We Woke Up Like This
We Woke Up Like This is the podcast where sacred meets science and awakening gets real. Each week, Joya, and sometimes guests, explore resurrection consciousness, quantum spirituality, our superpowers as multidimensional beings, and how life's greatest breakdowns become your most powerful breakthroughs. This is embodied awakening for souls ready to stop seeking and start BEING the light they came here to share.
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We Woke Up Like This
Soul Authority: Trusting Your Inner Guidance
What if everything you've ever needed to know about your life's direction already lives inside you? Not necessarily the answers themselves, but the ability to listen and be guided by what truly resonates with your soul.
The voice you've been seeking in books, workshops, experts, and gurus might actually be the voice you've been running from your entire life—your own inner knowing. The problem isn't that this guidance is unreliable; it's that we've been taught to believe everyone else's wisdom matters more than our own.
Carl Jung understood that each human carries a direct connection to divine wisdom, and learning to trust this inner guidance leads not just to psychological health but spiritual mastery. Throughout our lives, we develop what Jung called the "persona"—the mask we wear to fit into society. While necessary for functioning, this persona becomes toxic when we mistake it for our true self, disconnecting us from our authentic core.
Learning to distinguish between ego guidance and soul guidance is crucial. Ego guidance feels contracted, anxious, and speaks in "shoulds" that keep you safe but small. Soul guidance feels expansive, peaceful, and aligned, even when challenging. Your body serves as your most reliable compass—expanding with authentic guidance and contracting when you're making decisions from fear or people-pleasing.
The journey toward trusting your inner guidance isn't about rejecting external wisdom; it's about developing discernment. Who truly has what you want? Whose advice comes from love rather than projection? When you begin following your soul's wisdom, you'll inevitably disappoint people who expect you to remain predictable. This is where courage comes in—the willingness to honor your truth even when misunderstood.
As you cultivate this relationship with your inner knowing, you'll find yourself less concerned with seeking answers and more engaged in expressing your authentic essence. You'll stop pursuing opportunities that require betraying yourself and start embodying your soul's unique purpose. This isn't about becoming who you used to be but manifesting who you were always meant to be had your light been fully recognized from the beginning.
Ready to start listening to that quiet voice within? Take three deep breaths, place one hand on your heart and one on your belly, and ask: "What is one thing I already know I need to do that I've been avoiding?" Trust the first answer that arises, even if it seems impractical. Your guidance has been patiently waiting for you to remember that you already know everything you need for your next step.
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Hello, beautiful souls, welcome back to. We Woke Up Like this what if I told you that everything you've ever needed to know about your life's direction, your purpose, your next right step already lives inside of you. Maybe not the actual step, maybe not right now, but at least the ability to listen and know what it is, so you can be led by what's pulling you forward, rather than from your own mind that thinks it has everything all figured out. What if the voice you've been seeking in the books and the workshops and the coaches and the textbooks and the gurus and the experts and all the things is actually the voice you've been running from your entire life, and that is the voice of your own inner knowing? And what if the reason you don't trust that voice isn't because it's unreliable it is. I've never heard anybody one time say I'm so glad I didn't listen to my intuition. I've never heard anybody say that. But it's because you've been taught to believe that everybody else's wisdom is more valuable than your own.
Joya:Today we are going deep into one of the most revolutionary ideas Carl Jung ever offered the world, and that's that each human being carries within them a direct connection to divine wisdom. And that's that each human being carries within them a direct connection to divine wisdom, and that learning to trust this inner guidance is not just the path to your psychological health, it's the path to your spiritual mastery, and not only Jung. I'm going to tie in, of course, some Aramaic wisdom in this. This is so beyond positive thinking, and this is definitely not about manifesting what you want. That's easy when you get down all of the other principles. Manifesting what you want to manifest is simple, because you're already always manifesting. You're a constant creator. So this whole episode is about discovering that you have an internal guidance system that's more sophisticated than any GPS, more reliable than any advisor, more loving than your parents, and it's about learning to distinguish between the voice of your conditioned mind and the voice of your soul, and it's also about having the courage to follow that soul voice, especially when it leads you away from what everyone else thinks you should do.
Joya:There's something that happens to most of us somewhere between childhood and adulthood it's that we learn to stop trusting ourselves. Maybe it was a parent who consistently overrode your feelings or talked over you, or maybe it was a teacher who made you feel stupid for asking questions, or who made you feel like too much because you always knew the answer. Maybe you're made fun of for always knowing the answer. Maybe it was a culture that taught you to be seen and not heard, to follow rules rather than follow your heart. Whatever the source, it doesn't matter.
