FFP 47: I Didn’t Abandon My Kids, I Was Erased-Part 4

🎙️ Podcast Summary

In this powerful conclusion to a four-part series, Paul shares his emotional journey of surviving parental alienation, the family court system, and the aftermath of being a targeted parent. After a decade-long battle for his children, Paul opens up about why he ultimately walked away—not out of weakness, but self-preservation. He details the psychological and financial devastation caused by court entanglements, the trauma of alienation, and his decision to pursue healing, advocacy, and reform. Paul offers candid insight into PTSD, trauma bonding, the failures of mental health professionals, and systemic corruption that fuels family court profit over child welfare. He concludes with a message of hope and a call to action for targeted parents to center themselves, educate themselves, and be ready when their children come back.

💬 Talking Points

• Why Paul decided to stop fighting after 10 years of legal battles
• The compounding trauma of alienation, false allegations, and legal abuse
• The psychological toll: PTSD, anxiety, and identity loss
• The misconception of “abandonment” vs. being pushed out of a child’s life
• Title IV-D: How the court system profits from custody and child support disputes
• Criticism of “best interest of the child” – pushing for a “best interest of the family” framework
• The role of untrained professionals: GALs, minor’s counsel, and therapists
• Paul’s call for reform: mandatory training in estrangement and alienation
• Personal healing: returning home, rebuilding mental strength, and self-forgiveness
• A message to other alienated parents: learn the difference between serial and vindictive alienation
• Why empathy, education, and emotional regulation are key for surviving the system

✅ Key Takeaways

• Alienation is not always visible but deeply damaging: The internal collapse experienced by targeted parents is often ignored, minimized, or mislabeled.
• Walking away is sometimes survival, not surrender: Paul emphasizes that removing himself from a toxic, weaponized system was a form of protection for himself and his children.
• The court system often incentivizes conflict: Title IV-D and attorney billing practices can perpetuate custody disputes, rather than resolve them.
• We need systemic reform: Paul proposes legislative action to hold professionals accountable and enforce ethical training requirements.
• Healing requires intentional action: Meditation, journaling, working out, and building healthy support systems helped Paul move forward.
• The door is still open for reunification: Paul remains close enough for his children to find him and believes they will one day see the truth.
• Know the type of alienation you’re facing: Distinguishing between serial (often rooted in personality disorders) and vindictive alienation (possibly resolvable) is essential for choosing the right path forward.

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