The World Needs You's Podcast
The World Needs You Podcast is your go-to resource for mindset transformation, self-discovery, and inner growth. Hosted by Shelsea and Chris Novosel, this podcast dives into candid conversations on personal development, exploring how to unlock your full potential and live with purpose.
The World Needs You's Podcast
Hurricane Helene, Security, Balancing Masculine + Feminine Energy
Curious about how natural disasters can impact emotional well-being? Join us as we explore the balance between mindfulness and practicality, drawing from personal experiences with recent hurricanes in the Carolinas. Shelsea shares her connection to Asheville and the unique challenges faced by mountain regions, while Chris emphasizes the importance of being prepared with survival essentials. Our conversation highlights the delicate dance between maintaining peace of mind and being ready for unforeseen events, offering insights on how to navigate both with grace and resilience.
What happens when energies clash? Discover the dynamics of healthy and wounded expressions of masculinity and femininity, and learn how these can influence relationships. Through candid discussions, we explore how presence and awareness can help couples support each other amidst energy imbalances. From the toxic passivity in men to the people-pleasing tendencies in women, we provide practical advice on recognizing and adapting to these shifts, ensuring that support is present even when it's not equally distributed.
Join us as we encourage others to step into their power and continue fostering a life of harmony and self-discovery.
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Welcome to the World Needs you podcast, where we dive into the journey of mindset, self-discovery and inner growth.
Speaker 2:We're your hosts, Chris and Chelsea Novosel, and we're here to have real, candid conversations about what it means to live with purpose and unlock your full potential.
Speaker 1:Each week, we'll explore the tools and strategies that can help you cultivate a strong mindset, embrace who you truly are and make a meaningful impact in the world.
Speaker 2:Whether we're sharing our own experiences or learning from our incredible guests, we're here to remind you that the world needs what only you can offer.
Speaker 1:So get ready to dive deep, grow and step into your power, because the world needs you. Power because the world needs you. Hello, and welcome to our second episode of the World Needs you podcast. Good morning, I need to introduce you, introducing my husband, christopher Novosel, the hardest worker I know, the most fire in his astrology chart of any human on the planet. He's currently drinking out of a bullet coffee mug.
Speaker 2:It's actually a grenade, oh, whatever. And did you say fire? Yes, I won't do it on here.
Speaker 1:So we're going to start this podcast off just sharing a little bit about what's on our hearts and on our minds, and then we will go into the masculine and feminine energy today.
Speaker 2:And you are, chelsea Novosel, my amazing wife. This would make sure don't put all the attention on me and try to shy away from it, like you do sometimes. Just an amazing in person. That I was going to say influencer?
Speaker 2:I really don't call me that yeah, I know sorry, but you're a great influence on me and and just in general, but you're somebody that has just been a beautiful asset to my life and and a lot of others. I think you got a lot to offer yoga teacher entrepreneur. You've got a lot to offer Yoga teacher entrepreneur. You've got a cacao business that you created, which sounds simple, but it is something that is pretty cool to watch you do, as well as social media marketing. You help a lot of people with that and just really getting their name and brand out there. But outside of all that, you're an amazing wife and mother to our three girls. We don't want to get all mushy on this podcast.
Speaker 1:We'll leave that for later. But yeah, let's just start off talking about what is on our mind and heart today.
Speaker 2:Well.
Speaker 1:What's on your mind and heart today?
Speaker 2:I got back to my routine this morning quickly before we did this podcast because, in order for us to this, we got to wake up at 3, 4 am, so it's bright and early before the kids wake up and everything.
Speaker 2:Everybody gets going. But I was able to get in a little five minute meditation and with some uh cacao and some breath work and I just when I do that, just really feel it's hard to explain. You got to do it to understand it. But you know, when you wake up and you're just like dragging in and you're like, oh, I need coffee, and then all of a sudden, once you get the coffee, you just automatically feel, okay, now we're level, now I'm back up to where I want to be. It's like the breath work just kind of naturally brings you to.
Speaker 1:Takes you there faster. Yeah, it's a nice place In a more natural way.
