Spotting the Backstabber: How to Survive Jealous Coworkers

The green-eyed monster lurks in every workplace, sometimes hiding behind friendly smiles and casual conversation. What happens when your success, character, or mere existence triggers jealousy in those around you? Even when you're minding your own business, jealous coworkers can turn the most peaceful workplace into a battlefield of whispers, sabotage, and backstabbing.

Drawing from personal experiences and spiritual insight, I'm revisiting the poison of jealousy with a specific focus on workplace relationships. The signs are often subtle but devastating – the coworker who warns others about you, the person who nitpicks your every move, or the colleague who seems friendly but constantly looks for ways to undermine your success. These behaviors stem from a deep spiritual illness that corrupts the jealous person while causing harm to everyone in their path.

Most dangerously, these backstabbers operate with smiles on their faces while plotting your downfall. As the classic song says, "They smile in your face, all the time they want to take your place." I share a crucial warning: when someone tells you to "watch out" for another person, it's often the warning itself that's the red flag. The person issuing cautions about others is frequently the one harboring the most jealousy and ill intent.

The solution requires both practical vigilance and spiritual fortitude. We must "watch and pray" – remaining aware of workplace dynamics while protecting our spirits through prayer. For those suffering from jealousy, only deep, sincere prayer can remove this destructive force before it consumes you completely. For those targeted by jealous coworkers, maintaining your character while staying spiritually protected is your strongest defense.

Have you experienced workplace jealousy? How did you recognize it, and what strategies helped you navigate these treacherous waters? Share your experiences, subscribe to hear more insights, and remember – if God is for you, who can be against you?

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Chapters

• 1:48 Introduction and Contact Information
• 2:34 Revisiting Jealousy: Workplace Focus
• 6:08 Recognizing Jealous Behavior Patterns
• 11:10 Backstabbers: True Stories and Red Flags
• 15:50 The Disease of Jealousy and Its Effects
• 20:38 Prayer as the Solution to Jealousy
• 25:43 Final Thoughts and Closing Message

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:55

Hello, welcome back to another episode of Regina Sworn Audio Series Presents. I want to go ahead and take a moment to share with you a place where you can contact me. Contact me at swornregina at gmailcom. I'd also like to take a moment to thank each and every one of you out there who support this podcast monthly. Thank you to those who listens and share the podcast. Thank you, thank you and thank you again.

Speaker 1: 1:39

I want to jump right into my topic. I'm going to revisit my topic on jealousy, the Poison of Jealousy, volume 2, topic Jealous Coworkers or Jealous people in the workplace. I'm sure a lot of you out there can relate to this topic where you work around people or they work around you, because you could be like myself that try to stay to yourself, but every teeny tiny little thing you do, you got to really be careful because, guess what? They can try to use that against you. Someone called me not too long ago to tell me something that somebody else said in another department. But I could always distinguish when a person is speaking. They could say this person said don't do da-da-da-da, da-da-da-da, or you can get in trouble or whatever. But most of the times when a person is speaking, I'm listening very carefully to them, because the very thing that she was saying herself is what she would do, and I'm talking about the co-worker. This is what she would do. See, guys, there is so much jealousy in the workplace amongst coworkers, and it doesn't have to be people always in your same department. It could be in another department or it can be. As I said in my last podcast, an alliance can be formed for whatever reason. People can get jealous of you because of the good character that you have, and so, therefore, any little thing that's why it's good to watch and pray so seriously people can try to form any little thing against you, to try to come against you, because what they want is they may have a bad character or a bad name themselves, so your name could be upstanding, you could have the best name, live in the best standard, have the best character about yourself. But it doesn't take but just a little teeny inchy something that hey, you don't know, but it could. Just they can use that against you. I have to really be careful.

