Healing Childhood Trauma

How to not Lose Yourself in Relationships when you have an Anxious Attachment [Ep 14]

Lizandra Leigertwood Season 1 Episode 14

In this episode, we dive deep into the struggles of maintaining your sense of self in relationships when you have an anxious attachment style. If you find yourself constantly overthinking, people pleasing, or feeling like you’re "too much," this episode is for you. 

We’ll explore why anxious attachers often lose themselves in relationships, how childhood trauma plays a role, and practical steps to regain self-worth and emotional independence.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understanding anxious attachment and why it leads to self abandonment in relationships.
  • How early attachment wounds from childhood create patterns of overdependence and fear of rejection.
  • Practical strategies for maintaining boundaries, building self-trust, and staying grounded in your identity while still being in a relationship.
  • What makes your triggers worse when you don’t pay attention to your relational needs 
  • A secure attachment approach to having relationships and meeting your own needs 

If you’re ready to stop losing yourself in relationships and start healing from anxious attachment, don’t miss this episode. 

Listen now and take the first step toward emotional freedom and secure relationships. For more support, download my free guide on healing attachment patterns, and join the conversation in my Facebook group, Becoming Secure.

Previous episode mentioned:

How to heal from anxious attachment 

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