Joya:Most of us learn early that our inner knowing isn't as important as external authority. We're taught to look outside of ourselves for the answers and to question whatever it is that can be answered from within. We are taught not to listen and trust ourselves. Most of us, we learn to disrupt our own instincts, we dismiss our intuition and we rationalize away the quiet voice that knows exactly what we need. Carl Jung called this process the development of the persona, the mask we wear to fit into society. But he understood that, while the persona is necessary for functioning in the world. But he understood that, while the persona is necessary for functioning in the world, it becomes toxic when we mistake that persona for our true self.
Joya:When we live entirely from our persona, we lose access to what Jung called the self with a capital S, the archetypal core of who we really are. This self, this capital S self, speaks through our inner guidance. It communicates through our intuition, through body wisdom, through our dreams, through synchronicities, through that quiet knowing that doesn't need to justify itself to anyone, but most of us have been taught, but most of us have been so conditioned to ignore this voice that we forgot it exists. Or, if we hear it, we talk ourselves out of it, and this is especially true of women. But then something happens, a crisis, a loss, a moment when all of our external supports fail and suddenly we are forced to listen inward. That's when we discover that the guidance we've been seeking outside of ourselves has been available to us all along.
Joya:So most of you know that. Well, maybe not If you don't listen to my podcast, you don't know. But if you don't know, my beautiful, amazing, favorite human in the world, my son, transitioned to spirit back in February of 2025. And everything I thought, I knew about my life and my reality and my version of reality was completely gone in an instant All of the external structures I relied on, my role as a mother, my sense of safety, my belief, especially, that nothing terrible could befall me, because I had already been through so much and I was being obedient to God and to spirit and to source and I was on this spiritual journey and, mostly, that I could protect and keep safe the people that I loved. All of that was just gone in an instant.
Joya:But in that shattering, something really truly extraordinary happened to me. With all of my normal guidance systems offline, I was forced to listen to the only voice that remained, and that was the voice of my own soul. And what I discovered? That this voice has been there all along inside of me, patiently waiting for me to stop consulting everyone and everything else about my life. And I discovered that when I listened to this voice, that I can also feel vibrationally the energy of my son and I can receive telepathically downloaded messages from the other side of the veil that definitely do not come from my own wisdom, because they are things and thoughts and ideas and concepts that I've never thought of before. And when I get these insights, I not only get the idea, I'm getting the full bodily gnosis of the idea, I'm getting to experience the meaning of it. So it becomes embodied and internalized, and so I'm living these things, which really forced me to ask if I'm going crazy or can I really trust myself. So I'm calling this process that I'm going through mystical grieving. And there's a reason I'm calling it mystical grieving, because it's a mystical experience, for sure, and I suspect that there's a reason that it's happening to me and I'm seeking other mystical grievers to talk to about this.
Joya:But the first stage of mystical grieving is what I call the shattering, and that's when grace descends upon the heart that's been broken open. My freaking premonition I wrote on Instagram the day before my son died, and what this is is about the ego's control system being dismantled so that something deeper can emerge. It's when you no longer can rely on external validation, external security, external guidance and really, really, really, you're forced to find the source of your own strength, wisdom and the direction that exists inside of you and to validate and trust that your own experiences are real, they're valid, you can follow them, you can trust them. But, aside from going through a major crisis like this, jung, there's a lot of psychology behind this, and Jung also understood that this kind of crisis is often the beginning of our own individuation, the process of becoming who you really are, beneath all of the conditioning, the expectations, the borrowed beliefs, the stories, the traumas, the dramas, all of it. He knew that sometimes the psyche has to be in crisis to force us back into relationship with our authentic self. But I know, and what I absolutely know, is that you don't have to wait for a crisis to begin trusting your own inner guidance. You can choose to develop this relationship now, before life forces you to.
Joya:One of the most important distinctions Young made was between the ego and the self. Your ego is your conscious personality. It's the part of you that thinks, plans, worries and tries to control the outcomes. The self with a capital S, your deeper essence, let's just call it your deep self is the part of you that knows without knowing how it knows. It just knows and it sees the bigger picture. That's connected to something larger than your personal dramas. Both the ego and the self offer guidance, but they speak in completely different languages and they lead to completely different destinations. Completely different languages and they lead to completely different destinations.
