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Calm Your Chaos: The Power of Mindfulness in Just a Few Minutes

• Sarah Bowser, That Weird Nerdy Mom • Episode 16

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Mindfulness. It’s everywhere. It's sold to us like some magical cure-all for everything. But the topic might make you roll your eyes, because a lot of what we hear about mindfulness is a load of shit. So how can you actually use mindfulness in a way that works for your distracted, busy brain? 

In this episode of Get It Together, Weirdo, coach Sarah Bowser  dives into the often misunderstood concept of mindfulness. Over the years, Sarah has bought into a lot of mindfulness woo woo. You name it, she’s tried it — the meditations, the breathing exercises, the essential oils. She’s had her fair share of eye roll moments. 

But Sarah’s also seen the benefits of mindfulness in her own life. It hasn't magically solved all of her problems, but it's helped her navigate them with a little bit more clarity and less stress. Sarah argues that mindfulness is not about perfection or elaborate rituals, but about being present in small, manageable ways that work for you. By integrating simple mindfulness practices into everyday activities, you can reduce anxiety, improve focus, and enhance self-compassion. And that is worth the effort. 

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What you’ll learn in this episode: 

  • Mindfulness doesn’t have to be perfect or complex. You can start small and simple. 
  • Mindfulness is a practice. You’ll get better at it over time. 
  • Being present in the moment without judgment can help manage anxiety, improve focus, and enhance self-awareness by giving your brain a break from its constant chatter. 
  • There are practical, accessible ways to incorporate mindfulness into your daily life and everyday activities. 
  • Experimentation with different mindfulness techniques will help you find what works for your needs and lifestyle. 

Noteworthy quotes from this episode: 
“Mindfulness is often packaged as this perfect, Instagram-worthy practice that will magically fix your life. And when it doesn't work immediately or it feels too complicated, we get frustrated and dismiss it as fluff.” 

“Mindfulness can be as small as taking a few deep breaths, jotting down some thoughts on a scrap of paper or in your phone, or noticing the way your coffee smells in the morning. These tiny moments of presence can make a big difference in the way our brains process the world around us.” 

“Trying to be mindful can feel impossible when your brain is running 20 tabs at once. It's normal to get distracted. The key isn't to force your brain to focus. It's to gently bring it back when it wanders.” 

“It's okay if it feels awkward at first. Mindfulness is a practice, not a performance. The more you do it, the more natural it will feel.” 


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Ep. 16. Calm Your Chaos: The Power of Mindfulness in Just a Few Minutes

Welcome to Get it Together Weirdo, the podcast where we dive into ways to help you figure out how you can tackle your to-do's, keep track of your side quests, and manage your time in a way that works for your brain so you can focus on nerding out on the things that make you do a happy dance. I'm Sarah Bowser, your get your shit together coach and resident weirdo, here to guide you on your journey. So let's get it together, weirdo.

Hey there, my wonderfully weird friend. Welcome back to Get it Together Weirdo, where we embrace our quirks, tackle life's chaos, and figure out what actually works for us without the fluff or, you know, bullshit. Today we're diving into a topic that might make you roll your eyes the most: mindfulness. Yeah, I know. Mindfulness is everywhere, and it's often sold to us like some magical cure-all for everything from stress to your messy junk drawer. If we're being honest, a lot of what we hear about mindfulness is, well, a load of shit.

So what's real? What's fluff? How can you actually use mindfulness in a way that works for your distracted, busy brain? That's what we're going to be exploring today. Over the years, I've bought into a lot of mindfulness woo-woo. I've tried the meditations, the breathing exercises, the essential oils, you name it. I've had my fair share of eye-roll moments. There's this whole vibe around mindfulness that makes it feel unattainable. Like if you're not sitting on a meditation cushion for an hour with a serene smile on your face, you're doing it wrong.

But mindfulness can be helpful. It's just gotten buried under a mountain of practice that makes it feel overwhelming and out of reach. It doesn't have to be unattainable or woo-woo. You don't need a candlelit room, a guru, or a $200 meditation app to practice mindfulness. You just need a few simple tools that work for you and your brain.

