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In Her Prime
Big-city living can feel like a grind, but In Her Prime is where women hit pause, tune in, and turn up. From boardrooms to brunch tables, we’re bringing bold conversations about careers, confidence, and crushing it—all while keeping it real.
We’re Elise and Domenika, the voices behind the mic and the movement. What started as a sister brand to House of Movement has evolved into the podcast women actually want to listen to. It’s where stories get honest, growth feels effortless, and inspiration flows.
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In Her Prime
He Gives Me the Ick & She Didn’t Invite Me to Her Birthday | Q&A Session
This week’s Q&A is a juicy one. We’re unpacking your biggest dilemmas — from catching the ick in your relationship, to the sting of being left out of your bestie’s birthday, to the spiral of social media stalking (we’ve all been there). Tune in for unfiltered advice, tough love, and a few laughs along the way.
Alright guys, welcome back to Inter Prime. I'm Elise. And I'm Dom. This week we are doing a QA session, Anonymous, as per use, but I love these episodes. I think these are always my favorite because I love to give advice when it's not me.
SPEAKER_01:You get a little bit caught off guard with the questions that you get to. So you're like put on the spot of like, what are you genuinely doing slash answering?
SPEAKER_00:And these ones are like a bit unhinged. So they are? Yeah. Okay. I took a took a quick glance.
SPEAKER_01:We start off every episode, peek and pet, something really good that's been going on in our life and something that sucks. You always start, so I guess I will start off first. Um, I feel like I'm starting a new job role-ish kind of thing. And I think it's gonna alleviate some of my worries, aka like time when it comes to like social media, specifically for my own personal. There's a lot of things that I want to post, and it just comes down to time. Like I'm quitting the restaurant. I literally put in my two weeks and I'm getting the fuck out of there. I'm over it. I've been serving and bartending for like two and a half years now, and I'm just done. It's time, it's just drained my soul past the point of return. Like I just can't do it. Yeah, like it drains at least his soul. Like I literally work until five o'clock and then I start serving at 5 30, and then I don't get home till 1 a.m. And then I'm just like doing it again. It's too much. So I just feel like I'm gonna have more time to just like do the things that I genuinely want to do.
SPEAKER_00:But I will say, Dom always says, Oh, I need to post more and I need to do my social media. And I think the thing is, is you need to find posts that you like to post where it does not fit.
SPEAKER_01:No, I know, but that I I just don't even have time right now to like think to think about what I like to post. So then when I say like I need to post, I get so frantic. Yeah. But I'm saying now, like if I have like two jobs off my plate, like I have genuine time to like sit and plan, like, what am I genuinely passionate about and what I what do I like to talk about? Your hair content does well. My hair content does well, like when I do like makeup stuff, it does really well. Like when I just do like day in the lives, when I my workout stuff always does really well. Like there was a point where I was posting so much like Pilates, but then I just fell off and my videos were like doing really well. So I just want to like just organically start getting there again.
SPEAKER_00:I think sometimes like I film everything, like my camera roll, don't get me wrong, is filled with content, but I think sometimes it's a matter of like actually sitting and either editing it or figuring out what the concept is or posting it.
SPEAKER_01:Like I I don't do that. And I've realized that like I have so many cool things that I could film throughout the day, and I just don't because I'm so busy and like A, my room's fucking dirty. I haven't washed my hair in five days. I don't wear makeup in the morning because I literally wake up and sit right at my desk. But I'm like, now that I have more time on my plate, like I want to like make an effort and like I feel like when you call me in the morning, you're like, Oh, where are you going?
SPEAKER_00:And I'm like, No, I'm just sitting at my desk. Yeah, like you have to get ready.
SPEAKER_01:No, I know, but then I'm saying when you're ready, then you're like, I want to film. That's why I do it. But that's my thing. Like, I don't, and I wake up and I'm dead. Like I have makeup on from yesterday's shift at the restaurant. Like, did I'm not filming that. Like, that's not that's not cute. But like today I filmed, like I came back from my job kind of like interview and I was ready. So I filmed like videos at my desk. So I I have now footage for like when I do videos, yeah. Yeah, so that was like a big stress for mine because I'd be like, I need to film a video, but I'm like, I have four minutes. Yeah, I'm like, I literally have four minutes to piece together a video.
SPEAKER_00:So honestly, I just feel like because I film everything, I just happen to have content.