Joya:Ego talk sounds like you should do this, anything. You should. You should do this because it's practical, it's safe or it's what other people expect you to do. You can't trust yourself because you've made mistakes before. You need more information or more credentials, another class, another certification, more external approval before you can move forward. I have been in that trap, was in that trap for many, many, many, many, many years and I have probably 20 something certifications to demonstrate that insane thought, truly truly an insane thought. Because guess what, if you're good at what you do and you're moving from your passion, from your heart, from it being your purpose and your calling in life, people don't give a crap about your credentials, unless maybe you're doing neurosurgery on them. Then, yeah, I want a top neurosurgeon. Yes, you need training. I'm not saying you don't need training. But don't fall into the trap of thinking that you constantly need to get another certification when you're well-equipped to do what you came here to do or what you want to do.
Joya:The ego says if you follow your heart, you're going to end up broke, you're going to wind up alone, you're going to be disappointed, you're going to fail. And the voice often feels urgent, anxious, and it demands immediate action, or it's paralyzed by overthinking. Or another thing I would like to add in here that just popped in as I wrote this list is that it also likes to plan and constantly just come up with new ideas, new plans. If you're a creative person like I am, that was another trap I fell into. I'm full of great ideas, but soul guidance feels like a quiet knowing that doesn't. You feel expanded inside of your body, you have a sense of coming alive, timing feels natural instead of forced, and it's wisdom that sounds like truth rather than strategies. The ego speaks in the language of fear and it seeks to keep you safe quote unquote safe by keeping you the same. And the self, the deep self, speaks in the language of love and it seeks to guide you toward your highest evolution, even when that means leaving your comfort zone, and it's always going to mean leaving your comfort zone. Learning to distinguish between these two voices is perhaps the most important skill you can develop as a conscious human being.
Joya:So, each stage of mystical grieving that I've been through, I've been documenting all of these as I've been walking this process, and it's been a masterclass. A masterclass in learning to trust deeper levels, deeper and deeper levels of my own inner guidance, and that I'm receiving guidance from beyond, from the invisible realms that totally exist. So we talked about stage one, which is the shattering open, and stage two is the thinning of the veil, and these are documented stages. By the way, the thinning of the veil taught me to trust mystical experiences over rational explanations. When I started receiving signs from Weston, big signs, especially. I mean, come on, he sent me a kitten in a tree. The synchronicities, the direct communication, you better believe.
Joya:And I have journals full of my ego saying you're making this up because you're grieving. You're crazy, you're looking for connections that don't exist. But my soul knew these experiences were real. I could feel that they were real and I could feel the peace that surpasses understanding in the midst of such freaking, heavy grief, and learning to trust that knowing over all of those doubts was my first lesson in stepping into my soul authority. It's not easy. I even found myself and I think I shared this before I shared it on Instagram for sure that early on, when I was experiencing these mystical experiences, I'm experiencing this peace that surpasses understanding. I have fallen into the grace that broke me open. I know I'm held in grace and I'm held in peace. I know that I was spiritually prepared for him to leave how, I don't know, but I know that I was.
Joya:And so, when it came to grieving, I felt like I'm not grieving right. I was judging myself for my own grieving process and especially being around people who are not spiritual, who absolutely do not get me and look at me like I have 27 heads and they're just baffled at why I'm not at home in my bed, sobbing my head off still. And don't think that I don't do that. I just don't do it all day. I cry, I release it, I let it out of my body. I don't tell myself a story about it, I just feel how I feel and I let it go. And then I step back into the certainty and the knowing that he's right here with me and I talk to him and I just say I miss you in your physical. I'm glad you're here energetically, I can feel you. I'm so grateful for that. And I miss laughing with you and I miss your hugs and I miss our deep conversations and I miss laying in the backyard and looking up at stars with you and not saying anything, hoping we'll find a UFO.
Joya:And then I went through this initiation of doubt. Doubt taught me that doubt isn't the enemy of faith, because every time I questioned whether Weston was really communicating with me, I had to choose Was I going to trust my direct experiences or my conditioned skepticism? And this stage taught me that doubt is just another form of external authority. It's the voice of the collective consensus trying to override my personal knowing and other people can make you doubt. Especially if you talk and you share with people who aren't connected like you are. They'll make you feel like, hmm, maybe I'm not experiencing this, maybe I am making this all up, but every time you go into doubt, your truth slips further away. And then after that came this invitation into trust, and it showed me that trust isn't a feeling. It's a choice that I make every freaking moment. Even when I couldn't feel certainty, I could still choose to act from what I trust.
Joya:And I learned that waiting until you feel completely sure is another way of avoiding your power, because your soul doesn't wait to ask for permission to guide you. It's guiding you all the time. If you're listening, it just invites and offers guidance and wants you to follow and listen to it. And it only does that in the present moment. And our mind is always casting us into the future, planning, worrying, fantasizing, or it's in the past, ruminating, wishing, wanting anything to be different than it actually is. We have to train ourselves to stay present, because that's where this whole guidance actually comes through.
