Chris Brown, Best Friend Betrayals & Wedding Meltdowns

Entry 8 is a full-on recap: we went to the Chris Brown concert (10/10), somehow ended up at a Sweet 16 with OT Genesis, and doubled down on why it’s not talking sh* if it’s facts. We share the quotes we love, our funniest childhood concert memories, and answer your Dearest questions—from boyfriends showing up drunk to birthdays to wedding dress-code meltdowns and best friend betrayals.Somewhere between jokes and hot takes, we spiral into motivation: boundaries matter, 30 is the new 24, and sometimes a walk really will save your life. Unfiltered, funny, and just a little too honest—welcome to the circus.

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Welcome to Dry Diaries

Speaker 1 0:00

Hey guys, what's up? Welcome to another entry of the Dry Diaries. It's your author.

Speaker 2 0:05

Alex Dry and your second favorite person, Rachel Olsen.

Speaker 1 0:10

Let's get into it, baby girl, let's do it.

Speaker 2 0:13

I feel like we have a lot to catch up on.

Speaker 1 0:15

Yeah, we have a lot to catch up on, A lot to talk about a lot of shit to talk about.

Speaker 2 0:22

We're gonna take you there. It's time to open the diaries diary's been open every single day this week writing down affirmations. Manifestations have been clowning around. I think that's literally our theme song for the past week, so I hope you guys are ready for it, yeah.

Speaker 1 0:47

Whenever our friends are out and about and you just see them frolicking around. All we hear in our heads, just so you guys know is Ready, damn it.

Speaker 2 0:57

Yeah, I was literally going to start playing it, but I put my phone on the ground, so there's no way of me to grab it because my jeans are so tight. So you just had to listen to it live, yeah and here we go singing again yeah, honestly, I feel like the pod is not the pod without Alex hitting us with her latest and that was your latest top top 10.

Speaker 2 1:21

That's, on the charts, the top five this week she's so lucky, she's a star, yeah no, you would think I would be able to sing though, because I have that raspy voice, but I'm just never gonna be able to sing unless I'm in the shower I know, and it's crazy, because everyone comments or says that we sound the same yes, my, my own mother who birthed me. Like, sometimes I need to look at the video and see who's talking, because you guys sound the same, but when I'm talking I feel like I don't sound like you, yeah, and when you talk to me I'm like wait, is that how? I sound.

Speaker 1 1:57

Because you know how people always say the way that you see yourself or the way that you think that you sound is not the way other people really see it. It's usually better.

Speaker 2 2:08

I like, but then I'm like, so I'm like okay, my voice isn't as annoying as I think it is yeah, I just think that maybe your voice is like a couple octaves higher, but yeah that's just because then you catch me on the weekend and you are here in full rasp all across the board.

Chris Brown review (fits, live vocals, “Take You Down”)

Speaker 1 2:26

Speaking of singing, we went to the Chris Brown concert.

Speaker 2 2:36

Honestly, if I can explain to you how amazing this was, I was going into it. Obviously it's Chris Brown, like 10 out of 10 looks outfits outfits singing dancing. The dancing was 12 out of 10.

Speaker 1 2:49

I also didn't realize he could sing that good. Yeah, because most if you're dancing that much in a concert, you usually are lip singing a majority of it. Yes, but with him you could tell that he was actually performing live dancing and outfit changing.

Speaker 2 3:04

My guy put seven different outfits on and they were all amazing.

Speaker 1 3:09

I know honestly for as much hate has as Chris Brown has gotten, I honestly can say that he's probably one of the top three performers overall I've ever seen in my life oh, that was amazing and we became best friends with the girl that was sitting beside us.

Speaker 2 3:24

She was with her friends. We had the best time ever. Alex had to pull me off the chair because I was shaking my ass. It was amazing. She was definitely shaking her ass too, but yeah, she's a little bit more low-key about it.

Speaker 1 3:36

I was pretending I could twerk again, and you guys know I can't twerk I probably wasn't dancing as much as I would, because the person to the left of me was smoking so much weed which I don't smoke weed that I felt like I was getting secondhand high. But the girl next to you came all the way from Dubai. She traveled so far just to see Chris Brown, which was so crazy to hear, and apparently he canceled on the last show that she went to, so this was her first time seeing him, oh wow.

Speaker 2 4:09

So she was having a time and that was just overall such an amazing concert. And when he did no guidance, yeah, freaky, oh my god, I literally could have cleared the stadium from screaming so loud. I was ready.

Speaker 1 4:26

Yeah, and he also takes a girl on stage during the Take you Down song.

Speaker 2 4:32

I have a question.

Speaker 1 4:33

Yeah.

Speaker 2 4:34

Is it picked? It's picked. How Is there a lottery? Where do you sign up? Where am I putting my name in? Is it like a ballot? Is it a number? What is it?

Speaker 1 4:44

Well, I feel likeris brown has a specific type well, we're not.

Speaker 2 4:47

We've already checked and we don't check off any of the boxes of all of his baby mamas yeah, so I feel like they pre-plan who is gonna be on the take you down song yeah, because I got lucky, I was wearing pants, but you, on other hand, it would have been a full striptease.

Speaker 1 5:07

You were wearing a skirt. I was wearing a skirt, yeah.

Speaker 2 5:09

So these girls got to come prepared. Well, those girls had on dresses.

Speaker 1 5:12

But also I saw a girl's TikTok and she did say that after the concert. Whoever was the girl chosen at that concert? She saw them getting on his bus after.

Speaker 2 5:24

Well, I mean, if I'm getting laid on like that in front of millions of people, you better be taking me on your bus.

