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Lez Say More Podcast
What Happens When We Stop Trusting and Start Questioning Everything?
Trust issues can silently destroy relationships, creating an unsustainable cycle of suspicion and conflict that ultimately leads to breakdowns in communication and connection. Solange and Ava dive deep into trust issues, long-distance relationships, compatibility, and aging fears while touching on personal experiences with cheating and ghost-busting.
• Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship and without it, constant suspicion creates toxic environments
• Long-distance relationships can work with a definitive end date, but require unwavering trust to succeed
• Shared interests and activities are crucial for relationship satisfaction, otherwise partnerships become lonely experiences
• Both hosts have remarkable stories about catching partners cheating, with Ava sharing an unexpected "plot twist" involving a high school boyfriend
• Fears about aging include losing mobility, independence, and seeing friends less frequently
• Both hosts agree they'd rather not know about infidelity if it was a one-time occurrence they never suspected
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Trust me, ladies, gentlemen, you don't want trust issues. Don't create them if they're not there. Appreciate the fact that you don't have to have trust issues, because I've been on one end.
Speaker 1:But you've been on both sides. Yeah, I have kind of. Yes, I have dabbled in the other side where I didn't trust the person On my ring camera. I'll have to find the video and send it to you. They come to the door and they knock on it Like someone that you would know right and you'll see it in the video, and then they look at each other and then they in my camera. They smile like this, like a murder movie, like a stalker. I opened the door. I said what do you want?
Speaker 2:Hey guys, welcome back to the let's Say More podcast. I am Solange, I'm Ava. Today we are going to be answering some of your questions. You guys sent us some questions on our Instagram, so we're going to talk a little bit about those topics that you guys sent us.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we're going to, let's say more about them. We're going to, let's say more about them. Well, let's say more about something that you've discovered recently. Oh, my new obsession, your new obsession. It's not what people may think it is after all the sex episodes that they've seen, but let's talk about this kefir.
Speaker 2:Kefir, or how other people call it kefir, kefir I think it's kefir.
Speaker 1:Is that how you say it for real, or they're just saying that?
Speaker 2:No, I don't know there's a proper way of saying it. I don't know if it's kefir or kefir, but I've heard it both ways. Okay, yeah, so I have a new obsession and I think I need like I feel like I should name her Name. What Name? My kefirfir, because you know they have like. So all right.
Speaker 2:the reason why the reason why the reason why I got into this is because, in chile, my aunt was telling me about her and her gut health and how she had been feeling amazing when she was doing this thing, and it was like this probiotic that she was doing and going on and on and on and I'm like what are you talking about? And then she's like oh, the pajaritos. And I'm like the pajaritos? And those are like little birds, as you know, because your Spanish is getting so much better, Because you heard me today on my Spanish so I was like what the hell is this? And so she's like telling me, and then I come to realize that she's talking about kefir. Okay, so for those that don't know what kefir is, it's basically like a fermented. You can have it in water and milk like a dairy kefir, kefir or kefir.
Speaker 1:Wow, look at you already switching up on how you say it.
Speaker 2:I'm going to switch it up, because I don't want people coming after me telling me I'm saying it wrong. So I'll say it both ways so I'll say it both ways Bad press is good press.
Speaker 1:That's true, say it wrong.
Speaker 2:So I was looking into it and I read like I basically went down the rabbit hole of YouTube and watched like this whole master class on it and it is really good for your gut, like it is really really good for gut health. It has all these other benefits, it's really good for your skin, it's an anti-ager and all this stuff. So basically you feed you can also make a plant-based one if you wanted to but I have started kind of incorporating a little bit of dairy, and only if it's like fermented dairy or certain cheeses when I feel like it. But I read that basically it feeds on the lactose and the lactose turns into like I don't know, like a probiotic kind of thing. I don't really know the science behind it you guys can school me or teach me in the comments but basically it creates like a probiotic for your gut and so I'm all about that.
Speaker 2:So I started looking into how you make it and she was telling me it's super easy and then they multiply and then you can share it with other people. She goes, but then it got too like it multiplied too much for her and it got overwhelmed. She got overwhelmed and she's like and then I was traveling and I didn't know what to do with the babies and I'm like, oh, she should give them out at the airport. That's what I said. I said, yeah, you can just hand them out, or like take them with you.