Speaker 1: 4:40

I realize every single move that I make, not just my everyday life, not just in my other side hustles, not just in family life, not just in just church life, but especially when you are on a job, you have to be super, super, super watchful at all times and it doesn't hurt to be like myself. I like being to myself. I think I am a person that like to be to myself. But sometimes you always got this person who could be a co-worker or somebody in another department. They could. They could be eyeing you, they could be watching you and they could have a jealousy towards you because of your character and because of the way other people feel about you. So why don't, if I can just get a little negativity on this person being it they could be naive about it, about something why don't I use that to my advantage? And then now we're even Stephen, because at that point, not even Stephen, but you know how it goes. We're even now because now people may have something bad to say about this person, but that's not always the case, because a person who is jealous I pick up these spirits when I tell you. I pick them up, which is why I do stay to myself.

Speaker 1: 6:26

I've been known, especially since my sister died, passed away back in 2020, I've been known as an antisocial person and in many senses, that is true, but sometimes you open up to certain people. Sorry about that, guys, sorry about that, but sometimes you open up to certain people. You open up because, well, thank you, chase chase for sending me a message. But, yeah, sorry, but sometimes you open up to people, you open up to them, and it's really weird just how easy it is for people, to People to be jealous of you, to be envious of you. In volume one I spoke of many different instances that can cause a person to be jealous of you. I brought about little relationships I talk about if you got a business. I spoke of many things. So if you haven't heard volume one, the Poison of Jealousy, volume one, if you haven't heard part one, then you definitely need to go back and listen to that and then come back to this part.

Speaker 1: 7:50

There are so many reasons in a person who is jealous of you. There are so many reasons in their mind to be jealous of you and you could not even be thinking of them, you, you don't even have your mind on these people, but yet they can find just all they want is just one little teeny, like a teeny teeny thing on you and in their mind is super big, and then they would try to say, uh, this person did this, this person said that, that person said that when all the time is them the whole time. But it's nothing new to me, because every job I have been on, my sister and I used to be what we used to be. On jobs we worked at a school, private school, and before a person could come in the door, before a new employee could come in the door, they were already schooled by jealous people to watch those sisters.

Speaker 1: 8:55

Have you ever heard a person say to you those sisters? Have you ever heard a person say to you you better, you need to watch out for her, you need to watch her or you need to watch him. Have you guys? Have anybody ever heard that out there? Anybody ever heard that? When the first, if a person ever tell you that you better watch this person or you better watch that person, you, you better run as fast as you can from that particular person who is telling you that because that is the person you need to look out for. They are full of venom, lies, vindictiveness, jealousy, envy. Look out for a person like that. That's who you need to watch. So if a person ever I mean seriously if a person ever say to you you better watch her or you better watch him. No, you better watch them, because that is the person right there who will stab you in the back before you, right in your face, and they'll be smiling. The song said they smile in your face all the time they want to take your place. The backstabbers I mean, I know that's an old song, but it's true. They smile in your face all the time they won't take your place. The backstabbers I like those, I love those old songs. I mean you know my dad, my dad era, but you know all the songs that I love so much. But the song, the lyrics to that song, is so true. They're smiling at the same time with a knife to stab you in your back.

Speaker 1: 10:38

Yeah, I think of the vision I had about my brother about a year before he was murdered. This woman came over for Thanksgiving. I'll never forget it as long as I live. She came over for Thanksgiving. I was cooking dinner that year and she came over and she was all smiles and my brother was there and she was oh, ms Sworn, I love your son. I love your son so, warren, I love your son. I love your son so much. I love your son, miss warren. For some reason I could see through that lady. I I could pick up her spirit. Even back then I could pick up people's spirits, I could pick up her spirit. But I didn't act on anything, I didn't tell my brother anything until I God showed me the vision of this woman stabbing my brother and killing my brother. This was a year before he got murdered. So in that vision I saw her stabbing my brother and killing him, not to even know that she would be found. He would be found at her place, her ex-husband. She was still seeing the ex-husband. The sister was over at the house that morning. Oh, it was just a whole Perry Mason case, guys, a whole Perry Mason case that I had already dreamed about, envisioned.

