What If Love Means Letting Go Of Control...Of Your Adult Children

Parenting doesn’t end when your child becomes an adult, it just changes shape and sometimes it gets harder to talk about. We still love them deeply, we still worry, and we still want to help, but the old “manager” role can quietly damage the relationship if we don’t adapt. So we get real about midlife parenting adult children, the emotions that come with it, and the moment you realize your influence has shifted.

We dig into the everyday struggle of support versus control: when to speak, when to stay quiet, and how to stop rehearsing your adult child’s decisions like you can prevent the outcome. We also talk about how culture and house rules collide when adult kids live at home, and why many Black and Brown parents carry added fear about how society treats their young adults, especially Black men. That context matters, and it can shape how tightly we hold on.

Then we move into tools that make this season sustainable: boundaries without guilt, communication that honors adulthood, and a mindset shift that separates a bad choice from a true crisis. We share coaching questions you can use right away, including what feels hardest right now, what healthy support looks like, and where you need a loving boundary so you don’t lose yourself while you love your family well.

Episode questions to ponder:

• What feels hardest for me about parenting in this season?
• What am I grieving that I have not named?
• Where am I trying to control what I can only influence?
• What does healthy support look like right now?
• Where do I need a loving boundary?
• What part of my own life have I put on hold while worrying about my adult child?
• What would it look like to love deeply without losing myself?

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Parenting Adults Gets No Roadmap

Coach Stacy 0:13

They warned us about diapers, tantrums, teenagers, but parenting adult children. That part often came with silence. You still love them deeply. We still worry, still hope, still pray. But your role changes. And nobody hands you a roadmap for that.

Coach Wayne 0:43

You found the midlife revolution unleashed. The space to embrace your wisdom, reignite your passions, and move boldly into what's next.

Coach Stacy 0:53

I am Coach Wayne, the VIP coach. And I'm Coach Stacy M. Lewis. We're here with insights, stories, and strategies to fuel your midlife journey. So take a breath, lean in. Your revolution starts now. We're on the move.

Meet The Hosts And The Theme

Coach Stacy 1:15

Telling you, I'm telling you, spring has sprung. And we are here for another live episode of Midlife Revolution Unleashed. I am your co-host, Stacy M. Lewis, a midlife woman's coach, a nonprofit executive, and a lover of God and his people. And I'm once again excited to be here with my co-host, Coach Wayne.

Coach Wayne 1:42

Thank you, Stacy M. Lewis, Coach Extraordinaire. I'm Coach Wayne, the VIP coach. I coach men of color through midlife so that their second half can be their best half. I said this to somebody in coaching the other day. Gentleman was in his late 60s. I said, second half. You said, second half. I ain't living to 120.

Coach Stacy 2:06

So this is all in the mind, Stacy. It is. It is all in the mind, right? Because 60 is definitely still you're in the second half, but it doesn't mean you're gonna you're starting the second half, right?

Coach Wayne 2:22

It's funny, I gotta check myself. Maybe call it the third, the fourth quarter, yeah.

Why This Stage Feels Different

Coach Wayne 2:29

So, Stacy, today we're gonna talk about an era of parenting that's often not spoken about and really stressed because it's parenting adult children. We're here not talking about just the caregiving, but we're talking about the impact in terms of emotional, physical. Last time, a couple of months or weeks ago, we talked about the financial aspects of it. So today we're not gonna focus on that. We're gonna be talking about some of the other aspects of parenting adult children.

Coach Stacy 3:03

Yeah, it is such an interesting season and talk about lived experience, right? I don't know about you, Wayne. Well, I do know about you, Wayne, and you too are in this lived experience. We are living the experience that we are talking about. And so love to just amplify the joys and the challenges in this season of midlife. So, oh hey, Coach Janelle, thank you so much for joining us this evening. It is always good to see you.

