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The World Needs You Podcast is your go-to resource for mindset transformation, self-discovery, and inner growth. Hosted by Shelsea and Chris Novosel, this podcast dives into candid conversations on personal development, exploring how to unlock your full potential and live with purpose.
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Dream It, Do It: The Power of Manifestation and Goal Setting
In this episode, we dove deep into the art of manifestation and how to set powerful goals to create the future you desire. ✨ We explored the connection between envisioning your dream life and taking actionable steps to make it a reality.
Shelsea surprised Chris with a special moment: the 10-year vision they wrote together 11 years ago, right before they got married! They reflect on how much of that vision came true, what they learned, and how their dreams evolved over time.
We also shared one of our favorite practices: writing down a paragraph about what we’d love to see in our lives. This simple but powerful exercise can shift your mindset, clarify your goals, and bring your vision into focus.
If you’ve been thinking about goal setting, manifestation, or starting something new in your life, this episode is packed with inspiration and practical tips to help you take that next step.
Tune in to start creating your vision!
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Speaker 2:We're your hosts, Chris and Chelsea Novosel, and we're here to have real, candid conversations about what it means to live with purpose and unlock your full potential.
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Speaker 1:So get ready to dive deep, grow and step into your power, because the world needs you. Power because the world needs you. Hello and welcome to another episode of the world needs you podcast. Today is our last episode of this season. We are taking a little break in December, around the holidays, to just allow you guys to catch up and to give ourselves a little time for rest and relaxation. Today, our episode is all about goal setting, vision and manifestation Some of my most favorite topics.
Speaker 1:So, but we start hey, we start every episode sharing what is on our mind and our heart. So what is on your mind and heart today?
Speaker 2:Well, trying to recover from my brain getting just overwhelmed and beaten to a pulp with our girls here the past couple hours, but now we're dwindling down the end of the night.
Speaker 1:His brain has been beaten to a pulp, y'all by a over stimulation of screaming, whining kids.
Speaker 2:One one whines and then the next one.
Speaker 1:One stops and the next one whines, and it's a beautiful sound of music so today we we were at it's called the Healthy Holiday Market and we joined about 20 different local vendors at a farm in Longs, south Carolina what was the farm called Wild Horse, I think and we brought all three of our girls, who are one, six and eight, and I was vending for Bhakti Babe Cacao, which is one of my newest ventures, and, yeah, so what's on my mind and heart is kind of related to Bhakti Babe. It's just, you know, today was a grind. Today was a grind. I started making cacao at seven this morning, like getting everything ready and prepared, and it was like a stressful morning of getting everything ready and getting everything packed in the car and loaded up and you would. You would think that vending doesn't take that much. You just have a little table and a few little things that you have to set up and you sell some things and it sounds so simple, but there is a lot that goes into it and then having to be there all day was a lot, but it was really, really cool making connections with new people, having people try cacao for the first time.
Speaker 1:So if you're out there listening to this and you're like, what is cacao? It is the purest form of chocolate and oftentimes it's used in ceremony. Typically we sit in circle with the cacao and sing a song and then either do yoga or chanting or something along those lines, and it just helps people get more connected to themselves. But it doesn't have to be a ceremony. Like you can drink it instead of your coffee. It's a good replacement, but it is. I guess. What's on my mind with that is it's hard to think of the long-term goal with a business that neither of us so I have a partner in the business and neither of us are taking any cut for the first year. So we invested quite a bit of money into it because there's lawyer fees and setup fees and all these different things to get the ball rolling, and we decided that we weren't going to take any cut for the first year, and that's kind of hard working for free.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, so watch you do it, work your butt off, but that's the way. That's the way you got to do that kind of stuff and you'll build it.
Speaker 1:Right, and it's like you know, some lady today at the market said something along the lines of oh, this is your brand, like kind of surprised, like thought that I was just a worker and I kind of giggled to myself because my ego was like what the heck lady Like you think I? I can't have a brand. Like you know, the ego automatically goes into like defense mode in my head and then I thought, oh well, it's kind of funny because if I was just a worker I would probably be making money. I'm not right now.