Speaker 2:And she was like, no, I wasn't gonna travel with them with me. And I was like, okay, well, I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. So I started some. I'm on day two of activating them um and when do they?
Speaker 1:when are they able to be?
Speaker 2:taken in Basically once you hit four cups, so once you activate them, if you get fresh kefir grains, then you can pretty much start making kefir and like. Within 12 hours you can have drinkable like. It's almost like a drinkable yogurt milk, you know.
Speaker 1:like those when you were kids, I've had it.
Speaker 2:I didn't really like it too much. I've never had it, so this is my first time. I'm just thinking, god, I hope I like it, because I'm going through all this trouble and what if I hate it? But I'm going to try to make it. I'm going to try it as like the liquid form kind of of it, and then I'm going to ferment it longer so it turns more into like a yogurt, because I feel, like. If it's a yogurt, I'll enjoy it more.
Speaker 1:So I'm obsessed so I'm gonna have some too, right? Yeah, because I'm gonna make.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna make yeah, once it starts multiplying, I gotta do something with the pajaritos, pajaritos. So I'm gonna give you some. I'll pass it around to all my family. And if you're lactose intoler, apparently it makes the lactose more tolerable for people, so most people who are lactose intolerant can tolerate this. This actually becomes beneficial for them. That's really good, isn't that interesting? That is good. I learn something new every day, so that's my new hobby.
Speaker 1:Well, I like the hobby, especially because it's going to benefit our aging process.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I feel like once I get, now that I'm getting older because I got a birthday around the corner, you do I am really trying to like get into optimizing my health yes, you should For longevity. As much as I possibly can, you should. And I feel like you and I are on the same wavelength on that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like you and I send each other crazy shit all the time we do, if I'm not sending you things that are off my algorithm. Yeah, like that lady dancing, which is like crazy not attractive. I don't have anyone else to send that type of lesbian to.
Speaker 2:I'm just like thinking, oh, she's going to send me I don't know, like something that's pleasant to look at.
Speaker 1:No, these are just like it sends you down a really dark side of Instagram All right, so we're going to get into the questions that you guys sent us.
Speaker 2:So, to start off, what was oh, what was a pet peeve we had this week?
Speaker 1:I have a few throughout the days, so I'm trying to think of which one would be appropriate to talk about.
Speaker 2:The one that's the least.
Speaker 1:The least appropriate to talk about no being asked what I want to eat when the person's hungry. Oh, I hate that. And then I say what I want and everything's no, no, no, no, no. I've been on both sides of that. And then an hour goes by and now you're both hangry.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And that little argument or disagreement could have been prevented if you guys just settled for like anything, anything.
Speaker 2:But then, like do you ever get to the point where you're so hungry that you just agree? But then you go somewhere and you don't really want that and now you're just eating like angry.
Speaker 1:I don't ever eat. I don't eat angry because I do believe in intent. When you're eating the food, like you're just like ripping into that burrito.
Speaker 2:No, I can't.
Speaker 1:This burrito out of mourning? No, because then I think it serves you bad, but I do. At the end of the meal, I do hope that the person's like oh, she did this for me. She really didn't want that taco, I don't. I don't think so. I don't think so either. That's a pet peeve. That's a pet peeve that happened.
Speaker 2:I've been on both sides of that. I've been the person who's like I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, and then no, no, no, no, no, and then like saying yes, yes, yes to everything because I just want to eat.
Speaker 1:I'm just the type of person that, like, just pick it, just say, hey, ava, baby, my queen of the earth, we're going to go eat here. Okay, the only time you'll get me to say, the only time I'll be like no, is if we're going to eat pho. I don't eat pho, I don't like it. Oh yeah, see, I'll be like no is if we're going to eat pho.
Speaker 2:I don't eat pho, I don't like it. Oh yeah, see, I don't like that. I'm not a big fan of that shabu-shabu stuff.
Speaker 1:What's a?
Speaker 2:shabu-shabu, I think that's the name of the place.
Speaker 1:The hot pot, I think that's what they are I like hot pot, where like you Like pho? Like you, boil your meat oh we got a visitor and they knock like they know you.
Speaker 2:Oh man, I feel like there was a sign that said no soliciting.