Speaker 1 5:30

I mean it's definitely pre-planned, Damn yeah. Well, next concert we go to, we got to figure out where to sign up Honestly and some of the girls fully completed the mission they made out with him. So you know, Chris Brown is single and ready to mingle.

Speaker 2 5:53

after seeing those videos and being there, live Like he was not holding back.

Speaker 1 5:57

No.

Speaker 2 5:57

We really set the expectation high. After seeing that, I know, after seeing that, after we had the full show, alex and I decided and thought it would be a good idea to see if we could find Chris Brown on the streets. Okay that sounds like we're some groupies?

Speaker 2 6:16

I don't know. We just wanted to have a good night, which we always do, and the thing about Alex and I is we can literally go out for one drink and it's like those TikTokiktoks or those memes and we end up being on the other side of the planet, like last week. We ended up on a boat and the plan was that night was literally to go up the street and grab a martini. The end of the night we're on a boat and I'm jumping on the front of the boat yeah, but it's also whenever we take these adventures.

Speaker 1 6:42

I guess you could say it's it doesn't ever lead us to being disappointed, destruction or disappointment, and also it's usually really wholesome. Yeah, no, it's. You know when it sometimes you end up at a club or an after party and it's you're getting really fucked up yeah ours is. Rachel and I are jumping on the net in the front of the boat like it's a trampoline and we get up to some funny shit.

Speaker 1 7:12

So we meet our friend Haley and one of her friends and we're like okay, we're going to go out after the Chris Brown concert. So we end up going to this place and we're in line, we're at the front door and these guys are in front of us and they're like oh, you totally need to come in. It's open bar, it's a birthday party, and just come in with us.

Speaker 2 7:39

And no one's saying no to an open bar.

Speaker 1 7:41

Yeah, and so we're like OK, we'll go in, we're going to get a drink or two, and they were like swagged out.

Speaker 2 7:46

These people know people, like they knew what was up. So we're like, okay, let's give it a try, we have nothing to lose. We're not finding chris at this point, calling him chris because it's like short form, because we know him now, and then we literally yeah.

Speaker 1 8:01

so we go inside the ceiling's filled with balloons and then we start to look around and we see that everyone's dressed in 1920s costumes. So we're completely out of place. And why were they in suits? I think it was great Gatsby themed, because the girls were dressed in little flopper outfits.

Speaker 2 8:20

I don't remember what the girls were wearing, because I don't remember. I just remember you pulling me away and being like Rachel people, those men, those boys are 16 years old.

Accidentally Crashing a Sweet 16 w/ OT Genesis

Speaker 1 8:32

Yeah, you know, I was like, all right, I think we gotta go long story short as we end up walking in. We actually were walking in with ot genesis, who was performing for this sweet 16 birthday party, and we get a, we grab a drink and we're like, oh okay, cool, I guess we're just gonna chill for a second. Rachel is trying to talk and flirt with a boy, literally didn't even realize how young they were.

Speaker 2 8:58

And then all of a sudden, I'm drinking my drink. Everyone's in suits, so like it ups their age a little bit, yeah. And all of a sudden I'm looking at this guy and I'm drinking my drink, everyone's in suits, so like it ups their age a little bit, yeah.

Speaker 2 9:07

And all of a sudden I'm looking at this guy and I'm in the circle of his friends and they're staring at me and I'm like, oh God, they are not my age, not even close to their age. I could probably be their mother, like a teenage mother to them. And so Alex grabs me and I look at her. I'm like we gotta go. But then we look up and all of a sudden all we start hearing is I'm in love with the Coco and we're like, wait a second. We walked in with this guy and then we realized that it's OT, genesis.

Speaker 1 9:39

And he's performing. I'm in Love with the Coco singing this to 16-year-olds, and the questions I had going in my head is number one do they?

Speaker 2 9:48

know what the Coco is, do 16 year olds know what Coco is do they know who OT Genesis is exactly? I was like, wow, I mean, if they did, they're pretty cool, 16 year old yeah, I mean, they had him come perform, so it was was fun.

Speaker 1 10:04

And after a song or two we were like, okay, we had our moment, our fun, and we should probably leave, yeah. So we were going to go down to another place and Rachel and I were just like you know what. We should just call it quits for the night. So then we just went back home and got caught talking shit.

Speaker 2 10:27

because the funny thing about Alex and I if you understand the way our humor, our dark humor, the way we communicate, if you understand us, you'll get us and you'll realize that we're not actually talking shit about you and you can feed it right back to us because we love that, we thrive, thrive off that. But there's some people that can't handle the heat at all and that's where I'm just like you can't sit with us, babe.

Speaker 1 10:51

But it's the people that can throw it out at you.

Speaker 2 10:55

Yeah.

Speaker 1 10:57

And I take it very lightheartedly and funny. But then whenever you give it back, it's oh, you're shit talking.

Speaker 2 11:04

I think it's also just a huge sign of insecurity.

Speaker 1 11:06

Yeah, Because genuinely we never talk about people's character or who they are.

Speaker 2 11:13

No, we'll just tell you to your face yeah, we have a problem, we'll talk about it, not in a bad way. I'm not going to confront you and make you feel uncomfortable. I'm just going to say this is the issue.

Speaker 1 11:24

Yeah, I'm not going to confront you and make you feel uncomfortable, I'm just going to say this is the issue. Yeah, honestly, one of my life mottos is I would never say something behind someone's back that I would never say to their face, and I literally live by that. Yeah, 100%, because I always try to think it through before I say it just to make sure that's the fact. But honestly, I just trained my mind.

Speaker 2 11:46

And it's just who I am as a person.

Speaker 1 11:47

I just would never voice something that I would never say to someone's face.

Speaker 2 11:51

No, I wouldn't either. I think that's just us, and I feel like that's what makes us really real.

Speaker 1 11:56

Yeah.

