The Examined Lives (ENM Vibes)
Welcome to an evolved "The Examined Lives" podcast! What started as a deep dive into the drama of the The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives reality show has evolved into a bold exploration of modern love, non-monogamy, and its portrayal in mainstream media.
Join hosts Lauren, an ENM relationship coach and swinger, and Ben, an ex-LDS polyamorist, as they bring their unique perspectives to mainstream media’s portrayal of ethical non-monogamy. From dissecting TV shows to sharing their own insights and experiences, Lauren and Ben invite you to laugh, learn, and rethink what love can look like.
Whether you're here for the spicy stories, thought-provoking discussions, or just some good company, this podcast is your go-to for real talk about relationships that break the mold. Buckle up—it’s about to get real, raw, and a little rebellious!
Still, unofficially representing real communities sometimes misrepresented in media
Hosted by: Lauren Hayes, Swinging Lifestyle Coach & her poly friend, Ben
The Examined Lives (ENM Vibes)
Down to Feel Good St. Louis
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Lauren and Ben return with a deep dive into HBO Max's DTF St. Louis - a weatherman, a case of peyronies, and a friendship intimate enough to be its own subplot.
Is it a show about ethical non-monogamy? Not exactly. Infidelity is doing a lot of the heavy lifting here, but is it sex positive? Weirdly, mostly yes. Lauren and Ben work through where the line is between "ethical for me" and "not my responsibility to police," why validation and self-esteem get so tangled up in sex and dating apps, and why so many messy non-monogamy storylines in TV seems to end the same way (spoiler: it's not good).
They also get into the show's surprisingly tender male friendship, a very memorable new term (SPH, if you're taking notes), and why "modern love" might be the most overlooked phrase in the series. Plus: BBC myths, hot wife dynamics, and the eternal question of what happens when your self-worth is riding on an app match.
Got a show or movie with an ENM thread we should cover next? Send it our way. More from Lauren at swinginglifestylecoach.com and @swinginglifestylecoach on Facebook and Instagram.
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