Episode: 56 - 200 Orgasms a Year: Turning Pleasure Into a Legit Wellness Practice

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What if orgasms were one of the most powerful wellness tools you’re not using enough?

In this episode of Taboo Talk Not Safe for Brunch, we break down the science behind orgasms, stress relief, nervous system regulation, and why pleasure is not extra, it’s essential.

We’re talking hormone cocktails, pelvic floor health, immune support, myth-busting, and introducing our boldest idea yet: the 200 Orgasm Challenge for 2026.

Solo or partnered. Fun and factual. Zero shame.

Welcome to pleasure on purpose.

Transcript

Coralie: [00:00:00] What if the most powerful tool for lowering your stress, boosting your mood and resetting your nervous system is something your body already knows how to do, and you're probably not doing it enough. Today we're diving into why orgasms might be the most underrated wellness habit of your entire life.

Coralie: This is taboo talk. Not safe for brunch. I'm Coralie from Vancouver and I love digging deep and asking the questions. No one will. 

Amber: I'm Amber from Ontario. I'm blunt. Cut through the fluff and get straight to the point. And 

Vicki: I'm Vicki from Manitoba. I'm all about real connection because intimacy starts with prest.

Let's get into it.

Coralie: Orgasms are one of the most powerful physiological and psychological resets. The body experiences, they're not just pleasurable, they're therapeutic balancing, regulating, and of course, neurologically complex. So let's talk about signs on the [00:01:00] body. So this was so interesting.

There's actually over 30 different regions of your brain that activates during orgasm, including those responsible for emotion, memory reasoning, sensory perception, reward, and even pain modulation, which is why some people say, oh, I have a headache. I need to have an orgasm. Perfect.

Amber: I, I mean, that should never be the excuse. No, not tonight. I have a headache that, that like, I'm gonna help your headache, 

Coralie: Yeah, 

Vicki: Yes.

Coralie: exactly. And that's the last thing you wanna hear

Amber: Right?

Coralie: have

Vicki: When you're using that excuse as an excuse,

yes. 

Coralie: totally read the room. Okay. Read the room. But when we have an orgasm, our brain releases this

giant cocktail of chemicals. We have dopamine, which is for reward, motivation, and pleasure, serotonin, which is that mood regulation and calmness. [00:02:00] Oxytocin, which is bonding stress release, prolactin, which, is for relaxation and gives you that kind of pro orgasmic satisfaction. And also the endorphins, which are the natural pain killer. So it's so funny because we hear about these different chemicals all the time. You're watching social media be like, you need a dopamine detox, you need, to get your oxy oxygen, whatever. And it's so funny 'cause you have an orgasm and you got all of them.

Vicki: Yes.

Amber: sign me up.

Vicki: Talk about serving yourself. Love it.

Coralie: So as we approach an orgasm, our heart rate goes up, our blood pressure goes up, our breathing increases, and then afterwards it's like this big drop. So it kind of mimics the physical reset you get from like a deep meditation or maybe a really good sleep. And, we all need more of that.

Vicki: Yes,

Coralie: all do. 

Vicki: sleep.

Coralie: . What we really wanna remember is that pleasure is part of [00:03:00] self-care. It's not indulgence, it's not a luxury. It's not this like thing that is a reward. It is self-care. So think about your orgasms that way they're not extra. It's a part of your body's regulatory system and our culture, unfortunately, undervalues pleasure despite. All the health benefits to pleasure, to being happy in life.

Amber: So, yeah, the drug companies want you to take 

Coralie: I know, right. 

Vicki: Yeah. Meanwhile, we've got it all internally 

Coralie: Right. Exactly. And that's not to say you don't need your antidepressants or anti anxieties. 

Not saying that at all, but just saying we should always try and see like what we can do to help with it. Right. 

And you can do.

Vicki: Literally.

Coralie: So now that we've laid out why orgasms aren't just fun, but literally part of your body's wellness system, let's switch gears a bit and bring you the receipts, [00:04:00] the facts, the research, and the stuff you can use as justification. The next time someone's like, why do you need me time? Why do you need me?