Joya:Stage five I call the communion of hearts, and it revealed that inner guidance isn't just my personal opinion. It's literally my connection to divine intelligence and when I'm truly listening to my soul's guidance, I am not just accessing my mind's wisdom, my thoughts, my bodies. I'm tapping into the same source that guides our planets, that knows exactly exactly when each flower should bloom. It's mind-blowing when you can tap into that energy and feel it, and feel that that energy is what moves you as well. And this journey has definitely taught me that inner guidance isn't about getting what you want not at all but it's about discovering what your soul came here to experience and express.
Joya:Throughout history, mystics from every tradition have understood something that most people miss, and that's that true spiritual authority does not come from external credentials or borrowed wisdom or anything outside of you. It comes from direct personal relationship with divine intelligence, knowing with a G. Teresa of Avila didn't need the church's permission to have mystical experiences. Rumi didn't need academic approval to channel divine poetry. Joan of Arc didn't need military training to know she was called to lead an army. They each had what Jung called a direct connection to the deep self, the archetypal core that transcends your personal identity and connects us to universal wisdom. But here's what's crucial to understand this connection isn't reserved for special people, or for saints or for geniuses. In fact, it's their listening to it that made them that way. It's your birthright as a conscious being. You don't have to earn the right to trust your inner guidance. You just have to know how to listen to it and have the courage to say yes and follow what you hear.
Joya:Young spent years studying mystical traditions and discovered that they all point to the same truth, and it's what Yeshua taught us. The kingdom of heaven is within you. The Buddha nature is your true nature. Christ consciousness is available to every human being. The divine spark lives in your soul, not out there somewhere far away that you have to try to get to. This means that your inner guidance isn't just your personal preference or your psychological processes. It's your direct line to the same intelligence that creates galaxies and orchestrates the perfect timing of every synchronicity of your life. In the Aramaic language and cosmology, they would call this the Nafsha.
Joya:I've talked about the concept of the Nafsha many times on other shows. It's N-A-P-H-S-H-A, nafsa, and I've come to understand it as being like a transducer of the energy of the consciousness of source to flow through you and it gets utilized by you to the capacity that you will and allow it to, because you have free will, which is why we want to do the shadow work. It's why we want to heal ourselves and get out of the way, clear up all this ego nonsense, so that we can become clear conduits for this source to flow through us and inform the intelligence of our body. And again, it only happens in the present moment. And I equated this.
Joya:I came up with a really great metaphor for this just this morning in meditation, and it was like imagine a lamp. Look in your room, where you are right now, if you have a lamp, and imagine that this lamp is an autonomous being who decides it can light itself up without being plugged into a socket. But imagine that this lamp was actually created to be a lighthouse, but because it's lighting itself up, it's never going to become a lighthouse. It doesn't even know it can be a lighthouse. And if you told it it could be a lighthouse, it would think you were just absolutely crazy, because it's just a lamp. And that's how we are. We're lighting ourselves up with our ego, we're lighting ourselves up with our conditioned self, our conditioned, patterned responses, and this is also what Jung referred to as dark light, which means we are creating projections of our own shadows. So if you can plug yourself in to the source from which you came, then this energy source can now flow through you and guide you to becoming the lighthouse that you are, instead of being a Christmas tree bulb.
Joya:It's such a perfect metaphor, it's such a perfect analogy for this, and I absolutely believe that this force that Yeshua spoke of, also in Aramaic, it's the Heruka Dekucha force, and it is a force of consciousness that is as real as electricity or gravity. And just like people were afraid of electricity when it first came onto the circuit no pun intended, people were afraid of it, and I think that in the future, as an awakened society, awakened beings, it'll seem that same kind of nonsense and absurdity that people once mistook it as religion, because it's not. It's literally the force of the quantum field that is intelligent and benevolent and it's made of love, and you can call it God, you can call it source, you can call it the creator, you can call it whatever you want to call it. It's everything. And then from that came this force of itself to make sure that all things work out for good. And we don't have to wait for it to work out for good. We can actually plug into it in the present moment and operate from it, and instead of it having to clean up all of our messes and make sense of them in the present, so we go. Oh, that's why that happened. Everything happens for a reason. We can instead create consciously from the present moment, using this source the force. Be with you and create consciously now, and that's how we unfold into the process of becoming the lighthouse that we are meant to be.