Speaker 1:I'm working for free and it's just service to me. To me it's just like all right, let's get this medicine out into the world and improve people's lives in one way or another. That's kind of like the motivating force behind it right now.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Yeah, it was a good day. The girls did have a good time and I think it was a good experience for them to be there with you and helping with the business Especially.
Speaker 1:Kalina. She I mean the girl was counting change and describing to people what cacao is. She was listening really, really carefully to me and just repeating the things that I would say to people. I kind of let her take the reign for one part and she was like all right, mom, get away, I'll take over now.
Speaker 2:She loved it, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:So to me, I feel like those experiences are so beneficial for them.
Speaker 2:But yeah, they just. It took a lot of energy out of all of us, I think so by the time we get home. It was, we were all, just, we were all melting by 6 PM tonight.
Speaker 1:We were like all right, we're all ready for bed. So the girls are now all passed out all three of them and we have this quiet time. We want to talk to you all about goal setting. So I'm curious for you, chris when you first were introduced to the idea of goal setting, was I the one that introduced?
Speaker 2:you to it? I think so I'd have to think longer back, but I don't. I mean, I've always set goals, but not to the extent of all right. This is my goal for this year, like we did when we first got together.
Speaker 1:Writing things down.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we write it down and put it in a box.
Speaker 1:Right yeah.
Speaker 2:I never did anything like that.
Speaker 1:Okay, so, yeah. So my first introduction to the idea of manifestation in general. I think I was introduced to it really back when the Secret came out. Did you watch that? Did I have you watch that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we watched that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah yeah, the Secret came out in 2006 and it's all about. It's kind of a cheesy, you know, documentary type of thing, but it's kind of like you know, look at a magazine and cut out a picture of a brand new red bike and put it on your bulletin board and then a brand new red bike will show up, right, that's the idea. Like, if you're not really paying attention to the movie, that's what you get out of it. Oh, put the picture on the wall. That's what you get out of it. Oh, put the picture on the wall, think about it and I get it. And having, and it's more like materialistic.
Speaker 1:But if you dig deeper into the idea of manifestation, I believe that it's all about releasing limiting beliefs and getting in alignment with feeling that you deserve whatever it is. So let's just say it is the shiny red bike and you really want that, whatever it is. So let's just say it is the shiny red bike and you really want that. And you go through life feeling like you're undeserving, or woe is me, or oh, life sucks. Without the shiny red bike, I'm never going to get it. Well, the neighbor across the street has a shiny red bike. That's not fair, right? And you're never allowing yourself to be like, hmm, I deserve that, I'm ready for that. I'm allowing myself to get in alignment, I'm going to take the action and I feel lit up and I'm going to do the things that I need to do to get that bike and I'm going to work my butt off and get there. So I think there's two different ways to kind of look at things. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, yeah, absolutely, because I have a vision board on in my garage. When we did those, I've kept some of the same ones up and it's definitely interesting to go back and look at. I still keep them up, like I don't make one vision board and then for that year and then it's done. I like to keep my vision boards up, keep reminding myself when I'm in there working out I'll look at it and see what I've accomplished. Like I got my wrestling mat. That was on there.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:That's now in my garage.
Speaker 1:It is there.
Speaker 2:There's some things on there that I have and some others are longer term Right, but I still it's something that I think is important. I would like to take my manifestation to a new level. I've heard of a lot of people doing it where they'll like visualize minutes before bed and things like that my problem is, if I start as soon as I hit the pillow, I'm out, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, 2.5 seconds and you're snoring. It's unfair.
Speaker 2:I'll be like, oh, that beautiful house, and then I'll be out. Yeah.
Speaker 1:But maybe that's a good thing, cause then your subconscious mind is still going into that as you fall asleep and dream yeah.
Speaker 2:I like that idea, though to think about the things that you want, not just the things, just like what you want out of life, what you want to create.
Speaker 1:Right, because it's not all about the material things, it's always good to have that.
Speaker 2:I think material things are necessary Just to the extent of you want to serve yourself, serve a purpose, serve people first and have something materialistic that you want to go after and I think when you come at it from a good place it's really all good. It's going to be purposeful and important in your life.