Amber: So let's dive into some fun facts that are evidence-based. All right. The hormone cocktail is real. So I know Coralie mentioned that hormone cocktail. So during orgasm, the body releases a mix of dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins, and prolactin, the same chemicals tied to stress relief, bonding, pain reduction.

Deep relaxation, right? We all fall asleep when we're done. Most of us,

Coralie: Um, well we've had to talk about that

before, but yeah. Any who? Some of us

clean the.

Amber: Go clean the kitchen. Some of us have lots of energy. Orgasms help you sleep better. For some, some it'll boost your energy. And I think we've talked about that on other podcasts, right? Oxytocin and prolactin. Surge [00:05:00] after orgasm, which naturally shifts the brain towards calm and rest. One reason so many people pass out after sex, but I guess maybe if you are normally, like you're, you know, you're go, go, go, go, go, and you're common rest, you, you can maybe focus on cleaning the 

Coralie: And sometimes I wonder too if it's an A DHD thing, you know? Because caffeine doesn't wake me up.

So I sort of sometimes wonder if that's like a neuros, spicy

Amber: Mm-hmm.

Coralie: sort of.

Mm-hmm.

Amber: orgasms can reduce pain. Come on, sign me up. Like as I get older, I'm like, where did that ache come from?

Vicki: Yep.

Amber: Endorphins release during orgasm act as natural painkillers. So studies and medical experts note that they may reduce headaches, menstrual cramps, and general body pain. So if you are not having sex during your period, hop in the shower or throw a towel down on the bed.

And have a little [00:06:00] bit of fun to help reduce those cramps. If you've got really bad cramps,

Vicki: Coming from your, endometriosis girl. Yes. Right. I was in pain all the time, and that was the one natural remedy that worked. Yeah, yeah.

Coralie: isn't that

fucked up? 

Vicki: Yeah. It's unfortunately, yes, it's, it 

Coralie: I mean, it's cool, but it's also just sad because I feel like if men had endometriosis, there'd be better solutions.

Vicki: Yeah, it would have a lot of research attached to it.

Amber: Orgasms might support your immune health, so cold and flu season. Right now. Right. Some research shows that people with regular sexual activity, solo or partnered guys, you can have orgasms without somebody else. Just FYI,

have higher levels of immunoglobulin a, an antibody that helps defend against illness. So I'm just curious, [00:07:00] and I would love for somebody to test this out or multiple people have a ton of orgasms during cold and flu season, and tell me how you fared.

Vicki: And if you catch a cold, have an orgasm anyway, because it's going to help to sort of hopefully relieve some of that discomfort.

Coralie: Yeah.

Amber: Yeah,

Vicki: I mean, it just feels like a win-win.

Amber: I, I agree.

Dopamine and serotonin combination released during orgasm can help lift your mood so it gets that mood a little bit, you know, out of that anxiety, out of that stress, and improves emotional resilience

orgasms are good for your pelvic floor. An orgasm involves rhythmic involuntary contractions of the pelvic floor, so over time, that can help support pelvic health, especially for bladder control and sexual function. What? Sign me up some more, like there is no reason not to have an orgasm.

Vicki: No, no, and the health benefits alone when we think about [00:08:00] it. I don't wanna be in my seventies and not being able to participate in sexual activity. I want to set myself up for success, and if having orgasms today is gonna suit me tomorrow, then I'm, I'm all right with that. I'll make it happen.

Coralie: Yeah, and I think we don't put enough emphasis on taking care of our pelvic floor unless we're pregnant. Or until we start to have the little leaks, right? And

if you think about it, your pelvic floor literally holds up your entire freaking upper body, your brain,

your pelvic floor. If you didn't have a pelvic floor, you'd be bent over all the time, right?

So

Vicki: Yeah, absolutely.

Coralie: of your pelvic floor, get a perifit.

Vicki: Wow. We are really pushing that Perefit this.