Joya:So when you develop inner trust and you decide to follow your inner guidance and go against the grain of who you've been and what you've been doing and what other people expect of you and what other people think you should be doing, and you give up the I'm going to be nice and I'm going to be whatever it is you're being for approval. It's going to ask you to disappoint people, and there's nothing scarier for so many of us than that. It will lead you to make choices that don't make sense to other people. It will invite you to live in a way that challenges conventional wisdom and threatens people who need you to stay predictable. When you start following your soul's guidance, you might be led to leave a successful career. That's killing your spirit but you make good money, or end relationships that look great on paper but they drain your energy, or move to a place that calls to you for reasons you cannot explain. It will ask you to express gifts that don't fit into neat professional categories I can't tell you how many of my clients are women who are spiritual, who work in corporate America and, oh my gosh, am I happy they're there and it will ask you to say no to opportunities that everyone else thinks you're crazy to refuse. This is why most people never develop real trust in their inner guidance. It's not because the guidance is not there, it's because following it requires a level of courage that most people aren't willing to cultivate.
Joya:And Young called this process of differentiation, which is learning to separate your authentic voice from the voices of your parents, the culture, the society, the collective conditioning of fear that you've been programmed to listen to since birth. And this process is inherently rebellious because it asks you to value your inner truth over external approval. But what happens when you find the courage to follow your inner truth over external approval? But what happens when you find the courage to follow your soul's guidance consistently is this you discover a level of inner fulfillment, authenticity and spiritual power that isn't available any other way. You stop living as an imitation of yourself and you start embodying your actual full essence. You become who you came here to be rather than who you were taught to be, and your mind and your body are intimately connected.
Joya:Your body is constantly receiving and processing information from your environment, from your relationships and from your own inner state of being, and learning to read these subtle physical signals is one of the most reliable ways to access your inner guidance, because you have three brains. We have our head, and in the West we worship the brain, the thinking processing brain. But we also have a heart that tells us what's right. And we also have a gut brain, which is where our feelings live. That's where your intuition lives. You get a gut feeling. That is literally where your feelings come in. They don't have language, and so we have to learn to trust ourselves, because that gut feeling that's telling you go, and it goes up to your heart and your heart says yes. And it gets up to your mind and your mind says this makes no sense, I'm so scared I am not doing this, and this all happens in the quickest snap of a finger than you can, even before you're even consciously aware of it.
Joya:Oftentimes, if you're not aware of these processes that go on inside of your body, your body never lies about what's true for you. It knows the difference between authentic soul guidance and mental manipulation. It can sense when someone around you is untrustworthy or when the situation is aligned to your highest good. The challenge is learning to listen to these subtle signals and trust what they're telling you, especially women. Oh my gosh. I remember watching a show many years ago about women who are attacked and how often they had a bad feeling about the person. But then their mind said you're being ridiculous, you're being judgmental, you're being this, you're being that. Go be a nice lady. Instead of listening to that intuition that said this guy's a creep. That's a fact. There's so much documented evidence about that. So just think about that for yourself. How often do you override your own inner knowing when your mind, your own mind, judges you for your own inner experiences that you're having? When you are receiving authentic inner guidance, your body will feel expansive, it will feel open. It will feel expansive, it will feel open, it will feel energized, it'll feel peaceful, even if the guidance is challenging. You will feel grounded and centered in your knowing, you feel like you're moving in the right direction, even if you can't see the destination, because you just trust yourself so much you can say no without explaining yourself.
Joya:Oh, and for love, love of God, please stop apologizing. I heard a woman today. I was dropping off my car to be fixed and she came in and the guy was there and first thing she says is hi, sorry. I'm like, why are you saying you're sorry? You're sorry for dropping off your car to be fixed? I hear women do this a lot. When we bump into each other, passing in a bathroom, or, instead of saying excuse me, I'll say oh, I'm sorry. It's this constant apologizing that women do. I'm sorry for existing, I'm sorry my presence is here. I'm sorry I was in your way, I'm sorry, I'm bothering you. I'm sorry I'm speaking up. Can we stop saying we're sorry and save the apologies for when we really are sorry for something, not all these little things that are really the ego going. Oh gosh, I inconvenienced someone.
Joya:You know, when you're following your ego, because your body will feel contracted, tight or depleted, anxious, agitated or numb, disconnected from your center, like you're all in your head, like you're moving away from yourself when you start instantly judging yourself like oh why did I say, yes, I would do that thing? I don't want to do that. I've learned to check every situation and every decision against my body's inherent wisdom. Especially now and when Weston communicates with me, I feel his energy, I feel him physically and if I wasn't subtly attuned I wouldn't notice, because it feels like an energetic pole that sidles up to my right hand side and it doesn't feel like my own energy field. I can sense his presence. When I'm following authentic guidance, I feel aligned, I feel energized, and when I'm operating from fear or trying to please others, my body feels heavy and constricted and I just don't do it anymore.