Speaker 1:So, those vision boards that you made, how many vision boards have you made with me? Because I led a couple of vision board workshops. You didn't do it there, though. We did it at the house right?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we've always done it on our own. I've got two in the garage. I don't know if I've done more beyond that.
Speaker 1:So if someone wants to make a vision board, there's like the old school way to create a vision board, which I've led a few different workshops this way, where you you get a bunch of magazines and the library actually gives away free magazines. Our library has a little section right by the front door with old magazines that people donate and then you can just grab a couple of those. So that's a good little pro tip. But I've had this huge box that I was collecting over the years of all these magazines and we would go through and just see words or pictures that lit you up and then you cut them out and then you glue them together and create this collage.
Speaker 1:But there's a little workaround with vision boards too. If you want to do it a little faster, you can go on Pinterest or even just Google image the things that you want. Let's just say you're really dying to take a trip to Italy, go on mine and cut. Or, you know, go to Google, type in Italy, find the place that you want to go to print that picture out, and you can do that. Or you can even create like a digital vision board. And the funny thing is this just reminded me too I had. Do you remember? I had Cinque Terre on my uh screensaver at work back in Philly and we ended up going there on our honeymoon without even like trying.
Speaker 1:It wasn't a goal, it was just there in my subconscious Like I would always stare at it, just thought it was a cool picture. And then we ended up going there on our honeymoon and I was like, oh my God, I had a screensaver of this exact place and we have a picture of ourselves there in the space where my screensaver was.
Speaker 1:So sometimes it's like a subconscious thing of just seeing the thing and having it in your face and something that you look at. I have a girlfriend who used to keep her vision board in her walk-in closet so every morning when she would go in to get dressed she would see it. So just little reminders of what it is that you really desire and being able to have that vision.
Speaker 2:I always say I manifested you.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, are we going here? Are we going there right now?
Speaker 2:We don't have to go there deeply, but I Go for it honey. When I was a kid, I used to want to. You know, I would envision my life being married to the, to a woman of my dreams, somebody I love and I. I just feel like it was you in the past, you know but really go deeper.
Speaker 1:But I mean my Facebook also did say I like exactly, there we go, there we go Y'all. That's the truth. But still.
Speaker 2:I mean it happens. So I've manifested that through my Facebook when I was a young kid. And here we are.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh. So I have a surprise for you. You don't even know this is coming.
Speaker 2:Oh snap.
Speaker 1:So I just you know, we just had our 10-year wedding anniversary. On what day was it? Really? It was Friday, yeah, friday night. Sorry, all the days are blending, but I had to go through. We have this box that we keep, like old notes and different things, and I found our goals.
Speaker 2:Oh nice.
Speaker 1:Our 10 year goals that we wrote. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that our 10 year visions. So, okay, so real quick, what we used to do, and we haven't done this, and I don't think we did this last year or the year before which, so we should do this again but what we used to do is first write down our general vision in 10 years or five years or next year, however you know, whatever the timeline is that you want what would feel really, really good and what would light you up.
Speaker 1:Kind of meditate on it and go into it and visualize and get specific, have that vision, but then from the vision then break it down into tiny goals, okay. So anyway, here is. It says 10 year vision and this is when you were 26,. You wrote this and you are now 37. So 11 years later. So this was before we got married you wrote I am a happily married father with three kids. My wife Chelsea and I live in a gorgeous three-story home in the suburbs of Philadelphia. We have two dogs with a two-acre fenced-in backyard. My family has conquered a lot of challenges up to this point and we are at a comfortable stage of our life. I am in a role with my company that plays a huge part in the sales department's decision. I finally have my own gym in the basement and focus on coaching sports for my kids as hobbies Dang All right. So now let's just break that down.
Speaker 2:That's like 90%, correct. It's kind of crazy. So now let's just break that down. That's like 90%.
Speaker 1:It's kind of crazy, yeah, so you're a happily married father with three kids. Check.
Speaker 2:So happy.
Speaker 1:Okay, my wife Chelsea and I live in a three-story no in South Carolina.
Speaker 2:Three stories? Well, three stories is possible, but no basements.
Speaker 1:No basement here.
Speaker 2:So if we lived up north this house, technically we're missing a story, but it's all good.