Speaker 1:There is a sign in the front.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so they're coming in and they're basically trying to sell Verizon towers, like internet, to everybody. It's really fucking annoying. This is like the second time.
Speaker 1:That's annoying.
Speaker 2:No, fifth time that they've come.
Speaker 1:I've had a Jehovah's Witness, these two boys on my ring camera. I'll have to find the video and send it to you. They come to the door and they knock on it like someone that you would know right and you'll see it in the video and send it to you. They come to the door and they knock on it like someone that you would know right and you'll see it in the video. And then they look at each other and then they in my camera. They smile like this, like a murder movie, like a stalker. I opened the door. I said what do you want? Oh, where do? I said I'm Muslim. Bye, I have to send you the video. That is crazy. I was like I'm about to die. What did they do after, when you closed the door? I don't know.
Speaker 2:They probably just walked away. You should have looked at their reaction.
Speaker 1:I should have. Well, now you know my pet peeve of the week. I mean, you guys could tune in next week and you can ask me another one. I'll have another one for you, yeah, but what is your pet peeve? Oh, we should make this a weekly thing.
Speaker 2:My pet peeve this week was what just happened right now. We were interrupted by some people knocking on my door, pretending to be people. I know because of the way they knocked.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I thought we had a visitor. It turned out that they're the same people I've been getting for the last like three months, which is like these Verizon people coming to knock on my door. The last kid said that he was going to take me off the list because I slammed the door in his face. Basically, I was like this is like the fifth time you guys have been here. This is starting to get annoying.
Speaker 1:It's kind of like spam calling, but like now it's face to face.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I'm like there's a sign on the building that says no solicitors, you are a solicitor. Maybe he can't read. None of them can, apparently. I'm wondering how the hell they're getting into the building.
Speaker 1:Oh, I don't know, I have to get buzzed in.
Speaker 2:Yeah, either they're calling anybody I don't know, but that's my pet peeve right now.
Speaker 1:Pet peeve of the day, of the week, of the hour, of the hour Of this minute.
Speaker 2:All right, we're going to move on to another question that we got. Can relationships survive without trust and what role does it play?
Speaker 1:It could survive for like a couple of years, but no, I don't think you can sustain a relationship without trust, because what can end up happening is, every time you pick up the phone, anytime you leave the house, you're being questioned, and then you're going to get so annoyed that you're going to lash out and it's going to create these arguments that you're going to have. And then, if you are doing something, then that's a whole other topic, but if you're not, you're just going to be like what am I? Why am I with you?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, if you're doing, something, then them not trusting you is validated. But if you're like, it's valid. But if you're not doing anything and you broke trust at some point in the relationship and you're a recovering trustbreaker.
Speaker 1:No, what is it called? What did we call it? What did we call? I don't remember the cheating. Oh, I don't remember anymore. Like you're a recovering cheater, god, what did we Reform? Oh, reform, reform, reform, cheater. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:But trust can be broken in so many different ways, not just cheating, but but. But I mean like if you're a reformed trust a breaker, you I feel like you have a lot of making up to do, that's put on your shoulders, like you have to prove yourself all these different, on all these different occasions of when trust should be, you know when it could be in question, and then I think that that just kind of sucks.
Speaker 1:How long do you think I'm just going to piggyback off this question? Okay, how long do you think is long enough for whatever you did to break that trust to be put in the past?
Speaker 2:I don't know that there's necessarily a timeline, but I definitely think that if you're willing to say I forgive you and we're going to work on this relationship, then at some point in the near future this needs to be let go of and and you need to regain that person's, or that person needs to regain your trust and you need to move on, Because otherwise then, why are you still together?
Speaker 1:Yeah, because I feel like if all you can bring up is something that someone did 10 years ago, right, then what are you trying to do Exactly? You're trying to pick at something. Maybe you should stop picking and you should start appreciating the fact that this was so long ago and since then your person has made up for it.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:They're trying. They're trying. Don't trust me, ladies, gentlemen, you don't want trust issues. Don't create them if they're not. They're trying. Don't trust me, ladies, gentlemen, you don't want trust issues. Don't create them if they're not there. No, Appreciate the fact that you don't have to have trust issues, because I've been on Both sides One end. But you've been on both sides. Yeah, I've kind of.
Speaker 2:Yes, I have dabbled in the other side, where I didn't trust the person.