SPEAKER_01:I think No, I know, but when I was doing that, and when I film everything, like when I film like me making breakfast and with my dogs and at my desk, and I film like an overhead shot where I film me like going down the stairs, like you piece all that together and it looks like the type of videos that I'm trying to recreate. But right now, because I have no footage, I'm like putting things together from like randomness, like it just doesn't, it just doesn't make sense. Yeah, and I've like done so much, I've I've been scrolling so much on like the type of videos that I want to create, and I look at the shots and I'm like, I could easily film this. Yeah, I just need to like sit and like just do it. Yeah, so now I have more time. And then I would say my pit. Oh shit, what did I say my pit was gonna be? Oh, my pit, I need to buy a car. I wouldn't really say it's a pit, I think it's a a grown-up decision, and I'm excited to do it. But I need I need a car decision. I need a car. Like I just need a car yesterday.
SPEAKER_00:I don't even know how you go about even buying a car. Like I would never even know.
SPEAKER_01:I have no idea. Like I've I've luckily have always shared a car with my parents, but I've it's just come to the point now where and this is like all respects my parents, but they also have their own lives. Like, I can't just like go and take the car whenever I want. Like my parents like travel and they go to the cottage and they cycle a lot, and my mom needs a car, and my dad helps his parents out a lot. So like they just need a car at their disposal too, and as do I, and it's just we've been getting to a point where we butt head so much because I'm like, I need the car tonight, and my mom's like, no, I need to, and I'm like, who takes priority over that situation? And I'm turning 25, I have no desire on moving out anytime soon. So I'm like, okay, I if I have a car, so much stress gets taken off my plate. You know that. Yeah, like I've called the least like crashing out where I'm like, I need to be leaving 20 minutes ago, and I still haven't left because I'm arguing with someone over the car. Yeah, and it's like okay, now I need to Uber$80 to get downtown when I could just take a car. And like get nauseous in the backseat. Get nauseous in the backseat of Tesla. So I started thinking about it last week. Like just last week, and I brought it up to my dad when I was going down to the shoot on Saturday, and I said, I was like, Dad, like I think I need to buy a car. And he's like, What makes you say that? I'm like, Because I crash out every single time when I'm at home and I get into an argument about the car. So I've been looking at auto trader. I'm trying to like figure out exactly like how much I want to spend. Like, I don't need You just need something to get you from. I literally just like need something to get me from A to B. Like, I definitely want a nice car. Like, I want car plate. I want heated seats, I want cooling seats. That's like a well cooling seats is a luxury. Yeah, but like that's a luxury that I want. Like I overheat so much. Like I want cooling seats, heated seats, like a back camera, sensors. The works, the work, like an SUV. I don't want a small car. I want an SUV. Like I want I like a big car.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, the thing is though, is I like a medium SUV.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, a medium-sized SUV. Like not the BMW that I drive. No, like the bus. That's a bus, but like five seats for sure. I also have a dog, so I want something that I mean, she goes in the front seat, so we actually don't need a big You guys just like drop. Yeah, we actually like don't need a big car, but yeah, I just I just need to buy a car. So I'm hoping that my parents I can like have a conversation with them and figure it out financially, like what's the best. Like, am I buying it out? Am I leasing it? Can they help me with insurance? I like I actually like don't know what like I don't know what goes into buying a car. Like I you just go to the shop and you say, Okay, like that that's the one I want. And like I want to like test drive a bunch of cars, see what I like.
SPEAKER_00:I'm gonna be honest, I don't know anything that goes into it.
SPEAKER_01:I don't I apparently you do monthly payments, but I couldn't tell you what those monthly payments Like I know you do monthly payments whether you're financing it or you're just leasing it, which is renting it, or financing it is you owe it, like you own the car at the end of after you finance it. Kind of like when you finance a phone, sure. Like you're paying it over time and then it's yours.