Speaker 2 11:56

It's because we don't have a problem saying this is how I feel.

Speaker 2 12:01

I honestly think that more people need to be like that because that's what makes people genuine, and that's what makes people actually want to talk shit because they can't say it to their face back so, instead of actually vocalizing it and getting it out there, these people don't say anything at all and they're the worst people to be around, because those people are talking and nothing's getting fixed. Like you just got to put it out there and the person agrees with you, they agree with you. If they want to work on it, they work on it. At least you put it out there and at least you can move forward and not have to talk about the same exhausting thing over and over again.

Speaker 1 12:30

Yeah, I saw this TikTok clip and it's basically said if someone is hanging around, another person that talks shit behind your back, but smiles to your face, then you can't trust that person either no and it's I stand by that yeah, I've also realized.

Speaker 2 12:51

Growing up and getting older I realized if someone has the time to belittle somebody and talk shit about somebody to make them feel good or to make them feel powerful in the moment, yeah, then you have to watch out because they're saying that to you. What are they saying? About you when you're not around, feel good or to make them feel powerful in the moment. Yeah, then you have to watch out, because they're saying that to you. What are they saying about you when you're not?

Speaker 1 13:08

around wait. Speaking of, because I feel like that falls into people pleasing and guys, I love my quotes. I save all these quotes and stuff on instagram.

Speaker 2 13:19

Good quote is very motivational.

Speaker 1 13:21

Okay, all right it might be a little bit controversial, but I have to read it. Money doesn't change people. It exposes who they really are. Most people don't need therapy. They need discipline, sleep and exercise. Kindness without boundaries isn't strength, it's self-destruction. Social media doesn't make you insecure. It magnifies the insecurities you already had. Damn. Most people don't want advice. They want sympathy for staying in the same place oh, this is amazing, I know it's this instagram page called winter to fi but those are a few dark truths they listed and when I was reading them I was like damn.

Speaker 1 14:08

And then they have six laws to live by.

Speaker 2 14:11

Never trust a person who speaks well of everybody oh well, of everybody yeah because, at the end of the day, even the most perfect person isn't the most perfect person. Yeah, there's gonna be one thing you're either gonna disagree, that you're not gonna like about them, and I think that's why, also, we're so ourselves.

Speaker 1 14:30

I'm just speaking my truth and my experience, and maybe it's not always right. Yeah, I'm not saying I'm Buddha or the gospel or anything like you're stating out the obvious yeah, and also people that meet me. They're not always gonna get the best experience of me, either if I'm having a bad day or whatever the circumstances, and I don't expect you to be like, oh, alex was the best person that day. But also there's grace having grace for people, but it's just not everyone is for you yeah, and that's why everyone has different friend groups yeah other people.

Speaker 2 15:03

Don't mesh with other people. It's just the way life is.

Speaker 1 15:06

Some of these are like.

Speaker 2 15:08

A little deep yeah.

Speaker 1 15:10

The quotes are amazing. The quotes are done.

Speaker 2 15:11

Yeah, the quotes are great. It's crazy, though the therapy one about taking a walk and getting outside. I'm not even joking. A walk will literally save your life. I know sometimes I'm like Alex, let's go for a walk. I also love walking solo. I love just like popping my airpods in, blaring it at the highest max, walking down the street pretending I'm in a music video and I'm just walking with Kingston, letting go everything, and then I come home. I'm like that was one crazy music video. Oh, my gosh, stop. This is so crazy. But do you ever play a song when you're in your car just vibing so hard? You feel like you're in a music video and you're just driving down the street?

Speaker 1 15:52

No, I think of it more visually. What would this look like if I had a drone and I was riding? I just think the whole time.

Speaker 2 16:01

It's funny because that's how your mind works and then mine's like more of the creativity kind of vibe.

Speaker 1 16:06

But when I was little, I don't know what this was, spear fingers. So when I was little, I'm sure some of my girls did this. This is a really funny story.

Speaker 2 16:21

So growing up as a dancer, I was a dancer too, really, yeah, when you were little little, I'll tell you this yeah, I did jazz, tap and hip-hop, oh yeah.

Speaker 2 16:30

I killed it in hip-hop, but your mom wouldn't let you do ballet my mom was like you are not dainty enough, you cannot point your toe. You were literally an elephant in a glass. What's it called? A china, is it? What's the quote? Elephant sounds awful. She was not fat shaming me, I don't know. Anyways, my mom told me that I am not a ballerina, and she was so right and we love her. Yeah, we're like fully calling me out on that.

Speaker 2 16:56

Imagine me sitting, still standing there, listening and being like, okay, one arm up, other arm, other arm up, no, I am getting down, let's go put the hip hop on. That was my thing. I did really enjoy tap because I could take my anger out and hit the floor really hard with my foot. But that was only a couple of years. Jazz and hip hop was my thing.

Speaker 1 17:19

Yeah, no, I could not see you doing ballet.

Speaker 2 17:23

I could see you being cute doing ballet, Because you're blonde. You have a little pink outfit, a little tutu being cute, and Karen's with her video camera Mean girls.

True Friends and Honest Communication

Speaker 1 17:33

mom, I did have to do ballet but it was honestly my least favorite and I only did it because my dance mentor growing up was like this is the foundation to all the other dance. As far as technique goes, yeah but hip-hop was my shit. Uh, fun fact about me which you probably won't believe I was a crumper at one point in time. You guys look at her old tiktok crazy but that was a really good way to get out your anger crumping. Have you ever seen stomp the yard?

Speaker 2 18:09

yeah, yeah, duh that's crumping. In some capacity you got served yeah, and step up a little bit, a little bit yeah, yeah but to release.