Coach Wayne 3:41

So, Chase, you know, we as parents, we learned a lot about the beginning part of parenting, about raising babies, infants, the toddlers. But nobody really helped us out for the most part with what happens, even teenage, that part of parenting, which is uh for most a struggle. We get through it and we probably get a little coaching or not. But what we typically don't touch at all is parenting our adult children. And to be sure, tonight we want to talk about how you do this relatively successfully by firstly recognizing that it's a different stage of life for them and obviously you. And so you got to change your rule.

Coach Stacy 4:30

Yeah, and recognize that that it's change for both of you, right? And we're just we're just gonna say it once again, right? No one prepared us for this. I don't know about you, Coach Wayne, but when mine was born and you know, learning to ride his bike and having challenges in middle school, all of that, there was so much support, relatability, and normalization. And now, to your point, no one's talking about it, but it's very normal. The challenges that we're going through are very normal. And so we're we may not have all of the answers, but what you do have here with Midlife Revolution Unleashed is community, right? You have a community of midlifers that can relate to every aspect of the journey, and it feels surprisingly hard in part because our influence has changed, right? We are they're still the same people, our offspring, we're still the same people, but the influence has changed, and how do we balance that dynamic, right? What is my new role now? And I would imagine that maybe it evolves as you're parenting adult children in their 20s versus their 30s versus their 40s, you know, Wayne?

Coach Wayne 6:14

Yeah, absolutely. I know what you're talking about. I had to challenge myself with checking myself this day before you wreck yourself. As a parent, you know, we lay the rules down, even lay the clothes down at a certain point. And then they grow up and grow out, or some still reside at home, depending on the culture and what's happening. And you have to know when to be quiet, when to insert yourself. And it's not that you love any less, but you love oftentimes from afar or certainly differently when they are growing up and have become adults. And so it's it's learning how to temper some of your temptations to get involved and to resolve things for them as you did uh 10 years earlier.

Supporting Without Overstepping

Coach Stacy 7:09

Yeah, let me let me tell you, let me tell you a little story here. Because I think one of the questions, right, in this opening thinking is how do I support without overstepping? So my son, you know, we're talking about going to a family event this weekend, and he's saying, Oh, maybe I'll take the train, maybe I'll drive. And I'm like angsting. I caught myself today. I'm saying, no, I think he should take the train because you know he's gonna get stuck in DC traffic and then he's gonna be late, but it doesn't really matter if he's late, but I think I don't know, it just sounds like a lot of driving, and I am going through the scenarios in my head, and I said out loud to myself today, he is grown, he's grown, he I don't have to jump in, I don't have to figure it out. If he's coming, he'll figure out how he's gonna get there.

Coach Wayne 8:26

Absolutely, he gets to decide, and uh you know Audrey said to me once, because we have two younger ones, meaning younger as in 24, 25. Those are babies now in the blended family, and and so we're kind of checking on Talia, one of her babies, who lives in Jersey. Now, you know, we're out here in Florida, and so Talia was traveling, and OG wanted to figure out if I wanted to say to her, I wonder if she could manage to do it on her own, meaning, do we need to put some cash up for her and all this? She had planned all this stuff, and there's rent to pay and all. Her mother said, Don't ask, won't know. So she doesn't ask the questions because once you ask, you know, then they say, Oh yeah, mommy, I need, and I need, and so we figured out, look, she's independent, she's figuring this out on her own, she has a lease, and that's something that was not something that we were accustomed to not too long ago, because she was the last to fly the coop, and so Tally lived with us until more recently than the others. So, you know, we would check in, how are you doing? What do you need? But yes, to your point, they're grown and we have to step back, still love them, but apply the love a little bit differently. That's one of the things that happens in most homes as the kids get older.

No Shame About The Learning Curve

Coach Stacy 10:00

Yeah, it's so personal, it's so emotional. I don't know about for dads, but I think for moms, at least this mom, aspects of it, aspects of the shift, the changing role can be emotional. And I'm elated that we're talking about it again, normalizing it and doing so in a way that doesn't come with shame, right? This there's no shame. Some some of us are still parenting our you know, 29-year-old, like they're 19. It's no shame, but it is indeed an opportunity to make a shift, right, Coach Wayne, to make a shift that you can still be their parent, but you are no longer their manager.