SPEAKER_00:Never finance it.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, with a car you can finance a car or you can lease it, just depending on like what you want to do at the end of it. And then you have your insurance depending on like your demerit points and how long you've had your G for and how good of a driver you are.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I don't know why my mom says that. I had to buy a laptop the other day. It was like a random decision, but I just needed it. And I was like, uh, these monthly payments like look more appealing to me because it's like$150 a month as opposed to like But then for how long? For like the one that I needed for two years? For yeah, two years. And my mom was like, Well, do you have the money? And I'm like, Yeah. And she's like, Well then just pay for it. And I'm like, But that's a lot of money coming out of my account. But I made a big girl decision, yeah, and I just paid for it.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, like I need to make a big girl decision now and I need to get a car. I just like I want the freedom. I want to be able to like literally get in the car, and if I want to go see Elise, I'm gonna go see Elise. Or like if I want to work out midday, like I can go work out, or if I need to go to work, or if I want to go to the mall, if I want to literally go sit in a parking lot and do nothing and braid my own hair, I can go do that without anyone being like, Where's a car? Yeah, I also need something that's good on gas. So I was thinking maybe a hybrid, because I drove a hybrid car when I was in Europe in Mallorca. I was a Lexus and it was nice, but like I just need something good on gas. Like I'm not putting 200, like I'm not filling up a tank for$175. Like, that's just not happening.
SPEAKER_00:Western I would dread getting gas because the car that I had premium. Yeah. And oh my god. Like you're literally a full tank of gas, is$175. Yeah, it was a lot. It was a lot, and it was back when like gas was like$2 or something.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah. I just I can't. Like, I need something good on gas. I like I really wanted a Ford Bronco. Like, I love the look of like a big high kind of like surfer car. I don't even know how you describe it, but like they're horrible on gas. And then like the safety of it, even like a Jeep, like a safety of it is not I d good. I don't like jeeps, but I like that elevated, like I like the high look, kind of like the the Broncos. But I was looking online, like even a used 2019 2020 Bronco is like$55,000. I'm like, so how much is a new one? Like literally a hundred yeah, like a hundred thousand dollars. I'm like, okay, I'm literally gonna get a Toyota. Yeah, like that's all is what you'll be driving. Literally, like, but then I'm like, okay, this is my first car, like I don't need a BMW, I don't need an Audi. But like you'll be fine. I'll be fine.
SPEAKER_00:Just but it's fine. I'll bling her out. Okay, I don't have a pet, but my peak is I have been doubling down on house movement, and I mean, I guess I could probably say it here because you guys get the inside scoop, but my sister does content full-time, and I obviously do content full-time, or like freelance full-time, and when I let go of a lot of clients, I really realized that there was sort of like a gap in content creators or like freelancers and like agencies that for some reason, like every time I left a position, it was hard to replace me, and not in like a toot my own horn way, but kind of in like a confusion way of like why don't people know like basics of XYZ or like how to build a community or like how to do all these things that I feel like I do every day and that like my sister does every day. So I obviously like don't want to pick up more freelance clients like just to pick them up just because I sort of like sat with that and thought about like okay, what can I do instead? And my sister has obviously also been thinking about the same thing, so we are gonna do kind of like I don't want to call it an agency because I don't that's not what it is, but I'm gonna reference it as an agency because that's the only word I can think of. But like basically helping female-led brands or like female content creators build their community, whether that's like through strategy or consulting or like an online platform for like modules or courses or calls or creative direction or event planning or whatever it is. Obviously, I have to like build it out more in detail, but that has been taking up like a lot of my time because not only am I like doubling down on house and movement, but now I'm like in the back of my head always thinking about okay, if I'm doing this for house and movement, how can this sort of relate back to like this agency type of thing? Even though it's like a separate company, but I still want them to like be cohesive because I feel like a big portion of house and movement is like tied with my name. So yeah, I don't know. It's sometimes it's hard to like sit with yourself and like connect all of the dots because obviously I have my personal brand, and then there's house and movement, and then there's agency, and then there's freelance, and eventually my freelance stuff will go over to the agency, but sitting down with yourself and piecing everything together and like finding time for everything. I have a bad habit of having a list of things to do, and I'll kind of get halfway through this task, and I'll jump to the other task, and then I'll go to this task over here. So I've been trying to like really dedicate specific days to certain things. So like today was like my editing day. So I edited a bunch of stuff that I like was behind on, and then tomorrow I can focus on my client work, and then the next day I can focus on, you know, editing the podcast and doing the reels. So yeah, I don't know, it's a it's a lot to keep track of sometimes, and I feel like sometimes my brain feels like it's going to implode, but I'm not complaining because I actually like doing it, so it's fine.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I think it can be challenging to like piece everything together, but I think it's coming, like everything is I don't know, everything's like connecting, which is really exciting.