So why has mindfulness become a term that leads to instant eye rolls? Part of it is the way it's marketed to us. Mindfulness is often packaged as this perfect, Instagram-worthy practice that will magically fix your life. And when it doesn't work immediately or it feels too complicated, we get frustrated and dismiss it as fluff. But at its core, mindfulness is really simple. It's about paying attention, but being present in the moment without judgment, in a way that works for our brain.

When we're mindful, we're more aware of our thoughts, feelings, and surroundings. This self-awareness can help us manage anxiety, guilt, and that constant mental chaos that we all deal with. Mindfulness doesn't have to be a big, life-altering event. It can be as small as taking a few deep breaths, jotting down some thoughts on a scrap of paper or in your phone, or noticing the way your coffee smells in the morning. These tiny moments of presence can make a big difference in the way our brains process the world around us and have a more positive effect on our emotions.

So how can we use mindfulness without all the fluff? We keep it simple. Here are a few practical ways to integrate mindfulness into your daily life, even when chaos is ruling the day:

1. Start small. Take a couple of seconds or minutes to breathe, to write down your thoughts. Dance to a song, scream at the top of your lungs (as long as you're in a place physically where that won't cause any issues), or just sit.

2. Anchor yourself. Pick an activity that you already do every day, like brushing your teeth or washing the dishes, and use it as a mindfulness moment. Pay attention to the sensations, smells, and sounds of whatever it is you're doing. Focus on a thought you're having, or use the time to process something that happened earlier in the day.

3. Mindful pauses. Just set a timer on your phone to remind yourself to pause and take time to be present a couple of times a day. These are tiny, manageable steps that don't require a major time commitment or a complete lifestyle overhaul. They just let you start to tame the chaos in your head.

Remember, mindfulness isn't one size fits all. You can experiment with different techniques and find what works for you. And it doesn't have to be perfect, it just has to feel good for you.

Now, what about distractions? If you're anything like me, your brain is constantly bouncing from one thought to another like a squirrel on espresso. Trying to be mindful can feel impossible when your brain is running 20 tabs at once. It's normal to get distracted. The key isn't to force your brain to focus, it's to gently bring it back when it wanders.

When you're trying to be purposefully mindful, as soon as you notice yourself getting distracted, don't judge yourself for it. Work on getting back to what you wanted your current focus to be. Think of mindfulness as a muscle. The more you practice, the stronger it gets. And if you're struggling, try this: When you notice your mind wandering, name the distraction. For example, you might think, Oh, I'm planning my grocery list or I'm worrying about that meeting. Name it to yourself. Then gently guide your focus back to the present moment.

When we make space for mindfulness, even in small ways, it can have a ripple effect on every area of our lives. Mindfulness can help improve focus and reduce anxiety by giving our brains a much-needed break from the constant chatter. It can enhance our relationships by helping us be more present and attentive. And it can increase self-compassion by reminding us to treat ourselves with kindness instead of judgment.

I've seen these benefits in my own life. Mindfulness hasn't magically solved all my problems, but it's helped me navigate them with a little bit more clarity and less stress. And that, my friend, is worth the effort.

So here's your takeaway for today: Mindfulness isn't about perfection, and it's not some magical fix-all. It's about finding small, simple ways to be present in your life. Whether it's taking a deep breath, pausing to savor your coffee, or just noticing the world around you, these moments of mindfulness can make a big difference in calming our mental chaos.

Take some time this week to try one of the techniques we talked about today or something else that you think may work for you. And remember, it's okay if it feels awkward at first. Mindfulness is a practice, not a performance. The more you do it, the more natural it will feel.

Thanks so much for listening today. You can find complete show notes, links to resources mentioned, as well as a link to our co-working community on our website at www.thatweirdnerdymom.com. Be sure to leave a rating or review and check me out on Instagram @that_weirdnerdymom. Feel free to shoot me a DM. I'd love to hear from you.

Until next time, my wonderful weirdo, you've got this. Bring out your weird.