FFP 61: Its A Marathon, Not a Sprint

🎙️ Episode Summary

In this powerful and emotional episode of The Fractured Families Podcast,  sits down with Jahan Lovecraft, a father from Maine who shares his harrowing story of being erased from his young son’s life. Jahan recounts how a series of false allegations and legal failures led to a complete severance of his relationship with his four-year-old boy. His story exposes the deep dysfunction within the family court system, the misuse of protection orders, and the devastating impact of coercive control.

Jahan discusses the events that began with leaving a toxic home environment, only to face shocking accusations and a system that refused to hear evidence — even when psychological evaluations showed the truth. He describes how Maine’s new LD 670 law, recognizing coercive control as abuse, gives him hope for justice and accountability.

💬 Key Talking Points

1. How It Began:
   • Mold contamination forced the family to leave their home.
   • Within weeks, Jahan’s spouse abruptly left, made allegations of abuse, and filed a Protection from Abuse (PFA) order.
2. Legal System Failures:
   • Default judgment granted due to missed court notifications.
   • Judges ignored key evidence, including psychological evaluations and documented proof of the mother’s mental health struggles.
   • Systemic breakdown in Maine’s family court processes — no accountability, lost paperwork, and judicial apathy.
3. Coercive Control and the New Law (LD 670):
   • Jahan’s case is one of the first to leverage LD 670, which classifies coercive control and manipulation as abuse.
   • His pending grievance against the opposing lawyer for unethical conduct may invalidate prior rulings.
4. Erasure, Not Just Alienation:
   • Complete cutoff from communication with his son for over a year.
   • His ex-wife moved to Utah, using fear narratives and false claims to justify the separation.
   • Total erasure of father and paternal family from the child’s life.
5. Resilience and Self-Representation:
   • Importance of learning court procedures, filing motions, and representing oneself (“Go pro se”).
   • Encouragement to observe court hearings to understand biases and strategy.

🧠 Key Takeaways

• The system often fails fit parents: Courts frequently disregard valid evidence and psychological reports.
• Coercive control is a form of abuse: Maine’s LD 670 law could set precedent for other states.
• Documentation matters: Keep every record, message, and evaluation — they may become critical evidence.
• Self-care is survival: The legal process is emotionally brutal; taking breaks is vital to staying grounded.
• Persistence wins: Justice is slow, but knowledge and perseverance are key to reclaiming parental rights

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