Coach Wayne 10:54

Yeah, and I will admit that my adult children gave me a lesson in how to parent them. Because I was coming up with the rules which were indelible to me, but they were whose rules? My rules. Yours. And again, like I said, you know, back in the day you lay out the clothes and you did the shopping even and said, well, you know, you're gonna wear this, this matches that, that's what you're gonna wear. But now, even if you don't like the hemline, even if you're not too happy with the music that's banging in the house, you still have to be respectful and allow people, your grown children, their own people, to uh to get their space and to move at their own discretion. That balance is not something that oftentimes we we grow into. Uh oftentimes we we learn by trial and error fire. And it was my kids. My kids kind of withheld some of the connection that I longed for, and I was trying to figure it out, and that's because I had my hands too involved. I was getting too controlling.

Coach Stacy 12:07

Yeah, it is learning how to offer the wisdom, the thoughts, the prayers, all of that good richness that we have, but in ways that keep us in our own lane, right? Not in ways, to your point, of doing it differently, expressing the love differently, not in ways that then jump into their lane as they are exploring their adulthood, but in ways that allow us to stay in our lane, but still apply some of the gifts, that wisdom, that saging that you call it, Coach Wayne, that we have.

Coach Wayne 12:50

Yeah. The question I would throw out to folks that are listening is for you, as you are raising your adult children, what has been the hardest aspect of parenting for you? Hmm. And once you have discovered what that is, how do you negotiate it? How do you negotiate it? How do you work through it? How do you work around it? How do you resolve it?

Coach Stacy 13:21

Yeah, you know, Coach Wayne, one of the things I keep thinking about is in this season you have to relinquish control. There's a level of control that we have as our children are younger, as we are really managing their life. There's a level of control that we have. And now we have to relinquish, you gotta set it free, you gotta turn it over, right? Our parents had to do the same thing. And I know my mama placed me in the Lord's hands. I know that she was a praying woman. She was like, oh Lord, help that child. So we have to relinquish the control that we have as parents of younger children. As they are adults, that control is then what causes them to retract, it causes them to disconnect or to feel even disrespected or dishonored in their own agency as adults. Good evening, Coach Curtis. Good to see you.

Culture And House Rules

Coach Wayne 14:41

Stacy, this brings up the C-word, culture. And yeah, I just made up that word, Stacy.

Coach Stacy 14:51

I never know what Coach Wayne is gonna say. I'm always prayerful.

Coach Wayne 14:55

It's new. So, Stacy, culture, we talk about culture in our culture, black folks, and it depends on what aspect of the city or the town or the country you're raised in, or or or the part of the world, it's different. And uh, let me put myself on the limb here and say this. I know a lot of Haitian families, and part of the culture that I have experienced watching them and have been told is their adult children oftentimes will stay home, especially the girls, until they're ready to be married or or you know independent enough to have their own home and move out. They're not, and they could be 25, 26, 27, 28. There's no rush to get them out. On the other hand, I think I told you a couple weeks ago that Audrey had this white patient who at 18, all his kids had to leave the house, ready or not. Here we go. See the door. Right. It's a very different culture. And so how do you, yeah, how do you play into that when listen, man, if you're in my house, you're playing by my rules. I I know, I know it sounds forceful, but I'm kind of saying if I'm paying the rent and and putting the food on the table in my space and you're there, I'm making for the most part the rules. Again, what do you say to that, Coach Stacy?

Coach Stacy 16:27

I I say that that's worth examining, right? Because I think the rules need to change. Because the rules, right? You didn't put up, or when your children were young, you put up gates, right? So that they didn't go places, so that they didn't get into situations that could potentially harm them. As adults, the rules that we have as parents do need to change, they need to evolve. I'm not saying, Coach Wayne, that you can't have rules, but I am saying that they cannot be the same rules. Even when you think about a 20-year-old under your roof and a 35-year-old under your roof, the rules cannot be the same, Coach Wayne. They cannot.