Joya:Your body is your most reliable inner guidance compass. It's always available, it's always honest and you're always, always, always. It's working in service of your highest good and every time we listen to it, it says yay, she's trusting herself, and then it'll give you more to trust. So you can learn to develop and become sensitive to your own inner world. And become sensitive to your own inner world. Begin each day by sitting quietly and asking within what wants to emerge through me. How can I best serve my highest evolution and say I'm willing to listen, show me, guide me, let me tune in through the day and be committed to listening with your mind, with your heart, with your heart, with your body, with your energy field, your whole being, and notice what arises, and then have the courage to trust that first guidance you receive.
Joya:I love to do what I call the three breath check-in before making any decision, especially because I'm a manifesting generator and I have emotional authority, which means I get really excited in the moment I'm like, oh, I love this idea, but the next day I might not be so in love with the idea. I've learned to wait to make big decisions. Number one I will wait a few days and see if I'm still excited about it, but if I'm facing a decision right, then I will take three deep breaths inside of my body and ask if it feels expansive inside of my body or if it feels contracting in any way inside of my body. What would love choose here? And then I trust the wisdom that emerges from that centered place. And if people won't be patient with you in making a decision, well then I just tell them. If you have to make a decision right now, I understand If you can't wait for me to make my decision and you need to fill this spot or you need to have someone else in, I totally get it. That's fine. But I need to make this decision when I feel like it's right for me. If it means I miss out on this opportunity right now, then okay, but you'll know. I miss out on this opportunity right now, then okay, but you'll know and that's not always, but you'll know.
Joya:When facing a choice, imagine explaining each option to someone whose opinion that you totally value. Talk to your deep self like it's your best friend and find out which choice you find yourself defending or justifying to yourself. Which one lights you up when you talk about it, what makes you feel really excited when you start sharing it with yourself. The option that you have to convince others about is usually the ego choice. The option that feels true, even if you can't explain why, is usually the sole choice. It just feels calm, like I don't know why I love to get dream practices in as well at night when I'm sleeping.
Joya:Before I go to get dream practices in as well at night when I'm sleeping, before I go to sleep, I'll ask for inner guidance or clarity around a situation and I'll request that that answer come in through my dreams. You can keep a journal by your bed or record what comes up on your phone, even if it seems unrelated to your question, because, remember, our dreams speak in symbols, not literally. And then I will ask Chatty G to be a Jungian dream analyst and I'll share the details of my dream and you can even share what question you asked. Here's the question I asked before I went to bed. Here's what I dreamed last night. How are these relevant? And you might be amazed at what comes through.
Joya:And practice noticing how different people, places and activities affect your energy field, how you feel physically, how you feel emotionally, how you feel mentally, because your inner guidance is constantly communicating through your energetic responses, your biofield. And learn to trust when something feels nourishing versus draining, even if you can't explain why rationally. The key is to start small and build your trust gradually. Ask for guidance about minor decisions and notice the results when you follow your inner knowing versus when you ignore it. Over time, you will develop confidence in your inner compass and be ready to trust it with bigger choices.
Joya:Perhaps the most challenging aspect of following your inner guidance is navigating the reactions of people who are invested in you staying the same Family members who expect you to fulfill your role that you've been playing all these years. Friends who need you to be predictable because they don't want to upset their world either. Colleagues who've built their identity around your shared beliefs. And society that has rules about how people should live and how people should behave, and even about how people should grieve. When you start following your soul's guidance, you'll inevitably make choices that others don't understand, and that's okay. They might attack you, they might accuse you of being selfish, irresponsible, or maybe you're having a midlife crisis. They might withdraw their support financially, emotionally, in lots of ways, because that's how they want to control you or try to convince you that you're making a huge mistake.
Joya:But this is the ultimate test of your inner guidance Are you willing to honor your soul's truth, even if it disappoints others? Are you willing to be misunderstood in service of being authentic Individuation? The process of individuation, becoming who you really are is inherently disruptive to the collective norms, and he said one of my favorite quotes, which is the privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are. But he also knew that this privilege comes with a price the willingness to stand alone when necessary. And I've learned that the people who truly love you will eventually respect your authenticity, even if they don't get your choices. And the people who can't accept your authentic self weren't actually loving the real you. Anyway, they were loving their projection of who they needed you to be, to play a role in their version of reality.