Speaker 1 18:21

anger is the way it started Should we start crumping when we're mad. Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 2 18:27

I'm down, teach me, I'm down. I need to learn something more than my fake twerking that's happening up at the house, yeah.

Speaker 1 18:34

We would dance with Tommy the Clown and he literally maybe it's in my theme song my whole life but he had the movie Rise okay, which is about crumping, and he started this non-profit. They would do battles and it was to get people off the street. So when I dance with Debbie Allen, I would go and perform these battles. I thought it was the shit and I actually was pretty good.

Speaker 2 19:01

Yeah, it was so.

Speaker 1 19:02

Yeah, but I thought that was really cool that he started that. But anyways, going back to the story, when I was little, speaking of music videos, I would direct Dalton and Alyssa, my brother and sister. I would come up with full choreography. I had to be main center stage. Alyssa would be my backup dancer. I'd be like move back. And then the best part is we went from Lucky Britney Spears into who Let the Dogs Out.

Speaker 2 19:31

Oh, you got there.

Speaker 1 19:32

Me and Alyssa would transition off the stage and I'd have Dalton come on the stage and then he'd be like who let the dogs out. There's a video of him and he's literally like who let the dogs out? He goes woof, woof, woof. I make him do the choreography too.

Speaker 2 19:48

And it was so funny to watch we got to pull that out.

Speaker 1 19:50

Yeah.

Speaker 2 19:51

Yeah, I need to see Dalton going like this. That is so iconic. Alyssa was probably like I'm not doing this.

Speaker 1 19:57

She would go along with it for a little while when she was little, and then, as she started to get older, she no, was not.

Speaker 2 20:05

Yeah, I could see her just being like Alex, no.

Speaker 1 20:08

Yeah, honestly, if Alyssa would have not gone into the sports side of things, she probably would have been an actress. Really, she was really good at acting and singing really she's a singer yeah, I didn't know that, but my family's so sports oriented, they would try to push us and of course me being a sad rebellious, I was like I'm not bad no, I feel like, honestly, even the music videos.

Speaker 2 20:34

I did that growing up as well, because I was in dance-ish and I remember the first one I was at my cottage. You guys, I don't know, americans, don't call.

Speaker 1 20:45

I don't know what do you call a cottage in America. Is it in snow?

Speaker 2 20:50

It's like a lake house.

Speaker 1 20:51

Oh Okay, it's like a lake house. A lake house, a cabin.

Speaker 2 20:54

Yeah, so we just call it cottages. If you're not going to a nice cottage and you're camping, and that's obviously where you pitch the tent and you hate your life, and I refuse to camp unless it's glamping, which I'm sure you agree as well. But anyways, I went to this cottage and there was like all these kids out there and I choreographed the Spice Girls stop right now yes, and I bring it back sometimes when I'm wasted.

Speaker 2 21:19

I got my aunt to do it with me during Christmas, so we're going to have to do it soon, yeah.

Speaker 1 21:23

That was us a few Christmases ago. I had my little tiny cousins, so cute Dance, and then my cousins that are in college, barely out of college, yeah, and we were doing Bye, bye, bye, bye in sync oh, amazing, justin timberlake, with those moves, that was probably you at the front, blonde at all.

Speaker 2 21:45

Just break dancing for everyone. They're like okay, alex, we get it. You can stand up now. You're 30 years old, get off the stage where's your husband and?

Speaker 1 21:55

kids, we're all married.

Speaker 2 21:57

Time to grow up no, it's funny that you said that, because we were watching Laguna Beach last night. We're trying to be wholesome, we're having a cute little night, we're sitting there, we're watching it and I just have this epiphany in my brain. I looked at Alex.

Speaker 2 22:11

I used to watch this when I was like grade six, grade seven and that's cool yeah, like a little bit younger than the Hills, came after and I just thought, wow, when I'm their age, I'm going to have a boyfriend, I'm going to be married. I like pictured this whole life. And then I look at Alex and I'm like you know what? We might not be married right now, but there's so many people that are either married or about to get married or whatever, and they don't have what we have. We're like we're living with our best friend, we're doing our thing, we're living in LA. And it could be worse. It literally could be worse.

Breaking Out of Your Comfort Zone

Speaker 1 22:47

And also I'm sorry I've said this before, I will say it again I think that 30 is the new 24. That 30 is the new 24, and shout out to all the girls out there that are single in their 30s, because this is a time where the 20s is your time to get out your party era, have your fun, learn about yourself, make your mistakes and then, when it comes to your 30s, when I turn 30, I learn so much more about who I was, what I want, what I'll settle for, what I won't settle for and so obviously you can still have fun and do what you want to do as you settle down, but you go into it with so much more self-knowledge and, yeah, and expectations of what you want from friends or relationships being older now.

Speaker 2 23:41

I know like we're obviously not ancient, but like we act like we're 80 years old.

Speaker 2 23:46

There's no age limit. Even when I'm 60, like my mom, like your mom, I'm going to concerts. I'm doing my thing. I am not letting an age ruin my happiness.

Speaker 2 23:57

Looking back at Rachel, who is 24 years old, who is an absolute menace yeah, at one point my parents wanted to send me to rehab because they thought it was crazy that I was drinking during homecoming. I'm like mom, this is where we thrive. Let me do my thing. My parents were literally, literally terrified. But looking back at it now, if I didn't do that and I didn't get to experience that fun, you'll never know what it's like. Yeah, you'll never know. I could like strongly say I don't have any regrets. I didn't miss out on anything. Obviously, I'm in my 30s now and I'm like I did that've experienced that. And there's some people that have been in relationships their whole life that can't agree and they want to do that stuff now, but they think that they're too old and they think they have to follow this timeline and they think they have to be married, have kids, blah, blah, blah. But that stuff is always going to be there.

