Episode 15 Are You Broken?

Listeners are invited to pause and ask a deeply personal question. Are you broken? Not in a way that defines your worth, but in recognizing the spaces where pain, anger, heartbreak, or disappointment may still linger. Whether the wounds are recent or long buried, we explore how so many unknowingly operate from a place of brokenness-shaping how we show up in relationships, at work, and even with ourselves. 

But this episode is not about staying stuck. It's a call to healing. With compassion and spiritual insight, we share how surrendering those hidden hurts to God can open the door to freedom, peace, and a life lived whole. Through reflection and encouragement, this episode reminds you that you are not alone-and that brokenness doesn't have to be the end of the story. It can be the beginning of something beautiful in cultivating a relationship with God. 

Scripture references (KJV)

Psalm 34:18; 56:8; 40:1
Joshua 1:9
2nd Timothy 1:7
Revelation 19:6
Luke 10:19
Genesis 1:26-27
James 2:26
Psalm 139
Matthew 11:28
2nd Chronicles 20:15
Matthew 17:20
Luke 17:6

Transcript

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Welcome to a Dash of Life podcast, where every episode brings you a touch of spirit, a pinch of passion, and a zest for life. Hello, welcome back, y'all. I thank you for tuning in today. And what today's episode is going to be about is asking the question, are you broken? I think I think we can all say that we are broken in some way, to a degree. A lot of us out here may have done some work where we feel like we are whole and we are operating in our whole self and, you know, that we have healed and we have overcome our brokenness, right? But, There is still quite a few people out here who are operating in brokenness. And that is not what God intended for us when he created us. That is not our normal state that we should be in, in brokenness. God creates us to be whole and we have the ability to be whole in him. Wherever we are weak, that is where he kicks in and that's where the Holy Spirit kicks in to give us what we need to accomplish the task. So I just want you to pause for a second. Just take, you know, maybe 30 seconds to think about whether or not You are broken or whether or not you are operating from a broken state. And you can pause it here. I'm not going to hold for 30 seconds, but it's really just to give you the time to reflect. on how you think and feel that you are showing up to the world. All right, so let's get into this. I'm excited for this episode. I would say that I am now operating from a place of wholeness. I have not always been this way and it's taken quite a bit of time and quite a bit of work to get here. Am I complete? I would say I am complete for where I am right now. And I will always say that there's always opportunities to learn more. There's always opportunities to expand our horizons. And so that exploration in turn may indicate or may also reveal that I too may be showing up from a broken place, but I'm hoping that is not the case for my current state right now. I feel like I've done a lot of work. Oh boy, you know, it's a journey. Life is a journey. No one said that we have all the rules. No one said that it would be easy. No one said that we would have all the answers, right? And so, yeah, Let's take a second to talk about maybe what you may have felt or what you may have seen. And you may not even feel like you're operating from a broken place. It requires some deep digging. And in some previous episodes, I speak about whether or not You are allowing, whether or not your soil, if you will, whether or not your soil has all these pebbles of offense in it and maybe some rocks of disappointment and things like that. And so if you have not watched that or listened to that episode, I encourage you to go back and listen to it. I don't remember what episode it is. It was one of the early ones, maybe like four or five. So just check that out. If you go to YouTube, I have all the descriptions for each individual episode lined up also. So you'll be able to find it quickly there. But that episode I feel is very instrumental in giving us a starting point And maybe a visual representation of how we carry offenses and how we carry disappointments and brokenheartedness. So start there. But anyway, all right. So are you operating from a place of brokenness? God never intended for us to operate in that fashion. And so he can and will... heal you. He will allow you to be complete and be whole within him. You just have to allow him to do the work. You have to reach out to him. You have to create that relationship with him so that you can start that work, have that wisdom to know, wait a minute, I am operating from a place of brokenness. And, you know, I, What do they say? Hurt people hurt people. Are our lives perfect? No, you will never hear me say that. I am a big proponent of our environments when we are rearing and when we are growing up are very much instrumental in who we become as adults. However, that doesn't mean that you stay there. That doesn't mean that you stay there in that brokenness. Brokenhearted, God is near to the brokenhearted. And if you lean on him, you will understand and you will know that he sees every tear. He hears every cry. He understands you. And I encourage you to not be afraid to go inside and find those pebbles, those rocks, and allow God to work that out within you. Now, is it easy? No. It is not easy. It may take some time. And you have the opportunities to do different, to create different, to love differently, to be different, to accept different, to display and exhibit different. You have that ability. And so if you, I say it all the time, but if you are carrying something that happened to you years ago, you need to put it down. It is time. It is time for you to be able to live free. Not everyone is your enemy. And you do. I'm not going to say you don't need discernment. You need discernment because as you start to do this work, you will find that the enemy doesn't want you operating in a state of wholeness because he has the upper hand on you. If you are operating from a state of brokenness, maybe you go to substances. Maybe you smoke, maybe you drink, you know, maybe you do something heavier. All