Speaker 1: 12:12

So jealousy is rotten to the bone. It's cruel as a grave, and a person that's jealous of you is not just jealous of you, they're jealous of everybody, some people how do I want to put this? The person that came to me and told me some things I could see right through this woman. She's a very jealous person. I have made a difference in a certain spot, a certain area, and she got lots and lots of complaints. So I can just pick up jealousy off of people. I'm going to put it at that.

Speaker 1: 13:19

People can be jealous of you for a reason, and that reason can be that you are better than them in their mind, or they can be jealous of you for just absolutely no reason at all. People have been jealous of people because of the way they look, the way they do their job, the clothes that they wear. They got a bigger social media presence, their organization is bigger and better, they're making clout, they're doing better than they are. So many reasons why a person can be jealous of you. But jealousy gets you nowhere. It will get you nowhere but to the grave. Anyone who is suffering with the spirit of jealousy is a very, very sick individual, very sick. And boy, there's so many out there, billions. And that's sad, because I used to read about jealousy how it's a disease. And it is a disease Because if you are jealous of a person for any reason, you may say to a person I like you, and this person told me I really like you and you're really nice and you're speaking.

Speaker 1: 14:49

When a person is talking to me, I'd be listening to them, I'm reading through what they're saying and I'm listening to them as a person who sees dreams and visions, blessed with the gift I don't call myself a psychic or a prophet or a prophet I'm gonna always say that but I can see through a person as I speak with them. Sometimes I'm like really wow, and this person right here. I just see demons all over this person, jealousy, because the person is an only child. But that doesn't mean that everybody that's an only child is like that. But when the person told me in the past that they were the only child, I was like okay. And when they told me in the past that they played by themselves, they didn't play with other people, a person like that see, they want all the attention lavished on them, so they're going to always try to go back and sometimes in their adult life they will try to make a person, try to make another person look bad. It doesn't always mean that every only child now is like that, but this particular person that I'm speaking of, yeah, when that person told me at the time when I was on the present job that I'm on now, when the person was telling me about some stuff as I was being trained, and when the person was telling me that they were the only child and they wasn't allowed to play with the kids when they grew up. Well, as she was growing up, and I was like why, you know, and I think because maybe the mom or whatever was kind of really strict and you know, I don't know all the ins and outs and the details behind it, but I just didn't get good vibes when I was speaking with this person. I'm like, wow, so fast forward to today. The person I picked up jealousy even then, and so now I'm like, oh okay, I get it Jealousy.

Speaker 1: 17:09

I'm going to get back to my topic. Jealousy is cruel. It can rotten you to your bone and you know, something rotten really smells bad. Well, that's what jealousy is spiritually. It's a disease spiritually, for we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against high powers, principalities. We don't wrestle against flesh and blood. Jealousy falls into that category. Start it with Cain and Abel One brother jealous of another brother, so much to his death. You know it's cruel. Jealousy is absolutely cruel as the grave.

Speaker 1: 17:56

And today, if you're out there suffering with jealousy, the only way out of that is prayer. That is the absolutely only way out, and I'm talking about some earnest, sincere prayers. I'm not talking about these little fly by day night prayers no, I lay me down to sleep prayers. I'm talking about some real, real prayers where you got to really pray hard to ask God to get that out of your heart because it's deep-seated inside of you. It will eventually destroy you. I think of the recent tragedy in Long Island. I can't shake that for anything, with Christopher Orson not losing his life and over 100 of his cats losing their lives Jealousy. I could go deeper into that and what I saw, but I'm not going to. I'm not here to solve crimes or to solve anything, but it breaks my heart. You know just how far people are willing to go when they are jealous of you.