Speaker 2:So I'm feeling great with that and also kind of heavy-hearted, I think, with all this stuff going on, with the hurricane in the Carolinas especially. You know, I know Florida got hit bad and then you got Western North Carolina. I know a lot of people out there and it's just sad to see that happening. I mean we've gotten hit with stuff here, but just to see an area like that flooding and families and people stuck, I mean just hearts and prayers go out to them.
Speaker 1:Well, what's crazy is that you don't expect like I don't know. What's so wild to me is Asheville, first of all, is a place that we love so much, a place that we have considered like if we were to move anywhere else in the country, it would be Asheville. We love that area, we've been going there for a while. It's a place where we go to escape the beach, head to the mountains, go into nature, and you would never expect I'm in the mountains, a hurricane's coming. You would never be like, oh, we should evacuate, maybe we should leave. I wouldn't.
Speaker 1:I'd be like, oh, whatever, I've lived through hurricanes at the beach, this is nothing and then all of a sudden you wake up and people are literally like stranded in their house with no water. Most people didn't prepare because they were not expecting to have literal like entire towns are gone. If you look at, you know chimney, rock and places up that way they're like just wiped out, wiped out, completely gone Instills almost like a panic in me and I don't want to be in a state of fear. However, it definitely puts me in a state of fear and, oh my God, what if something like that were to happen here in South Carolina? Are we prepared? Do we have enough food for being stuck? I mean, these people might be stuck for a month or more in their homes with no food and no water. Do we have enough food and water in our house for a month?
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Yes, coming from my survival husband who watched Leave the World Behind and ordered on his stuff. So what do we currently have? Because I don't even know.
Speaker 2:Well, we have, we've got one big thing of MREs, we've got.
Speaker 1:What's an MRE?
Speaker 2:It's almost like space food, but it's like in packets and you add water to it.
Speaker 2:So basically, if you're like absolutely desperate, so you, well, that's yeah, so you got that. That takes you which I do got to double check that. I think it takes us like close to a month, but I probably need more because we got an army of people in our family. But I probably need more because we got an army of people in our family. But yeah, we have that. You got our food that we've got in the pantry already. We've got some of this stuff obviously is perishable. Then there's my bow and arrow if I need to go out there and get us some food and you know those are things I think too that and if it's even possible when you're in those situations, but you know you could be stuck in strand where you can't get outside of your house. But you know we've got some, some uh floatable devices and things like that too, that that we can uh utilize and and try to get out of the situation. But it's something you know.
Speaker 2:I know we're going into the masculine and feminine, but I think most men can relate to the fact of just I mean, I joke sometimes like every day I'm pretty sure like my family's died like a thousand times in my mind.
Speaker 2:You know, like we just always think about worst case scenarios or what could happen and stuff like that, and I didn't used to be like that. Once we've had our family and just as I've gotten even older and seen some of the things that can happen in this world, you try to be prepared, and no matter how much you try to prepare, you're still not, you know, in the best place you probably could be. But I think, just thinking about these things ahead of time and trying to get to a place where you at least feel good about it, you know you got to do the best you can do, and some of it's out of your control you got to put back in the god's hands too. I feel like we're in a good spot. Continue to to build on on what we have Just ordered. More stuff too, with this whole deal. We need some life vests and some things like in the car in case y'all were stranded, or something like that.
Speaker 1:I saw videos in Asheville of people. It was this video of this woman standing on the roof of her car, pulling children out of the sunroof and passing them to her husband, which then gets me thinking about functional fitness and how I need to get my ass doing some pull-ups and things Cause like can I lift myself up over like trees with kids in tow? If I need to as of right now, maybe I could maybe like get that like mama bear strength. But I think training your body and being really super like ready for anything is so important For sure and I was telling my yoga classes yesterday to how I think like the two most important things are spiritual connections. So having some sort of spiritual connection, whether it's yoga or Jesus or whatever it is that connects you to a higher power, is so important, because that's what's going to keep you in that state of calm and connection. If stuff does go down, it's going to keep you sane.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. It's very powerful to have that connection to the higher power, you know yeah.
