Fight Fear

In this episode of the Reach Your Peak Podcast, I, Jeff from Apex Leadership Development, delve into a common obstacle that many of us face when pursuing our goals: fear. Drawing from my personal experiences and insights from various coaches and mentors, I emphasize how fear can paralyze us and prevent us from taking action.

I share my journey of recording videos, initially held back by the fear of judgment and imperfection. However, I learned that the opposite of our fears often holds the key to our success. Instead of focusing on the "what ifs" that keep us stuck, I encourage listeners to consider the positive possibilities—what if people love your work? What if you achieve your goals?

Throughout the episode, I stress the importance of pushing through mental blocks and taking action, even when uncertainty looms. I believe that by setting our goals correctly and confronting our fears head-on, we can unlock our potential and achieve the success we've always desired.

I invite listeners to reach out for coaching and support in their goal-setting journey, reminding them that 100% of the goals we never set will never be accomplished. Let's embrace the challenge and move forward together!

Transcript

Hey, it's Jeff again with Apex Leadership Development, Reaching Your Peak Podcast, Reach Your Peak Podcast. So one of the things that keeps coming up, and this is something that keeps coming up in my own personal life, like stuff that I'm being coached on, people that I listen to, people that are feeding me. And I've actually heard this multiple times now from three, four different people, somewhere around in there. So, I just kind of want to share with you like one of the obstacles to like hitting our goals. You know, we set goals. We talked about obstacles. One of the biggest obstacles that I hear constantly and I'll go ahead and tell you one of the biggest obstacles for me as well. It's fear. You're afraid to put yourself out there. I started recording these videos to take notes. Now I'm recording them to give you information. These are still notes. Some of these thoughts I'm still developing, still building, and I'm going to use them for some deeper talks along the way and other stuff like that. But my friend told me, he's like, look, it doesn't have to be perfect. Ship it, just put it out there. And I have to tell you that I really didn't want to do it. I probably waited. The first video that I recorded, I probably had recorded for close to a month before I shipped it. And the reason was, is because I was just, I was afraid people aren't going to like it. Somebody's going to, you know, be upset because I'm recording something while I'm driving. And if you notice, I am paying attention to the road. I see an airplane coming in. The sky is beautiful. Wish I could share it with you. But I was afraid. But here's the number one thing that keeps coming up, talking about fear. And it's taking the opposite of the fear that you have and thinking about that. So What if nobody actually likes these videos? What if people do like them? What if it doesn't work? What if people don't want coaching or training from me? What if they do? What if, you know, they don't like your program, but what if they do? And so we allow ourselves to get trapped right here, right, mentally, and we allow these fears that, like, we're not basing them off of anything. My fear of you hating this video is born out of nothing. Where's that coming from? And so are there legitimate fears that people have? Yes, of course there are. But I think in a lot of times in our goal setting and especially in attempting our goals and one of the biggest obstacles that we have to overcome is a fear And a lot of times we're gonna say things like, I'm not sure if, or this is one that I was just running into in some training. I'm not sure if, I don't know that if, and we put that in there. And a lot of times the thing that we're not sure about, or the thing that we say that we don't know, is actually the thing that we're most confident of. And so we just have to overcome some of those fears. We have to just put it out there. and say, hey, you know what, it doesn't matter. The opposite of what my fear is could become the thing that actually is the driving force. So if you have a, you know, if your goal, you're selling a product or something like that, what if nobody likes my product? What if everybody loves your product? You see where I'm going with that? So don't let yourself get caught in a fear. Don't let yourself get trapped in the what if type of thing. And the other thing is that if you think you don't know something, you You just might. I'm not talking about not having like an actual knowledge of something like, you know, like I, I don't know how to throw a curve ball, right? Not talking about that type of lack of knowledge. I'm talking about like, I don't know if I should actually do these videos. Yeah, you should do those videos. I don't know if I should A, B, C, X, Y, Z. Yes, you should do that. You're, you're letting a mental block of what if stop you from doing it. Don't do that. Keep pushing yourself forward, push yourself into that goal so that you have the opportunity to see success where maybe you didn't think that you did. Maybe you were afraid of it. I think sometimes even we could be afraid of success. I know I have a list of things that I can share with you that I have not been successful at. I love the way the red light off of the car in front of me comes back onto my head. Sorry about the glare. I have a list of things that I've not been successful at. I can easily say I haven't been successful at this. Why do I think that this will be successful? Number one, I'm passionate about this. I really want to help people get unstuck in their life. I want to help you move from the place that you're at to where you want to be by helping you set the proper goals, helping you set goals the right way. And I believe that if we can set our goals the right way, if we can overcome our fears and just stare them in the eye and say, you know what, I don't care. I don't care about these things that are holding me back, these trivial, minute things that are trying to stop me. I'm not going to let it stop me anymore. I'm going to push through and I'm going to push forward. For me, posting these videos, I'm telling you, it's a huge overcome of fear because I don't know if you're watching them or not. Maybe you are, maybe you aren't. It doesn't matter to me. I'm putting it out there because I'm passionate about it and I'm believing, hoping, praying that we're going to connect with somebody and that you're going to find your way to setting your goals and making yourself become the person that you've wanted to be and achieving things that you've always wanted to achieve. So, whatever you're thinking what if about, what if the opposite of that happens? What if you create a video and it goes viral? What if you write a hit song? What if you write a best-selling book? You don't know until you do. And here's the thing, 100% of the goals that we never set, they don't get accomplished. So if you're not setting a goal, if you're not pushing yourself, if you're not trying to move forward, you are not going to move forward. And that I can guarantee you. Anyway, again, this is Jeff with Apex Leadership Development. Hit me up if you want some coaching, if you want help setting some goals. I would love to chat with you one-on-one. Until then, we'll talk to you later. Have a great day.