Speaker 1 24:51

Yeah, and honestly, age is just a number of whether you're in a relationship or not in a relationship. Whether you're in a relationship or not in a relationship we were talking about this actually recently is if you're in a situation that you want to change. No matter how old you are, you have to prioritize yourself and what makes you happy and make that change Doesn't matter if you're 20, 30, 60, you still have so much life to live and there's so much out there that you're meant to do and it's. There's nothing limiting you, no, it's just taking that one little step or leap of faith that could change the whole trajectory of everything.

Speaker 2 25:31

Yeah, and don't get me wrong, it's scary. Yeah, starting your life over at any age is so scary because everyone got so comfortable with their lifestyle their people, their friends, their family and it's scary. Not a lot of people could do it. And when I was originally wanting to leave Toronto, it was years before I actually moved. In my head I wanted to move for so long. But I was living with Jess, my best friend. I had it perfect, I had the best friends there, everything was so good, but my I was living with Jess, my best friend, I had it perfect, I had the best friends there, everything was so good, but my I was so comfortable and there was nothing pushing me to succeed outside of what I was doing. And people are just okay to be comfortable, but I'm not the type of person to be comfortable. But don't get me wrong. It took me like probably three or four years to actually say I'm moving to LA, I'm doing that.

Speaker 2 26:18

I. It's a push and it was the best thing I've ever done.

Speaker 1 26:21

Yeah.

Speaker 2 26:22

The best thing, even if you're just going to experience it for a month, two months, three months, you start to create a new life for yourself. You start to force yourself to do things that you wouldn't do if you were living. Even when I was living in Toronto, I thought it was weird to go to a restaurant by myself. I'm like, oh, I'm going to know the person they're going to see me and be like, oh, rachel's eating alone. When I moved to LA, I ate dinner. If I wanted to do something because I didn't have a lot of friends, I went and ate dinner alone and I was loving it. I was getting drunk by my. That sounds so bad. Okay, I ordered one drink by myself, but it's just. It was a thing that I got excited for.

Speaker 2 27:00

Yeah, I remember I went for a walk one day on the water and I was like I'm gonna go to Elefante after by myself. I didn't end up going because Elefante is a bait spot, but I would have never done that. You just gotta get out of your comfort zone and it's hard and like you can convince yourself otherwise. But if you don't try it, you're never gonna know. Don't get comfortable and do your thing yeah, no, I agree.

Speaker 1 27:21

Even my mom. She is divorced and single.

Speaker 2 27:24

And my mom, I'm sorry, she is oh, karen gets it yeah, honestly there's like nothing more rewarding than looking at your mom and being like that's my mom and that's where I got it from.

Speaker 1 27:39

Yeah, and my mom is so hot and she's been single and I am trying to push her to change that. She obviously wanted to make sure incredible mom for all of us Shout out to her. But she's like, alex, I'm so old, I can't start now. And I'm like, yes, you can, you're so hot, people would love to look like you, go out there and experience things. So all that to say. It doesn't matter how old you are, what your circumstances. If you have the capability to move or change your circumstances, then you should, because you never know what's on the other side of whatever you want to do that's waiting for you and how it can literally change your whole perspective, how you feel everything. Are we like Tony Robbins today? I've really been on my motivational speaking lately.

Speaker 2 28:40

What does bit mean? What's his bit they were talking about like a bit like a little act. Like an ick or an act.

Speaker 1 28:49

No, it's like an act Like this is my little bit.

Speaker 2 28:52

Oh, like you, like saying thank you and get received something. No, Like I'm doing it for the bit like this story I'm doing it for the plot oh okay, well then their things were so off I mean, unless I'm wrong I don't know, maybe I just wasn't listening, because I have adhd guess what?

Speaker 1 29:13

what we found a place to move.

Speaker 2 29:16

Oh yeah, yeah, we did. Who was right? Tell me who was right.

We Found A Place To Move

Speaker 1 29:21

I was literally about to give you credit. I give credit where credit's due.

Speaker 2 29:28

I give credits. If it's worth giving credits, All right, let's hear it no.

Speaker 1 29:32

I give my friend credit. No, you do for sure yeah, okay. Okay, rachel did make a list and she reached out to a lot of houses and because I felt bad, I was like rachel, you're useless, so I was like no I never even thought twice about it I know, but it was we needed the push yeah either push.

Speaker 2 29:50

So anyways, I just copy and pasted it it wasn't like a lot of work on my end, I was just like, hey, here's my number, we want to play yeah, so we found a place.

Speaker 1 29:59

We're gonna be there until the end of december.

Speaker 2 30:01

Oh, and here is the news we've all been waiting for, ladies and gentlemen alex is staying. So alex and I had a big girl discussion yesterday. Yesterday I was like okay, so what happens once this lease ends? What happens after that? And she was like let's just find a place. Yeah, and here we are. Yeah, so you guys are going to have to sit back and watch us go through the motions of finding a place.

Speaker 1 30:29

Yeah, go through it. We will take you on a little tour. But also I'm excited because we're obviously going to end the summer series, but Rachel's going to stay on the pod.

Speaker 2 30:46

I'll probably integrate a few solo episodes as well with interviews, but it won't be as good though.

Speaker 1 30:49

so don't you guys stress, but make sure you tune in, but I do have some exciting news. I'm so stoked about this. So for October we're going to do a little October series and we have some really cool people lined up that's coming on the podcast. And so for October we're going to do some mediums aura readers. Rachel is literally I can tell by her face she's so nervous, but I am so excited.

Speaker 2 31:20

I literally like all of this stuff is so cool to me. It's just something that I would never like think to do by myself. But I love having you because you push me to do these crazy things that I wouldn't have the balls to do, and it's amazing because you get me out of my comfort zone.