Speaker 1:Survival skills, survival stuff, our supplies, functional fitness. You're going to start training me, hon? Yeah, Do you want to pull up?
Speaker 2:Well, it's funny. I was going to say I'm like I really focus on my own, but I don't necessarily think about you and yours too much of like. Hey, you know, I just sometimes I think, okay, I'll just carry my family on my back, you know Well now you got three little girls, I know Exactly.
Speaker 2:So it's just I can't do it all sometimes and sometimes I'm not there. So, yeah, something really good for you to get to that point, because that's a lot of the things that I've added into my life to be functionally fit. Life to be functionally fit, you know, because if you think about survival and say you were in a position of needing to defend yourself and you've got your weapons and things like that, but you got you know, think of people in the military.
Speaker 2:They got to be very fit. All the training that they go through in the military is ridiculous and people think, oh, I just got a thousand guns at home and I'm going to survive. Like no, it's not about that. It's about being able to move your body, being able to be connected with your mind so you can be aware of your surroundings and you know, and, at the end of the day, all that's you know.
Speaker 2:That gets a little bit crazy when you start thinking about all that you know food, water, shelter, being able to start a fire, like a lot of those things are really the most important. And then, yeah, being able to be functionally fit. Burpees are great for that. Pull-ups, like you said, push-ups Cardio, which I hate, so that's my Start running. Jiu-jitsu is something I've picked up and that really just challenges my cardio, my functional fitness, to levels that I never thought about before.
Speaker 1:So yeah, so let's go into the masculine energy. You have actually led workshops on this. What's the problem right now in the world with masculine and feminine energy? What's happening?
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, that's going to be hard to to, uh, I guess, point out, cause it's probably different for everybody. I would say I think the general problem is is we've we've lost connection to presence. Some of us don't even what energies we're in masculine, feminine, you know, negative, positive. We're just trying to survive and keep up with all the things going on because there's just so many things that are occupying our, our time and our minds.
Speaker 1:So running on autopilot.
Speaker 2:Exactly. Yes, I think presence is probably just removing masculine and feminine energy talk. It's just presence is our biggest issue, I think, as humans right now, because, like we were just talking about, you've got tons of fear right now. You can find fear right now quicker than anything. There's a lot of distraction, hard to find the truth too. We're trying to seek truth and we can't find it because there's just information everywhere. Presence, I think, is the biggest thing. And then taking ownership. A lot of times, you know, men and women both think we're just not taking ownership of where we're at.
Speaker 1:What is masculine energy? How can you define it? And this is something I think it's important to point out that everyone has both masculine and feminine energies within them. So it's, you know, we all have a little bit of masculine, a little bit of feminine. It doesn't just go by gender, for sure?
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, you got male and female and then you each embody different levels of masculine and feminine energy. Slowing down, having that presence and looking into what that means for you is the important thing. Don't let anyone else define what your energies are. Kind of get in tune with that Yourself. You know it was cool. I did an exercise with Kalina, our oldest, one time where I read all the masculine and feminine energies and a lot of the feminine energies she related to. She's like oh, that's me, that's me. And then masculine, and there were still a couple, and then I explained to her what they were, and then we also did the same exercise for myself. It was really cool to go through that process with a kid, for them to understand that. But the simplest way to describe it and the way that makes sense for me, the feminine is like the ocean and the masculine is like the sail.
Speaker 1:The sail on a boat.
Speaker 2:Yeah, sail on a boat that's providing the direction. Think of a hurricane. What emotions feel like a hurricane? You know what emotions feel like a hurricane to you. You know that if you learn to direct your energy in a certain way, you can avoid the chaos of that hurricane.
Speaker 1:Masculine is the direction and structure.
Speaker 2:And feminine is the flow of the ocean.
Speaker 1:When someone is embodying healthy masculinity. What does that look like?
Speaker 2:It's slow, confident, thought out, presence, grounded, groundedness.
Speaker 1:And then, what about healthy femininity?
Speaker 2:Just being in your natural flow, just think of like every little ripple in the ocean, if you can actually sit and enjoy that and be a part of that flow, calm flow, in your life.