SPEAKER_00:I'm really excited. I feel like sometimes it can be really discouraging having your own brand because I feel like staying culturally relevant and like staying up to date with everything and keeping you know up with your own community and keeping up with posting on my personals as well as posting on house and movement as well as posting on the clients, like it's a lot to keep track of. And what I used to do in the past is let my personal slack and I would double down on everyone else's accounts, and I will say, like, I'm proud to say that like I haven't let that happen. Like, if anything, I've let House of Movement slack, which I haven't, but and I'm but we're in like an intermission right now, we're in an intermission, but as like I sort of think that the intermission is actually more important than the rebrand because it's almost a time to like get your audience excited about like something new that's coming. Because I think if you just like completely write off the intermission period, then you almost like lose a portion of people that like you know maybe could have been more excited about a rebrand, but it is hard to like keep track of everything, so doing as much as my brain will allow. But I mean, I will say I have been keeping up with my personal socials, which has been like paying off. Like, I feel like at least this month alone, like I have had like more brand deals than I think I've ever had, like in the span of like such a short period of time. And don't get me wrong, like it's a lot to keep track of because not only like am I getting paid for this stuff, so I have to like follow guidelines and I have to sign all these contracts and and do all these things, but there's like revisions, like this brand will come back and say, Hey, like, you know, you need to redo this voiceover or you need to take this part out of the video, and like even though that sounds small, like keeping track of all of it is a lot, and then keeping track of payments because you'll send an invoice to a brand that was like back in April, and like you'll receive that payment in like September. Have they still not paid you? No, but that's like kind of how it goes because you're being paid like through an agency, so just like keeping track of all that is also like I have to write it down and make sure.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:But yeah, I mean I like what I do though, so it's okay. Some days are really hard and some days just fucking suck. But like at the end of the day, busy is good. Yeah, like I think if you weren't busy, I think you'd be complaining about that too.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I keep I always see that quote that it's like where you're at now, you were once uh praying for it. Yeah, like you were once praying for a point that like you were so busy that you're overwhelmed, and there was a point period where like you couldn't even find a job. So like be thankful for that.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, like if I, you know, me a year ago would have been like begging for like a partnership and like now I got an email on the drive here that I get to partner with the Toronto Maple Leafs, which is like I'm not really a hockey person, but like even just that, that I was like recognizable enough to be offered something like that. Yeah, me a year ago would have been like begging for something like that. Yeah, so I think just being appreciative of Yeah, for sure. Anyway, let's get into the questions. We have a few, so I tried to narrow them down. Okay, number one, how do I tell my friend I don't want to be her therapist anymore?
SPEAKER_01:It's like that episode in Sex in the City where Carrie is talking to all of her friends and and Miranda, Charlotte, and uh Samantha, they're like, Okay, honey, you have literally five more minutes and we're done. He was like, This is an interven this is an intervention, like you're done talking to us, like we're sending it to a therapist.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:And it's like we're it's like the blind leading the blind, like you can't keep venting to us. I think it can be I don't know, like I know when I'm talking about something for a little too long. Yes, like there's certain friends that I just don't talk to about certain things because I just I feel awkward.
SPEAKER_00:Like I know you don't care.
SPEAKER_01:I know that you don't care, and I just it's like a burden. Like I'm texting, it was like a couple weeks ago, and I was like venting to a friend about it, and the responses were getting drier and drier and drier, where I just knew it was like my time to check out. Like I was like, you know what, it's done. But telling a friend that you don't want to be her therapist anymore.
SPEAKER_00:I mean, I think it can be an awkward conversation, but I also think that like if this person has been talking about the situation f endlessly, I think it's time. I think you just have to Okay, but what are you saying? I think you just have to say, look, like I don't really know what else I can say about the situation that can be beneficial to you. So I feel like therapy has helped me. You know, why don't you see this person and maybe recommend her to somebody? I think that would make it less awkward because you're not saying like don't talk to me anymore.
SPEAKER_01:Shut up. You're just saying like shut up to someone else. Yeah, I'm passing you on, I've done my due diligence, I can't help you anymore. Like, please leave me alone. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:How do I tell my friend her boyfriend gives me the ick? How do you tell your friends that you do not like her boyfriend?
SPEAKER_01:I've had I've had friends in my life that I don't like their boyfriend, but I think I would only have that conversation with her if I felt like he was a constantly disrespecting her or constantly disrespecting me. Like if I don't like you because I don't like the way you dress and like that gives me the ick, or I don't like you bec because of like poor manners, that's not really my responsibility to not dating him. Like I'm not dating you, but I feel like I would I would have a genuine conversation with a friend if I felt like he was an asshole. Like if I felt like he was a yeah.