Speaker 1 31:40

I mean vice versa, and I think that's what friends should do 100% Push you to be better, get you out of your comfort zone to try new things. And so for October, we're going to bring people on the pod and all of these people just want to clarify like their gifts they believe believe, come from a good place, so it's no witchcraft or anything crazy. But yeah, I'm so freaking excited and we also, hopefully, are going to bring on somebody. She has a show and she is really in tune and knows all the stories behind a lot of the paranormal investigations and all that stuff so cool.

Speaker 1 32:24

Yeah.

Speaker 2 32:24

Right up the alley for Halloween.

Speaker 1 32:26

Yeah, it's perfect. So I'm really excited. So we will get those out and announce who's coming on very soon. But anyways, speaking of announcing Justin Bieber, oh we're going there.

Coachella Lineup

Speaker 2 32:43

Yeah, coachella lineup. That was crazy. Why do you think they announced it so early? Did the sales go down last year and they just wanted to throw it in everybody's faces?

Speaker 1 32:54

Probably Honestly, coachella. I haven't been the past few years and I never thought I was really gonna go back in the direction that it was going. It seems fun. It just wasn't my vibe. I'm more stagecoach and Dallas Dallas, that's my nickname for some of our friends shout out to cab, we miss. I feel the new lineup is honestly the ultimate revival of Coachella.

Speaker 2 33:22

They're trying to bring it back. They also haven't even announced the Doolab lineup. They haven't announced a lot of the DJs that are going to be playing. Yeah, and I feel like even with the lineup that they announced now it's getting the people going.

Speaker 1 33:34

Yeah, I bought my ticket today, so she's going. I'm definitely gonna go, you're gonna come, I'm super excited?

Speaker 2 33:43

yeah, it's gonna be crazy, honestly. But doesn't that make you wonder is stage coach gonna step it up now because they saw?

Speaker 1 33:49

the line up.

Speaker 2 33:52

Well, okay, the thing is about, obviously, country music, because it's such, and they also bring in other acts like T-Pain Dippo and all that. But they can't really like go afar from the whole country aspect of everything, because people are going there to listen to the country music. So it's like there's only a certain amount of people that they could bring on as a headliner, like they don't have the variety that Coachella has.

Speaker 1 34:14

Yeah.

Speaker 2 34:15

So yeah, they can throw Morgan Wallen back on there. But who that Coachella has? Yeah, so yeah, they can throw Morgan Wallen back on there. But who else is super amazing that everyone's going to be running to? Is it going to be like a repeated lineup from years past? They can only work with so many artists.

Speaker 1 34:26

Yeah.

Speaker 2 34:27

So who knows? But it's interesting to see what they're going to come up with. And does that mean you're going to do Coachella and Stagecoach, alex?

Speaker 1 34:41

I don't know we'll see, I've never done both, but I am gonna do weekend one for sure of Coachella because of Justin I feel like stage coach is more my vibe. It's chill laid back go so many different yeah, these festivals are all about who you're with. So I feel like if we have a good group at both and we do coachella weekend one and then stage coach, then it's fine yeah, a little week break and see me crazy.

Speaker 2 35:09

I think I'm gonna levitate when justin bieber just walks out on the stage.

Speaker 1 35:14

I'm to bring out some really good guest artists, I'm sure.

Speaker 2 35:20

Think of all the people that he's had songs with, but then think of all the people that he's friends with, so he can literally bring out 15 different people and they all match with what he's already done.

Speaker 1 35:29

Honestly, they need to bring Chris Brown to Coachella. I know?

Speaker 2 35:34

Wait, I'm trying to think, you know what? Honestly, sabrina Carpenter is going to be a really sick performance as well Her outfits and the way that she works the stage. I personally have never seen her really actually perform, but I feel like they're going to make some really cool things happen with her production side of everything.

Speaker 1 35:53

Yeah, people love her.

Speaker 2 35:55

Who's the last person? I'm trying to think it was.

Speaker 1 36:00

Sabrina Carpenterin bieber disclosure.

Speaker 2 36:02

Oh, have you seen disclosure live? I don't think so. It's like seeing rufus's soul live. They are insane. But no, the disclosure when latch came out, they are insane. They put on the craziest performance. Did you see Bunce playing too?

Speaker 1 36:17

Yeah, Bunce and Sexy Red.

Speaker 2 36:23

I honestly can't say I'm a fan of Sexy Red.

Speaker 1 36:26

Addison Rae.

Speaker 2 36:28

No way. So you can really start from the bottom and make it to Coachella.

Speaker 1 36:33

Yeah, especially with her performance supposedly last year.

Speaker 2 36:37

Oh, she performed last year too.

Speaker 1 36:38

Yeah, and a lot of people said she was basically screaming in the microphone the whole time.

Speaker 2 36:42

Why would they bring her back? How do you get picked for Coachella?

Speaker 1 36:47

I don't know. I'm literally going for Justin's performance. Do we want to do questions?

Speaker 2 36:55

Yeah, I love the questions. Okay, so do we want to do questions?

Speaker 1 36:56

Yeah, I love the questions. Okay, all right, guys. Now we're going to get into a few of the dearest questions that you guys submitted. Dear Dry Diaries, I live with three girls I thought were my best friends. Last weekend they all went to Palm Springs and posted the whole trip on Instagram without inviting me. When I asked, they said they forgot. Do I move out, confront them or just accept I'm invite the roommate? I mean.

Speaker 2 37:27

What she just disappeared. They just forgot they had a third roommate.

Speaker 1 37:32

Yeah.

Speaker 2 37:34

But I guess it depends on the context. Has this girl just been missing lately and hasn't been around in the friend group and then she got upset when she saw them that they were there and now she's oh where was my invite?

