Why Not Us

Epsiode 21 - Men and Women Are Not the Same

Dillon Phaneuf / Jamie Paton

Episode Description:

The world is pushing for absolute equality between men and women, but is that really how God designed us? In this episode, Dillon and Pastor Jamie challenge the modern view that men and women should be identical in function, diving deep into biblical truth, history, and biology to understand their complementary roles.

We explain why chasing equality in function often leads to division, how modern policies have backfired by reinforcing gender differences, and why men are responsible for leading, protecting, and providing, not in dominance but in godly strength and service.

This is a powerful episode for men and women alike. It tackles one of the most controversial cultural issues with truth and conviction.

Key Takeaways:

  1. God Created Men and Women as Equals in Value but Different in Role
    • Men were designed to lead, protect, and provide, while women were created to nurture, support, and bring wisdom.
    • Genesis 1:27“So God created man in his own image… male and female He created them.”
  2. Chasing Equality in Function Often Leads to More Division, Not Unity
    • The Netherlands and Swiss studies show that the more freedom men and women have, the more they choose traditionally masculine and feminine roles.
    • Trying to force equality in outcomes erases our natural strengths instead of celebrating them.
  3. Men Are Failing to Fulfill Their Biblical Duties
    • Many men today avoid responsibility, leading to a weak generation lacking direction.
    • 1 Corinthians 16:13“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.”
    • Higher testosterone is linked to following convictions over conformity, a biological and biblical call for men to stand firm.
  4. Women’s Strength in Biblical Femininity
    • Biblical womanhood is NOT a weakness; Proverbs 31 paints a picture of a wise, strong, and capable woman.
    • Women’s power is in grace, wisdom, and faithfulness, not in trying to mirror men.

Quotes from the Episode:

  • “Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come.” – Proverbs 31:25
  • “A man who does not provide for his family has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” – 1 Timothy 5:8