Speaker 1: 19:16

If you know of anybody out there, or if you suffer from jealousy today, as one of my last podcasts says, of anybody out there, or if you suffer from jealousy today, as one of my last podcasts says, there is no competition with you. You should never look at another person as that person is competition to you. That's totally irrelevant. There's nobody that can be better than you unless you allow them to be, unless you already think that they are. If someone is doing a better job than you are, then I will just try to do a better job than I did yesterday myself, not try to nitpick and find little stuff that you can on other people or their job performers or whatever else you think you can find on them to hopefully quote unquote get them in trouble. If so much of this stuff go on in the workplace, your workplace could be a workplace that you work from home. You don't have to actually go on the job, because there have been times I worked from home and still dealt with jealousy. Yeah, I still dealt with some jealousy, even when I worked from home.

Speaker 1: 20:32

See, jealousy does not care who let it in, it's willing to just go right into you and it's like bad water. It fills you up and then it spews out of the body. Hate, jealousy. Jealousy causes people to do very mean and cruel things, cause people to do very mean and cruel things.

Speaker 1: 21:02

In volume one I spoke about how I would get up and sing, how my sister and I would get up and sing and how sometimes people would come behind us Because they felt like we were outdoing them and they didn't want to be to come behind us. They had to be the last one singing. But I tell you right now, when I go to a place singing. I'm going to bring this up because I think musicians out there need to hear this. I said it in my last podcast as well. Let me be the first one to go on. I don't have to be the last, I don't have to be the big I or the little you. I want to go, get it out of the way and be done. Get it out of the way and just be done with it. That's all I want to do, guys, let me just get this completely out of the way.

Speaker 1: 21:50

And as I sit on my patio looking up to the sky right now and feeling the pure presence of the Lord in my life pure presence of the Lord in my life I realized that every day I cannot live without prayer. In my life, I got to always pray because people they're going to always sit back and try to find little nitpicking things on you, little nitpicking stuff. I'm talking about little, teeny, teeny, teeny nitpicking crap. I call it little nitpicking stuff Because people absolutely don't got nothing better to do but to just try to sit back and see what they can create or find on you. That's people, that's people for you. But jealousy, as I was saying in volume 1. I'll continue it. I'll reiterate that in this volume as cruel as the grave. The grave is a final place for us or for people when they die, but there is an eternity. So you don't want to go to the grave with that stuff in your heart. It would definitely, definitely take you out of here.

Speaker 1: 23:16

Jealousy is cruel as the grave and there is such thing as jealousy in the workplace. Oh God is heavy in the workplace Jealousy amongst co-workers. Somebody can do their job better than you, somebody not necessarily doing any better job than you do, if you would just do the darn thing, do your job. But somebody come along and they do give it their all do a great job. And then people start to speak good of the person and then you're jealous. Now You're jealous at this point.

Speaker 1: 23:54

People do all kinds of sorts of evil against the person who they're jealous of. But I'll tell you right now if the Lord be for me, he's more than the world against me. If the Lord be for you, he's more than the world against you. If God be for you, who can be against you? So tonight, if you're someone out there who's dealing with jealousy, you got to get it out your heart or it's going to destroy you. If you're dealing with a jealous co-worker or jealous person in the workplace, I say continue to just travel in silence. I mean, yeah, traveling in silence sometimes can be a lonely place, but it can also be a good place and watch, because the Bible did say watch before prayer, watch and pray. So I'm like, okay, I know I pray, but I got to watch Everything I do and you out there, if you're dealing with jealousy in the workplace, jealous co-workers it exists Watch and pray, even if you can't do anything but say a word of prayer. Say a word of prayer Because jealousy is as cruel as the grave and always will be.

Speaker 1: 25:28

I'm Regina Sworn. Thank you so much for joining me. For Regina Sworn Audio Series Presents. You can contact me at swornregina at gmailcom. And for all of you out there who support this podcast monthly, thank you, thank you, thank you If you share it. And podcast monthly, thank you, thank you, thank you If you share it and you listen. Thank you, thank you. Have a great night and be blessed.