Your Body Listens Even When You Don’t: Healing Trauma in Performance-Driven Women | S2 EP8

Welcome to Episode 8 of The Finally Healed Podcast with Jessica Lundy! In this heartfelt and transformative episode, Jessica dives deep into the profound connection between our mental, emotional, and spiritual health—and how it all shows up in our bodies.

Jessica shares her own journey of discovering how trauma and stress can manifest as physical symptoms, from back pain to digestive issues and even brain fog. She opens up about her personal experiences, including the challenges of navigating her daughter's health journey, and how processing emotional pain led her to greater self-care.

Drawing insights from the renowned book "The Body Keeps the Score," Jessica encourages listeners to conduct daily self-check-ins, create nourishing routines, and prioritize both faith and therapy on the healing journey. You’ll learn practical ways to listen to your body, release stress, improve your morning and evening habits, and foster meaningful conversations with those around you about health and healing.

If you’ve been wondering why you feel "off" despite doing everything right, or you just want practical tools to finally heal, this episode is for you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
How unresolved trauma and stress show up in your body
The importance of daily self-check-ins & body scans
Practical routines for better sleep and less stress
How to create supportive conversations with friends and family
The connection between forgiveness, faith, and physical health

Ready for more peace and presence in your life? Press play and let’s walk this healing journey together.