Amber: There are also heart and circulation benefits to orgasms. Sexual activity is associated with increased circulation. Go figure, improved cardiovascular function and in some studies better [00:09:00] long-term heart health, like you're just staying outta the doctor's office if you have multiple orgasms.

Vicki: Yes.

Coralie: And I mean, I don't have the stats right in front of me, but if I remember right, heart disease is like the number one or one of the number one killers of women over 40 or 50 or something like that. So there's a fun solution.

Vicki: Yeah,

Coralie: gotta go take my medication.

Vicki: Mm-hmm. I.

Amber: takes.

Coralie: I was gonna say I would had a lot of medication in that time. I might even overdose.

Amber: A few myths that we wanna bust today. Orgasms are only about genital stimulation. Nope. Even with minimal reliable neuro mapping, research still confirms orgasms, involves widespread neurological activity and [00:10:00] full body response.

Vicki: Mm-hmm.

Amber: Myth number two, every orgasm should feel the same. Also false.

And if you've ever had, you know, different stimulation for orgasms, I mean, they, they can feel totally different. So they vary based on stress hormones, cycle emotional state stimulation type, and nervous system activity.

Coralie: When we've all had situations where we've had this really great orgasm. And you're like, wow. And then you try and recreate it. You try and line up the stars, you know, where was I at in my cycle? What did I do that day? Like whatever. And it is just impossible to

recreate, to get to that. I don't know if there's a magician out there that knows, if you do this, this, but I think that

Amber: Well, at that point you're just planning and overthinking 

Coralie: right. And um, yeah, they're just never gonna be

Vicki: I think that's, I think that's why women should have [00:11:00] three, right? And just create a mean average. Just wait, why stop at one, have three, and then create an average, and then have another three next time and create another average. It's fine. No big deal.

Coralie: Yeah,

Vicki: And it's not gonna take you half an hour.

Coralie: Mm-hmm.

Vicki: Uh, maybe

Amber: And our final myth only partnered sex gives health benefits. Oh, fuck no.

Vicki: I was out loud, right? Uh,

Amber: I mean, even in a, even in a long-term relationship, I'm like, no,

Coralie: Hmm.

Amber: that shit's happening in the afternoon when he's at work.

Vicki: That's right. Uh, yeah. The, the idea that only partnered sex means that we're putting that onus in somebody else's hands that they're taking care of our health and that is just so false and unfortunate. But we absolutely have the power to do and make ourselves [00:12:00] feel everything that we need to feel the partner's a bonus. And it's lovely, but it is a bonus.

Coralie: Also too, aren't there some, statistics out there that say something about women who are single, live longer or happier or something compared to married women? Like overall? So,

Because being in a marriage, and I, I think this is not so prevalent for, our generation or the younger ones, but society over the years, whatever. But how could you have only the health benefits if you're with a partner when the studies are showing that women are living longer if they're single,

so. Yeah. 

Vicki: Well, and I mean, I guess it always depends on how that study is skewed, right? So it depends on who they're interviewing, what that looks like. Being in that state, I can totally understand that. I can see people in relationships and I can think of my own relationships in the past that, that were stress inducing.

, I think there has to be a happy [00:13:00] medium and there has to be two people that really wanna. To create less stress together till then, I stay alone. 

Amber: All right. Now that we've covered the science and the fun facts and basically proven that your body wants this as much as you do, it's time to put it into practice.

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Vicki: Yes. I'm so excited that I get to talk about this section, which is the Orgasm Challenge. I am [00:15:00] stoked to participate and I hope you are too. So the challenge is to reach 200 orgasms in the year of 2026. How's that?

Amber: Okay.

Vicki: So that's about one orgasm every 1.8 days. All right. Now we just talked about, you know, three. So you can really front load this by having multiple orgasms. You can skip a, or you can just stick with the program and exceed all expectations. It can be solo or it can be partnered or a mix completely up to the participant.

Whatever makes you happy, and it is about pleasure. As wellness, not meeting a quota. So while I know that we are gonna have some numbers, people out there that are gonna be checking off the list, this is about how we feel being notable. Look at how you feel when you start having more orgasms.

