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Regina Swarn Audio Series Presents
Authenticity at Work: Why I'm Not Here to Impress Anyone
Have you ever felt the pressure to impress your coworkers with your appearance, especially during overnight shifts? In this refreshingly candid conversation, I open up about workplace authenticity and why I've chosen to prioritize substance over style. Clean, presentable, and focused on the job—that's my approach, and I make no apologies for not stepping out of a fashion magazine every day.
The conversation shifts to music that touches the soul across time. I share how listening to "Mother, I'm So Glad You're Near," a song I wrote years ago, brought tears to my eyes this Mother's Day. There's something powerful about creating art that maintains its emotional impact years later, connecting us to cherished memories and beloved people who have shaped our lives.
We also tackle the toxic nature of gossip—how it separates friends, creates unnecessary drama, and reveals character inconsistencies. Notice how people who eagerly criticize others behind their backs suddenly change their tone when those same people enter the room? That's why I've intentionally distanced myself from gossip and those who engage in it. I share practical advice on protecting your family relationships by being mindful about what you share with others, as the things you say can become twisted beyond recognition as they spread.
This episode reflects my personal growth journey over the past year. The person I am today differs significantly from who I was before—I've learned to value authentic connections over superficial impressions. Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, creating meaningful art, or building genuine relationships, this conversation offers something valuable about living true to yourself.
Ready for a dose of authenticity? Listen now and let me know your thoughts at swarnregina@gmail.com! How do you stay true to yourself in environments that pressure you to conform?
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Hello everyone, welcome back to another bonus episode of Regina Sworn Audio Series Presents. As always, I'd like to go ahead and give you a place that you can contact me. Contact me at swornregina at gmailcom, at gmailcom. And thank you to all who supports this podcast, be it monthly, be it sharing, liking. I mean. I appreciate you very much, thank you, thank you, thank you Tonight.
Speaker 1:It's been a couple of weeks since I recorded a podcast and that's because my schedule is a little bit busier than I want it to be at times. So sometimes when it's like that, thank goodness I have podcasts that I can just go to and just share those. I have my friends share them, the ones who the podcast has already been recorded you can share those, thank goodness. When you got a good topic, you know it happens like that. But tonight I'm having a candid conversation. I love having those casual candid conversations with you, and so this is a bonus and in this bonus I'll be speaking about my new EP, asleep at the Will. I'll also be talking about impressing coworkers. You know, a lot of times and I was having in and I'm just I don't feel like I need to impress anyone. I don't feel like I just come to do a job. I'm clean, I look decent and I just want to go home afterwards. I'm not here to impress anybody, I'm not. I'm not gonna always look like I stepped out of a vogue magazine. That doesn't mean that I'm gonna always look that I'm gonna look washed up and bad or anything. It's just that I'm not going to come in fully made up and fully with the hair. You guys just really don't know me. You don't know me. I can care less about those kind of things. I don't care about that. When I have to dress a certain way or look a certain way, if I have to sing somewhere, if I have to do something, make any kind of appearance somewhere or someone invite me somewhere, then yes, place of employment, working the overnight hours. If I am clean, if my, I look decent and I've said this so many times I am not coming to a job to impress the co-workers, because that's what it is. We're out to impress one another. It's not that you're trying to pick up a hubby or a wife or whatever. You're trying to impress one another. Oh girl, that looks. Oh, I love your hair. Oh, I love your eyes. Oh, I love.
Speaker 1:I can give compliments. I do not care about if a person gives me a compliment or not. I mean I don't care. So I'm not gonna always probably nine times, almost 10 times out of 10. I'm not going to come to a job working overnight looking like I stepped out of a Vogue magazine.
Speaker 1:I am not here to impress anyone. I just want to come in clean, look decent, hair looks decent, get in, get out, go home. That's all I want to do. I'm not here to to to impress anybody. I'm just not. And so I mean yeah, I'm just not. I mean I can care less again about all the compliment stuff. I don't, I really don't care. You know, for a person that gives a lot of compliments, I can care less if I receive compliments because I'm very confident in who I am, the person that I am, so I don't need all of that.
Speaker 1:So I had to say that because sometimes people they'd be like oh wow, you, you had your hair pretty right there and you always cover your hair up. You always cover. I'm not here to. You always cover. I'm not here to impress you. I'm not here impress anybody else. I don't want to impress anyone again. I'm gonna say it one more time I'm I come to work to do a job, especially on the overnight.