Joya:Following your own inner guidance isn't just to be defiant or reject everybody's input or be a lone island. You're not becoming isolated, you're not becoming self-absorbed, but you're developing the discernment to know when external advice serves your soul's evolution and when its attempt is to keep you small, safe and convenient to others. One of my favorite things that someone once said to me I gave her unsolicited advice back when I was very dysfunctional and she said you don't have what I want, so I'm not going to listen to you. That right, there is radical self-trust. I love that she said that to me. I was not angry at all. In fact, bells went off inside of me. I was like, oh my gosh, I don't have what I want either. And this is what we do when we're advice giving, like that right, the unsolicited advice, projecting, projecting, projecting in a world that profits from your insecurity and your dependence.
Joya:Trusting your inner guidance is such a radical act. It truly is. It is spiritual rebellion against every system that tells you to look outside of yourself for the answers to questions that can only be answered from within you. When you trust your inner guidance, you stop being a consumer of other people's wisdom and become a channel for divine intelligence. You stop seeking validation for your choices and start making choices that validate your soul. You stop living according to other people's expectations and start embodying your own authentic purpose. You don't have to become arrogant or dismissive of other people's perspectives. Everyone has a right to their own reality, and that includes you.
Joya:True inner guidance in fact makes you more compassionate, not less compassionate, and it connects you to the same source of love that flows through every being. The same source that's informing your soul-led decisions also informs theirs, but they may not be listening to it yet. It just means you stop giving your power away to external authorities who don't have access to your soul's blueprint, and you stop giving your power away because you think you're not worthy of it. You stop giving your power away because you're afraid of it. Your authentic spiritual essence is both personal and transpersonal. You're not worthy of it. You stop giving your power away because you're afraid of it. Your authentic spiritual essence is both personal and transpersonal. It's uniquely you, but it's also connected into a universal wisdom. When you trust your inner guidance, you're not just following your personal preferences, you're aligning with the creative intelligence of the universe itself.
Joya:As you go through a process of awakening, you will come to the point where you have a resurrection of your true self, and this is when you fully embody the wisdom that you've gained through your journey of self-trust and action in alignment with your self-trust. You're no longer seeking yourself anymore. You're not seeking anything outside of you, wondering who you are. You're expressing yourself. You're not looking for your purpose, you're living your purpose. And this resurrection is not ever about resurrecting your old self, becoming who you used to be. That would not be resurrection. But this is really resurrecting the true self that you could have been, that you should have been, had you been brought up in an environment where your light was seen, nourished and brought out, so that you never had to become a lamp. You were always a lighthouse, and you don't pursue opportunities that ask you to betray your authentic self anymore and you never abandon your inner knowing because you feel so connected. You're not going to be perfect. You're a human being. You will make mistakes, but you pick yourself up so much faster, you catch yourself so much faster.
Joya:I know, if I slip into judgment of someone boy, I feel it so differently. It's like a splinter in my consciousness and I'm like, oh gosh, I'm in judgment of them, yuck. Then I say, okay, what am I judging in myself? What am I projecting right now? What am I fearing in my own shadow? This is a clue that something's blocking my light. We want to have so much trust in our inner compass that, even when we do take those wrong turns which we will because we're human that we know how to find our way back to our center fast. We live from essence rather than from conditioning. We are soul-led rather than ego-led, which means we're living from love rather than fear.
Joya:And as we come to the end of our time together today, I just want you to take a moment and listen, not to my voice, but to the voice inside of you that's been speaking throughout this entire conversation, the voice that's been saying yes to certain ideas or lighting you up inside. That voice knows exactly what you need to hear right now and is going. Hey, pay attention to that. That voice is your inner guidance. It has been with you since the moment you were born and it will be with you until the moment you transition back to spirit. It's more reliable than any external authority. It's really more loving than any human could ever be.
Joya:Your inner guidance knows why you incarnated in this lifetime. It knows what experiences your soul came here to have, what gifts you came here to share, what healing you came here to offer the world. What gifts you came here to share, what healing you came here to offer the world, what healing you came here to receive. It knows the perfect timing for every transition, every relationship and every opportunity that's meant for you. And this isn't to say that you don't read, that you don't get a coach. In fact, that's my number one criteria for having a coach is they need to be way beyond where I'm at right now and they have to have what I want. And I'm not talking about materially, I'm talking about embodied presence, something they're embodying, something they're exuding, something they're living and being. They're not just talking about it. Anyone can talk about it, but not everyone will be about it, and there's a big difference there.