SPEAKER_00:I think A, is it a situation ship? Because I have done that. I feel like I am an overly blunt person with people that I've got at least it's so blunt, like it hurts your feelings.
SPEAKER_01:Like you almost don't want to say something because you know what she's gonna say that you're just like like let's move on. And she's like, no, like let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. And I'm like, no, like we don't have to talk about it right now. No, I know, but the thing is like I know what you're gonna say before you even say it. Like I already know, I already know where the conversation is. Well, you know what? If I didn't care about you, she wouldn't say shit.
SPEAKER_00:I wouldn't say shit.
SPEAKER_01:Like she would just be like, go do it.
SPEAKER_00:I'd be like, go do whatever you want. Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I don't care.
SPEAKER_00:But I do care.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, like I think if it's someone that you're just like sleeping with or seeing on the side, like I'll tell you, like, I don't like him. I don't like her. Like, I'll I'll I'll say that. Yeah. But I think it depends on like what they're doing and what I think it is gonna come of that. And like, what are you expecting? Like, if you tell me, for example, like I get a new boyfriend in three months, and you tell me you're like, Dom, I fucking hate him. Like, what's your goal with that?
SPEAKER_00:I don't think okay, I think that if it's a situationship and you don't like them, from personal experience, you have to give reasons as to why you don't think this person fits them all. And I think I have done that.
SPEAKER_01:But at least always reason reason, and it's crazy because that reason then ignites conversation, and then we actually like understand where she's coming from, and then it gets me to like think about certain things, and then like we've got to be.
SPEAKER_00:Or this person is not lifting you up in a way that you need, that's different. If you're dating this person, I don't think there's room to say anything unless maybe it is brought to you first. I think if like say I was dating somebody and you didn't like them, I think unless the person I'm dating is disrespecting you, or unless I bring something up to you that I didn't like that they did, then I think you just have to keep your mouth shut.
SPEAKER_01:But that's my point. Like I wouldn't I would only say something to you if I felt like it was like keeping me up at night and I and I couldn't sleep or breathe or do anything without saying it to you. Like if your boyfriend was disrespecting me, or if I was seeing it constantly, like he is treating you like shit, I'm gonna say something. But if it's just a a dislike or if it's just like a personality difference, you're not dating. I'm not dating you, and like I'm not sleeping with you, and I'm not hanging out with you, so it really doesn't insurance me.
SPEAKER_00:My friend invited me to her birthday, but not the dinner before. Am I overreacting? Yeah, no. I don't think you're overreacting. No. A, how close are you? I think it depends how close you guys are. How intimate was the dinner? I just didn't this happen one time to me. Someone I know, maybe, I don't know if it was you or someone else, that they had a birthday dinner or their friend had a birthday dinner of someone they were really close with and they weren't invited, and the excuse was like, oh, it was high school friends or something like that, which is like such bullshit. Was that you?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Was it? That actually was. Oh, yeah, that actually was last last year. Yeah, see, I think that's bullshit. Because I think I mean, A, I think it just depends how close you are. Like, do you see this person constantly? Was this birthday dinner with like 10 people and you weren't invited? Were you the only one that wasn't invited?
SPEAKER_01:I think when things like this come up within within friendships, it usually majority of the time will like quickly alter the direction of where the friendship is going. Like you have something like this comes and then, like, let's say you bring it up a couple weeks later, like let the birthday settle, and then you bring it up to the other person's attention. I feel like so much things come up, which is like why I didn't invite you, and then it kind of will just change the trajectory of where the friendship is going. To answer the question though, no, I don't think you're overreacting. I think you just have to kind of like bite the bullet, go to what you're invited to. And then if it's a real issue that you feel like needs to be brought up after, you talk about it.
SPEAKER_00:You know what I think is weird? What? I feel like girls put so much pressure on a birthday, pressure and like care on a birthday. I feel like if you're not invited to a birthday, or if you don't say happy birthday, or you don't post a story, or you don't post a post, or you leave early, or there could be so many things that would piss somebody off about the birthday. And I think at the end of the day, if you show up for them on like a daily basis or a weekly basis, we don't need to put, you know, a hundred percent of like the weight of the friendship on this one day.