Speaker 1:To me it's like playful nurturing being able to be present and in your body.
Speaker 2:For sure.
Speaker 1:So, going into the wounded masculine, the wounded masculine is to me it's like that ultra-aggressive bro that's afraid of his emotion.
Speaker 3:Ronnie from.
Speaker 1:Jersey Shore. There you go, yes, yes, yes, ronnie, yes, holy crap, that's so funny sorry, he's a cool dude. I'm sure he's gotten things together, but his character yeah his character and then the wounded feminine is like I'm a victim. What was me manipulative? Using that like victim mentality for manipulation?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:How do you balance that out?
Speaker 2:You know, I think, going back to the basics and find presence, and once you can find presence, then you can find your peace and going towards a solution. You know, and I think that's always what I do, when I find myself going down a road that I don't want to be at, or when I'm maybe more aggressive or more agitated, then that's where I need to go back and be present with whatever is causing that. What about this makes me agitated? What's the root of that for myself and how can I reset myself and start showing up in a way where I can direct the situation in a more positive outcome for me and whoever's involved?
Speaker 1:And then the feminine too. We've seen it before in different couples that we've surrounded ourselves in our life, where the woman gets stuck in the masculine energy where the woman gets stuck in the masculine energy.
Speaker 1:This to me is huge and I see it a lot where the woman wants to control she and I mean I've been there too, where I've been stuck in that. So it's like it's so important to recognize as a woman, when you start to slip into a wounded masculine energy so the wounded masculine would be only I can do it right Then what naturally happens is the man has no other choice but to then slip into wounded feminine, which then they're like this victim I can never do anything right. And then there's this manipulation dance.
Speaker 2:You know, the more I've become mindful and present about it. Yeah, I just notice it so much in others watching others, but there's just so much opportunity in myself that I'm always trying to look at Like right now I feel like I'm at a great spot of balance, and you and I, where we're really at a point of interconnectedness and but then tomorrow something could happen and all of a sudden it feels like, you know, we're very distant because of whatever reason our energies are yeah, because it's energy that has to be matched up, so it's like the polarities of when one is in the flow, the other one has to hold the flow.
Speaker 1:You can't both if you're both in the flow. Like what would that look like? And that this could go for any gender too. A couple that's just like super in there, both in their feminine they're both like really flowy and there's no structure there.
Speaker 2:I don't know when, and the hard thing too is just when you talk about it. It's not as broad as like, oh, I'm in the feminine today and you're in the masculine today. It's, I mean every little, every the next situation of the day, everything that you do. There's going to be parts where you're you're switching back. That's where the presence is very important, because it's just when you become present with that, then you can notice where you're at and then where your partner is or people that you're around. And when you can understand that, then you can be like. This is how I need to show up so that I can best navigate through this situation and best support the person there too. Say, I come home from a long day of work, I'm in that work mode and I come home and it's just chaos Hands are going, baby's crying Every night.
Speaker 2:Yeah right Just sounds like a dang zoo in here. You know, and you're just at your point of frustration and in my healthy masculine, what I can do is I've done this a couple of times. I learned this from the David Dita book, the Way of the Superior man, which is a great book. But I've consciously tested this with you before. Where those situations were happening, I come over to you, look you in the eye, become present, give you a hug, get heart to heart with you, come present, give you a hug, get heart to heart with you. So once I connect heart to heart with you, I'm able to use my masculine awareness in that situation to then help direct and bring calm to your hurricane at the moment. And as soon as you connect heart to heart in that situation, all of a sudden you soften and you realize we're okay.
Speaker 3:And.
Speaker 2:I've done it a couple of times and I've literally seen your energy soften right there. And that's the thing I try to keep in mind in all situations, because the more I can do that and be aware of that now that's the hard part is being aware when you're tied up with a lot of different things, you're not always going to realize, oh, let's slow down and soften my partner.
Speaker 1:You know your mind's in. I'm pissed about this, yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to survive.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I saw something before where, as a couple, you think that energy should sort of be like everything should be 50-50. But really in reality some days it's like 90-10. And you got to check in with each other with stuff like that. That's a good example too of like when you come home, sometimes I have nothing left in me and sometimes I'm good and got the energy and we're fine, but I think, yeah, everything goes back to awareness.