Speaker 1:Now, when I work the day shift, it's a little bit different because I'm surrounded by more people and so therefore, yeah, you want to kind of have everything all in eyes dotted and the teeth crossed, if you know what I mean, but Every night, no Hair pulled back, no makeup at all, just as simple and as plain as can get, and I don't care who comes in with their lashes from here to New York, I don't care who wears what, who looks, what kind of way they look. Yeah, I can say, oh, that's so pretty. But yeah, just leave me me be. I don't care about one thing people to learn about me is I am not like anybody else, and I'm so happy that the Lord made me who I am because I don't care to be like anybody else. If I was like other people, I would be very worried, and I'm not, so I'm very happy about that.
Speaker 1:I had to get that off my chest because, you know, because sometimes people will be like you know, they want you to look a certain way or be a certain way, and I'm not going to be that unless I have to. Yeah, if I'm going to a photo shoot or if I'm going to sing somewhere. Yeah, dress up, do the, do the little extra stuff, but otherwise, who are you? Why am I impressing you? Duh, sorry, I had to say that I want to talk about my ep guys. I'm sorry I had to talk about that, I'm sorry. Yeah, no, we got that out of the way. Um, the ep I'm constantly adding new songs.
Speaker 1:After a while this is going to be a whole full-fledged album because I added the song Still there about my sister Laura. It was acapella and it only has strings to it. Just like beautiful. I love those strings. I love that in the background.
Speaker 1:So this past Mother's Day, my mind was so flooded on Sunday with all the great memories of Mother's Days in the past. You guys remember the song that my sister Laura, we recorded some years ago called Mother I'm so Glad You're Near. I wrote that song about my beloved pastor, prophetess, mother AB Jackson. I wrote this song about her and the song some songs that I write are songs of poetry, of poems. They stand the test of time. They could last for years and years. It could be something that I wrote 20 years ago and is still relevant today because of the lyrics. You know something very poignant and powerful about a lyric, you know.
Speaker 1:So my mind was so flooded on on mother's day. It was just so flooded with all these great thoughts, and I was thinking about my mom, and I was thinking about all the beautiful moms who are in heaven and my pastor who's with the lord, and thinking about Laura, of course. And so you know, just, my mind was just flooded with all these great things, and so I decided to one of the. It's two of the songs that from the from our record from the past that stands near and dear to my heart, and that's, mother, I'm so Glad You're Near. And so I just started playing the song the other day and it just brought so many tears to my eyes. I played that song, for I played it like four or five times and I just cried like a baby.
Speaker 1:I was like, oh my God, that song still has meaning to it. As I said, certain things that you write about still have meaning to it years and years later. It can be a lyric, or it can be a poem, or a poetry, or whatever. It still has meaning to me years later. And, mother, I'm so glad you're near. It just brings back a lot of memories. So I'm glad, on Mother's Day, I blessed myself by just listening to that song that I wrote so many years ago and, yeah, it really blessed my soul. So I was.
Speaker 1:And a lot of people say, well, you should always, you know, release that around Mother's Day. Well, it's there, guys, it's out there. I may do a remix of some sort to it, but for the most part it's going to always be there. You know, it's out, it's out there. So, but yeah, you just gave me an idea. So thanks for the ideas that people you know gave me. I appreciate that. So, so, so much.
Speaker 1:I'm just rambling. I'm rambling, guys, but I don't want to miss anything in our little conversation here tonight. I want to speak about gossip. I want to speak about gossip. Now I have kind of steered myself away from people who tend to gossip a lot. I just can't tolerate it.
Speaker 1:I don't like real, real loud people. I mean, people have said to me that if you don't like real loud people, then you know we can't be friends. And I said, okay, I'm okay with that, because what I mean by real loud, see, people are so easily to be offended. You don't have to mean anything bad to people for them to be offended by something that you say and God knows I'm not here to offend anyone, but sometimes things offend people and then they take, have an attitude about it, I'm like, and then your mind, and I say your mind, our mind, your mind, my mind it cannot even be on the person for them to be thinking along the lines that they're thinking Well, I'm just not going to. She doesn't like real loud people. Then I'm a loud person.
Speaker 1:I've made podcasts about loud. There's a certain thing as loud and too loud, too loud is. Some people just got to, they got to be, they got to stand out in the crowd. They got to stand out, so they got to be the most with the biggest mouth, with the biggest, everything. I don't like all of that. I don't like. I just don't like real a whole lot.
Speaker 1:I don't like rudeness I guess that's the best way I can put it. I don't like. I don't like being in the company of rude people. And so if people understand that, that's cool. If they don't understand that, that's okay. But I know in my heart that I don't have anything in my heart against people. It's just that I don't like rudeness.