Speaker 1:We're missing a basement. We definitely don't live in Philadelphia.
Speaker 2:Thank the Lord Love you, Kelly, but from afar.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and we have two dogs. How many acres are we on? I?
Speaker 2:think we're on 1.5. Really. We're on at least an acre. No, our backyard is huge it's big, but I don't know. I think we're on at least an acre I'd say with the house included yeah, that's what I mean, yeah, with our house in the front I would say it's like an acre yeah uh, my family has conquered a lot of challenges.
Speaker 1:I don't know why you wrote that down, why you want us to I'm just but that to, but that's fine, that's fine.
Speaker 2:Cause I just conquered shit.
Speaker 1:Um, and we're in a comfortable stage of our life? Yeah, we're comfortable in a decent way.
Speaker 2:Um which I would change that and your role with your company.
Speaker 1:You are in sales, so that's accurate. And you have your own gym it's not in the basement, it's in the garage, but it's your own gym, okay. And you are coaching jujitsu for your kids. That's kind of crazy, okay. So now mine. I said I'm living in a beautiful home with a big backyard and a cozy living room and a gorgeous kitchen and dining room where we entertain often. I am married to Chris and we have three beautiful children. I didn't even realize, y'all, that I wanted three kids back then, didn't even know, didn't remember, cause I was always set on two.
Speaker 2:I think I had influence on that. I think you did. I was one in three.
Speaker 1:I mean this is crazy, when I'm looking at this, I'm like you know, when I was 28,.
Speaker 1:I wrote this, Um I said our home is in a quaint town near the ocean. We take walks into town where they have live music and movie screenings on the weekends. Our lives are very active and we play sports together and do healthy things together. As a family, we travel once a year to a new country so our kids can become cultured and open-minded to other ways of living. We cook big family dinners, like Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner, and are able to have extended family come to town and stay with us often. We have successful careers, but we are able to spend a lot of time together as a family.
Speaker 2:Well, another 90 percenter, I'd say.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean definitely. We have three kids, we live in it and you know Myrtle Beach is great. We can't walk into town, but that's okay. We have a pretty healthy lifestyle. We don't. We haven't traveled to a new country once a year, but I did just get back from India not too long ago and we plan to travel with them soon to different countries. But we're, you know, mala's just at a hard, tough toddler stage right now, reading that it's just like whoa holy crap. I wrote that when I was 28.
Speaker 2:And we forgot about that.
Speaker 1:Yeah totally forgot about that. So and I think that's a really cool thing about your visions If you keep them and then go back and read them, you'll just be amazed at like wow. Back then I thought those things were such huge accomplishments and now I'm I'm in it, I'm literally living it.
Speaker 2:And you want more in your life.
Speaker 1:It's like, we're never satisfied, right, so like.
Speaker 2:But back then you're, it was like the what you wanted in 10 years. That was going to be your fullest life, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and what I think is really cool about our generation is that we're into this stuff and I always like to look at statistics on learned topics, and this is on manifestation. And it said in the 1990s only 2% of adults believed in the law of attraction, but today that percentage has grown to 73%. So in the 90s people didn't really. Maybe that's why people just stayed in their hometowns and stayed complacent and just I don't know, to me, to me, hey, if you just meow at the people in the 90s?
Speaker 2:I don't know, you know like to me staying different strokes for different folks, right, everybody has their own. Like not to hate on anybody to me, just saying Different strokes for different folks, right, everybody has their own.
Speaker 1:Not to hate on anybody Not hating, but just saying like I really think there's something to believe If you believe in the law of attraction, you believe that you are co-creating with the universe. You cannot control everything. You're not God. However, you can co-create together and I truly believe that, and you've got to speak what it is that you want, and that's why they call it spelling too.
Speaker 1:So, if you think about the word spelling. You cast spells with your words. You are creating with your words. Pay attention to the words that you speak, because they become a reality whether you like it or not.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh yeah, words are very powerful.