Speaker 1 37:48

I mean, it never hurts to throw the invite out there whether or not the person wants to come, but I guess it depends on the relationship that they have right now going into all of this yeah, if you want my honest opinion, I would say that I think you may have a different perception of what y'all's friendship is than they do, because I would never tell one of my best friends oh, I just forgot to invite you.

Speaker 2 38:23

I'd be like hey sorry, I thought you were busy or that just wouldn't be a conversation, right?

Speaker 1 38:29

so I don't like the fact that they just said, oh, we forgot. That's just not a good enough answer for me. Slap in the face so I would ask them is there something wrong?

Speaker 2 38:39

did I? Do something that's why I figured were they on thin ice, going into the going into yeah the trip and then maybe they were just like. Honestly, like she hasn't been around, she hasn't been a good friend to me, so we don't see the point in inviting her yeah, maybe.

Speaker 1 38:57

But yeah, I would say, have a conversation, see what they say, just ask them. Hey, it really upset me that. Yeah, you said you guys forgot to invite me. Is there something I did wrong?

Speaker 2 39:07

but even just having them all weekend on Instagram posts and you know, there is like gut-wrenching yeah, also not healthy. I just would have stayed off and not watch them it's like literally watching a breakup and watching your boyfriend meet a new girl. That's what the feeling is like. It's just not a feeling that you should ever feel, ever. Your friends should not be doing that to you yeah, I.

Speaker 1 39:31

I would just have a conversation with them about it and see what they say.

Speaker 2 39:34

But from the response, in situations like that, it like truly does affect me if they, like I don't know, you have the conversation with the person may say, oh, you did this and this wrong. I'm just like, why couldn't we have talked about this before it got this far, you know? But like we mentioned earlier in the podcast, a lot of people don't speak. What's bothering them and that's when the communication issues happen.

Speaker 2 40:00

That's when you feel hurt and feel upset because of it. So sorry that happened, but I would definitely get a read on your relationships with them, because your friends should not be doing that to you.

Dearest: manifested a raise… then life happened

Speaker 1 40:11

Yeah for sure, dear Diaries. I tried manifesting a raise at work. I wrote in my journal every night I will have more money. A week later my car broke down, my rent went up and I got hit with an unexpected medical bill. I technically do have more money because I got the raise, but it all went right back out the door. Did I manifest wrong?

Speaker 2 40:38

Sometimes bad things happen to get you to those places that you have to get, Obviously. That is so out of her control the car breaking down. Out of her control the rent is out of her control. All of that stuff she didn't plan, she didn't want that, she didn't predict no for sure, I don't think you manifested wrong. But she got the raise.

Speaker 1 40:57

Yeah, and I think that whenever you do manifest, just being very specific about what you're wanting and what you're trying to manifest the more details you give, I feel like, the more it can be received. But at the end of the day, sometimes go through the biggest thing lows whenever you're about to quantum leap into your biggest high moments, or if you're going through something that's really that you've always wanted and you've been manifesting I'm sorry I always say this the devil's real and when he sees that you're doing well and you're getting to that point, he's going to want to try to drag you down, because he knows that your potential and what you can do is going to impact or change perspectives, lives, whatever it is, and he doesn't want you to reach your greatest potential, so he's going to try to have all these roadblocks along the way yeah.

Speaker 1 42:00

And so you didn't manifest strong? Yeah, and so you didn't manifest strong. I think, if anything, this is maybe a good sign, because it means that what you're doing is working, and I'm sorry that all the money went out the door, but that doesn't mean that your raise didn't stick. You still have a raise and from there it's just going to go up, because they obviously see that you're doing really well at work.

Speaker 2 42:23

Yeah.

Dearest: wedding colors vs. best-friend dress

Speaker 1 42:24

Yeah, Dear Dry Diaries. My best friend is getting married and told me I can't wear black, white or red to her wedding because she wants all the attention. I bought a blush dress that was super expensive. Now she says I can't wear that either, because her bridesmaids are wearing pink. Do I stand up for myself or just cave? I love how we get all these wedding questions.

Speaker 2 42:49

So her issue is the girl now is being really picky with what she's wearing, and now she does not allow to wear blush because the bridesmaids are wearing pink.

Speaker 1 42:59

Yeah, I would just be honest with her and say, hey, I'm really sorry, I already bought my dress. You originally told me all the colors I couldn't wear.

Speaker 2 43:07

I avoided that because I wanted to make you happy and if she's your best friend, she's going to be okay with you wearing whatever makes you look sexy and hot. At her wedding. She should want you to feel the most beautiful, the most comfortable. She should know that whatever is going to make you happy is going to make her happy.

Speaker 1 43:26

Can I say something that might sound mean?

Speaker 2 43:29

Yeah.

Speaker 1 43:31

I think if the bride is worried about somebody attending taking the attention off her, then something isn't clocking.

Speaker 2 43:43

Yeah, true, everybody there is for the bride people are attending for you. The whole purpose of your wedding day is for you and your husband yeah, and no one's looking at anyone else other than the bride and the groom exactly so she shouldn't be stressed about anyone looking at you like you should just have to worry about being your hottest and showing up to your best friend's perfect day.

Speaker 1 44:06

To be honest, if it was my wedding day and I had a friend that showed up in a full sequined dress, which I mean wedding etiquette I honestly wouldn't even think twice.

Speaker 2 44:16

No, I honestly, I didn't even know you couldn't wear sequins to a wedding.

Speaker 1 44:21

I mean, I'm just thinking of bright dress or something very flashy and crazy.

Speaker 2 44:26

You're going to feel your best in a sequin dress and you want to then show up to my wedding wearing it.