of that is due to brokenness. People who are whole do not go to substances to help them get through the day. They go to God. And that's the key. You have to go to God. You have to bring it to God. And all those other things, all they do is just mask the brokenness. God has not given us a spirit of fear. And too, while I'm thinking of it, on YouTube, I am referencing the scriptures. I'm not saying them because that would take entirely too much time for me. I am not there, y'all. I'm trying to get there, but I am not there where I can just pull it out of my brain. But I know how to reference it, right? And I know where it is and how to... incorporate that into the conversation so that's my goal right now i am not a preacher and uh but i can tell you where to go and so on youtube i am putting the scriptures on the screen but also if you're listening to this on a podcast I do also have it in my show notes. So hopefully there are some notes that come across when you click on it and the scriptures will be referenced there. Also on YouTube, I have the list of the scriptures that I've referenced. in the description for the video as well so just keep that in mind i am using the word uh for these for these references for scripture and for this conversation i'm just not calling it out if that makes sense all right so thank you um but anyway god does not give us a spirit of fear and so If you feel like you are one of those people who is operating in a state of brokenness, either something broke your heart when you were younger, or you know that you lash out on people, that is indicative of being broken. If you are whole, then you won't do that. You won't carry an argument with somebody you are whole and and what i mean by that is you understand that you're coming from a place of love you are not coming from a place of despair shame hurt anger you are not coming from that place so if you are receiving that you're going to respond with love and as i was mentioning the enemy He's very crafty, y'all. He's very crafty, very clever, and so much so that he does not want me to put these videos out, but I'm going to continue. He doesn't want you operating from a place of wholeness because then he has no power because you then operate with the understanding that God is all powerful. Jesus came to the earth whole. to defeat the enemy and provide that way and provide the way for us to be authoritative over our lives and declare that the enemy has no power. So if you are operating from a state of brokenness, then he has the upper hand on you, completely has the upper hand. And he's going to fight to keep you in that state. He doesn't want you operating from a place of wholeness. And I will say that, yes, whatever the offense was, was it fair? No. Could you have prevented, did you deserve it? No. However, at some point in your adult life, you have to let it go. You have to release it. You have to release the energy that is attached to it. You have to release the emotions that are attached to it, whether they're negative or not. And when you carry all of that, that stuff is heavy. It affects you physiologically. It affects you mentally. It affects you emotionally. And so I encourage you that if you are one of those broken people or that you you are operating in a state of brokenness, that you start to cultivate that relationship with God with Jesus, and we understand that no one can come to the Father but through the Son, Jesus, Yeshua. And I didn't say this on the previous episode, but I will say it here. Yes, we know that Jesus, that word did not exist initially when this first came out. So if you wanna call him Yeshua, that's completely fine. Yeshua is fine. for all intents and purposes in my conversations because i say his name every single day i'm gonna call him jesus but yes we do and acknowledge that that word was not around back in the day, okay? Back when he roamed the earth. But anyway, what I was talking about was the enemy does not want you operating in a state of wholeness and don't be ashamed that you are operating from a state of brokenness. A lot of times we do stuff just out of ignorance. We just don't know. And it's like, oh, when we find out and we understand that we are ignorant to something and we really don't know something, then that's when we figure out and understand that it's time to do better. And so what I'm helping you to maybe relate to or understand is that at one point in our lives, every one of us has operated from a state of brokenness. It's recognizing it sometimes that can be a little challenging. But once you recognize it, then it's time to take action on that. So the call to action for you for this is, one, identify whether or not you are operating from a state of brokenness. Do you lash out at people? Are you quick to anger? Do you have a point to prove? Are you operating from a state of hurt, brokenheartedness? It can be anything y'all. Are you leaning on substances to get through the day? Why are you doing that? That's the next question. So that's the next call to action. Identify why. And you might need to get a journal or something or a little notebook to write some of these questions down and then go back and look at the verses that I will post. Look at your reasoning for why you're doing something. And the enemy loves to have a stronghold on your mind. And so I challenge you, I challenge you to not let negative thoughts in, to not allow negative commentary to rule your life. You are so worthy. It doesn't matter where you've been, what you've done. God loves you as you are. You are his child. You are here. He created you in his own image. And he knew you before you were developed in the womb. He brought you here for a purpose. Please understand that your existence is not coincidental. There are so many different things that needed to line up in order for you to get here. And God knows how to orchestrate all of that. Each one of us is sent here for a purpose. In the larger grand scheme of things, in the larger picture, in the larger operation, if you will, you have been sent here for a purpose. And so I want you to keep that in mind. If you're feeling broken, if you're feeling like you're unworthy Understand that you are worthy. That is a lie that the enemy wants you to