Speaker 1:really, everything goes back to awareness because when we're aware um of these energies within us, then we can shift, we can help support our partner.
Speaker 2:When you say the 50-50 stuff, it doesn't go. Just like in your home it also goes. It really comes back to the energy. Are you all in a level place? And because the same situation can be more of a problem one day than it, depending, you know, versus when you're more level, it's not going to be an issue, no matter what. There's never 50-50 when it comes to sharing a home with somebody. But I'm saying if somebody feels like they're doing more, if your masculine and feminine is connected, it's not going to matter.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 2:You're not measuring that. The only time you're measuring the amount of you're doing something versus someone else is because your energies are not connected. You're not level with your partner. So I think when that starts to come in, that's always a good point to slow down and be like okay, how can I reconnect with myself, how can I reconnect with my partner?
Speaker 1:What would you say? You have a couple, the woman's in her masculine. He, you know, is resentful. He's then kind of shut off, shut down. They see that a lot too, where the man shuts down because the woman is in her masculine and just like controlling everything that he does. And how would they get out of that? What would you say to the guy Like, how does the guy then take back that masculine energy? Someone who, let's just say, like the man is passive, he, he's getting walked on.
Speaker 2:Passiveness is toxic. I hate that word. Wounded it's wounded, yes, it's wounded. Feminine, yes, passiveness. You got to go back to your direction. You got to go into the healthy, masculine, but how Well, I think you got to tap into both. You got to become more vulnerable, because that's the problem too, and that situation you described is, you're not vulnerable, you're stuffing down what's really going on, and then everything's wounded, but you're, you're falling into a negative place, to where you're not truly able to express how you feel, and so then you can't go in healthy directions.
Speaker 1:It requires some openness and vulnerability with yourself and with your partner, and that's putting it out there on the table exactly hey, this is what's happening so like it requires somebody to slow down and be vulnerable and it's probably the one that's already in the feminine energy, the man that's in that wounded feminine passivity and just very to me it just feels so like low energy and like he's checked out those those types of guys.
Speaker 2:And that's a place you don't want to be. So you got to speak up. Part of being in the healthy masculine is taking that situation and moving it into a positive direction. Hey, can we take five minutes to just sit down and talk about where we're at? And so it would take, you know, to speak. Say it's a man and a woman and the man he recognizes, he has a presence. I'm bottling up my emotions, I'm starting to build resentment. I don't like this. So now I need to do something about this so that we don't continue to go in a negative direction. And that's the presence, that's the awareness. So at that point you then have to communicate with your partner and say, hey, can we sit down, can we have a conversation about this? I feel like we're not connected. I feel like we're. We're kind of.
Speaker 1:We need to, to rebalance and hopefully she'll be able to receive it. But if she's so in her masculine, she might not even be able to receive it, because that's the energy of the feminine the feminine is being able to receive, yeah but if she's in her masculine in the moment.
Speaker 2:So if there's a situation right now where you're in your masculine and I'm in my feminine and I say, hey, can we have a conversation on tomorrow morning? I want to talk about where we're at in our relationship, just some things that have been on my mind I've taken back. In that situation, I'm I'm directing it. So then, now that allows you to soften, it doesn't matter if you're in your masculine. Initially, me taking that initiative is me operating as the sale and allowing you to go from a hurricane or whatever. It's just what I keep going to to, to soften up. And then tomorrow, when we sit and talk, we're coming at a stable place and I'm saying, hey, here's what I want to talk about. A, b, c, B, c, d. That's the direction. So I'm in the masculine and I'm allowing you to listen, which is allowing you to be in your feminine in that moment, in that conversation, and so that's what would allow us to reset Basically.
Speaker 1:men out there need to step it up and get in there.
Speaker 2:But being a little and speak up, speak up.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because that's the thing. I think that's what gets everyone stuck. The one, whoever it is let's just say it's two women that are married and one needs to be in the masculine. Somebody has got to take the direction in a healthy way, though. I think that's the biggest thing.