Speaker 1:I don't like people who are too loud. That doesn't mean that you have to be a doormat. I think I've said these things so many times. I think I've said these things so many times. But sometimes people they don't. They choose, pick and choose what they want to hear. So therefore I'm going to hear that and then I listen to what you said. Next time I listen to that. But by the time they get ready to listen to that, it's the wrong time then, because then they form an attitude in their minds like Like, oh, she just called me too loud, so I'm just not going to say anything to her anymore. I ain't got nothing to say. Okay, I'm not sitting back, as they say, twirling my hair, worrying about that. I just I don't like Real loud people. I just don't and I just don't, and I just don't. That's not to say that I don't like to be around people who are fun, who like having a good time. I like that, that's fine. I'm a very soft-spoken person.
Speaker 1:But sometimes you're sitting and speaking with the person I was sitting one day. I was sitting there and this guy was a co-worker, and the guy just got louder and louder and louder and louder, and so I interrupted him for a moment. I said can you lower your voice please? Are you talking to the ones who are in the room, which was Me and a couple other people? I'm like, are you talking to us or are you talking to someone In another country or another state? I mean, it just got louder and louder, and louder and louder. I thought it was very rude. Number one.
Speaker 1:And just people, they go to the extreme sometimes to stand out and really it just makes them look really bad. So there is a certain thing is loud and then too loud. And again, it's not about being a doormat, because I am not a doormat, but I just don't like people who are real loud, I just don't. And, like I said, if people don't understand that, you know, then that's fine too, because I know in my heart that my heart is a pure heart and I don't have anything in my heart against people. So if they feel that way, then there's nothing they can do about that. They have to take that out with the Lord, because I'm not going to waste my time worrying about boy. I know I didn't mean it about him or her. No, I know I didn't. So I mean, what can I say on that Gossip.
Speaker 1:Again, gossip can separate the best of friends. I don't like being around people who gossip a lot, who like to talk about other people. Or you got something you want to say about somebody, then everybody should be in the company. Everybody should be right there together. If you have something you want to say about a person, then everybody should be there, right there, in the same place, in the same room. Therefore, therefore, therefore, what can you? You? You will find out the ones who like talking about people and gossiping. They would not say the same things if they are in the same room with the person, but if they want to talk about somebody, yeah, then they got everything to say about a person. When, when they're in the same room as that person, no, the, the whole tone, everything changes. So I don't like being around people who gossip, busybodies. I don't like it. Never have, never will, never have, never will. And I think I want to end on this note, and this is already gone Almost 20 minutes, god, um, I want to end on.
Speaker 1:Be careful what you say to other people about your family, because you got people out there. They're not going to say anything bad about their family, they're not going to dog their families out. They're not going to talk about their families like a dog, but then they sit there and listen to you talk about your family from the sun up to the sun down. Yeah, they listen to you talk about your family, but they're not going to do their family like that. So be careful, try to bond together and stick together with your family. I mean, I know it's not always easy, I know sometimes friends are closer I've had, I got friends right now who are very close to me. So, but if you don't have anything good to say about someone, then don't say anything. I'll leave it at that. If you don't have something good to say about a person, be it a family member, friend, whoever, didn't, just don't say anything at all.
Speaker 1:Change the subject immediately. Because, again, people love gossip and by the time they get that stuff that you're talking about is twisted a thousand times. And by the time they get that stuff that you're talking about, it's twisted a thousand times. And by the time they get back to the person who hears it, it's like what, really? And then that's how a lot of mess gets started.
Speaker 1:So I say steer clear of gossip, steer clear of people who like gossip. You know I can truly say the person I was a year ago and the person I am now is totally different, totally different. And I thought I was a good person a year ago and I probably was, but there was a lot of things that I needed to to rid myself of and and it was only because of the greatness of the Lord, the reason I have that's the reason I give God all the credit. I give God all the credit. So, steer clear of gossip. I don't care at whatever cost it take you to Steer clear of it, because people love to sit back and talk about other people and down and dog other people, but the same people they're not going to say that in front of that person, but they'll fill your head with all this stuff. If you let them rent space in your head, then they're going to do it. So, yeah, that's the only candid conversation for friday night.
Speaker 1:Thank you guys. So much thank you for for being a supporter of this podcast. For those who are faithful supporters, I appreciate it. I know sometimes every podcast may not be one that you relate to, but I think I'm very thankful to those who continue to support it. I think I'm very thankful to those who continue to support it. I'm very thankful, and so I have to always say thank you to those who listen and share and who supports it, because it means a lot to me, and I think that's all I'm going to say for tonight, so I hope you all are being safe. I do have some podcasts coming up this weekend, so be on the lookout and remember I'm gonna always end with a remembrance. Remember steer clear of gossip at any cost, because you know sometimes people want somebody that they can talk to somebody else about, but if you quickly shut it down, then they'll know next time not to bring that mess around you. I'm Tina Swern. Thanks again. God bless you.