Speaker 1:Very powerful If I write down everything that you desire and just let your pen flow, and that's what we used to do. We used to just write your pen flow, and that's what we used to do. We used to just write it down separately. And I think that's really important too, because sometimes we change what it is that we want due to our partner's desires.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So to just write it down privately and you never know. You know what will come out of that. And then I think it's really important to I think we've all heard of, like the SMART goals. You know the SMART goal acronym, the Brian Tracy thing, so it's SMART goal stands for specific measurable realistic.
Speaker 2:Well, the A is for achievable right. Yeah, a is achievable right.
Speaker 1:Attainable.
Speaker 2:Attainable yeah.
Speaker 1:Realistic, r Realistic Timely.
Speaker 2:Timely.
Speaker 1:So timely, meaning by when, set a by when. Here's an example I want to take a trip to Italy, let's say, and it's like, okay, yeah, I want to go to Italy one day. Okay, how about? You say I and I think the way that you write this down is really powerful too I go to Italy in March of 2027,. You know, give yourself a realistic timeline. How long do you need to save the money to arrange your plans, whatever it is, make sure that's realistic, write it down and then figure out from there, like, okay, what do I have to do? What are some of the actionable things that I need to put into place to make that happen? What's like one of your visions?
Speaker 2:Well, I'd say we've got another investment opportunity, something where we're expanding our wealth, creating more for ourselves to be able to live towards the goals and dreams I think we have for our family, so that we can travel and at some point, as we're getting to retirement age, still have these things that have equity that can still pay it forward for us. So I'd say, definitely having some financial investments that are beneficial for us traveling with our family internationally.
Speaker 1:Where's your top three places?
Speaker 2:Croatia.
Speaker 1:Yeah, which we've paused on Croatia for how many years?
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, we got to make it happen.
Speaker 1:The story is that Chris promised his dad your dad and your brothers, that you will all wait to go to Croatia until you all can go together. And what happened was in the past 10 years marriages, babies, divorces, everything, everything in between.
Speaker 2:There's life situations for everybody.
Speaker 1:Life has happened, where it's just never a good year. Oh, this year's not good, that year's not good, everyone just keeps having babies. So yeah, so we say croatia has to happen in the next two years.
Speaker 2:We're going yeah, we got to make it happen. Yeah, so I'd say the first ones that come to mind croatia, brazil and portugal oh and I do want to. Well, india is one I look forward to as well, with our family.
Speaker 1:Yes, india is magical. I love India.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Brazil and Portugal. I have a friend in Portugal that owns a retreat center. I know her from Philly and now she lives in Portugal. It's pretty awesome that's cool yeah. I think. So let's go, let's make that happen. Good family trip.
Speaker 2:So Win some tournaments in jiu-jitsu. That's another one.
Speaker 1:Okay, I like that.
Speaker 2:So travel, financial expansion, definitely. It's not necessarily a goal, but with all these things I don't ever want to lose just the enjoyment of life with you and the girls.
Speaker 2:I want to continue to grow and be a better husband and father, and there's not a specific goal to that, but I think that's along the lines of other things I'm chasing. So that's sometimes what I think is important to definitely chase some things, but sometimes we can get so focused on some of these other things that we just forget or put some of the important things on the back burner. So always remember that.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So we're so focused on the chase that we don't stop and just look around for a second and like in awe that's when it becomes dangerous. Or we get so busy that the time just goes by so fast and before you know it, you have an eight year old and you're like weren't you a newborn yesterday?
Speaker 2:Which is why we're slowing down in December.
Speaker 1:And that's part of my goals too to really ask you what's yours. Yeah, well, this, and we had this conversation the other night but 2025 is a goal for me is to focus on me in 2025. I have spent the past I don't even know how long just like chasing and building and hustling and in almost like this survival mode, for no reason.
Speaker 2:And also in the past 10 years. You spent six years of them doing what being either pregnant or nursing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm finally done nursing. I shouldn't say finally done, because that sounds like I didn't enjoy it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I nursed.
Speaker 1:Mala until just recently. We just ended our nursing journey. When she was you did a year with her A little over a year. I feel like that's such a big accomplishment.
Speaker 1:I don't feel like a lot of people get to a year Right, yeah, it's great, yeah, and I didn't want to go too far because I also know people that the kids like three and then they can like talk, and then to me, um no, I can't, I can't know. No hating on anybody that does that. I just feel like it's harder than to then be like, okay, we can't do this now.