SPEAKER_01:I think there's just a natural expectation for your birthday to be the one day a year where you feel so celebrated and so loved. So then when the day comes and things aren't obviously meeting the expect like this unrealistic expectation that you set in your head, you think you're like, no one cares about me on the one day that everyone is supposed to care about me. Yeah. But if you are surrounded, like, but if the close people around you are celebrating you, like it can be it can be different. Like I remember when I was younger and when I was in high school, like the the amount of anxiety that I would get surrounding my birthday on like what am I doing for my birthday? Where am I going out? How many people are coming? Is this person coming? That like, did they or I don't have enough people to I don't have enough enough enough people to invite for my birthday, or the people that I thought would message me didn't send me a big enough message, or you see other girls in your friend group getting posted 50 times, like and you get no posts, and you get no like I think it also can come from like a juvenile type of mindset, yeah, of like how you felt when like was your birthday always seen as something that was like constantly celebrated by like family and friends and how much presence how many presents you got and how much money you got. And if you've always had just a really happy birthday, yeah, like you've always just had a lot of friends and everyone made you feel good, then like I feel like the older and older that you get, your birthday is just this like amazing thing. But if you've struggled with that growing up, or maybe you didn't have a lot of friends in high school, and maybe you had two people post, like the older you get, like it's an anxious day.
SPEAKER_00:I think when I was in university, I used to feel like that, where it would be like the day of waiting for all these people to text me that like maybe didn't text me. Let down, and then I was let down. But I feel like and I used to hate my birthday for these reasons. But honestly, this year we were in Miami because we had an event and stuff, and it was literally the four of us, and we went for lunch and we went on a boat and we had the event, and I had a great day. Yeah, and I think maybe five people texted me, but it was the five people that I actually talked to and I actually care about.
SPEAKER_01:No, I know, I know, but I'm just saying, I think there's so much pressure on this day for it to be the best day of your life. It's not, and it's never the best day of your life, it's never, it's never that, and people that you wanted to message, or you're expecting a message from a boy or a friend or an ex-boyfriend that you wanted to message, or th your situation at home is not good, and then that puts a damp like I think there's so many factors that contribute to just not equating to what you thought it would be.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. We hooked up and now he's being dry. Do I ask what's up or move on?
SPEAKER_01:Move on. I think You're not asking, you're not asking anything, you're not having that conversation. We just disappear. You look you look a little silly. I I think I would feel really silly asking someone that.
SPEAKER_00:I mean obviously it's her fault. And I think it doesn't hurt your feelings, your ego is bruised, but it's fine. But we don't need this person. I'm embarrassed.
SPEAKER_01:Would you call, text, or like have an in-person conversation with them?
SPEAKER_00:If I had to?
SPEAKER_01:If you had to. Gun to head I'm making you ask him.
SPEAKER_00:In person. Like in person? No, like I'd have to casually run into you somewhere. Like, say I casually ran into you on a night out. Then I feel like there's there's Room for Because I think it could be in a jokey way.
SPEAKER_01:Like, oh you didn't text me back.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, and like if there's drinks involved.
SPEAKER_01:At least he's punching him.
SPEAKER_00:Catching We broke up, but I can't stop stalking him online. Like, what do I do? Okay, I'm gonna say something crazy.
SPEAKER_01:I do stalk. You do. I do stalk. I'm like I'm I'm a manic stalker. And I found this website. Yeah, I know. Just listen. I found this website that you can go and check someone's recent followers and following. What website? It's just you can go and check someone's recent followers and following, and it tells you it's like live. The person just needs to be public. So I check that or I used to check that daily, like daily, daily, daily, daily. And I would catch myself like constantly throughout the day, like checking Instagram and then going back to the website and and then being obsessed with who they were following and then following them. And then if that person was private, but I saw that a friend of mine follows that page, I text that friend and be like, screenshot it. Crazy.
SPEAKER_00:I'm gonna be honest. Crazy when I was early university, I used to do the same, especially for rite of passage. I'm gonna be honest. I used to be a nutbag, and here's a a pro tip. I don't know if it's still like this, but like maybe five years ago it was like this. Whoever he followed on Apple Music or like Spotify or whatever, that's who he's talking to.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Playlists.
SPEAKER_01:That's that's who they're fucking. That's who they're talking to. That's the dead giveaway. Yeah. Yeah, I have become obsessed with not anymore, but I would say a couple weeks ago I was manic. Like manic obsessed with just knowing. And then like one day I was like, what am I doing? Like I'm not sure. Like I'm 25. Like, I don't care. I I don't care who you follow. I don't care who you talk to. Like, live your life. Please live your life. And like I'm gonna do mine. Yeah. Like just enjoy.
