerve wracking and it's it's. It also makes me really nervous and it's like there's a lot to learn, there's a lot to do. It's all on me. I have to get my clients, I have to create content, I have to put myself out there. I have to, I have to do it all.
Speaker 1:And today, you know, I had this list of like all the things that I wanted to get done today for my business and I was feeling a little bit like man, if I don't get all of this stuff done, this is not going to be good, right. And I started putting like that pressure on myself I don't get everything done, it's not going to be good. Like, I need to get this done, I need to get that done, I need to get this done, I need to get that done. And I had to be like, girl, chill chill out, relax, relax, it's okay. You are starting something new, instead of creating this long to-do list of a million things that you want to get done.
Speaker 1:As you start your journey towards entrepreneurship, pace yourself, be kind to yourself, have grace with yourself and, if you are anything like me, I just always feel like I want to be the best at what I do, right. I have high expectations for myself. I'm kind of like a perfectionist and I can be hard on myself sometimes and I can have these expectations that are through the roof. And it's just important every now and then to check yourself and be like chill, relax, it's okay, it's okay, it's okay.
Speaker 1:And when you start to feel discouraged and you start to feel like you're not reaching your optimal, like potential, you're not performing at your best, you're not doing this, you're not doing that, it's important to just kind of, yes, acknowledge those feelings. Acknowledge those feelings, acknowledge that, yes, this is what I'm feeling. My feelings are valid. That's very important for us to acknowledge our feelings. This is what I'm feeling. My feelings are valid. Process where it comes from us to acknowledge our feelings. This is what I'm feeling my feelings are valid. Process where it comes from, like, where is this coming from? Right? What is happening? What is the underlying things that are going on? What's happening underneath all of this? What is this bringing up for me? And then have some kind conversations and kind talks with yourself. Hopefully this was helpful to you guys. Like, I don't really know if this came together. I guess I'll see in the editing if it came together the way that I wanted it to.
Speaker 1:But yeah, like when you are in a period of new beginnings, when you're in a period of trying something new whether you're a new parent, whether you are new to a school, new to a job, new to a relationship, whether you are new, to building a new friendship, whether you are trying to get to know family members you never knew before, for whatever reason, like whatever that new period that you're in, you're trying to change your life around. Whatever that new beginning is right. Maybe today is day one of you being sober. Being sober is a new beginning for you. Maybe it's been two months since you became a parent and being a parent is a new beginning for you. Maybe you're like me and you're recovering from surgery. Maybe you're starting to live a healthy lifestyle and you've never worked out and ate healthy before, and that's your new beginning. Maybe you're starting a new job, a new career. Maybe you're going into entrepreneurship, like me. Whatever it is that new beginning is, this is your reminder to have grace with yourself, to be kind with yourself and to have patience with you as you figure it out.
Speaker 1:If this episode resonated with you, if the topic was helpful for you, if you got anything from it at all, please let me know. Please, right, like I want to help people as much as possible, and so it is helpful for me to know that it's been helpful for you. So if you're watching on YouTube, definitely leave a comment, like the video. If you're listening on Apple podcasts or Spotify, leave a leave a leave a leave a little review. Leave a little five-star review. Let me know that you liked it. How to follow me on social media platforms and all that stuff will be in the description section of the YouTube video. It will also be in the show notes underneath the podcast episode, and I will see you guys in the next episode. Bye y'all, thank you.