Speaker 1:That didn't last very long, because I think I left.
Speaker 2:I don't even remember I got cheated on.
Speaker 1:And I found out right away through a picture. I always find it through a picture because I have for some. I could read body language really well. I think that's one of the questions in here. Uh, body language really well, I think that's one of the questions in here. Uh-huh, and I read and I saw yeah, and I questioned it, and I found out within a week. And then I left Because I don't play that whole. You're not going to play me, shadi, who knows? I mean I probably got cheated on more than I even think I did.
Speaker 2:Would you Okay, piggyback on that question Would you want to know? Like, let's say, somebody cheated on you right, like, let's say, fernanda had a one night stand thing Not that Fernanda would, but I'm just using this as a scenario she cheated on you whatever one night stand thing. Would you want to know? Or would you? And she never, she cheats on you again. Like she's so regretful, yeah, like she's so regretful, yeah. Would you want to know? Or would you rather her just keep that to herself and like not tell you and you guys move on and you never find out about it and you're married and she continues to be a great wife.
Speaker 1:I probably wouldn't want to know, but if it was during a time that I had a feeling about it, then yeah. But if I never picked up on it, then probably don't tell me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think I'm in the same boat, like if you cheat on me and I don't know, like I never find out, I don't pick up on it, I don't ask questions.
Speaker 1:But I'm not that stupid.
Speaker 2:Just saying I wouldn't want to know, because at that point I feel like it's more selfish if you're telling me, yeah, because you want to see me hurt. No, I think it's more like you want to feel better for yourself, like I want to get this off my shoulders.
Speaker 1:I want to feel better.
Speaker 2:So I'm going to tell you.
Speaker 1:But in the end.
Speaker 2:I'm hurting you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know, I think if I had the inkling and I was like pressing you about it and you denied, denied, denied, denied, and then years went on and you felt like you want to tell me, because I selfishly want to know I was right.
Speaker 2:Oh, now it's about being right. I want to know that I wasn't wrong. Okay, that's a whole other conversation. Okay, I think we did enough piggybacking on that one. We piggybacked too many times. Yeah, what do you think about long-distance relationships and do you think they can work?
Speaker 1:How long are you long-distance for?
Speaker 2:Let's say I mean, I don't know, but let's say it's a year or more.
Speaker 1:So I've watched 90 Day Fiancé I know no one should be surprised at all the shows I watch anymore and I think I don't think it works, especially if it's like foreign countries, because culture clashes. Yeah, I think if it's in like the States, or you're in the same country or in the same country, it could work if there's an end game.
Speaker 2:Like, if the end game is okay, you know what in two years? Give me two years.
Speaker 1:If there's trust it can work, but if there isn't trust, there's no way. It's going to be hell, because they're always going to ask you what you're doing. If you're out with your friends, they might have FOMO right and they're going to feel like, well, I want to be there with you. Why don't you go back home so we can get on the phone together? I think that you miss them in a way where you don't have date nights and then slowly that could build into resentment, Would you?
Speaker 2:Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? No.
Speaker 1:I'm too.
Speaker 2:Would you be? Obviously not now because you're married, but would you be in a long-distance relationship?
Speaker 1:No, I'm too needy. I need to see my partner. I'm not built for that stuff.
Speaker 2:I'm not built for it either.
Speaker 1:I'm not built for it, I'm jealous, right? I've admitted that I've gotten better over the years. I mean, I'm married now, so it's like what else can she do to prove that she's mine at this point, right?
Speaker 2:But like if we're dating, you know, and like I don't know what is what, I don't think I could do it, only because I would. I mean, if I have a partner, it's because I want to be with them.
Speaker 2:Like I want them to be with me, I want to do things with them. I want to be with them Like I want them to be with me, I want to do things with them. I want to go places with them, I want to spend time with them. I don't want to feel like I have to fly somewhere to be with you or drive I don't know how many hours to see you and then see you for a little bit of time and then I have to like go back. Yeah, I don't think I could do it Like I don't think I could do it, like I don't think I could do that, unless it was like I don't know, maybe six months or a year, where, like they're wrapping you know something up or I'm wrapping something up and then we can live together and be together or move in together, like move wherever or whatever that scenario may be.
