FFP 51: Twice Alienated: A Mother’s Journey

🎙️ Episode Summary

In this episode of the Fractured Families Podcast, host Charity talks with Anna Zapata, a mother who endured two devastating experiences of parental alienation, first with her biological son and later with her stepchildren.

Anna shares how her son was taken from her at just over a year old, leading to a 12-year court battle where lies and manipulation kept them apart. She recounts the pain of watching her son suffer emotionally and mentally, including struggles with school, mental health, and suicidal ideation, all consequences of prolonged alienation.

Years later, Anna faced alienation again, this time through her husband’s ex-wife, who manipulated the children and grandchildren to reject Anna and their father. Despite the obstacles, Anna emphasizes resilience, faith, and the importance of never giving up. Her story is both heartbreaking and hopeful, offering encouragement to alienated parents that there is light at the end of the tunnel
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💡 Talking Points

• First Alienation Experience
  • Became a young mother at 18.
  • Son taken at 1 year 4 months old, raised by grandparents.
  • Court battles spanning 12 years where she was repeatedly disbelieved.
  • Emotional manipulation used against her (“Disneyland choice”).
  • Son eventually chose to live with her at 13, but carried trauma and anger.
• Second Alienation Experience (Stepchildren)
  • Husband’s ex-wife wrote letters, called, and actively sabotaged the relationship.
  • Manipulated children with lies about money, gifts, and loyalty.
  • Used control tactics like destroying communication (e.g., taking away phones, misusing gift cards).
  • Alienation extended into adulthood and even onto grandchildren.
• Emotional and Legal Barriers
  • Courts often failed to provide fair remedies.
  • Paid child support even when the child lived with them.
  • Systemic flaws worsened the alienation.
• Lessons Learned
  • Never belittle the other parent—children internalize it.
  • Focus on character, integrity, and consistency.
  • Faith, prayer, and perseverance as tools of survival.
  • Acceptance: you may not always restore the relationship, but you can find peace knowing you did your best.

✅ Key Takeaways

• Alienation is abuse: it creates lasting trauma for children and parents.
• Persistence matters: even when the system fails, consistent effort leaves a record for children to see later.
• Don’t mirror the alienator: avoid badmouthing or escalating conflict.
• Hope is vital: healing and reconnection are possible, even if imperfect.
• Faith and perspective: focusing on doing what is right brings inner peace, even if external justice is denied.

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