hold on to, that the enemy wants you to attach to and agree with because that's how he controls you. So keep that in mind as you are trying to just even contemplate. where you are, why you are, and how you are. It's very important to understand that, that God makes no mistakes. God makes no mistakes. And despite your circumstances, God knows how to get you up out of there. But you have to ask him, you have to pray to him, and you have to do the work. God meets us. He carries us when we need him to, but he also expects something from you, from your side. He expects some work on your side. You can have the faith, but if you don't do the work, I mean, what are you expecting that is going to happen? God is a father. He's not an enabler. He's expectant of you. to do what you were supposed to, to be obedient, to listen, to pray, to talk to him. And if you don't know how to pray, I would just say, start with a conversation. God, I have been apart from you for such a long time. I don't even know how to talk to you. It's that simple. And I guarantee you that he is listening. So we talked about Are you broken? We've asked ourselves why. And I'm not going to say that you're going to get this in the next 10 minutes or something. You know, just even the length of this podcast, I'm not going to sit here and tell you that you're going to have it all figured out in 20 minutes. Sometimes this stuff takes years, you know. but at least acknowledge. The point of this right now is to have you at least acknowledge that, oh, maybe I am operating from a state of brokenness and I need to do something to fix this. And our mental health, we know our mental health resources are very minimal in the United States and You know, there's obviously some opportunities there. But I don't know. Everything that you're going to need to talk about is in here. All your problems that you face. And I said in the last episode, everything that's happening right now, everything that we go through is nothing new to God. He knows what we're going to go through. He is all-knowing, right? omniscient, it's all powerful, all knowing. And he knows what happened to you. He knows why you are coming from where you're coming from. He knows, he understands, but what he wants from you is for you to stop carrying it and give it to him. Just give it to him all wrapped up. Nice and neat. With a little bow on the top. Give it to him. He wants that from you so that you can be free and stop letting whatever it is. It doesn't matter what it is. If it was an offense, if it was a disappointment, a broken heart, whatever it is. Not understanding his ways and his plan. God knows we get mad. Listen. If you read my book, Becoming Dependent on God, me and God had a Duke It Out session in the Outer Banks last year, okay? He understands that. And he loves you that much to where he's like, give it to me, child. Give it to me. That's all he wants you to do is just give it to him and stop carrying it. Stop fighting a battle that is not yours. Just give it to him. And when you do, don't go back there and pick it back up. Leave it. We're teaching the dog how to leave it. Leave something alone. Get away from it. Leave it. Don't go back for it. Because then you aren't trusting God to take care of it. And you're just saying basically like, God, I can do this. Even though maybe years down the line, you have proven to yourself that it's something that you cannot deal with. It is not in your wheelhouse. It's not a battle for you to fight. So keep that in mind. Understand that God loves you as you are. The enemy will do anything in his power to ensure that you remain in that broken state. So I encourage you to be fearless. Have faith. You only need faith the size of a mustard seed. And if you know how big a mustard seed is, you know that it's very, very, very tiny. it's very tiny it's not it's not a big seed and it might be just a little bigger than like some uncooked quinoa or maybe like some of the flower seeds you know some of the smaller ones that's how big a mustard seed is and so you only need that little bit of faith to understand and know that god will work it out Don't beat yourself up. Each one of us is on a journey and we have our own reasons and we have our own rationales for why we are in the states that we are in. But just know that you don't have to carry that any longer. God loves you and he created you and brought you into this world for a reason. It wasn't coincidental. Despite the circumstance, because I'm just gonna challenge you to think about this. Even if you were a child who was brought into this world under unloving circumstances, right? Your mother still got pregnant with you. Your mother still went to term with you. Your mother still had you. So despite whatever circumstances brought you here, God was the one ultimately who decides whether or not that pregnancy moves forward. How many miscarriages have people had? That to me means God's like, nope, there's something not correct with this one, so let me take it. How many mothers struggle to get pregnant, but then God steps in and they're able to get pregnant and carry a baby to term? How many pregnancies did not happen? So keep that in mind if you feel like, oh, maybe your parents weren't sufficient for what you needed or your parents don't love you. That's okay. It's not okay, but it is okay because you have a Father who loves you unconditionally and you have a Trinity at work for you. So I encourage you to just take some time, reflect on this, give yourself some grace, some love, give yourself some love, hug yourself and know that this work is required by you and you only. No one else, no one else, no one else can dictate anything in your life unless you allow it. So keep that in mind. I hope you join on the next episode. Please like, share, subscribe to the channel, click the notification button so that you know when the next episode comes out. And I am grateful to you for joining me on this journey of A Dash of Life, where we are touching on the spirit for the remainder of season one. All right. Take care. God bless. Thank you. Thank you for joining us on this episode of A Dash of Life podcast. I hope today's conversation added a touch of spirit, a pinch of passion, and a zest for life to your day.