Coach Wayne 17:22

Oh. Well, I mean, I mean, you still can you can come in whatever time you want to come in when you're a grown person, but you know, I still figure that there's some things I gotta control and maintain in my house. Yes, house, house rules, they call it, Stacy.

Coach Stacy 17:37

And I'm all for house rules, but I think as you raise and good evening, Delane, it's always wonderful to have you in the listening lounge of Midlife Revolution Unleashed.

Safety Fears For Black And Brown Kids

Coach Stacy 17:50

One of the realities, I think, when we talk about culture and the layers in black and brown families, one of the challenges is often that as our children become adults, we have this sense of the level of danger or unfairness or discrepancy or prejudice that the world has, that the society has, as they look at our young black and brown adults. It doesn't mean everyone looks at them with the same critical eye or everyone is practicing a level of microaggressions, but as parents, we know that there are we we carry these fears almost about what the world, how society is going to treat them. And so sometimes that I think that that also is part of our culture, and it can cause us to, you know, whether it be hover or overparent, those heightened concerns kind of cause us to uh parent even adults differently. What do you say to that, Coach Wayne?

Coach Wayne 19:18

No, I'm hearing you loud and clear, and that's dropping really heavy on my heart because, you know, I know I have two grown men, black boys, who are Audrey has Tyree, served in the military, but still within 30 years old. And we know that black young black men are more than likely, I think three times more likely than their white counterparts to get stopped for like even a traffic ticket and wind up getting locked up, right? I'm not sure of the stats, but it's it's close to that. How do you so when your son goes out at night and he's an adult and he's under your care, I know we're talking to young men and we don't want to insert ourselves and act like they can make decisions for themselves. But I'm still up at night, and and I still want to have an input. I would still want to say, based on how I see them rolling, if if they were to dress a certain way, Stacy, and I know a lot of black families, black mothers, single mothers perhaps can identify real quickly with this one, that we still want a handle on how we kind of guide them. And so, you know, I know it it's it's not house rules, but it's still part of a parenting where we just can't let go because we understand what's out there waiting for them.

Coach Stacy 20:43

Right. You feel like in some ways the world can be a dangerous place, right? And when they're little, we know that the world can be a dangerous place, but we have more control. Yeah, right? We're like, no, you cannot go to the park without me. No, you cannot do this without an adult being present, right? Because we know that the world is a dangerous place.

Coach Wayne 21:12

Yeah.

Coach Stacy 21:12

Yeah. When you release, and that's that for me is an ongoing practice. And my son is 33, right? But it is releasing him, believing that God has him covered and releasing him, right? Because I don't want him to feel like such a level of hovering that he embraces fear, that he embraces a lack of belief that he's gonna be all right, right? Because that's also the message that we want them to feel, to sense. Like I believe in you. I'm you're gonna be all right. Yeah, right. You you have everything you need. So those are the messages that we want them to receive. And sometimes it is challenging. And I think that that's just you know one of those things that we have to deal with as black and brown people.

Support Versus Control

Coach Wayne 22:10

See, so this brings me to the thought around support versus control. And this is a shift that's delicate. I think as parents of adult children, we still can indirectly manipulate is a tough word and a hard word, but we can still influence these children, these grown adults, through our support rather than our control. Well, and again, I backed up the manipulation stuff because I didn't want it to seem like this was a trick play. But, you know, there are ways to show our support fully, like listen intently, but don't insert ourselves unless we ask for our impression. Sometimes we just can't hold back, we can't help ourselves. We think it's okay to insert ourselves because we're grown or older. And it's telling when we do that, it actually pushes our children away from being candid, open, and honest, you know. Right, right. Because we we got to say we have to have the last word. Right.

Coach Stacy 23:23

Right. Because we do have to honor them as adults, right? We we feel their pain differently, right? As they're adults. We still feel their pain because they're our offspring. We still want to listen to them, right? When when they were little, they were like, listen to me, listen to me, right? We have to listen to them.