The purpose is to introduce intentionality around your pleasure. We've talked a lot about that and [00:16:00] what the health benefits are, and we just wanna encourage people to check in with their body regularly. This will help you lower some stress, hopefully in a structured but flexible way. Right? We're making it kind of fun. This gives you an opportunity to explore some self-knowledge, be curious and really look at some emotional regulation around yourself, your body, your mental health, to challenge stigma around sexual wellness and self pleasure as well. So let's talk about some of the wellness angles. So what we wanna do is start creating a ritual around stress relief using orgasms as a tool for grounding and emotional reset. It's a really good idea, tracking your patterns, to understand your body better, like your sleep or your mood cycles, right? We track everything else, so we wanna be tracking this as a part of whole wellness, use whatever feels natural. We're gonna have a little not safe for brunch tracker for you. Now you can do whatever you want. You can use the Not Safe for Brunch tracker that we've created for you, or you can use [00:17:00] your notes app or a bullet journal sticker chart.

I don't know. I mean, I'm all about rewards, right? Hit me with that dopamine. Gimme that sticker.. Use some kind of an app or a voice note, something on your calendar, just something that marks, so that you have a little bit of a tracker. We want you to be cognizant of how many orgasms you're having, when you're having them, and what that's doing to your mood before, after.

Really be self-aware around this chart. Alright?

Coralie: Can I add in there too 

with the tracker? Because our bodies like, we're all different. Our own bodies are like a science experiment, right? So when we're tracking our stuff and we're paying attention, we're learning how our bodies react. But what I wanna say is, I understand that sometimes it's really hard to fricking track, right? So I'm gonna say, come up with a system for yourself where it's like one to five and one means this, and five means that. So you can put like orgasm. Three or whatever, and you have one for your mood and [00:18:00] one for the quality or whatever. So you can just do that. Like, I've had to do this with my own stuff, with my health issues around, you know, eating and pooping and I don't have time to do all this, so I just have codes, right?

Figure out your codes, write your

codes so that you can track it easier and it doesn't feel overwhelming. Like you don't have to write, a paragraph about your orgasm every time.

Amber: I, I would just go to the dollar store, get a sticker sheet of stars that are different colored. I.

Coralie: Yeah, that's a great idea.

Vicki: Yeah. Yeah. Again.

Coralie: Right?

Vicki: Ooh.

Coralie: There you go.

Vicki: When it's a five, I love that.

Coralie: And I

would also add in there, I know this is a little woo woo, but I've been starting to do this, is look at where the moon cycle is. Just saying, you might notice something just saying,

Vicki: Yeah, I think that we definitely fear feel some energy shifts and I think that it also affects our desire. Because we're gonna see, when we [00:19:00] start really paying attention to the orgasm tracker, we're gonna see exactly, where the lulls are. Where the highs are, we're gonna be able to sort of figure out what happened in between there. , I just think it's a really good way to be in it, , and , just be aware and I think that that will help us to recognize what works for us, what doesn't work for us, and then we can translate that if we have a partner so that their understanding of those triggers for you as well. And I use trigger in a positive way in that scenario. You can also customize some little,. Mini challenges for yourself. So maybe one month, it's your slow pleasure month. Maybe one month is a mindfulness month, maybe an exploration month. I always like to add in things like this month I'm only going to wear sexy lingerie to bed. Even by myself. Just put something different on your body and see how that makes your brain feel. What happens in those scenarios. So I think that's really smart. Themes like quality over speed, new techniques, stress relief, focus. There's [00:20:00] all kinds of different angles that you can take. Try different times of day, different environments, routines, partners.

I'm just kidding. Okay. That one was for me. Or toys. Yeah, exactly. Add some relaxation practices before or after a bath. Stretching, exercising, relaxing, having a tea, just figure it out. Track it and see what happens. And you know, some of your expectations, you might feel some weeks that you might exceed the pace. We talked about, for women when they have their period quite often, or when they're ovulating, they're, they may feel that need more. Some weeks you might hit a zero. It might not, you might not even hit that chart even one time. Both are normal. The challenges about consistency, not perfection.

