Treasure Them While They're Here, Not When They're Gone

Why do we wait until flowers wither to appreciate their fragrance? In this powerful, intimate heart-to-heart conversation, I explore one of humanity's most puzzling tendencies – our habit of fully valuing people only after they've passed away.

Through personal observations and heartfelt musings, I unpack the strange phenomenon where someone becomes your "best friend" in death, despite rarely receiving your call in life. We examine how posthumous praise often contradicts our living actions, creating a world where people become saints, queens, and Mother Teresas only after they can no longer hear our admiration. This disconnect isn't just ironic – it's tragic.

The core message resonates with stark clarity: smell the roses while they're living. I challenge listeners to reflect on their own relationships and ask uncomfortable questions about who we're overlooking today that we might eulogize tomorrow. Who deserves your support, belief, and treasure right now? This isn't about performative appreciation but authentic connection while time still permits it.

This episode serves as both gentle rebuke and loving encouragement – a call to shift our attention from posthumous admiration to present appreciation. Break the cycle of delayed recognition. Reach out to someone important today. Write to me at swarnregina@gmail.com with your thoughts, and continue following these reflections on the Regina Swarn Audio Series Presents podcast. Don't wait until it's too late to show someone how much they matter.

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Chapters

• 1:49 Welcome to Regina Soren's Heart-to-Heart
• 2:24 Why Wait Until Death?
• 3:31 Cherishing People While They're Alive
• 5:09 Call to Action and Closing

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:56

Hey there, I'm Regina Soren. Welcome back to Regina Soren Audio Series Presents. I just want to give you a heart-to-heart talk, really Just a heart-to-heart talk, but just a few minutes. Really, I don't know why it is. I have no clue in the world why it is that people wait until people die to really value them. Roses, beautiful roses, are to be smelled. Smell the roses when the person is living, when the roses are living. I mean not when they die.

Speaker 1: 1:49

But what I've found in many people is sometimes it takes a death to see a person's value. They're sad. I mean, right now there are people in our lives that are very valuable, but if they are dead, then you could say, oh, I knew him and he was so amazing, he was great. Oh, I knew her. They would swear up and down, they would promise up and down that they followed every last one of my audios. They knew everything about me, they were close to me. That's if you were dead.

Speaker 1: 2:32

But when you're alive, how close are you to the people that you so cherish? Or that if they were gone? You get what I'm saying. I see it so much and it's mind-boggling to my spirit. It's just totally mind-boggling. I just don't get it. Maybe it's just me.

Speaker 1: 3:02

I don't understand it, I guess, but I certainly don't get how a person can love you to death when you are dead, but when you are alive they hardly ever call you, they hardly ever come to see you. They don't even know you. Really, when you're dead, you're their best friend. You were the queen of the world, you were Mother Teresa, you were all these great things. It kind of bothered me a little bit, but sometimes it takes a death to see a person's value and it's so sad. So today, if someone's in your life, go treasure them, believe in them. Treasure them now, support them. Believe in them, treasure them now, support them, give them love. Don't wait until they're dead to love them, to say all these beautiful things, to write all these beautiful stories. Love them now, today, right now. I'm Regina Swarn. I just wanted. That was in my spirit, so I just wanted to talk about it. Write to me at swarnregina at gmailcom, and listen to my podcast right here. Regina Swarn audio series presents. Thank you.