Speaker 2:Whereas when she's a baby, it's a little easier to just redirect, to feel into the, the natural point for you, exactly that felt good to stop.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so, with that being said, even just the past two years, I've created a baby, created a human and had the human then nursing using my body for food.
Speaker 1:So now I'm like, oh, my body is now mine again. Now, obviously, I'm a mom and I want to show up for them in the best way I can, but I also want to have a huge them in the best way I can. But I also want I have a huge emphasis in 2025 on health and fitness and just myself and my own rest and recovery as well, and not so much a hustle with work. I want it. Not that I don't want to work, but it's almost like before. I felt like I was in a race with work, like, ah, I gotta show up in bigger ways. And you know, see, yoga, one best of the beach two years in a row and I was like, yes, feeling like good about that recognition.
Speaker 2:And now.
Speaker 1:I'm kind of like what would make me excited now? Now I feel like what would make me excited is getting into a more consistent routine with health and fitness and feeling really good in my physical body again. So that's where my focus is for 2025. And then in terms of travel, yes, I want the travel is there, but, like I said, Mala right now I can't imagine having her on an airplane.
Speaker 1:That sounds like the worst kind of hell because she's at that stage where she doesn't understand. She doesn't understand. No, you, you can't get down and run around right now. You have to wait until she can at least kind of comprehend that till at least three, I think.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So, yeah, we're almost there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we're almost there. Two more years We'll hit up Croatia. I I plan on making a vision board and writing a vision down. I think we definitely need to do another 10-year vision, because we haven't done that in a long time.
Speaker 2:We were doing it all every year at some point, and then it's just kind of like we've almost wanted to catch up to the goals we've already set. Just allow ourselves to focus on those, because sometimes I think you can the people that do them. You do another one every year and it's like, okay, well, you create a new goal. Well, how did you, did you attain the last one that you did?
Speaker 2:and um, you know when this, this always comes up with the new year, but everybody you know the goal setting and all these things and you can find so many different suggestions on how to do it or what you should do. You know what what I mean. But I think it's just cool to share our experience with it. Some of the things that we've tried and I think you can't deny that, if you keep it simple, focused on visualizing what you want for yourself, focus on specific goals, all those things we were talking about write it down you can't go wrong with that. Any way. You can keep an eye on that throughout the year. I've tried to do that.
Speaker 1:Hold yourself accountable, yeah.
Speaker 2:I do want to get back to doing the win your day stuff, which which is what I really Explain. I've done that in the past. It's an Andy Frisella thing that he's talked about and does, and then I learned it from him listening to his podcast. But to win your day, you create five things.
Speaker 1:Five daily tasks.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you could create three of them, but typically the number is five. Five daily tasks that you no matter what happens in your day. You have a crappy day, something bad happens at work, something bad happens at home, but if you complete these three to five tasks, that's what wins your day. If you don't you lose, but it's a measurable way to focus on your goals, hold yourself accountable and work to attain them.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I've done that and it worked really well for me.
Speaker 1:Like. I did it for some of the craziest stuff, and I think some people might listen to this and be like oh, but if you fall short on one thing, then you lose, and then you're going to be hard on yourself. Well, guess what? I really think that losing should be a little painful yeah if you fall short, it should be a little painful and you should have that little like oh, oh man, I didn't do what I said.
Speaker 2:I was gonna do and I feel a little shitty about that you're already. But that's the thing. If you're measuring it and you feel crappy about it, that's the accountability part. And it's there in your face. If you don't write it down, you still don't honor your commitments. You're still losing because you end up paying when you look at the root of things when big issues happen in your life.
Speaker 2:A lot of times it's because of ignoring your commitments you've made to yourself and pushing things under the rug that you know you need to do and are good for the betterment of your life, and so you write it down and hold yourself accountable or not, you're still. I mean. To me it's as simple as that. You win or lose.