Speaker 1 44:32

Yeah.

Speaker 2 44:32

Because I'm going to have my perfect dress. I'm going to have my perfect makeup, my perfect hair. No one's going to be looking at anyone else but me, right, and that should be the main concern of the overall yeah day.

Speaker 1 44:45

I feel like when it comes to weddings, some people get so wrapped up in the little tiny details of it yeah it's, at the end of the day, I want it. Honestly, I'm more worried about the flowers and what the decor looks like than what anyone's dressed in and then, on top of that, even if all that goes wrong, as long as everyone has a good time, yeah, at the end, this is something, a day that I've always wanted. Yeah then, who gives a fuck about what color somebody's wearing?

Speaker 2 45:15

it's just another added. It's just another added stress that there shouldn't even be stress on.

Speaker 1 45:21

I can can't each to their own. But I would just tell her like hey, I'm sorry, I bought this.

Speaker 2 45:27

Is it weird? I don't want to have a wedding, I just want to have a really cool party.

Speaker 1 45:32

No, you could get married at a courthouse and then have a party.

Speaker 2 45:35

I don't know what direction, but I don't want to have a sit down dinner and have these speeches. I want everyone to show up and have these speeches. I want everyone to show up. I guess it's like an engagement party in the sense. There would maybe be like no, I don't want to sit down dinner. I want everyone dancing. I want there to be a DJ. I want the best drinks, the best appetizers, I want everyone wearing the sexiest outfit that they could ever possibly wear, and that's how I want my night to be.

Speaker 1 46:02

Yeah, I don't want like I feel like people do dinners because between the ceremony and the reception it's so long that people need food yeah, and they're like I'm giving you $300 to attend your wedding. You better give me a steak dinner in return honestly, I would be happy with a really small ceremony, intimate vibes and then have a really sick party.

Speaker 2 46:26

But then I'm like I guess it's your one day, it's the one day you can make it about yourself, and if you want that much attention, have the full thing, have it. So everyone's there, they're seeing you walk down the aisle, they're hearing every speech, they're hearing how amazing you are. I guess, in that sense, it's like the perfect time to do it.

Speaker 1 46:48

I guess a ceremony, really cool singer or band, a smaller situation and then have a huge reception after.

Speaker 2 46:57

I need the violin guy, dude, you know how they go off to Fred again and Rufus the Soul oh, yeah, yeah, yeah that shit is so magical yeah I don't know. When the day comes, we'll talk about my wedding, but for now I just I don't know dear joy diaries.

Dearest: BF showed up drunk/late to my birthday

Speaker 1 47:12

For my birthday dinner I made a big reservation, invited all my friends. My boyfriend of a year showed up late, drunk and empty-handed after dinner. After dinner I found out he had been at another girl's birthday party before mine. Oh God, should I be done with him or am I being dramatic?

Speaker 2 47:32

Your boyfriend of a year came late to your birthday wasted. He's not lasting much longer. Yeah, where's the respect? It's your birthday. You're not just going. If it was a random dinner and like you were like, oh, I'm going to have a dinner tonight with the girls. I invited some of our guy friends, let's go. And he was like, oh, I had a birthday, maybe that's an exception where he shows up late. Oh, at least he's coming. Whatever, you're doing your thing with your friends, but it's your birthday. People love birthdays. They eat it up on their birthday. Yeah, people love birthdays. They eat it up on their birthday. Yeah, that's like the day you find your best outfit. You're looking hot, just like your wedding, but it's not and your boyfriend's showing up wasted late. How do you explain to your friends oh, yeah, sorry, my boyfriend was just entertaining this other chick while I'm about to blow my candles out.

Speaker 1 48:19

that's how I I think it's giving disrespectful not husband material immature.

Speaker 2 48:29

Priorities babe, when are they?

Speaker 1 48:32

The way that you're feeling is very valid. I wouldn't make it a huge thing, especially if he didn't tell you that he had another birthday party before.

Speaker 2 48:41

Oh, that's a whole different story.

Speaker 1 48:43

Even if he did, did, if it wasn't his very best friend in the whole world or a family member, he should be able to miss that birthday party for your birthday party, that's your boyfriend of a year yeah so like also and you're asking the two most chill girls ever when it comes to stuff like this, yeah, 100%, and so I just feel like you deserve to have him there.

Speaker 2 49:08

It's your birthday, unless it was your girl's dinner and then you were pissed that he didn't show up. But even being at another girl's birthday, yeah. It wasn't like it was just a birthday. It was another girl's birthday.

Speaker 1 49:20

No.

Speaker 2 49:21

Why is she taking priority over your birthday?

Speaker 1 49:25

yeah, absolutely, no, I would just. I think you have a conversation with him and yeah, you know what's going on and what the relationship's about. Either you accept it or you can just confront it. He's gonna apologize, give you his whole story and you'll probably move on and everything will be fine for a little bit.

Speaker 2 49:46

But other red flags are gonna pop up, or think about that yeah, or like it's gonna be one of those things he's gonna make you angry and you're gonna be. You fucking missed my birthday let it play out maybe. Anyways, we're to end the podcast off with one thing here. All right, so before we leave, everyone turn your AirPods to full max, because we're leaving this one with you, okay.

Speaker 1 50:15

Blast it in your car on the way to work. I'm glad that we could take your mind off of life for the last 30 minutes. Is this it?

Speaker 2 50:24

This is like the Disco Lines version. Let's go, all right.

Speaker 1 50:29

That was really aggressive. But all you need is a red clown nose. All you need is a clown nose.

Speaker 2 50:35

All right, we're leaving that off with you here.

Speaker 1 50:37

Well, that's it for another entry of the Dry Diaries. We'll see you next week. Bye, bye, babes.