Co-Parenting And Shared Expectations

Coach Stacy 23:51

And I want to bring up um one of Curtis's questions, and it's about, you know, the rules. We were talking about the rules of the house earlier, and do those rules also apply to our spouse or significant other? I dare say, absolutely. If you are in the environment, right, where there are two of you parenting from the same home, that you've got to come together on those rules, right? You've got to come together on what support versus control looks like. You've got to come together to really make sure that you there's some level of agreement about how you're going to honor. Coach Wayne, you said you said earlier that you wanted to do something, and Audrey, your bride, said don't. Right? So you came together because she was like, No, if you start asking, do you need money? Can I help you in some way? Right? One is you open the door for the child to say, Yes, I need money. Who done need money? I need money. You call me and you say, Stacy, do you need some money? Yes, yeah, yes, I do, sir. Yes, yes, I do. You know, but that that that it's still co-parenting, right? Blended family. You mentioned blended family. It is still co-parenting. And you are now co-parenting adult offspring. I try to get myself out of the habit of calling them children, right? Because they're not children. They are children, they are babies. That's what makes it so challenging, Koch Wayne, right? It's still my baby. It's still my heart. I mean, the the best thing I've ever done in my life is my son. And I, you know, I'm still like, oh, that's that's my little baby, but he's not a baby. Right? He's a profession. He's a grown man, right? Still one of my favorite people. And sometimes I'm like, bro, you're making a mistake. But I have to let him make his own mistakes. Absolutely. Sorry, I I went I went off topic. It's all good. Yeah, I love it. I love it. Co-parenting, I think, is critical.

Coach Wayne 26:16

I love it. It's real. And and uh stay our our good brother Curtis mentioned something that you spoke on about parenting. And as we still are on the subject of support versus control, yeah, it's important that we recognize, no matter what the parenting situation is, that the parents have to support each other in the way the decisions are taken, in the way that we show up as parents for the house. And that even involves, so Stacy, parenting across the way when the family is separated or divorced or operate in terms of two household households. It is important and healthier, not always possible, to collude as parents to decide on some of the values and expectations of these people that we call our older adult offspring. Guess what? We still love them. So we're not gonna see them going down, right? We're not gonna see them going down into a fence and just stand by and leave it alone because now they're grown. This is why midlife is important because what it tells us by way of us getting there is that we have a little bit more lived experience and hopefully some knowledge and wisdom that we can share and apply.

Bad Choices Versus Real Crises

Coach Stacy 27:46

Absolutely, Coach Wayne. You know, you just talked about, you know, not letting them crash into the fence. We in this support versus control also have to take ownership of our own mindset. We have all made some bad choices, but those bad choices were not a crisis, right? They were bad choices. They they probably had a little bit of a bad outcome. Most of the choices that are taking place within your young adult offspring, they they they they're gonna make some bad choices. But let's remind ourselves, right? Like, okay, is this choice gonna end up in a crisis or is it gonna be really a learning opportunity for them to learn? You know, like my my son was visiting recently and he told me about something he didn't in my head. I was like, what in the world were you thinking? Yet the words that came out of my mouth were, you know, how would you handle that differently next time? Right? Because now he now, now that he did what he did, now he's like, oh yeah, no, that that was not my best move. Now I, you know, he's recognizing that he now has to deal with those ramifications, you know, those consequences. And so let's remind ourselves that every bad choice is not a crisis. And therefore, every moment does not need our opinion.

Coach Wayne 29:26

And if you're speaking to yourself in your head at this moment, here's a question you ought to pose for yourself. What does healthy support look like for your adult children?

Coach Stacy 29:39

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Absolutely. That's a that's a great question. And is that really the kind of support that you would have wanted? Right? Let's let's cross-check some of that, that, you know, that response to make sure, like, yeah, it seems healthy right now, but it's like, think just think about it. Give it another minute.

Boundaries That Make Love Sustainable

Coach Wayne 30:00

Yeah. Stacy, you want to talk a little bit about boundaries?

Coach Stacy 30:04

Yeah, yeah. And I will say that Coach Coach Courtesy, I was holding on this question. I didn't want him to think I overlooked it, you know, but yes, we should definitely be talking about enforcing boundaries and values. Let's talk about that, Coach Wayne.