Speaker 2:I feel like you're very in tune with your feminine. What do you feel like you're? What does masculinity mean to you?
Speaker 1:To me, it means to be held, to be protected, to be supported. To me, it's like the bones of a building, the structure of a building, and if you don't have that, it feels very unsafe.
Speaker 2:So you're saying like receiving masculinity. Is that what you mean?
Speaker 1:Yes, as receiving it, as a feminine energy, receiving it. I need the safety and the structure, even within myself.
Speaker 1:I've been in different women's groups where it's like masculinity is toxic and this and that, and I'm like now y'all like we need masculine energy within us too, because otherwise it's so flowy that nothing ever gets done. So for me I need structure, routine, a plan, I need integrity in everything that I do. So, like business stuff, I have learned over the years that I can't do business with people that don't have some of that structure and integrity. Those are two huge things for me to be able to then feel safe in my creative flow. And then the feminine energy to me is like I, to then feel safe in my creative flow, and then the feminine energy to me is, like I said before, it's playful, creative, intuitive openness. So without that structure I don't feel safe to go into my creative flow. And I do this with my personal life and with business and in my relationships, and you do a pretty good job at making me feel safe.
Speaker 2:When you're in your masculine, what's just one or two things that come to mind with your business. When Chelsea is in her healthy masculine, what does that look like for you?
Speaker 1:It looks like I have a workout routine that's regular, have a workout routine that's regular and I have a structure of some sort where you know, like my checklist is getting done, like things are just getting done naturally just organization.
Speaker 2:What would your wounded masculine look like?
Speaker 1:My wounded masculine feel like I'm like aggressive and frustrated.
Speaker 2:I'm looking at the notes of that here, so it's interesting. You don't have them in front of you, but that's yeah. That's a couple of them Aggressive, cold and distant.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Healthy feminine.
Speaker 1:Healthy feminine, like you know, it's. It's when I'm playful I play with the kids. We dance around the kitchen. We I'm playful, I play with the kids, we dance around the kitchen. We're flowy. We're outside in our bare feet running around. It's when I'm teaching a yoga class and I'm channeling energy. It's when I'm painting, and you can even probably hear it in my voice. It's very happy and light.
Speaker 2:Yes, you know something too looking at here that really speaks to you, that I've seen is strong and has boundaries and that feels like a masculine statement but really speaks to you. That I've seen is strong and has boundaries and that feels like a masculine statement. But really that's the thing I think we got to realize here is don't attach. When you hear masculine like, don't attach negativity to it, Be open to understanding what that could mean in a positive and negative light. Same with feminine. Strong and has boundaries is also for you. I've seen you do it a lot of ways and very awesome to watch you get into that, because there's been times in your life where you haven't been that way. But the more you're strong with your boundaries with yourself and with others, I mean you just become more.
Speaker 1:If I think about how I am in an unhealthy feminine, it's when I don't have boundaries and I'm a yes, that's what I was going to ask you.
Speaker 2:So what's your wounded feminine yeah?
Speaker 1:wounded. Feminine is when I slip into that, people pleasing like, yes, I'll do it, yes, I can, I can take care of that, I can do that. Sure, I can nurture you.
Speaker 2:Sacrificing herself.
Speaker 1:Sacrificing myself? Yeah, that's huge. What about you? I'm curious, when you're in your healthy masculine, what does that feel like?
Speaker 2:I feel grounded, I feel focused, I feel calm and a stoic is what comes to mind. Um, you know, and I feel at peace with that. When I'm in, in many moments, like this morning, I wake up and the house is in line, which leaving this house to go and provide is important. We're in a good place with the space that I'm in and I also was able to wake up, drink some cacao, do some meditation and that just all that really allows me to be present, be focused, and that just feels good.
Speaker 1:What about your wounded masculine?
Speaker 2:Aggressive, not really thinking about things clearly, being selfish, being distant.
Speaker 1:What brings you into that state?
