Healing Childhood Trauma

5 Emotionally Immature Relationship Patterns That Drain You [Ep 53]

Lizandra Leigertwood Episode 53

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In this episode, I’m breaking down 5 types of emotionally immature behaviour that high-functioning women often tolerate, excuse or overcompensate for.

We cover:

• What emotional immaturity actually looks like in adult relationships
 • The defensive partner who turns every conversation into an attack
 • Gaslighting and why it slowly erodes your self-trust
 • The minimiser who makes your feelings feel “too much”
 • The avoidant who disappears when things get real
 • The victim performer who collapses when you ask for accountability
 • Why capable, high-achieving women are especially vulnerable to these dynamics
 • The nervous system cost of staying in emotionally immature relationships

If this episode resonates and you’re ready to stop carrying the emotional weight in your relationships, I work with high-functioning women in 1:1 therapy to:

• Strengthen boundaries without guilt
 • Rebuild trust in your own perception
 • Break attachment patterns rooted in childhood
 • Stop confusing emotional chaos with chemistry

Lizandra is a BACP registered psychotherapist who works 1:1 with relational trauma in the UK. Book an intro call here. 

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Previous Relevant Episodes 

4 Attachment Styles in Relationships [Ep 2]

How to Heal from Anxious Attachment [Ep 4]

Is it Narcissism or Avoidant Attachment? [Ep 28]

This episode is for you if you’ve ever wondered: 

What are the signs of someone who is emotionally immature? 

How does an emotionally immature person act? 

What are the red flags of emotional immaturity? 

What are the signs of low emotional intelligence? 

Signs of an emotionally immature partner

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