Speaker 2:But I don't think I could start a relationship.
Speaker 1:No, long distance like that. No, I couldn't. Yeah, no, not my thing.
Speaker 2:Do you think partners should have a lot of things in common to have a successful relationship?
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, yes, but then, yeah, I think so, because I think, or be open to learning what their interests are. Yeah, like, if you're a person like sports and you don't, maybe you could show some interest in opening up about learning about their favorite team or something like that, so that you can enjoy going to watch the game with them. I think, because if they're excited, I feel like you should share their excitement with them. Yeah, I agree. So, yeah, I mean, I think so. If they like plants, you should probably learn to like them too.
Speaker 2:I think that if you have the majority of things in, common you know the things that like, where you can both find joy in that thing, like we both love to shop or we both love to, I don't know travel, or we both love basketball, yeah, I don't know, whatever it is like, or the arts, or you know, whatever it is that you have in common, that you do like.
Speaker 2:If there are a few things in that spectrum, I think it's good, but I think if you really don't have a lot in common and your likes are very different, I don't know. I feel like that would be a very lonely relationship. Yeah, it would be, because you'd do everything by yourself, yeah, or like with friends, you'd have to rely on your friendships, really not your partner so much. Yeah, that wouldn't be fun. That wouldn't be fun, okay, no, have you ever caught anyone cheating and how did you handle it? Yeah, I did Sneaky sneaky.
Speaker 1:I caught two people cheat a third potential, but she is lying. She lied to her grave.
Speaker 2:I mean she's not dead. She's not dead. Sorry, I was going to say I didn't know you had a death.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, no. But she lied, but none of it made sense. Nothing made sense. And I remember telling I don't remember which friend I told these things to and they were like no, it's not making sense.
Speaker 1:But one, my high school boyfriend, I caught his ass because we were in the hall and the girl was walking up the stairs and every guy had a crush on her, including you. I didn't know, I was gay yet. Oh, but there's going to be a plot twist. Oh, but there's going to be a plot twist. Oh, so then he says hi to her. But the way he said hi to her it was kind of like why are you saying hi to her like that?
Speaker 1:And then he was like what, and I'm like what, and I don't know how I found out, I don't remember he went to the movies with her and I was pissed. I was up on the cafeteria level and I had a Sprite bottle in my hand, but it was a plastic bottle Don't get excited, guys and I wanted to hit him in the head with it because he pissed me off, stupid. And then, yeah, I caught him like that. We didn't break up because I broke up with him in college but I caught him. But plot twist is this is years later. Years later, her and I she was one of the girls that I cheated on my person with Crazy right.
Speaker 2:That is crazy. That is crazy. I wonder what your taste tasting guys was back then. What? Okay, so if he had to look like a celebrity dude, what would it? Who? Who do you think he would look like?
Speaker 1:him, oh he, he, nobody. He's filipino. I don't know any celebrity that's filipino yeah I don't know anyone that's oh, I don't know any actors?
Speaker 2:I don't know any filipino actors either.
Speaker 1:Nope, no, I don't know anyone.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't know why. I thought he was going to be like I don't know, this tall buff guy or something.
Speaker 1:He was a little taller than me, not too, but then I, you know, dated different guys in college that were all basketball players, ah so you know I like the athletes because I was playing basketball all the time, so it was like all I was. I was obsessed with it, yeah, so anyone that was obsessed with it too, like I was interested. My plot twists are good.
Speaker 2:That was a good plot twist. I didn't see that one coming. Have you ever caught anyone cheat? Have I ever caught anyone cheating? Yeah, I've caught a lot of people cheating the one girl we have in common.
Speaker 1:she's the one I which one, the one that had the red car.
Speaker 2:The red car. Who had a red car?
Speaker 1:The red Jetta. Oh, oh, my God, she cheated on me on a church retreat. That's the one that I found the picture with. I believe that the picture oh Took the guy and it was a guy in this room. She was like oh, I'm not into guys. Like guys are gross, like blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Right, I see the picture Find out. This is when there was pager codes.