Speaker 2:I think, defensiveness I can get very defensive in certain situations. So I think when I can stay ahead of myself, like I just said, I'm in my healthy masculine, I'm in control of becoming defensive, defensive. But when I become not present, the defensiveness really comes in and then as soon as I get defensive, I start falling into those wounded masculine traits what does healthy feminine look like for Chris Novosel? Well, it looks like me being able to relax, put my feet up and play Madden on Nintendo 64.
Speaker 1:Well, I think of like you being playful with the girls. Yes, that too you play with them Like you are like a big kid.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:And you're very connected to your emotions. You are so nurturing with the girls. That is some healthy feminine energy within a big, strong, masculine man yeah being able to put the girl's hair up while you're on your way to jiu-jitsu or you know, connect with them emotionally when they need that emotional support and when I can be in these healthy energies.
Speaker 2:one thing I think I've realized too is like I've always looked at myself as not being a creative person. But the more I've become stable in my energies, intuition and creativity comes out, which is a healthy feminine as well. I'm not creative, but don't just judge yourself and say you're not creative.
Speaker 1:It could be Everyone's creative.
Speaker 2:And it's in your own way to be able to see the light in whatever your creativity is. But if you're not present, you're not going to recognize any of it what about wounded feminine?
Speaker 1:do you find yourself ever going into that state?
Speaker 2:yeah, stuck, I would say stuck in victimhood. I was there for a long time, throughout most of my life and just like this is why I'm. I'm here because of this situation, but nobody would know because I would mask it in the outside. So I'd be internally stuck in victim mindset, which was generally holding me back from a lot of things that I wanted to explore in life. That's definitely a wounded feminine for me, you know. Look at external validation. Another one A lot of my life I allowed how others see me to be what made me feel good about myself. I call it to be I'm not going to curse, but un-eff-with-able.
Speaker 2:That's what I look at, to get myself to a point where no one can mess with me because I'm in control of the state of my being, the state of what I think about myself. So that's a point where I'm at today. But yeah, for a while I think the victimhood looking for that external validation is definitely my wounding feminine.
Speaker 1:It's so interesting when you lay it all out there. It's like whew, I think at the end of the day it's like just checking in and making sure you're aware when you do slip into that wounded side, as we all do it. We're not perfect, Nobody's perfect. We're all going to go in and out of these different states, but to just try to stay in that healthy state is so important.
Speaker 2:I would just say a healthy exercise if you're not used to thinking about this stuff or getting into it is to challenge yourself. Anytime you learn something new. I think for one. When you're going to listen to anything or read anything, always try to take at least one thing out of it. So if you get anything out of this listening to us talk about this today I would say to challenge yourself. Maybe you write down in the morning how you want to feel, what feels like a great day for you, and maybe at the end of the day you can write down hey, where did healthy masculine traits come up? Where did wounded masculine traits come up Healthy feminine, wounded feminine? And it actually would be a cool exercise for anyone trying to get into this state of thinking about these things, because it's only going to serve you and it's going to serve the people around you a lot better.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. Write it down, write it out Always helps. Thanks for sitting down with me. I think we got a little munchkin waking up.
Speaker 2:And she did so great. She just came and said hello, didn't make a ton of noise. Got a cool kids. We might, we might let her hop on here at the end We'll see.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she loves end of each episode, aya knowledge for you. Thank you all so much for tuning in and we will see you next week.
Speaker 2:Peace.
Speaker 1:All right, Good morning Munchkin. Um ask me some questions. Okay, what is masculine energy?
Speaker 3:I do know what energy means.
Speaker 1:What is energy?
Speaker 3:It's like when you are outside and you run like, like you have some freedom outside some freedom outside, no.
Speaker 1:What would you say to somebody that's like afraid to speak up?
Speaker 3:if one of you guys are out there like scared to like talk back, then I think you should say stop being mean to me, please. You're not being nice, like just say it. Just say it if you're not. Well, if I was there I would just whisper it to you and you can tell it to me that's a good idea. Sometimes I'm scared to stand up for myself, but when I was four I was scared to stand up for myself, but now I'm old enough to stand up for myself. Mom, are you sending this to?
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