Joya:So beloved, beautiful light house, lighthouse that you are. Are you ready to trust that voice inside of you? Are you ready to stop seeking outside of yourself for answers that can be found within? You do know the way. Are you ready to follow the guidance of your soul, even when it leads you into territory? Your mind Are you ready to follow the guidance of your soul, even when it leads you into territory your mind has never dared to venture? Are you ready to become the person you came here to be, rather than the person you were taught to be? Because your inner guidance has been patiently waiting for you to remember that you already know everything you need to know. You already have everything you need to take your next step. You already are everything you need to know. You already have everything you need to take your next step. You already are everything you've been seeking to become. The path home to your authentic self isn't somewhere out there. You don't need to seek it. It's right here. And when you ask, know that this force in the universe will begin to work on you and the first thing it's going to show you is what you're doing. That's in the universe will begin to work on you and the first thing it's going to show you is what you're doing.
Joya:That's in the way it disrupts your life immediately through the process of inner discomfort. For me, a long time ago now, that was drinking alcohol. Every time I would do it, I knew I shouldn't be, I would beat myself up for days. And it's that very feeling, that very feeling of beating myself up, of feeling crappy for a choice I made, and then how my ego would wrestle with itself oh, but I love it. Oh, but it's so much fun. Oh, but we enjoy it. Oh, but this, oh, but that.
Joya:It's trying to overwrite that voice that's saying stop, you're in the way of what wants to come through. So notice those feelings inside of you, because that's right where your work lies, that's right what this work is. And that's why it's so damn hard, because it's hard to say no to our conditioned self. Let's not lie about that. It's hard to say no to those patterns. But once you do and you get down the road a little ways, then you look back and you go. What was so hard about it? The conditioning is hard, the patterning is hard, because it's like a ship in momentum. You've been doing this, You've been rowing, you've been rowing, you've been rowing. You've been rowing. So even when you pull your oars in, you're still going in that direction and it takes energy to turn the other way around.
Joya:And that takes conscious energy through the process of saying no to what you don't really want, but what your ego says it wants right now, but what your soul doesn't really want anymore. And I don't look at it as being disciplined like I'm punishing myself. I call it bliss-a-plin with a, b or acts of devotion. I've started this new process of devotional eating Instead of putting myself on another fricking diet like I have for the last 50 years with my food issues that I'm healing now, that are clearing out because they don't want to be. They don't belong here anymore. And so I had this download try devotional eating because your body is a temple. Make an offering of every meal, like you're going to a temple and you see the beautiful incense and the oranges and the water offerings and the gold and the coins and all these things, these offerings made at temples. I saw this visual. I said what if I make my every meal a devotional offering like that to myself? And that really clears that up in my ego. That's like oh, but I love cookies. So listen in and, yes, it's going to be hard, but you can do it and it's so worth it. So I want to invite you to work with something right now.
Joya:If you're in a safe space, close your eyes and take three deep breaths and place one hand on your heart and one on your belly, and let's do this together Inhaling in, exhale Let your shoulders drop on your exhale. Take another. Inhale in, exhale out oh, let those shoulders drop even more. One more breath in. Take another sip of air. Exhale and drop those shoulders. Ah.
Joya:Ask your soul inside of yourself this question what is one thing I already know I need to do that I've been avoiding or questioning myself about? Don't think about it, just notice what arises. Trust the first guidance, even if it's small, obvious or God forbid impractical. Ask it again. What is one thing I already know I need to do that I've been avoiding or questioning, questioning what would it mean for my life if I trusted this guidance completely?
Joya:Feel into the possibility and let yourself imagine what your life would look like if you followed your inner knowing, consistently, courageously, completely. Your future isn't a fantasy. It's a possibility that becomes available the moment you choose to trust and listen to the wisdom that lives within you. Your guidance has been calling you home your whole life and today, right now, this moment, nothing before this moment matters, because there's nothing that can change in the past. But you can clearly see what you've learned, you can clearly see what your patterns are, you can clearly see what serves you and what doesn't serve you, and you can choose from right now. And you can choose from right now. Our whole life is built on tiny choices we make day in and day out, all day long. So what would happen if you just allowed your inner guidance system to guide you Until next time?
Joya:You, beautiful souls, remember what you already know. Remember what you've always known. The guidance is there inside of you. Are you ready and willing to say yes to it and listen to it and to trust it? And if you're listening to this podcast, if these words are resonating in that deep place within you that recognizes truth when it hears it, then you're more ready than you know. Trust yourself and trust your soul. Trust the guidance that's been lovingly leading you home all along, and I invite you to download on my website at vibologycom.
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