Coralie: Mm-hmm.

Don't ever make the goal like I have to, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. No. My goal is to be consistent.

Vicki: Yeah. So what do you guys think it would be the biggest benefit to someone, who's [00:21:00] dedicating a year to intentional pleasure?

Coralie: Well, I think? that if someone takes half an hour, they're gonna take two minutes by the end of the year, and everyone's gonna be happier for that because when you can come like a guy, life gets easier,

bing, bang, boom, I'm out.

Amber: I think you just go back to the beginning of this episode and you all the benefits, that's what's gonna happen.

Vicki: Yeah, I have to agree. I think too, that it's also gonna put a lot of people in a place of really understanding their own bodies and what makes them feel good. And again, I think that that will translate to partnerships if they have one. And I think you're right. I think there'll be all around pleasure for everyone.

Mm-hmm. 

Amber: be a lot more happy people on the streets.

Vicki: I hope so. Let's just do it. Not safe for brunch, orgasm. Challenge everybody in send it to your friends.

Right.

Coralie: need like a, Um, a secret hand signal or something from row.

Vicki: Maybe we're out. Yeah. Don't, don't ask me in public, but you'll know there will be [00:22:00] signs.

So do you guys think that 200 in a year is too many, too little? What are your thoughts? Do you think they can do it? I mean, I'm gonna,

Amber: I mean,

for a woman who can have multiple orgasms in one session, I don't think it's too much.

Coralie: Right.

Vicki: I'd have to agree.

Coralie: A great year to train your body to have multiples.

Amber: There you go.

Vicki: There you go. It is about learning and training. And what would somebody learn about themselves in 12 months of tracking pleasure. I mean, I think they're just gonna learn what they like, what they don't like, and I hope that it just pulls out that big C communication.

Coralie: Yeah.

Amber: Yeah, agreed.

Coralie: hope that, um, it also too makes them more open to talking about it with other people. And I'm not saying to talk to people about your orgasms and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, but just to make sexual wellness like a normal part of any conversation where it doesn't make people cringe, you know?

Vicki: Yeah. Just a focus. Come on. Right. Yeah. I [00:23:00] have to agree with that. I think we need to be talking about it. More, or at the very minimum, finding a safe person, whether that's a partner or a best friend, somebody that you can kind of be in forward movement with. We have to talk about these 

Coralie: Yeah. and if you like, you can even too, get a, get a friend, pick a partner that's your orgasm buddy for the year.

Vicki: Do you have to be the same one all year? 

Coralie: No. 

Vicki: I'm just teasing you.

Coralie: You know what? For different folks.

Vicki: But that's right, man. You did not know what you signed up for when I got single, huh? Oh my gosh. All right. So that's the challenge. That's the intention and the mindset shift behind it. And before we wrap up, we wanna leave you with a few final thoughts as we head into a year of pleasure on purpose.

Coralie: So as we head into 2026, we want this challenge to be a reminder that your pleasure, your [00:24:00] wellness, and your self connection matters. You deserve an intentional space.

Amber: This isn't about hitting a number. This is about tuning into your body, lowering your stress, exploring what feels good, and making pleasure part of your regular wellness routine.

Vicki: So whether you reach 200. 20, or you surprise yourself with something totally different. We hope this challenge helps you feel more grounded, more joyful, and more in touch with you.

Coralie: And we'll be with you the whole year during this challenge. We are your orgasm buddies. We will share any new research. We come across updates. If you guys have stories or insights you wanna share, we're gonna be here for that all year long and. Probably a little chaos as well.

Amber: If you wanna join us, track your journey, ask questions, or send us anonymous updates. You know where to find us.

Vicki: So here's to a year of pleasure on purpose, a year of connection a [00:25:00] year. That's definitely going to make brunch conversations a lot more interesting.

Coralie: See

Vicki: See you next Tuesday.

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Coralie: Until next time, keep it bold, keep it curious, and definitely keep it not safe for brunch.