SPEAKER_00:Like it was saying they can follow whoever they want, but like truly deep down, if they're like being slimy, they're gonna be liking people's Instagram stories. And you'll never catch them.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, so Elise and I actually had This is T. Yeah. I've come to realize not all men, I'm not gonna categorize all men as the same thing, but I would say what what percentage? 87%?
SPEAKER_00:I would say a pretty high percentage.
SPEAKER_01:I would say a pretty high percentage of men are liking stories. Are liking stories with girlfriends, with engagements that just happened. Yeah. Like you just got engaged this summer. What do you mean that you're in my story likes? Like, what do you mean? Yeah. Like I'm so confused.
SPEAKER_00:I'm gonna be honest. Me and Dom, I was trying to find some people for Dom to potentially reach out to. And you know, we found a good one. Oh, of course he's single. He has no photos with her. He he has no stories with her. Of course he's single. We've spoken to him multiple times. He likes all your stories. I over here come to find out.
SPEAKER_01:Come to find out. He has a fiancé.
SPEAKER_00:Slimey.
SPEAKER_01:I just, yeah, I just don't understand. I just don't understand that.
SPEAKER_00:And it was shocking as well.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, at least texted me like mid-work day and she's like SOS ping ping ping ping ping.
SPEAKER_00:Like shocking. Like literally, like me. I this is one thing I cry for my boyfriend about is he loves the drama too. So we're all like over my phone, like trying to find this girl. We're like, what is her name?
SPEAKER_01:Follows like still 80 800 girls. Follows 800 girls. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Couldn't find her. Is it a red flag if he's still friends with his ex?
SPEAKER_01:I think so.
SPEAKER_00:I think it is.
SPEAKER_01:I'm not friends with any of my exes.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, no. What are you doing? You don't need to be. I think you can be friends from afar. Have you ever run into any encounters with an ex? Like with a guy you're seeing, like his ex And?
SPEAKER_01:Like a wait. Like my ex-boyfriend with his with his new girl. And I run into a gun.
SPEAKER_00:Alice, have you ever had like an altercation with like say you're dating a guy, his ex-girlfriend is like being a menace. And like trying to, you know, be a little rat. I have. I have I have. And I've never let's pray we don't see her out ever.
SPEAKER_01:I've never. I've never. I'm not friends with any of my exes. I don't follow any of them. One ex is blocked. I don't think you and the other two, the other three. Oh, I do follow one of my exes still.
SPEAKER_00:I mean, I don't think that you need to be friends with somebody that like the chapter's closed.
SPEAKER_01:Are you still following them on Instagram?
SPEAKER_00:No.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, I still do.
SPEAKER_00:Okay. I think if you have a new relationship out of respect for the channel, yeah, and follow your expression. You need to follow them. Yeah. So to each their own. But I think right I will say, like, if you're an ex-girlfriend or an ex-boyfriend out here, like, and that person that you dated is in a new relationship, like, back off. Like, be on your way. Because we're getting embarrassed for you.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I've never had like an awkward, like, for some moment of like running into like an ex-boyfriend with a new girl or being with a new guy and running into my ex-boyfriend, or like even just like a three-person encounter. But it's I have had to deal. I've never had that.
SPEAKER_00:Obviously, not recently, but like over the years, I've had to deal with so many girls who had zero respect for the relationship. Like my relationship.
SPEAKER_01:Like current one?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, you have the first like six years old. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You have crazy. Oh my gosh. Multiple girls coming out of the fucking woodworks trying to like date him again. And I'm like, you realize that I'm dating him now. And I'm a nut egg.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, you are. You are.
SPEAKER_00:I think I I am not the person you want to mess with.
SPEAKER_01:I think I'm sometimes crazy, and then Elise will text me. I'm like, oh no, we're the same. We're literally the same brain.
SPEAKER_00:Um he's perfect, but he's 5'7. Am I shallow?
SPEAKER_01:Bye.
SPEAKER_00:Really?
SPEAKER_01:No, I'm not dating a shorter guy. Well, I guess A. I guess it depends how tall you are. Okay, if I'm if I'm 4'11, sure. I'll date you if you're 4'7.
SPEAKER_00:I'm 5'7. I think you can be the same height, maybe half an inch taller.
SPEAKER_01:No.
SPEAKER_00:No.