Speaker 1:Remember when you were a baby and then I put in the pager code and it was like I miss you from him. I was like what the hell find out. She took him to thanksgiving at her house. Of course she did right. So I was done. There was no coming like. I was like, girl, you did, they did me a favor. And then she drove to my house and put like a rose on my car. I was like, get this shit out of here. What is wrong with you?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think pretty much almost all of them, almost all of them cheated and I pretty much caught all of them. Oh, you got them. Okay, good, I'm really good at like you know what? That's one thing I do. I do think I have a really good intuition. Yeah, like really good gut feeling about things. And whenever I have a feeling about something, nine times out of 10, I'm right about it. And unfortunately, I'm like a dog with a bone and I have to find out. Yeah, like, I have to know if I'm right. Like is this something that I'm right about? Is this person? So I'd always find out. Yeah, one way or another, there was always a way that I would find out. But, yeah, I guess I'll briefly elaborate on the ones that probably were the worst, but the one with FF, I think I talked about that one.
Speaker 2:You talked about that one with the sidekicks Caught on the sidekick.
Speaker 1:The other one was Make sure you put a picture of the sidekick in there. Yeah, right.
Speaker 2:The other one was first girlfriend who wasn't even. She wasn't even trying to hide it. Oh, she wasn't, no, so that was pretty, that was just like what the hell. The other one was Jailbird. Jailbird was cheating on me in her acting class with some guy. I read about it in a journal that I found in my car and then I confronted her as she was taking a nap. Then there was who else was? Oh, then there was FF with the other girlfriend that I had. Oh, yes, frenchie, that ended up being a whole thing. And how did I find out about that? I think I've, like I don't know exactly how I found out, I don't remember, but I think I. I just had a feeling, yeah, and I asked, and she just told me.
Speaker 1:I don't, I don't really like. If only it were like that in most relationships, right Just straight up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, have honesty. Well, to an extent I guess. But yeah, I kind of knew all of them. I knew like I had a feeling and I knew and I just asked and they didn't tell me I would find out somehow, I don't know. But yeah, who's most likely to ghost? Someone between you and I? You.
Speaker 1:What? I've never ghosted someone, because you've always been interested.
Speaker 2:No, even if I'm not interested, oh really. But what do you mean by?
Speaker 1:Okay, so give me. They asked the question. I don't know what they mean by ghosting, like not talking to the person ever again. Yeah.
Speaker 2:That's what ghosting means, right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, you think me more than you.
Speaker 2:I think us equally, yeah, although I would hope that I would never have to ghost someone.
Speaker 1:Well, like I don't know if I've ever ghosted anyone, I probably would just block them. Is that ghosting?
Speaker 2:I have never ghosted anyone that I can think of. I've been ghosted when I was really young by someone when I didn't even know that that was a thing. It probably wasn't called ghosting back then it wasn't probably. It was some girl I met at Oz. I think her name was Nikki God. We were texting and then she just never replied. And then I was like okay, I guess that's a definition of ghosting right. Yeah, she just stopped replying.
Speaker 1:She just stopped replying, but now they call it ghosting.
Speaker 2:I think she probably got a girlfriend or something. She lived far away.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, anyone that went to Oz lived far away.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but other than that, I don't think I've ever ghosted anyone. I don't think I've ever been ghosted by anyone. I would hope I would never have to ghost someone, I mean unless they're being creepy.
Speaker 1:That's why I think you would ghost someone more than me, because if they were being weird, you just wouldn't want to deal with it. It's true. I don't have time for that bullshit, you just wouldn't respond, whereas I would be like what the eff are you? You know? I think it's because I'm more confrontational than you are. You just aren't. You just cut the shit, that's what you cut. You just cut the shit, that's what you cut. I don't want to do it, this shit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm kind of more just like straight to the. How do you say? It in English. When you say that it's all good, I know Like straight to the grain, straight to the point, straight to the point, yeah, like.
Speaker 1:Derecho de grano.
Speaker 2:Derecho al grano. What do you say?
Speaker 1:like I just don't want to talk to you. No more, we're done goodbye.
Speaker 2:That's ghosting. She just said she would go someone. No, I wouldn't go someone. I would tell them. I think ghosting is when you don't tell them you would be like I'm ghosting you that would be funny, just just so you know psa, ps, I'm PS, I'm ghosting you.
Speaker 1:I'm ghosting you.
Speaker 2:No, I mean, I would say I don't think this relationship is going to go anywhere. And what if?