Coach Wayne 30:19

Hey, my good man, my my beloved brother-in-law, Lucianne Jones. Dr. Jones just popped in. Hey, thanks for popping in.

Coach Stacy 30:26

Hello, Dr. Jones. Thank you for joining us.

Coach Wayne 30:28

From Jamaica. Ah. Yeah.

Coach Stacy 30:32

Thanks for sharing the sunshine.

Coach Wayne 30:34

Talk about wonderful parenting. That's a model right there. He and my sister, both of them. So, so here's the thing: we talk about boundaries. Boundaries, a lot of times we as parents in setting boundaries feel a sense of guilt and feel like we have to apologize when we create boundaries and when we establish these and we observe them. You know, there's no need to feel that way. Boundaries doesn't mean we no longer love you if you're listening in as one of our children. Boundaries is really important because without that, oftentimes you can wind up with depletion of self, you can wind up with resentment, you can wind up with enabling and overfunctioning. It's uh it's it's about discipline and and and management, and in particular, self-management and containment.

Coach Stacy 31:29

Absolutely. I mean, the the boundaries piece is uh huge and it is linked to your values. When we talked about parenting adult children and the financial aspect, right? We we really talked about the boundaries, like not depleting your future to feed their present. And often, even outside of money, it it becomes that, right? Are you depleting yourself in a way that is not healthy for you in order to do something or be someone that you think your adult children need to go above and beyond? Is that costing you? Are you breaking your own boundaries in order to be what you think a parent needs to be of an adult child? We are talking about adult grown children.

Coach Wayne 32:35

Yeah, boundaries are not punishment, they are ways to make love sustainable.

Coach Stacy 32:43

Yeah.

Coach Wayne 32:44

All right.

Coach Stacy 32:45

Well said, you know, and we're talking about the boundaries around your time, around your emotional labor, around your living arrangements when the time comes, around crisis cycles. I do have some friends that, you know, have an offspring that tends to get caught up in like everything is a crisis, right? And instead of recognizing that everything is a crisis and looking to temper, right, or bring it down a level or two, the sweep is into the crisis cycle. And so building boundaries even around the crisis cycle and your communication is is critical.

Modeling Values And Honest Communication

Coach Wayne 33:39

Yeah. Stacy talked about your mother being a prayer board and praying for you, which is so important, right? And this is something that I wanted to toss in. And when when our children become adults, it's still important for us to model appropriate behavior and model appropriate language and just appropriate living. And I say appropriate based on our values and belief system, our guidelines. And I know you refer to the the good old word proper living in terms of the biblical text, but or not, but and it's important no matter how old they get that we recognize that they're still watching us. And so modeling is important.

Coach Stacy 34:33

Yeah, that that's that's so good. That's so good. Really modeling how even you as a parent and as an adult are growing and evolving as your relationship or as your young adult children age, right? They're their aging means that you're aging and saging, as Coach Wayne would say, and you get to model that and to authentically communicate, right, where your challenges are, you know, like I love you. I'm willing to help you with this, but I I I can't help you with that. Or I love you, and I realize I'm having a hard time not saying what's on my mind, right? And remembering that you are an adult and not the child that you know that I worked so hard to raise. Sometimes that that authenticity is important as well.

Coach Wayne 35:42

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And boundaries, we can say, I'm willing to help you with that, but not with this. Or I love you and I need us to handle this differently. You know, those are important things to say. And Stacy, we're doing this also because it's important to recognize that we still have to take care of self.

Do Not Lose Yourself In Midlife

Coach Wayne 36:01

Don't lose yourself, parents, in this season, right? Don't lose yourself. Always recognize that, you know, again, if you fly, they tell you if the if the pressure goes down in the cabin, you got to put your resuscitation mask on self first before you can rescue anybody else. So always make sure that you recognize that your life still matters.