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Transcript

Leading Through Self Care

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I realize once I start taking care of myself, everyone else around me is like, you know what, I do need to check on this, or I do need to look under this. So remind yourself that you are the leader, and when you take massive action, massive things happen. I want to tell you a little secret today. Did you know that the trauma that you experienced in your past and that you might even still be experiencing today is showing up in your body? Oh my God. I feel like maybe that was like a light bulb moment that went off for somebody. Like you might have been wondering why is my back hurting? Why are my shoulders hurting? Why is my knee? I don't know about the knee if the knee is not related or not. Stay focused, stay focused, okay? But it is so true that sometimes we forget that our our our the mental and emotional and spiritual things that we're experiencing and enduring can actually show up physically in our body. And that's why some of you are so tired and you're so fatigued, and it feels like you're doing all the right things, you're taking all the right vitamins, you're working out, you're drinking your water, like you're eating clean, you're doing all the stuff, but you're still feeling this bit of tension in your body. And if you've ever read certain books, right, where it feels like, how did this author know all of my business? That's kind of how I feel right now. I just started reading this book called Uh The Body Keeps the Score. And I didn't know my body was telling on me. It was keeping score and it was racking them points up. And so as I'm reading this book, it's identifying so many challenges and traumas and experiences that I had, but I didn't have language for. Like some of you might be wondering like why different things are showing up in your body, showing up in your mind, why some challenges might be coming, why you might even be having nightmares, um, flashbacks. Sometimes I get flashbacks from things in my past, and it is literally my body keeping score. And so while reading this book, and I'm gonna give a disclaimer, this is a serious book to read. Like, while you're reading this book, like, please be in therapy, please be going to counseling. Like, this isn't, this isn't, these aren't things you want to just be realizing and navigating by yourself. I always say that you need both Jesus and therapy. So, you know, couple those things together. But you deserve to go on this true journey of self-discovery and going a layer deeper, right? Like when you think of self-discovery, you might have been noticing, you know, cute little things about your personality or, you know, what works with you, or you know, things like that. But I want you to take it a level deeper so that you can get the results that you desire and that you can finally heal, like finally be free, like finally be true to who you are. And so as I'm reading this book, it's forcing me to identify what is going on in my body. And I remember the day before my daughter had her trach surgery to get her trach in, my husband ended up having a pinch nerve in his shoulder. And he was going to the doctor. He's like, What's going on? And they were like, it's stress. And he's like, What are you, what are you talking about? Like, I must have fell or I must have slept the wrong way. And that's when we started to identify like stress really does show up in your body, and you don't really get to decide how stress and trauma and challenges are going to show up. And so I want you to start taking an inventory on how stress is showing up in your body. It's so important to understand uh stress management and really take a deeper look on how your body is responding to stress. I am kind of similar. If I'm in a stressful situation, um, I can start to feel a little bit of stress, like right here on my shoulders. I know if I don't have enough sleep, like I'm gonna get them full eight hours. Um, I even start to have digestive challenges. Like my body is letting me know like it did not have its proper rest to like reset my body. And so when I when I'm telling you or your doctor is telling you to get some rest, it's because your body needs it, it's craving it. And if you don't give it, it's gonna act out. Okay. So I want you to start paying attention to what your body is telling you. I have um some friends recently that went on an anti-inflammatory diet, and they're realizing like, what is that doing? Like actually figuring out, okay, I'm eating certain things, like how does it make me feel? Y'all know I have been on quite the journey of trying to remove sugar, the stronghold of sugar from my body. I'm even reading a book on um a sugar detox that is a faith-based book, so that can help navigate me. So we can no longer say this is a struggle, this is a challenge in my life, and just accept it as so. No, we need to do some investigative research and figure out if something is going on in my body, I need to remove it. I know when I remove sugar, which I've been on this journey of removing any type of, I'm still doing fruit, but outside of like fruit and like natural sugars, I'm not doing any artificial sugars because I realized that it was giving me brain fog. And when I was dealing with stress and trauma in my life, being in and out of the hospital with my daughter, I found myself, brace yourself. I found myself turning to sugar instead of turning to the cross. Oh my God. I don't know if that if that convicted you the way it convicted me when I had that revelation. And so I realized that my body was telling me you're just in a fog. Some of y'all are in a fog because you don't want to deal with what is actually happening emotionally in your life. Some of y'all are dealing with struggles with your family members, with your finances, and you're wondering like why something feels off because you gotta deal with this stuff. Now that we know that our body is doing this, let's talk about what the solution looks like. I think the first thing you have to do is you start have you have to start checking in on yourself regularly. I think you should do like a full body scan once a day. Now that might seem extreme, but let me encourage you. That only takes about a couple of seconds to identify from your head like, are you having headaches? Like, is your neck hurting? Are you are you intense? Um there was a season in my life where I had a lot of back pains. That's something I still deal with. So when I have back pain, I can feel myself kind of adjusting, which allows me to know, like, okay, I need to release some stress and some tension in my body. Like, are you eating certain foods and you're starting to have some digestive challenges? Like, if your knees are hurting and they shouldn't be hurting, are you drinking your water? Are you taking your bananas? You need some potassium, like really from the top of your head to the soles of your feet, even your hands, try to identify are there hidden things going on? And if you are a person of faith, I want you to go to God and and ask the Holy Spirit to identify what is actually going on, right? Don't be afraid to go to the doctor. I know sometimes people feel like you only go to the doctor when something is like super extreme. It doesn't have to be extreme situation or circumstances. Like, get your check-in, like get your labs done. Like, that's gonna expose a lot of information. Like, you don't have to be in pain. Like, this is your season to finally heal. And so healing comes from awareness, healing comes from inventory, healing comes from doing the research. So, yes, it might you might be on a journey, sis. Like it might take you six months or a year to figure out like what's going on. But when you finally know what's going on in your body, it's going to empower you to start taking action. So I I definitely encourage you to do these check-ins and also encourage your family members as well. Like, I realize once I start taking care of myself, everyone else around me is like, you know what, I do need to check on this, or I do need to look under this. So remind yourself that you are the leader and your family. And when you take massive action, massive things happen. Now, this might not work for everybody, but if you are able to do this, I highly encourage it and you might have to modify it. But if you're able to have slower mornings, like having an ease to your day, uh, I am in a season of my life, this is gonna sound surprising, where I do not wake up to an alarm clock. I haven't wakened up to an alarm clock in years. Now, granted, if I gotta be like here, like on set, or I gotta be somewhere at specific times, but for most of the day, like I wake up when my body wakes up. And when I tell you that has changed my entire life, I realize when you wake up to an alarm, you're waking up to stress, like it's instantly putting stress on the body. You feel like this sense of urgency as opposed to naturally allowing your body to wake up. And when I do wake up, I wake up with a sense of gratitude. I wake up and I can be present. I wake up and I can kind of take my time. And I have this um, I think it's called Jesus, Jesus calling, a devotional that I like to read. And like, I can just take my time in the morning, have my coffee, relax. Now, for some of you, that's gonna take a lot of planning, right? I do wake up still before my daughter, but I make sure I get all of my responsibilities done. A lot of times I try to schedule my appointments in the afternoon so that I can have a leisure morning. I know this is not everybody's testimony, but you might need to start waking up at six or start waking up at eight or just starting to wake up earlier so that you can enjoy your mornings. And then also creating this uh evening routine. I know for me, when I started taking magnesium, and I think more specifically magnesium glycinate, uh, the evening one, because there's a day one and there's an evening one. So do your research this because I am nobody's doctor. However, my mind used to be racing. I would be thinking of all of these things that I didn't get done, or I'd be thinking so far into the future, I didn't build out a whole new business at 2 a.m. I am no longer that person, okay? I'm really trying so hard to start going to sleep. And what has helped me to actually go to sleep is taking that magnesium. I didn't realize that my body was deficient. This is why you need to do your labs. This is why you need to do your research. This is why you need to actually start having real conversations with your girlfriends. Like, you've got to move from gossiping and talking about stuff that doesn't really serve you to like, what are you what are you doing for your body? Or like, what are you taking, or what are some of the specialists you're seeing, or what kind of labs are you getting? Like, what are you doing with your finances? Like, this is the year that we need to have real conversations with the people closest to us because it exposes a lot of things. It lets us know, like, hey, these are some areas that I need to be praying for my friends in, or they actually might be an expert in this area, and I didn't even know. A lot of people very close to you can answer a lot of questions, but you don't need they don't even know that you actually need those things. So I think even having those healthier conversations with the people closest to you is gonna be a change game changer. So I think incorporating those things is going to allow you to release some stuff. I talked about this earlier in the season, but releasing unforgiveness, unforgiveness can show up in your body as so much sickness and disease that bitterness has like taken root and can take over your life. So I just want to encourage you to continue to be seeking and releasing and letting stuff go, checking in on your body, having a little bit of a slowness and an ease, giving your body the right fruits and vegetables and nutrients. I've been having a smoothie every morning. I've been feeling just better. You know what I mean? Just take care of yourself because we only have one life to live. And if you are a parent, your kids deserve for you to be there in their life fully present. Not with a brain fog, not with some challenges. They they want they need all of you, sis. They need all of you, and you need all of you to be well. So we are coming to my favorite segment, which is the healing moment. And your healing moment is just to do the work, right? If there has been some ailments going on in your body, some stress, and you thought it's not that big of a deal, or you know, maybe I'll go see a chiropractor at some point, maybe I'll do this, maybe I'll do that, just do it today. Do it now. Don't go any further dealing with these stresses and challenges so that you can finally be free. Well, thank you for listening to another episode of the Finally Heal Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please send this to one of your girlfriends that you know needs to listen to it. And I look forward to connecting with you on social media at Jessica Lundy TV and at finally heal pod. Remember, you got this.