Speaker 1:they came back and said please don't leave da-da-da-da-da, you would stop replying. Yeah, that's ghosting.
Speaker 2:Okay, but I didn't ghost you. I said I no longer want to speak to you and I no longer speak to you and I no longer speak to you. Okay, fine, Fair Right, Fair To me, that's not ghosting. Ghosting is like hey, and then there's no reply.
Speaker 1:I was waiting for your next thing, but I guess you just proved how a person ghosts, right yeah?
Speaker 2:Okay. Next question what scares you the most about getting older? Oh, man, dying. I don't think there's enough on this list, okay, well besides dying, not seeing my friends as often.
Speaker 1:That scares me Because I already don't feel like I see them a lot.
Speaker 2:So that's scary. That's your fear of getting older. Yeah, I love my friends. My fear is more like staying healthy enough to like not lose mobility or my mind, or but that's why you do things now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Not to. That's why I'm getting so like.
Speaker 2:But don't have fear behind it Obsessive about it, because after being in Chileile and seeing, like my grandmother, and being in that place like I'm a little traumatized yeah, but don't have fear behind it. Just keep doing what you're doing with good intent, and you'll be fine yeah, like I would like to be a good, healthy 90 something year old and still like be able to move on my own. Yeah, you can Live on my own or with my obviously partner, but I mean like not have help.
Speaker 1:Do all the things now with the right intent and you'll be Gucci.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's my biggest fear. And you know, aging gracefully, hopefully.
Speaker 1:Yeah, me too.
Speaker 2:But yeah, We'll do one more and we'll do another episode of questions, because there's quite a few. If you had to switch lives oh, if we had to switch lives with each other for a day what's the first thing you'd do?
Speaker 1:What's the first thing I'd do with your life Would I have the same skill set as you?
Speaker 2:I mean I would assume, so I don't know.
Speaker 1:No, okay.
Speaker 2:Just lives. Okay, I mean, I don't know if it's like necessarily you are me.
Speaker 1:Just our lives, just our responsibilities have changed. I'd sleep in Because I wouldn't have to get up for 6 am shift and I don't have to worry about a child and I don't have to worry about a wife. This is true, so I'd sleep in. Yes, the luxury of just sleeping in.
Speaker 2:I don't sleep in though.
Speaker 1:But I would have your life right. Yeah, but I don't sleep in though, but I would have your life right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I don't sleep in. I mean I don't get up at 6 am, okay, so you get up at what I get up at 7.
Speaker 1:Okay, so I'd sleep in till 7. Yeah, I'd have that luxury. I don't have that right now. I don't know what that is, even on the weekends, I don't know. I wake up. Fernando always says why are?
Speaker 2:you awake? What do you mean? I think the most I can sleep in is like 8 am no. Once that sun hits I'm awake, even though the day I got back from Chile I slept in quite a bit.
Speaker 1:Well, that's good you needed to yeah.
Speaker 2:But what would you do? What would I do with your life? What would you do? Do I get your body too?
Speaker 1:Why would you?
Speaker 2:No, you don't get my body, oh because I was going to say I would love to know what it feels like to have a butt. No, but if it's just your life, I'd probably have a day with Mellie as, like a parent, just to know what that feels like. Oh, you'd have fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I'd probably do that. She's fun, but getting her to leave the house would be how would you get her to leave the house?
Speaker 2:I'd be like I have a day planned for us and we're going to go have fun?
Speaker 1:And what if she said, no, I'm fine, I'm playing with my friends?
Speaker 2:I would say, too bad, oh okay, I'm your mother and you're going to listen to me. I'm going to use the mom card she's going to be like, because I said so yeah, she hates that. And then she's going to roll her eyes and then she's going to thank me when we get home later. She's going to be like that was a lot of fun. Okay, fair enough, that's good, that was good.
Speaker 1:That's what I would do.
Speaker 2:That's good, all right, guys. So we're going to wrap this episode up here and we'll catch you guys on the next one. Thank you so much for listening. Later booze, later booze. Thank you so much for listening to this episode of the let's say more podcast. If you can, please show your love and support by writing a review on apple podcast, rating us on spotify and, of course, spreading the word and sharing us with your community. We would greatly appreciate it. The podcast is produced by yours truly, solange aurelio and ava mozafari, and edited by myself as well, solange aurelio.