SPEAKER_01:I personally prefer like my preference, no. I'm five six.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Yeah. That's quite short. Five six? I guess for me it's different because I'm 5'11. I'm five six. So five eleven technically is not short for a guy. Yeah, five eleven is like tall for a guy. Yeah. So like I'm like, so are you dating someone that's five seven? No, no, no. I won't personally.
SPEAKER_01:I'm good. I'm good. Yeah, I'm 5'6. I'm not dating you if you're 5'7. Like I want height. I want I want to feel like you don't want to pick them up? No. Like we're probably the we're probably the same weight, too. No, I'm 5'6. Ideally, you're over six feet.
SPEAKER_00:That's being greedy. I I don't think it is. Let me tell you, at Western, I think average height for men.
SPEAKER_01:What, six feet?
SPEAKER_00:And I know this because I'm 5'11. It was maybe 5'8. Average.
SPEAKER_01:No.
SPEAKER_00:I think I was taller than all of them.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, no. I want a tall guy.
SPEAKER_00:I think they I think they just come your way.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I want someone tall.
SPEAKER_00:I want to feel like I want to look up. I mean, I don't think I will ever be like that. But how tall is Ray? 6'1. He's 6'1.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Which is perfect. That's great. He likes my picks but hasn't spoken to me in a month. Do I unfollow? No.
SPEAKER_01:No, I don't think you should unfollow it. I don't think you should unfollow. I think you should just let him see your picks. Yeah. But if eventually if it's bothering you that he's interacting with you and not if he's liking stories and not responding to texts, you could just remove him.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:That's what I would do.
SPEAKER_00:I would do that too. I went on an unfollowing spree recently.
SPEAKER_01:I know. Sometimes I'll check your Instagram randomly and she'll be at like eight. And then she's at like 800 and then now you're at like 719.
SPEAKER_00:I'm like, who are you unfollowing? Like, who do you still follow? I unfollow if I have not. You know what the rule I go by is if I saw you out and I would not say hi, then I don't need to follow you. You know? Why am I following you?
SPEAKER_01:So if you catch an unfollow from Elise, now you know.
SPEAKER_00:It's just because if we were out, I know that you probably wouldn't say hi to me and I probably wouldn't say hi to you. So I don't need to follow you. But if we're if it's somebody who it would be maybe weird if I unfollowed, I'm not gonna unfollow.
SPEAKER_01:Like you don't want that like awkward encounter.
SPEAKER_00:I don't want that awkward encounter, God forbid I run into you somewhere. They're like, why do you want to follow?
SPEAKER_01:Someone asked you why you unfollow them.
SPEAKER_00:No, but that birthday that we went to recent birthday.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. At that condo?
SPEAKER_00:I unfollowed all of them. After? No. Before maybe the day before. Why? Because I don't talk to them and I don't see any of you out, and none of you want to be my friend. So I don't need to follow. It's not personal. That's personal. Well, I don't know. But it's business. No, it's just like we're acquaintances, like life. Like, I don't know. It's business. It's just like I don't scroll on my Instagram. Everyone I follow on Instagram is, you know. Like who you want to see. Who I want to see. Like if I see you out, you know, I can give a smile. A wave, but that's about it. Yeah. I don't know. But it was weird.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, we like I felt the tension. You felt I didn't I didn't know anyone. Like I was meeting everyone for the first time. So I was I was fine, but you were stressing before we went. You're like, should we go? I'm like, yes, like we're here.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, we're in the hallway.
SPEAKER_01:We're in the hallway. And Elise and I were talking to each other for like three minutes beforehand. We're like, you go, no, you go, no, you knock the door. I was like, hey, fuck.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, thank you guys so much for listening to this week's episode. I hope that our advice was somewhat helpful.
SPEAKER_01:It's like rapid fire. Yeah. Of just like what you should and shouldn't do. But follow us on House of Movement. We have like honestly been really enjoying the podcast. I love coming here apart from the fact that I feel like my eyes are gonna like melt off looking at this black, black and brown. Like I can't, like it hurts my eyes. I feel like I'm delusional. Like I need to go outside and like have a glass of water.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:But guys, thank you so much for watching and listening. Whether you're listening on Apple or Spotify or you watch it on YouTube, I actually like played on YouTube when I'm in my room. I do and I listen to us in the background because I want to make sure that I don't look stupid. I played on the TV. Yeah. And that's when you get your shots. Yep. Yeah. Anyways, guys, thank you so much for watching and we'll talk soon. We'll see you next week. Bye. Bye.