Speaker 1:Have you ever wished that you could, like, hop in a little time machine and go back I don't know to say 2018 and see what your life was like back then and what you were doing? Because I literally felt like I did that the other day when my old iPhone turned up.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:And I went back and I was like, oh, I wonder what we were texting about back then. And I was reading through our texts and it was similar crap, like any kind of like issues, you know, not that we have issues, but just like any issues in my life, the same type of stuff was happening. Same thing, Same thing. So it's like you gotta check in with yourself. We were having the same arguments right. I don't even know. It was just like something that I was dealing with. It's like, yeah, gotta check in with yourself.
Speaker 2:We were having the same arguments, right. I don't even know, it was just like something that I was dealing with.
Speaker 1:I'm like I say that same thing and it's almost 2025. Something's got to shift. So it's like you gotta, you gotta look at yourself and be like, wow, I'm still doing the same thing, why? Or I'm still putting up with the same behaviors of somebody that I'm allowing in my life and they're still doing the same thing. And then you know over and over and over and over again, right? So I think it's that like checking in with yourself, having it down, written down, so that you can then go back and be like, okay, I'm not dealing with that anymore. I've moved on from that, learned from that. Now we're onto the new thing instead of ignoring and just being in this loop.
Speaker 2:Absolutely.
Speaker 1:And I think some people don't even look, don't even think about the goals at all, and if you're not even thinking about the goals at all and just living life, you're probably probably gonna be in the same place or a similar place that you are. I think that there's something just so powerful about setting the goal and knowing where you want to go. It's kind of like putting an address into Google Maps and knowing all right, this is the steps I got to go down this road, take a left, go around whatever, whereas just driving around and not really knowing where you're going or what your destination is. Any closing thoughts?
Speaker 2:I think, for just for me, it's almost like talking to myself, but we get so busy with life, we get busy with trying to accomplish all these different things and I think it is important we're in a time of just soaking in time with our family, soaking in time with our loved ones. So I think, definitely give yourselves that. Give yourselves a gift of slowing down and just focusing in on yourself for what you want to come. Going into a new year is always a good time to do that. But slow down, enjoy what you have, be grateful for what you have, and start giving yourself time to really focus in on what you want and make some specific goals for yourself for next year. And if you've never done it, just write down one thing.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Start somewhere, keep it simple, allow yourself to be accountable to it and go big.
Speaker 1:Go big, yeah, go big or go home.
Speaker 2:That's, I think, what I'm going to do in regards to my goals for next year.
Speaker 1:Big goals, baby Big no big goals. Baby big no big goals. Yes, all right, yeah, I I mean. Yeah, I just I mean.
Speaker 1:I encourage anyone especially anyone listening to this that has never written down goals to to start just get a blank piece of paper and unapologetically write everything that you want and let it be messy and let it be sloppy, and focus on the feeling, focus on the emotion, because there's a lot of power in that.
Speaker 1:When you can connect with emotion and the feeling, emotion puts you in motion, it kind of carries you into, like, if you're lit up and excited about something, it's going to help you get there. So write it down, hold yourself accountable and believe that you're worthy, because if you're feeling, if you're feeling unworthy and I think this especially goes towards people with relationship goals If you feel like you're unworthy of a good man or woman or whatever, then you're naturally going to push that away. So to recognize the blocks that might be there that are preventing you from allowing whatever it is that you want in allowing whatever it is that you want in from receiving, and to just be present with yourself and let yourself also celebrate your wins, cause I think sometimes we check, check off the goals and then just move on to the next one. So have that little celebration, ooh.
Speaker 2:I did it.
Speaker 1:Or you know, give yourself that little reward of accomplishment, celebrate and then move on instead of just going on to the next one Not really fully appreciating.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. I love it.
Speaker 1:So we will see you all in January. January, we will be back, fully rested right.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Maybe, maybe not. Is rest possible with three kids?
Speaker 2:Fully rested. Yeah, I don't know. We're just going to work on more rest than we had before.
Speaker 1:More rest than we had before.
Speaker 2:yes, Just enjoy each other, enjoy what we have. Be grateful for that and just pour into our kids and our family. A little fam, yes.
Speaker 1:All right, y'all. Hope you enjoyed this episode. If you liked it, go ahead and share. Share with a friend, pass it on to someone who could benefit. Get together with your friends, have a goal party. Do the thing. We'll see you on the other side.