Coach Stacy 36:25

Absolutely. I think Wayne, you know, our tagline is celebrating the richness of midlife. And richness gets to be lived out, not just red, right? Not just the word red, but we get to live out the richness, right? We have such grace in being here. Both of us know, folks, that you know, have passed on way too young, right? But here we are, and we get to celebrate the richness. And so this don't lose yourself in this season is so important. Reach out for support, right? We are midlife revolution unleashed. Really, we're all walking through this together. So, how can we support one another, right? Coach Wayne is there, Coach Stacy is here. We're really wanting to make sure you know that it's okay if this area is a little bit of a struggle for you. But what we don't want you to do is lose track of who you are, the gift you are to the world, the value that you still have to bring to the world. And you don't want that all consumed by parenting your young adult children.

Coach Wayne 37:46

Right. You don't want to disappear while you continue to love and support. So, okay, Stacy.

Coaching Questions To Reflect On

Coach Wayne 37:52

How about some coaching questions for our audience today? Um you know, one is what feels hardest for me about parenting in this season and yeah, these are good.

Coach Stacy 38:10

We have to put these questions in the show notes. What does healthy support look like right now? Yeah, right? Is it talking to that friend that has nothing but negativity? Right? What does healthy support look like right now?

Coach Wayne 38:25

What part of my own life have I put on hold while worrying about my adult child?

Coach Stacy 38:34

Where do I need a loving boundary?

Coach Wayne 38:41

No shame, no guilt, a loving boundary, and to improve on your relationship with your adult children, with all of them actually, but the adults in particular, ask permission before giving advice. Really listen. Two ears, one mouth. Listen twice as much as you speak.

Coach Stacy 39:08

Yeah, I would say, you know, what does it look like now to love deeply without losing myself? What does it look like now to love my adult children deeply without losing myself?

Coach Wayne 39:29

And when we talk about adult children, if they're married or they have spouses or significant other, we got to include those people. And as we do, we want to make sure we create boundaries before resentment develops.

Coach Stacy 39:43

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah, because you got you got a way to go, you got a good rest of the life to live, right? They've got a ways to go, and you want to have that relationship between you and your adult children be one that is ever blossoming.

Coach Wayne 40:03

Yeah. It's not too late for change. Not at all. Stacy, today I just want to remind folks that if you have been tuning in us to Midlife Revolution on your favorite podcast handle, and you for some reason just forgot to hit the subscription button, do so now. It really helps the algorithm to get us to send out our vibes to more people to do more good and have more impact and influence. And today's show has been brought to you by VIP Transformative Living.com.

Coach Stacy 40:35

Yay, I love it. Coach Wayne, how can the people reach you, sir?

Coach Wayne 40:43

Hey, they can hit my website, viptransformative living.com. And uh I have lots of handles there, Stacy. Just reach out to me, and I'm happy by the way to offer my free self-assessment to kind of square you off, see where you are landing right now as a human being functioning. And Stacy, how can they reach you for some of that good, solid coaching and support?

Coach Stacy 41:11

Well, you know, I think I love the fact that you added the word support because I'm definitely just here to really elevate the lives of midlife women. And so I can be reached. If you're viewing this on social media, you probably have my handle. And if not, you can reach out to me at thacymlewis.com. It is always my joy to be cheering my people on.

Coach Wayne 41:41

Absolutely. And before we go, Stacy Ecclesiastic3.

Coach Stacy 41:48

That's right. That's pretty much your season. It stands for reason. Yeah. Yes, yes, yes.

Coach Wayne 41:55

Yeah. So, Stacy, we'll do this again next week, same time, same place. And we want to thank you for tuning in. This has been another episode of our Midlife Revolution Unleash. And I'll see you at the top.

Final Thanks And Sign-Off

Coach Stacy 42:09

Thank you, Jelaine, for the birthday wishes. Thanks for tuning in to Midlife Revolution Unleashed. We're grateful you're part of this journey.

Coach Wayne 42:18

If you love this episode, share it, subscribe, and hit that notification bell so you don't miss another episode.

Coach Stacy 42:25

I'm Coach Stacy, and I'm cheering you on.

Coach Wayne 42:28

And I'm Coach Wayne, and I'll see you at the top.